Re: Gay marriages
 

i do have a questions for greeks only, please....since we are talking about same sex unions.

scenario:

your soror or frat that is gay is getting married, you do in fact attend the weddings. would you participate in serenading them at their own weddings??? i don't want to put n e one on the spot, but i am curious to know the thoughts of my fellow greeks.

Re: Re: Gay marriages
 

GOOD QUESTION SOROR.
Honestly, I would. I cannot knock them for finding love how it came to them. I would want to make the SOROR BRIDE smile and know that she has sorors embracing her regardless of who she married.

Good Question. I never really thought about it before. I'd have to follow our organization's PROTOCOL first, then I 'd deal with the same-sex issue later. ;) :D

if I made the effort to be there and attend the wedding then I would make the effort to be apart of the serenade, especially if its one of my LS's

Yes & Yes, I would.:)

interesting indeed!!
yes I would support her!

I'd be down for my frat bruh and would maintain our friendship, but because I consider marriage a religious institution, I'd not attend "the ceremony" cause I'm not in agreement with it.

I would. How my soror gets off is not my business.

Would you sing the song?!!?!?

**le dammit** copyright Nikki1920

No.
I don't want to be a hypocrite about this. Even if I did attend (which would make me said hypocrite) I wouldn't sing the Alpha hymn, as is traditionally done for the brother and his new bride. I don't believe the majority of bruhs would either. Some might, but I really doubt it.

...some of these threads don't make for a lot of happy talk, do they? :( but intelligent discussion is good.

He wouldn't be there at all to sing. WOW, this is an interesting topic! I guess if I am close enough to her to receive an invite to the ceremony, I probably would. However, honestly, it would weird me out a little bit. Never had to deal with a situation like that before. But, I would keep my feelings to myself and support my girl. That's what friends/sorors do.

Intelligent discussion is very good. It proves the value of self-moderation.

I need some clarification on your comment.

What I mean is that most of us who frequent NPHC rooms on GC can disagree on issues, but I don't see many personal attacks. I'm only speaking for me.

On other boards I belong to, including a fashion/style board (yeah, I'm shallow), an innocent disagreement can blow up into a personal attack and a flame war.

Hope this clarifies.:cool:

Clarification understood, and I agree. I can be a lil slo sometimes. :cool:

Yes I would support SOROR...This should be the happiest day of any bride's life. I don't see this any different as if I didn't approve of her "male groom" I would still feel obliged to serande SOROR so I don't see this as anything different

I would go, and would sing our hymn too. Who she loves is who she loves.

Yes, thats her business and that is my SOROR, til the death. Plus I would want to see what they wore, two dresses I mean are they gonna be the same or are we talking a theme here.

lol...you are so silly wonderful.... :D

I would definitely serenade my soror. It is not up to me to judge her and if I'm there to support her decision and share in her happiness, I'm going to participate to the fullest.

I'm not in NPHC, but...
 

I'd go and serenade the happy couple. Who my sister marries is her business. While I might not religiously be keen on the issue, that doesn't mean it breaks the promises I made to her.

Hell effing no, I aint attendin', I aint singin' (how would I sing the lines that include "manhood"), and I aint standing in line to catch the jockstrap with the other single E. Lynn Harrises, line dancing to YMCA, settin' out a hop to "Its Rainin' Men,....... nukka please!!!

I am rollin' HARD at this one. Not catch the jockstrap...that is hilarious.

I see a lot of women saying they would attend/support/sing/everything else. I would too. Most men however, I think it's a touchy topic.

Even the most homophobic female may go to support her girl/Soror, but men just can't stomach the idea...I am going to ask my boyfriend who is Greek as well...I'll holla back with the results...

It's hard enough to find someone you love and want to spend your life with. If my Soror is happy, I would go and sing my best [which isn't good, but I try].

I am my sister's keeper ;)

DOGGY DOGGY DOGGY DOGGY

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Frantically trying to revive Doggy who was found DOA

Ok, (In a non-judgmental way) I don't agree so I wouldn't attend, so therefore I wouldn't be there to serenade.

My husband is a Bruh and said that he would attend but he doesn't think that he would serenade.

Another non-NPHC'er here... I'd go, and I'd sing. The important thing for me would be that my sister found her partner and they are happy together... so the partner is female... so what. :)

initially i thought, what's the big deal, serenade the soror and let that be that. then i actually thought about the words to the delta sweetheart song and had other thoughts. bottom line, if soror wanted to be serenaded, i'd do it and not have a problem with it. however, in considering the song's words and implied meaning (marrying a man), maybe soror wouldn't even want to be serenaded. interesting question.

...so do you honor the soror's wishes, or honor the implied meaning of the song?

i'm honoring my soror's wishes and honoring what i perceive to be the overall meaning of the sweeaheart song, ...if she's a delta, then delta is her first love.

I would probably gp. If I did, I would sing.

I do think the singing issue is very different for the sororities than the frats. We serenade the soror. They typically serenade their frat's bride. I think that is a more uncomfortable situation, even if you are willing to attend.

i ain't sinnin (oh my bad) i mean singing the hymn, s--t i couldn't sing the hymn anyway. why? u ask -- because i wouldn't be there -- no way-- no how not unless God came to me and commanded me to go to the wedding. but wait what was that little biblical story ? oh yeah you know the one about sodom and (sp) Gommorha.
IT JUST AIN'T NATURAL

it's not hard to do the right thing, it's just so much more fun doing the wrong thing
JYHAD

I'm sure yall real surprised but...
 

NOPE...wouldn't go near the place. If I had a "friend" who knew me...they'd know how I feel. I'm not going to support i.e. condone anything I don't agree with. And I could not be in the same room with my sweetheart song being sung to a couple of women....that would utterly disgust me... BOttom line...if I can't support it wholeheartedly...I'm not going to be there. I dont think this is the same things as just not liking the bride/groom. TO me when you witness a union..you're being a witness to and giving your blessing. I could not bless such a thing.

As for my bruz...the answer is still no. It sends a chill up my spine to visualize the bruz being "OWT" at this type of wedding.. UGH!

I have family members that are Jehovah's Witnesses and they don't attend funerals....I don't hate them for it...I actually respect them because they stand by what they believe in... I would hope my friends or Sorors would respect my wishes the same

Love_Spell, you crack me all the way up!!

I would not attend.

hehe.. I hope in a good way:D :p

As far as songs go...
 

The words (like someone else stated) would not fit the occassion(as far as the sweetheart song is concerned). It was meant for a man and woman union. So I don't think it would be appropriate to sing it. The hymn would be okay.

Would I attend..hmmm I don't know.

Like Soror Dancerella said, I wouldn't sing the sweetheart song either, due to the words. I would attend the ceremony and I would serenade my soror with our hymn.