Dating Greek
 

I was wondering how people feel about dating other greeks....I am a young alumnae of Sigma Kappa and although I stay close with my chapter and sisters, I don't feel like I'll ever met the man of my dreams. I have always had this feeling that I would want to marry a man who was in a fraternity....Now that I'm meeting people in the "real world" I'm wondering if it's bad of me to use that as a dating tool. Like were they greek or not....I'm thinking we need a match.com type of thing for greeks only? So....any single fraternity men out there??..... :p

Fraternity men are definitely some of the finest and greatest guys I've ever met. Theyre usually very outgoing, philinthropic, good "friends" and generally great guys. But there are plenty of non-greek men out there that have all of these characteristics and more. So by limiting yourself to only greek men, youre missing out on a ton of great men, one of whom may be perfect for you!

Think of it as a bonus if you find a guy you like who is also greek!

And I totally know what youre talking about... I know i could totally see myself marrying a greek guy and 10 years down the road when we're at homecoming or alumni gaherings we can stop by his old fraternity house on the way to my old sorority house - its fun stuff, but it's not everything!

I know that I wouldn't turn my cheek to someone just because they weren't in a fraternity. I guess it kind of goes back to how every girl wants a guy that's as good to her as her daddy and my daddy is a proud Kappa Sigma. Ahhh I'm just a romantic girl dreaming I guess!

Being Greek, I think it would be cool to marry someone in a fraternity. However, I have never based my dating on the criteria of them being Greek. There are plenty of great guys who just didn't go Greek, whether they were too busy with school or athletics.

At my school since 85% of guys are Greek it's pretty impossible NOT to date one! :)

A lot of my ex's have been greek, and a guy I currently have interest with happens to be Greek. However, if I meet someone that isnt Greek, but I feel is a great guy by my standards, I certainly wont "not consider" him just because he doesnt happen to be greek, I think that would be silly, but he would need to respect my enthusiam for my sorority though.

I never intentionally tried to date only greeks. Once you're in a sorority, the friends you make tend to be greek. I met guys when I went on socials and, of course, they were greek.

I dated GDI's for quite some time, but I definately prefer fraternity men. I mean, who else will be cool w/you doing your "sorority thing" and not whine about it?

Um, my very GDI boyfriend of four years has been very cool about my doing sorority stuff. Not ONCE has he ever whined about the stuff I did as a collegian, or now as an alumna. He understands that Greek Life isn't for him, but it's been an excellent thing for me. He's even helped out my sisters when they need "guy" things. :) So, that stuff isn't an issue of GDI v. Greek, it's just an issue of mature v. immature. ;)

My college boyfriend was greek as were all of the boys I dated on the side, but my husband went to a school that doesn't even have a greek system. You just can never tell! :)

One thing about dating a greek, though, is that you have something in common right off the bat. It can be a great ice breaker.

My ex was greek. it worked for us when we were together since we both had chapter at the same time and our time commitments to each of our chapters was more or less the same so neither of us could really whine that being involved in greek life took time away from being together. Plus since fraternity/sorority pinnings are done publicly and the girl gets serenaded by her boyfriend's fraternity in front of her whole sorority, its your 5 minutes of fame at school and its really touching.

But on the flip side, my chapter and his chapter were very close, there was a lot of dating going on between the two and just in general a lot of close friendships. This made it hard because it was like everyone was involved in our relationship. Its like when people say when they get married they marry not just their significant other but the parents as well. It was something similar, I wasnt just dating my ex, I was dating his entire fraternity!! It was even more frustrating after we broke up because everyone and their mom had something to say about it and we just werent allowed to live it ourselves.

I think you should use any resource available to find a mate, but don't discount someone just because he isn't a fraternity man.

Sorry, I only date Italian.

-Rudey
--I'm like an Italian stalion but not really since I'm not Italian and not a horse either.

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I'm somewhat confused by your post. The first part of it sounds like you wanted to use your greek ties with your chapter and sisters as a way to meet greek men, and then towards the end it sounds like you want a match.com for greeks only.

