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I knew it was over when....
Hey Everybody:
Around Christmas time, I tend to get a little misty when I start thinking about my ex(we've been broken up for almost two years). When I start thinking about the good times, I have to console myself by remembering a bad time, like the moment when I knew it was over. I knew it was over when: I spent about $500 on him for Christmas and he gave me the free gift watch that came with his designer watch. How about you all? When did you know it was over? |
I knew it was over the last time I had sex with him. I broke down and started crying. I'm not talking about tears of joy, or tears because the earth moved. These were more like I'm so miserable with this person, I don't even want him to touch me tears. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif
Fortunately, I am able to look back on this and laugh. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif |
Convinced....Soror you have some hard hitting issues on this listserv! I knew one of my relationships was over when I was feeling sick and I could not go to sleep but decided I was still going to go to work. I lent my ex-girlfriend(girlfriend at the time) my car(who lives 45 minutes away). After that I went to work......My boss sent me home after about 3 hours. But she was out with my car and I had no way to contact her. So I sat on her stoop for 2 hours and felt worse and throwing up. She finally came and I asked her if I could rest at her house for about an hour before I went home. Her response was "I really don't have time for you right now" and walked right in.
WHOA (And she knew I was sick)! A Week later we broke up. |
Wait a minute! Let me get this straight. Sphinxpoet, you mean you actually gave her one more week?! She was wrong for that.
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A week?
IT WOULD HAVE BEEN OVER RIGHT THEN AND THERE! I knew it was OVER when ALL the DRAMA became a laughing matter and I DID NOT care one way or another... |
I knew it was over when she said, "we need to talk". Then she kept me hanging until she came back from a dinner with some people she worked with on campus. When she finally came back she gave me that "it's not your fault" speech. You know the one where they try and rationalize their decision to break up by bringing up some supposed internal issue. Yeah right. In the immortal words of my friend HITS on BET "People, let's get it together". But that's when I knew it was over.
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I knew it was over when he pissed me off and I didn't cry about it. I didn't cry because I didn't care anymore! |
I knew it was over when he leaned in for a kiss and I cringed.
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I knew it was over when i caught him over his ex-girlfriends house at 3am, so I wrote "Caught Ya" on his windshield in my lipstick complete with a smiley face.
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I'm sorry, but I have to share my story as well. The holiday's use to get me down as well. My ex and I started dating my senoir year in high school. We were "head over hills" in love with each other. Then he went to Famu, and I stayed at home in the "Chi" and went to Rooselvelt. A lot of my friends were kind of "erie" about him attending a predominantly Black school, but I knew that NOTHING would ever break us up (At least I thought nothing would) At any rate, our last Christmas together, he explained how he could not afford to buy my anything for Christmas and that money was tight!! I COMPLETLEY understood, and told him that the love that we shared was good enough for me. Well After spending HUNDREDS of Dollars on him at Christmas time, I later found out that he did have money. How did I know? Well a couple of days b4 Christmas I was heading to work and I got "stuck" up at gun point by this drug addict pervert!! I was SO SCARED I didn't know what to do. At any rate, my boyfriend only lived a couple of blocks away and called my job and told them that wouldn't be coming in due to my situation. Then he took me out to "brunch" to get my mind off of the situation. Everything was fine, until we stopped in this store and he purchased this beautiful Ballerina music box for this girl that went to FAMU with him. And he had the NERVE to ask me if I thought she would like it!! (Did I mention that I didn't get a DAMN thing for Christmas from him!!!???) I was in too much PAIN, AGONY, and Confusion to answer. I later broke up with him on New Years EVE. I wanted to start the New Years off right. This happend over 3 1/2 yrs ago. By the way did I mention that He is engaged to her as we speak and that they are getting married next year??? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif
Well I shouldn't be surprised!! Well Luckily God has sent me someone special in my life, and we are going strong!!! Sorry for the long post!!! |
I knew it was over when he confessed to cheating on me with a member of the Chapter I am seeking membership in.
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I knew it was over when I found a condom and some photos of some girl in his gym bag. Supposedly he had been telling me he was going to the gym, but was intead going to her house. UUUUUGGGGGGHHHH http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif
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Oh yeah! I KNEW it was over when...
My ex-boyfriend and I had been dating for two years. We were both sophomores in college, although we attended different colleges. He was an athlete and...well...I was ME! As an athlete, his duckets weren't really poppin' off and all so he didn't have like, a car and stuff...anyways... He sorta "stayed" with me for awhile and I would allow him to use my car when I was at class. I mean, what would I do with it during the day anyways, besides, parking at UCLA is a task in itself, so I didn't trip. Well, during finals week, I decided that I'd drive the (read=my) car to campus to study. I knew I would be doing so indefinitely, because "hello" it WAS finals week. Well, when I returned, this fool had the NERVE to be pissed off at me for not returning in time for him to do something he had planned to do already. Did I mention the car was MINE? Aw, naw, that ain't it... I KNEW IT WAS OVA WHEN... After I expressed to him that the car was mine and I really didn't owe it to him to return at a certain time especially for something like STUDYING (don't ask why I was even explaining), he THREW a drink he had in his hand at me. I mean he THREW it! No it wasn't a dixie cup, it was one of those big 'ol, big 'ol drinkink cups. It hit the wall behind me like inches from my head. Did I mention we were in MY apartment? Well, the next day, I rounded up some of my football playing homies and Frat and had them escort me (to my own crib) to get this brothah out. I really feared that he may do something when I broke up with him...I didn't really end up NEEDING the men I brought, but I felt safer in case he tried to throw some stuff at me again, plus, he was (literally) 7'1" tall. Okay, sorry so long. |
let me put my two cents in even though it may not be worth a dime! I try not to get caught up over relationships after all i'm only 23. I know it may be hard to let go especially after dating someone for years but I just live my life according to little but so so true quote I once heard "REJECTION IS GOD'S PROTECTION" If it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be and I take it as God getting the dumba%$ out of my life to make room for the right man someday! I don't stress over guys!
