FOR SISTERFRIENDS AND GDI....ONLY!
 

THIS THREAD IS FOR ANY SISTERFRIEND OR GDI WHO IS INTERESTED IN AKA or the others... DST, ZPB, AND SGR...

Here is the scenario (mind you, I DO NOT foresee this happening)...WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

HONESTLY! This is only HYPOTHETICAL!

Your organization of choice, YOU KNOW, THE ONE you are striving VERY hard to gain membership, SUDDENLY does not accept any new members UNDERGRAD or GRAD. (The organization, itself has not "shut down," but with ALL the members it has, the national body has decided to NOT ACCEPT ANY NEW MEMBERS)

Fall 2000 was the LAST intake that organization had. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif

Feel confused, feel bad, and then GET OVER IT!

If there is nothing I can do, then I would have to move on with my life. Since I wouldn't be a member I would have no clue why they stopped accepting women, and even if I knew what good would it do me?

I would be upset for a min...then i would be angry...then like the previous post said...GET OVER IT!!!

There is nothing that I could do about it and that wouldn't stop me from keeping my grades up, working hard in the community, etc. I would just keep in mind that everything happens for a reason and realize that GOD is the one with the last say so...and that maybe one day they will open back up with their membership intake process.

Peace and one
CJ

Life goes on.......


Greek letters or no Greek letters....I am still destined for greatness!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on." ~Robert Frost

Go 'head, Diva. You're in the same boat with me! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Well I would think it was a sign from God, that I shouldn't have been in the organization in the first place. I would take that sign and go on with my life. I am sure there will be something greater than a Greek organization waiting for God to bless me with.

I would sue for conspiracy against me!!! I hope you're not hinting at something!!! To say I would be devasted is an UNDERSTATEMENT!!! I've been waiting too long. (I'm sorry, but the whole thought makes me emotional)

Unfortunately, I've seen girls who have said, "oh well" to that organization and moved on to the next one that was available. Like it was a choice for either black or white.

I guess it would depend on the individual, but I'm one of those who know's she is destined for greatness regardless, so life goes on! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Though I wouldn't want this to happen, it would be a very interesting way for chapters to determine who is real and who isn't...i.e.volunteering andcommunity improvements for the wrong reason...

I would be upset, because it is something that I really truly desire, but I know realize that in life there are no guarantees. I would continue to do the things that I have always done. I would not decide to pursue another organization, because there is no other organization in my heart. I would hope to continue supporting the efforts of the organization that I am interested in, as much as a I could. I would continue to be involved in any activities that are about uplifting our communities.

Of course, I would truly be emotional. But I would also take that as a sign for God that it wasn't meant to be for me. It would be hard but, I'll move on and get over it. I would continue to be involved in the community, school, etc.

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Hey Virtuous Woman, I love the name!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I have no idea what I would do at first. Sadness, anger, and maybe even resentment would run through my veins for a moment. And then I would realize that this struggle to be come a part of this sorority has always been a hard one. In addition, I am not on my time but on the sorority's time. So when it is time, intake will be reinstated and I will be waiting. What else can be done?
Peace and Blessings

I would be upset, then disappointed.

I agree with previous posters who said that it is a sign from God. He does have a plan.

I'd move on with life and probably start my own sorority.

How would it have been the "biggest mistake" of your life? Please explain... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif

I "hear" ya...Sunnydays96! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

I would be beyond devistated. I have waited sooo long for my chance that if I couldn't reach my goal I would be very hurt, but as others have said I would move on with my life, Unfortunatley with one dream unfullfilled. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

I pray every day for God to show me whether or not He would like me to be a part of an organization. For something that drastic to happen (the organization not accepting any new members), I would be convinced that I was about to make a BIG mistake. I would believe that God was "saving" me from something that might not have been the best or the "right" choice for me to make.

uh well i uh... well soror i mean, shoot i used to be a sisterfriend *gets in time capsule and goes back to the year 1990 when i didn't have no pearls*

ok *dusts off* if this were to happen i would say you know man i really wanted to be a part of that organization, i would hope that they would eventually reopen their doors and hopefully if i was WORTHY ENOUGH i would try to become a member then. shoot i know many folks who for whatever reason couldn't make it at the undergrad level but because it was in their heart they fought to get in at the graduate level. just because God doesn't give you what you want right off, doesn't mean it would have been bad for you to have or a mistake, maybe it is not your time or maybe he is testing you to see if you really wanted it in the first place http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif peace. *jumps back into time capsule punches the year 2001*