I personally agree with others who say you shouldn't discount a guy because he never went Greek. And I also feel like it's weird to "use" your chapter as a "dating tool" to meet greek men. But I could have completely misunderstood what you were trying to say :confused:

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I try to stay away from Greek girls now days. My first freshman year I went crazy over Greek women and stayed that way for the next 3 yrs. I have an array of exgirlfriends, most of whom were Greek. Now when I look back I realize they were too b!tchy and I was too much of a d!ck. It was a horrible combination, that would explain why I was a serial dater in a certain house. For me, the best GFs I've had ( with the exception of one ) ended up not being Greek. However, I think Greek women vary between college towns and non-college towns. In college towns a large part of them seem to be stuck up, at universities in big cities they don't seem that way at all. Not all greek girls in college towns are b!tchy in my view. You do have that 25% of them that are extremely cool to hang out with and you often find yourself asking the question "Why the hell is she in a sorority?" I know a few of these girls, emphasis on FEW. In my college town the smart girls who became greek and who were actually pretty cool ended up dropping out for the most part by the middle of their Jr. year or start of their Senoir year. I didn't really notice it until after living there for a couple of years. When I asked some of them why they dropped out after being in it for 2 yrs, most of them said it was all a bunch of B.S. that they didn't feel like dealing with anymore. And this was a big school, boasting 60,000+ on paper. The greek community is pretty big, and sorority rush is one of the most ruthless in the nation. In any case, I could careless if a girl is Greek or not. The person matters more than the affiliation these days. And outside of a college town, I rarely meet girls who are affiliated with a GLO. In fact, most people in the real world could care less what GLO you were in except for greeks themselves. Now that I look back on it all I realise that the only reason why I wanted them to be greek was so that I could show them off as if they were a prized trophy, and I think they did the same to an extent when I was around their sisters. Its all a soap opera if you ask me. But thats not to say that I still don't get turned on when I meet a cute ZTA, Alpha Gam or a DG.;) I think a girl being Greek can add more flavor to the relationship, but its not required.

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I'm not gonna lie, i do prefer to date sorority women. Y'all have probably learned about me by now that i'm pretty passionate about certain things and my fraternity is one of them. I don't see myself being with a woman who either can't understand this, cuz she wasn't Greek, or who doesn't share the same love for her org.

Plus, i want legacies. So i only date sorority women who's parents are Greek.


who are over 7'0" tall. cuz i'm a breeder. :D


Kitso
KS 361 times if i have to pay to PM ladies, i'm chunkin a duece and out

I used to think that GLO members only dated other GLO members and GDIs dated GDIs. I've learned over the years that GLO members can and do date GDIs and vice versa. I don't have a boyfriend at the moment, but when I do, whether Fraternity member or GDI, I am sure he will be a wonderful guy!

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well c'mon Kitso....you're pretty hot yourself:)

I have to agree. I do find it frustrating to try to explain my involvement to a S.O. who isn't greek, but I've never even considered using it as a criteria for picking a potential mate. From experience, "must have a job" is a MUCH more important criteria.

My heart does not see a guy’s affiliation. It would be nice to date Greek at times, but not mandatory or even a priority.

It's so funny...all the guy's I've ever had a serious relationship with rushed/pledged, but were never initiated. The only guy I dated that was an actual brother is just a good friend and we didn't date for very long.

What a bunch of wanna-be's ;):p

I agree with that! :) I've dated greeks and non-greeks, and married a non-greek. My husband did have a bit of trouble coming to terms with my commitments to my sorority, especially when I had to disappear for 2 weeks for rush, but he learned to deal with it... after all, I was an AEPhi long before I was his girlfriend/wife! :p

You get a lot of greek/greek couples because once you go greek, a lot of social venues (mixers, Greek Week, etc) are opened to you - some of which non-greeks aren't invited to (mixers) and others of which non-greeks just tend not to go to. Plus, if you live in your GLO's house, you're living with your sisters/brothers, not a mix of greek and non-greek. If most of the guys/girls you're meeting are greeks... you do the math :) But that doesn't mean you have to restrict yourself to dating greeks in any way.

lol.

riiiiiiiiight.

I don't flirt on GC anymore, leads to too much drama. :p

Kitso
KS 361 times i might reconsider if you email me your pic :D

Are you joking me? With the exception of a few guys I know who are greek and awesome, all the fraternity guys I know seem to only care about getting drunk and getting laid.

You go to school in Arizona, it can be different in other places.

Ok well I guess I just mean at ASU and USC....I wish nice fraternity guys would migrate here!

When I was in college, I dated mostly Greeks since thats who I hung out with, mixers, socials, etc. But now it doesn't matter in the "real" world...

although, actually, Homecoming last week was a great place to meet Greek Alum :D ;)

Those are not fraternity men, those are frat boys. Oh no, that dirty word. I know a lot of guys that fit that group. They give the good fraternity men a bad name. I'd say it runs about 50/50. Hope that does not offend anyone. It’s just my opinion and observation.

