How long to call?
 

So I had a first date with a guy last night (an awesome Sigma Chi alum). He cooked me dinner and we watched Finding Nemo, and just hung out.

Anyway, as I was leaving he told me to call him... so of course i'm playing the calculatation-of-when-to-call game. Don't want to call too soon, but then don't want to call too late in the week so that we'll both already have plans for the weekend. And i don't really know him all that well.... met him out at a bar last week.

So, when should I call him ? :)

call him tomorrow. tuesday is a few days after the weekend, but still earlier enough in the week to make plans for the upcoming weekend!!

if you really like him though, don't put off calling him, do it asap!!

I've always had good luck calling guys the next day in the evening.

if it was me, i'd invite you over for a movie and id make YOU bring mcdonalds

:( yah im awesome.

I personally don't buy the rule where you ahave to wait x time.

Call the next day. If he responds, it was meant to be, if not, it's not.

What's up with J.I.??? Is that still going on? PM me when you have a minute :)

Assuming, of course, that you like this guy, I'd call by Tuesday...

...that's what you'd want him to do, right? ;)

Games aside, what TKE209Sweethrt suggests would be the mannered thing to do.

A follow up call the next day expressing both appreciation and the desire to do something the following weekend would be a good move.

A lot of guys I know would actually think it rude not to have the girl call the next day after making her dinner and such.

Call him now. :)

but i don't want to weird him out and seem like a stalker girl calling him the very next day.........?

Danielle,


From the night you see him...wait two days and then call. This way, if you havent figured him out yet, you cant loose. if he'll get wierded out by you calling the next day....2 days is fine. If wants to ttalk to you....it'll give him more time to think about you.

Gotta tell you all, if I were the guy, and I was interested, I'd be the one calling. I've never understood this, "Call me" drama. What does who makes the call prove?

Not that it's new -- I just think it's posturing.

thats because you're desperate, sire.

if it was me, i would let the girl call. guys are lazy and have more important things on our minds...like basketball, football and other girls.

Desperate? I've been married for 33 years. One thing I can't ever remember being is desperate for female companionship -- well, maybe in Junior High, but certainly not since.

I just think the "call me" thing is a silly game.

i was just kiddin with you.

i know you have a wife, silly.

I know.

Just found "desperate" to be funny. Never even considered being "desperate."

It's Tuesday. Call! Good luck.

you're absolutely right, it is a silly game. unfortunately, we singles are forced to play it.

The call me game does suck!

Although if you want to look at it on the glass-half-full side of things, telling me to call me gives me an out and probably tells him that I actually do like him if I call. If I don't call, he'll know I don't like him, end of story. Puts the ball in my court, so to speak.

Okay, way too much thinking on such a silly subject for me. I'll call him tonight when I get home from class. Honeychile, you're right, it's what i'd want him to do.

Thanks guys!

There is no rule, just call.

You know you want to smash anyway. ;)

Yeah call him and let him know you're stalkerish and want to trap him in a relationship. Yeah he might want it but he'll love the fact that you're stuffing it down his throat and giving him no other option.

-Rudey
--I'd be very scared of any advice people on GC give.

A couple of years ago, I went out with a group of friends for dinner and drinks. At the end of the night, a guy that I was interested in told me to give him a call "sometime." I called the next afternoon and was invited to his house for dinner that very night. I accepted the invitation, and we had a great time.

We got married a month ago.

Moral of the story: If the guy really likes you, then he won't care when you call. :)

There is a lot of wisdom here.

damn people....it doesnt matter when you call.

Look what happens to people who still belive "that rule" still exists about calling people too soon/too late ARE STILL SINGLE SO IT DOENST WORK OR MATTER!!

If you get the urge to call him then CALL HIM!

If you dont then someone else will.

IHeartMATT806-- I agree. If the guy likes you and you like him, it doesn't matter when you call. I'm not into playing games, I'll call whenever I want to-- most important thing is not to hold back if you like him.

This needs to be repeated over and over again. I certainly wasn't forced to play the "call me game" when I was single--except when I was in high school. If you like him, call. If you don't, don't. He'll probably respond in kind.

Does anyone think those rules really work? I'm living proof that they don't.

I hate the whole calling timing thing..

my boyfriend and i of four years recently broke up.. so i am getting back into the dating thing again.. its so confusing..

i def need advice in this area as well.. my situation is really wierd though with the guy i am "talking" to.. since i am not into dating anyone yet we are just talking.. so i guess i dont even know how things go with that..

it was so much easier when i thought everything was great..

Dani, did you guys make another date?

Nope, but I met another guy last night at a Pittsburgh Young Professionals Happy Hour. So who knows? :D

I'm moving to Pittsburgh.

Seriously, if you have some sort of young professionals organization in your city- JOIN IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not only is it great networking, but it's also a lot of young, eligible men with decent jobs and some sort of motivation. I just joined a few weeks ago, last night was my first event, and I was very pleased :D

Is that like a singles group? Fees etc?

nope, it's a professional group. yearly dues are about $40

wow, how'd you find it?

Lots of charitable groups have "young professionals" groups too, which a lot of people join...at least, here in Miami, FL!

I can't remember all the names that these subgroups have, but they supported the Amercan Cancer Society, the Cure for Paralysis, and the local historical museums... check out the websites & give them a call.

Many of these groups have events for the holidays, so now is a good time to contact them.

Good luck!