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KillarneyRose 11-29-2003 10:57 PM

Endless Love? or No?
 
Did you have a high school or college relationship that you were utterly convinced was the one? What happened; are you still together? Did you want out? Did your partner want out? Let's dish on our endless love (taken from an utterly horrible 1981 Brooke Shields film which was, in turn, adapted from a fairly readable Scott Spencer novel. But I digress) stories.

ZTAngel 11-29-2003 11:00 PM

I really thought my HS Sweetheart was the one. It was my first long term relationship so I thought that we were going to be together forever. Then, we got to college. :)

I joined a sorority and he didn't go greek. There's no problem in that at all. But, instead of supporting my decision, he mocked me and refused to go to any of my date functions. When I finally convinced him to go to one of my date functions, we just fought the whole time.

He started leaving every weekend to go wakeboarding with his friends in some place that's an hour outside of Orlando. I was fed up by then.

I went to a fraternity party one night and...oops!...cheated on him with an SAE that I had a crush on for a while. I broke up with my boyfriend the next day. Best decision ever.

DeltAlum 11-29-2003 11:38 PM

Well, I met this girl in college. I was a sophomore and she was a freshman.

We didn't date exclusively right away, but we did get married just after she graduated.

We've been married over 33 years now.

kappaloo 11-29-2003 11:53 PM

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Well... if he's not the one... he's pretty damn wonderful! :)

PrincessPhiSig 11-30-2003 12:56 AM

My one and only college relationship is still going strong. We started dating in March of 2000. We transferred to the same school in June of 2001 and will be graduating together in May. I've always felt very fortunate to have my best friend at school with me.

Of course we have had good and bad times. But I have no doubt that he is the one! :)

AOIIsilver 11-30-2003 10:03 AM

High school crushes
 
Mr. Silver and I got married when I was a teenager. Yes, we are still married.
:)
Silver

justamom 11-30-2003 10:29 AM

It was love at first sight (for me). He says he alway knew I was the one. I met him at 17 married at 27. How long has it been?
Well, let me say AARP has invited me to join the ranks...http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/cry.gif


His heart is my heart.

ThetaPrincess24 11-30-2003 12:11 PM

I thought my most recent ex was the one. He was my longest relationship of a year and a half............He changed and became asshole the last 4 months.....We broke up this past March where he told me the night before I left to go to Savannah for spring break that he used me for sex for the entire time we were together.....I'm glad we are no longer together despite his attempts last week to get me back.

AlphaGam1019 11-30-2003 12:35 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by justamom
Well, let me say AARP has invited me to join the ranks...
um AARP just invited me too. :eek:

Tom Earp 11-30-2003 12:47 PM

Well, being the odd one as usual,

My first Love was in the seventh grade. She lived in a girls home and went to a different high school. After graduation from high school, I tried to find her.

I found out several years later that she had died. I still think of her to this day!

My first and last true love.

James 11-30-2003 01:50 PM

As a guy there is something about this entire topic that makes me uncomfy . . . so all I can say is blerg :p

DeltAlum 11-30-2003 02:37 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by justamom

Well, let me say AARP has invited me to join the ranks...http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/cry.gif

AARP is nothing if not efficient. I received the invitation to join on my 50th birthday.

CatStarESP4 11-30-2003 08:30 PM

I thought my childhood boyfriend would be the one. He moved to another state without saying goodbye to me. He didn't even contact me. I still think about him everyday and he has a very special place in my heart.

My high school boyfriend would never be the one, don't ask me why. He was more friendship material than bf material to me.

I never had a college boyfriend, just crushes that never materialized any further that a crush.


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lauralaylin 11-30-2003 09:14 PM

My high school sweetheart and I got married 3 weeks after we graduated from college. It's been a little over 2 years since then, and I'm as happy as can be. It was hard when he was in college while I was a senior, but we were lucky to go to the same college, and the one in our home town!

juniorgrrl 11-30-2003 10:28 PM

FI and I started dating our senior year of HS. I was 17 and he was a few days shy of 17 when we started to go out.

We're getting married in exactly 180 days :)

absolutuscchick 12-01-2003 01:43 AM

never been in love.......

--when i saw the title of this thread, I thought it was about Victoria's Secret Garden scent, Endless Love!!! Hehe

bethany1982 12-01-2003 01:57 AM

Endless love would be nice, but so far it's a NO for me.

Hootie 12-01-2003 01:59 AM

Screw my high school boyfriends (I only had two).