Umm just so you know we think that sorority girls are easy and stupid as bricks even when they're not total lushes.

-Rudey
--No offense, and i'm totally serious here.

This all can be turned around the other way too. I was once "seeing" a guy (GDI) who told me after a short while that he doesn't like dating "sorority girls" because in his opinion, "you all hook up with the same guys." And that was his stereotype, which does not ring true for me. Yeah, I didn't like that.

No offense taken... some may be.

My boyfriend is not a greek but he helps out alot. That way he is involved (but not know private stuf or rituals) and get to know the girls I am sisters with.

I dated a non-greek all of college. It was very hard; however, we were together before I joined (I joined my sophomore year). He was however, not very social, and even with non greeks could come to parties and stuff he wouldn't go, which would leave me going alone. This ultimately became a big deal and was probably just another aspect of our breakup, he just didn't understand the social aspect.

Now my lil sis, who I love to death, is engaged to a non-greek. He is awesome. He does; however, not go to our school. They do visit each other very regularly and when he is in town, he comes out to stuff even though he is non-greek. This way he understands both the sisterhood/ritual aspect along with social. Even when he doesn't visit, normally my lil will get a call from him, which then normally means the phone gets past around to everyone so they can say "hi" since everyone knows him from when he does visit and come out.

It may be different when you're a collegian versus alum. I just graduated; however, I am already signed up to advise where I'm going to grad school, so my commitment is still there.

Who knows, it all about the person and the understanding.

When my boyfriend and I started dating he was already a member of his fraternity (and had been for some time) and I was a non-Greek at the time. 2 months after we started dating, I went through rush, and he was very supportive. We both seem to have the same views on greek life and how much of it we want to partake in and what not, so I'm very happy to be a Greek dating another Greek.

Dating a greek while you are in school (atleast here) can be difficult. Everyone knows everything about your relationship no matter how private you like to keep it. Everyone is up in your business and feels that they have a right to know. Word travels sooooo fast. Maybe it is just because we have developed a really tight knit greek community.

I personally prefer dating greek boys, though. It is nice to have someone who understands your time constraints and knows that sometimes you just need to be with your sisters. A non greek might not exactally like or understand the fact that I cannot talk to him for a week during our initiation week, or that somethings are just a secret.

I'm dating a non-greek boy. There wasn't even a greek system at his college. He was upset when I rushed, and even more upset when I didn't get a bid. After I recieved my bid, he was upset with me for accepting it. He was upset that I pledged. But then he came to our formal in spring, met my sisters, and said NOW I see why you joined!". He thought my sisters were crazy/weird/hyper just like me. All of my sisters loved him too, the next day I was out walking with one of my sisters when my cell phone rang, i started talking to him and she SNATCHED the phone from me and started going "Oh my god Pat you and tracey are so good together! you guys were so cute at formal blah blah balh!". It was really cute and it embarassed the hell out of him. I think once he met my sisters and realized that they weren't forcing me to have sex with guys or drink myself to oblivion he was OK with me being Greek. I'm glad hes' come to grips with it.

I never was interested in Fraternity guys but then I dated a few and I found that they weren't all about the keg parties and getting laid. However, my turning point was I started dating someone in my co-ed fraternity. Its a different type of commitment because it is a service fraternity and we both understand it and yet at the same time, we have the same functions and I am friends with his chapter members

I think having a chick that was in a sorority is the way to go. Maybe its just a fetish of mine or maybe a lot of other guys out there are like me, but I like banging the girl while she's wearing her letters or having a blow job while she's wearing her bid day sailor hat. Its even hotter if she has her letters tatooed or an anchor tatooed somewhere sexy. Whats even hotter is when you have the girl wearing her letters around her neck while wearing a shirt that has your letters on it. Greek girls are just more freaky than non-greek girls. I think if porn wasnt looked down upon you'd see more pornstars that are greek than you would non-greek. Think about it from a guys view, what can be more hot than seeing a super fine chick getting railed while having ZTA, DG, KD, Theta, Tri-Delt or DZ somewhere on her body?

Made that mistake, won't date a sorority girl ever again.

I always thought I wanted to marry a guy who was in a certain fraternity but now that I'm out in the real world away from college and crazy about this guy I'm dating who was never in a fraternity, that doesn't seem to matter much anymore.