I thought alot about this before I answered.... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I really would be shocked, I mean wow....
Then I would try to move on, but you guys I gotta be honest here...When I want something I want it, so it would be kinda hard to just say "Oh I'll just go on with my life"

This is something that I've been eating , sleeping , and dreaming for some time now..Maybe I'd work harder and try to get them to except ONE MORE.

Maybe I'd just have to be a woman about it and except what the organization has said, but, I would forever have that on my mind because I never even got a chance to see if I'd even come close to making it http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

You know me you guys.....Giving it to you straight with no chaser! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif I had to be honest here!

And, that's what I am looking for! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Ok,

you want honesty?? here it is, after the initial shock, anger and sadness, i MAY look at another organization because i have always believed that bglo's all provide a service to the community/the greater good but just in different ways or i may simply move on and hope that the organization will lift the ban in the near future.

Quite honestly....I'd be shocked http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif, upset http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif, sad http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif, and disappointed http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif. If the org. closed their doors, there's no way that I could just change my mind at the snap of a finger because this is something that I've wanted for SO LONG! I'd do what ever I could do to help that organization in whatever way I could. I know that there's no other org. for me and it's where my heart and love is so I'd just hope that one day they'd reopen their doors. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Life goes on.....I believe that everything happens for a purpose, so I would have to take it in stride. If it is meant to be; it will be.

I know this may seem a little blase to some; but one thing I have learned is that if something is meant for you; it will happen....not on your time; but GOD's time.

I can't say that I would be "shocked or upset". I say this because my interest is on the graduate level so I know that intake is not "guaranteed" to happen at any given time or at all for that matter.

While this is something I REALLY want; it is a privledge not a given. I would continue the service I do in my community and hope that before I left this world the policy would change and I would have another opporunity to realize this dream.



[This message has been edited by TempleAlum1993 (edited January 12, 2001).]

sunnydays96, i get the sense that your response was indirectly posed at me. i have been interested for a very long time and i have learned that on the one hand you have to look at seeking membership as a business. if the business has a hiring freeze, i am not going to sit around waiting for the freeze to be over. i would look for something else or stay in my current position. i have talents, assets, goals etc. that i want to reach and i am looking for a 'company' that will allow me to demonstrate them.

as far as the elitist issue, there are women out here that are like that but not me. i am as true as they come. if a questioned was posed to me about my other interests i would more than likely tell them because i don't believe in lying to people. anyone that knows me can vouch for that. if you happen to have anything that you want to ask me personally about my comments you can by all means e-mail me.

HEY AKA2D,

What in the world is a GDI?

Don't laugh, but I am acronym challenged.


It took me the longest time to figure out what "LOL" meant. Then people started typing "ROTFLOL", and I was back at square one.

Miss. Mocha

True enough AKA and "the others" (as AKA2D'91 so sweetly put it lol http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif) are businesses but we are SISTERHOODS and EXTENDED FAMILY first. You are (and we were when we didn't have our pearls) not only interested in the work we do, heck there are TONS of public service organizations out there. You're interested in BONDING with the women in the organization. One company does not fit all employees and one Sorority definetly does not fit all women. I mean think about it, don't you think if AKA stopped bringing in new members Delta, Zeta and Sigma would be on the alert for those who jumped ship, as it were? It's a small world out there. There are too many subjective aspects to becoming a member to get cocky just because you look good on paper.

Getting back to the original question. If I'm TRULY INTERESTED in my chosen organization, my only options are to wait until the moratorium is lifted and I am deemed worthy or die a GDI (gosh darn individual).

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Kelli
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
12-Delta Nu-94
MAL, Southern Region
Savannah State University c/o 1997

[This message has been edited by 12dn94dst (edited January 12, 2001).]

he he he! she said gosh darn individual.... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I could not even fathom pursuing interest in another organization. If Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. closed its doors, knocking on another organizations doors would not even cross my mind, honestly. I have put to much time and effort into pursuing my interest to just turn around to another. If the doors to Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. were to re-open I would be the first one there ready, willing, and able paperwork in hand. But I thought the question asked was if the organization was to never open its doors again, so I would have to face facts and move on as I previously stated.