One thought he was gay and the other dumped me because "God told him to". FREAKS! Where do I find such losers?:rolleyes:

texas*princess 12-01-2003 03:50 AM

I met my sweetie in high school.. and when I was a senior in high school we would go to the movies and to dinner, but we were never "official".... we became "official" my freshman year in college, and 3 years, 3 months later, we're still together and going strong. He has since graduated and found a job close by where I am going to school now, and I can't say enough how excited I am that I have such a wonderful person in my life!!! :D

AchtungBaby80 12-01-2003 01:16 PM

Ah, I had one...we were together for over 2 years. My friends and sorority sisters assumed we were going to get married, and we were talking about it until he decided (or his mother convinced him, I'm not sure) to come back home to N. Ireland even though there was nothing for him there except paramilitaries and government office jobs. He asked me to join him there after graduation and I agreed, I had the paperwork filled out and everything, but the more I thought about it, the more I didn't want to go because it's a lot less safe than it is here and he was reluctant to make it official by giving me a ring, so if it hadn't worked out I would've been stranded alone in a foreign country. So I ended up not going, and even though he said was coming back "as soon as he saved the money," he's still over there and I really don't look for him to appear at all so I've pretty much moved on. It's sort of sad to think that I was wrong, that he really wasn't "the one" (if there is such a thing) after all, but I guess that's the way things go. There's actually a lot more to this that I don't really feel like going into on a public board, but that's the gist of my very own tragic tale of unrequited love. :p

DeltAlum 12-02-2003 12:39 AM

I know in college years it seems like a long time, but so many of you say you've been together for two years.

That's a tiny speck of time in the overall scope of things.

Good luck for the next twenty or so.

Munchkin03 12-02-2003 01:40 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by DeltAlum
I know in college years it seems like a long time, but so many of you say you've been together for two years.

That's a tiny speck of time in the overall scope of things.

Good luck for the next twenty or so.

But, DeltAlum, that's like, you know, HALF of college! If he pledged AND changed his major three times without breaking up with me, that means we're meant to be together! :p

Seriously, I know what you're saying, and have wanted to say it myself here from time to time.

I had a LOT of friends who dated their entire college careers (we're talking from Orientation onward). They spent all their time together. Most lived together senior year, with plans to move in together after college. They swore they'd be together forever.

Guess what happened?

They broke up a few months after graduation. A few didn't even make it to Commencement Day. A relationship built on collegiate morals and standards doesn't always survive out there in the real world. I learned more and changed my views on so much between the first semester of my junior year and the last week of senior year than any two-year period of my life. I had no idea about what I wanted to do for the summer--let alone for the rest of my life. YOU LEARN SO MUCH.

As for me, I thought I had the One when I was 18. He was an azz. My current guy is the one I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. We aren't in college anymore (him for a verrry long time) so things are a little different. We were the only couple in our circle who made it 6 months after graduation.

DeltAlum 12-02-2003 02:10 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by DeltAlum
Good luck for the next twenty or so.
Reading that again sounds real "preachy" on my part, and I'm sorry about that.

But here's what I had in mind when I wrote it.

There were three couples of us who dated, fairly seriously, in the last two years of college -- and we all got married within nine weeks after the women's graduation. They were all the year behind us.

Of those three couples, we are the only ones who haven't been through at least one divorce.

It can be sobering.

Moxie 12-02-2003 03:21 AM

my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 years, though we did break up for a short while this summer. i have never thought he was "the one" and i'm pretty sure he feels the same way about me. people ask us why we're together if we know it's not going to last - but for now, the two of us work together and have a great time - it just wouldn't work out permanently in the "real world".

however, i have met "the one" - i've been in love with him for a couple of years and he is one of my best friends. we became great friends when we were seniors in high school and now he goes to a different university than me. he is planning on transferring here next fall. i'm patient for him because i know that one day we will be together - even if it's not until we're 50. i know he's the one :)

now, i know that seems wrong, but...i can't help my endless love :)

Peaches-n-Cream 12-03-2003 11:30 PM

When I was in college, I met a man I thought that I could marry and spend the rest of my life loving. Being the person I am, I knew that I was too young for that so I never got involved with him. I sometimes wonder if my decision was too hasty. I guess that I will never know. *shrug*

AGDGirl 12-06-2003 05:42 PM

I really thought my HS boyfriend was the one we started dating when I was 14 and dated all the way till a couple of months ago. He was perfect I thought and there was noone at all that knew me better..Until I found out he had been cheating one for about 2 years...So i'm single and realize how stupid I was for thinking that this guy was the one when I was just so young

Rio_Kohitsuji 12-07-2003 12:00 AM

Well, I thought my hs boyfriend was "The One", damn, I was so blind to what was really going on. Oye.

Now, I truely believe that I have found "The One". Dusty and I were actually "friends" for a maximum of 3 days. Count 'em, THREE! We started dating officially very soon and we've been together for over 2 years. He is my best friend and he knows me better than my best girlfriend!

And..if a certain event happens next semester...we'll be getting married. A bit too soon that what we wanted but hey, things happen for a reason I guess. :)

angelic1 12-18-2003 06:56 PM

You know everyone is different.. thats what I always think.. but my thoughts are.. college is not a good judge of what life will be like ..

i always feel like i still dont even know myself yet.. who knows.. maybe i wont for some time.. but i cant see myself getting married right now even if i thought i found the "one" .. my boyfriend and i dated for four years.. (breaking up for a semester in there).. and even though he is amazing.. we both know that we have to make sure we do our own thing before we go out and get married.. it sucks to not be together.. but i think making sure that we are happy and ready is worth the risk..

i dont want to look back when i am forty and wish i had gone out more with my friends.. or taken that job but didnt bc i was held back.. when im ready i will be ready.. if he is still there and i still want to be with him.. then maybe he is the one.. who knows..

James 08-01-2005 11:22 PM

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