I would be extremely sad, but as lond as
Alpha Kappa Alpha would continue it's activities, I would stay involved in their programs and community services open to the public.

I'm just stating my opinion about the question asked and the responses given. If my views coincide with your thoughts then yes, you may say they are indirectly addressed to you and/or other women who think the same way or differently. I don't know you, so I don't know what you would do. I'm just stating what I have seen. You were being honest and so was I.

I don't believe that joining a sorority is like looking for a job- just posting your resume to anything that looks good and hoping that someone will decide to hire you eventually. Joining a sorority in my opinion is a LIFE LONG decision, that's how these orgs. remain ongoing. One can do public service anywhere, however there are more aspects to a sorority than the services provided. That is why they are actively pursued. One should do their research before hand and come to a ULTIMATE decision as far as which one is the right one for them.

It just doesn't sit well with me to have someone say their all about one org, but when things don't go as planned, switch up and say "well _______ (color-pink, red, or blue) looked better on me anyway".

As 12dn94dst stated, there are "tons of other public service organizations" out there in which one could put their assets towards. Hey, interested women can shop around there, but not in my sorority.

sunnydays,

your point is well taken but i do see joining a sorority like joining a corporation and perhaps i should have clarified this, difference being that joining a sorority is a life long commitment. true you wouldn't want any wishy washy people coming seeking membership but the reason i want to join is far from being aesthetic. thanks for the comments, i appreciate your honesty and kindness in the way you expressed them.

MAY?

It's sad to say, but there are some interested women who don't join these org. for the founding ideals. They just join because of that "elitist class" (greek life) status. So, they MAY look-no I don't think so. What I know is that they DO look and join.

I wonder if the interested women would "be honest" and tell the members of both orgs. (the one closed- if they had a chance to show interest-and the new one chosen) this?

MAY?

It's sad to say, but there are some interested women who don't join these orgs. for the founding ideals. They just join because of that "elitist class" (greek life) status. So, they MAY look-no I don't think so. What I know is that they DO look and join.

I wonder if the interested women would "be honest" and tell the members of both orgs. (the one closed- if they had a chance to show interest-and the new one chosen) this?

If AKA closed it's doors, I'd be saddened, disappointed, and upset. All I could do is hope that one day the doors would be reopened. I'd support the projects that the sorority would have. There's NO WAY that I'd even think about joining another org. Becoming an AKA has been my dream for what seems like forever and I just couldn't go against my heart and join another org. That would not even be an option!

[This message has been edited by CinnamonInsight (edited January 13, 2001).]

Was something wrong with that viewpoint? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif

If the door were closed, I'd have to wait for them to open again. I mean, I would be sad, but good things come to those who wait. I am a part of many organizations and I know we do not take members every year. In fact, if the "house" is not in order, we do not take any new members until we straighten out the wrinkles. The doors will not be closed always and it would give me even more time to get to know the members in my area and participate in open activities with them and also to spend time and share with other interested sisterfriends. I don't know if I will ever be a member, but I know I am thankful for the people I have encountered and the friends I have made along the way. I do not have to be a part of any organization to be a friend or someone's sister, or to help my community.

If Alpha Kappa Alpha closed it's doors I would only have one option...WAIT. I'd use that time to get that 4.0 I'm so close to and perform more community service. There's always room for improvement. As for going to the next org.,I don't think so.

First I would contact the organization to see if there is a way I can still volunteer my services and time in conjunction with the programs that AKA stands for without being a member because that is the reason I want to be an AKA in the first place, I believe in the programs and comunity service activities. Then I would if I could participate I would and if I couldn't I would probably very disapointed and upset!

You know, I've been thinking about this for a while...now I TRULY believe in the power of prayer, and in the favor of God.
If you think about it, all of us who are sisterfriends, are in this situation>> the doors are closed to us, until God opens them. So if the doors were to be "really" closed until whenever, I would just continue to pray and trust God to do what He/She does best, and that's bless us (read: miraculously open those doors!)