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Well, I knew it was past over when my boyfriend of 2 yrs. called me up one day(we lived in separate states)and told me he was engaged to another woman and that they were having a child.
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Mz. Sprorts Luva and DeltaBrat, please tell me your lying, it can't be true! Oh my. I can not even imagine(because I've never been a long term relationship before, I don't know what's wrong with me).
DeltaBrat-oh I have been in short relationships with athletes(yes hoopers), even though they are all not bad-but please don't make me go there. I'm sorry that guy disrespected you like you were some dumb, fallen over, light haired, pig tailed, shallow, stupid chick! |
Nah, unfortunately it's true. But like Inquisitive stated:"REJECTION IS GOD'S PROTECTION". And what's even better is that he's absolutely MISERABLE!!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Ania: [B]Mz. Sprorts Luva and DeltaBrat, please tell me your lying, it can't be true! Oh my. I can not even imagine(because I've never been a long term relationship before, I don't know what's wrong with me). |
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I knew it was over with the clown when I was sittin' in the beauty shop next to a girl who just happened to be on her cell phone with the person who was supposed to be my man! The way I knew it was him because as I called him he told her to hold on. She got mad and was cursing him out and called him by name! I asked him who he was on the phone with and the fool said his brother. I was right under the next dryer so I knew who it was. She and I talked it over so when he finally called her cell back I answered! As the old folks say..."You coulda heard a rat pee on cotton" he got so quiet!
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OH I KNEW IT WAS OVER WHEN
His crazy a$$ baby mama knocked on my front door and asked him to drive her home. Pure Unadulterated chaos. I was stupid enough to stay another two weeks. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/redface.gif Thank God for renewed sanity!!!!! |
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We had been together for a solid two years, and then off and on for the past year, so pretty much 3 years. I knew it was over when I was upset over the anniversary of my father's death, and he decided to leave me home alone while he went to play video games with his dude. Well, at first, he sat with me for an hour or so while I cried. After I had calmed down, he asked me if I would be ok by myself because he wanted to go play video games. Of course I'll be fine by myself, but I went off!!! You know what he said? "Oh, so the time I did spend with you wasn't enough?" ONE HOUR YALL!!! I had to chuckle and shake my head. I couldn't be mad, I just figured, he's showing me who he is, so I need to believe it, the first time!! I guess that was the push I needed to finally move on.
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I knew it was over when he told me that he was going to visit his sick grandfather in another town and I didn't hear from him again!
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I knew it was over for me and an ex when:
He said that he thought we should take, yet another, break and I agreed whole heartedly. |
Thanks Ania.
Buying gifts for other women, telling "us" that they are engaged to other people, talking on the phone with other women and they are supposed to be with "us." What's wrong with brothahs? Imagine how upset they'd be if women acted that way. A man can barely stomach the fact that his "girl" may have slept with/dated ANYONE else, EVER before they met. Don't let it be someone who lives in the same geographical location (read= EGO DRIVEN) Let alone getting engaged to someone else. Hmm! |
I knew it was over when.....
My boyfriend of two years said to me, "I just want to slap you for hugging a guy you know I don't get along with". I guess the fact that he was my cousin didn't matter, I should have had more loyalty to him. I knew that he was a bit obsessive and possessive, but at that moment I realized that this negro was downright crazy and stupid. I had to call it off because if I didn't and my mother had to get a call that I was in the hospital because of him-she would be in jail right now. I figured it was in the best interest of my mother to stop that relationship. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif |
When I found the hotel receipt and I couldn't help myself from laughing hysterically!
At the same time, I kept thinking to myself "Better her than me!" [This message has been edited by jazbri (edited December 15, 2000).] |
I knew it was OVER when ALL the DRAMA became a laughing matter and I DID NOT care one way or another...[/QUOTE] LOL, AKA2D'91 You've been there too!!! He could do nothing that upset you, you were just like Screw it, So WHAT!!!!!LOL LOL I've been there more than I'd like to admit! |
I knew something was UP when...
My ex (boyfriend at the time) of almost 2 years went to a summer program at the college we now attend the summer b4 we started our freshmen year. At first, he was calling me just about every day. But as the summer progressed, his calling slowly tapered off. So when I called him on it, he was like "well, i have class so early and they have us doing all this stuff..." yadda yadda yadda. Then, when we did talk, he wouldn't stay on the phone long cuz he CLAIMED had to get up in the morning and play BASKETBALL (yes, BASKETBALL) with some of the other guys in his program (Um, this was NOT a b-ball program mind you)! But I KNEW it was OVER when... I finally came up when school began. He didn't even call me to find out if I had made it to my dorm. I had to track HIM down. When I found him, we hung out in my room and he acted as if he didn't wanna be there. After classes started, the week before my birthday, he didn't call me, come over, NOTHING. I would call and his roommate would tell me he was sleeping or that he was busy. I would email him and he wouldn't respond to that either. FINALLY, after not seeing him/speaking to him for almost a week, I ran into him on the way to my class. I asked him what was going on and all he said was "I don't wanna talk about it now" and proceeded to walk away. To make this long story short, we broke up later on that day. |
I knew it was over when I, a starving and broke college student, asked my then boyfriend, who was a software engineer driving a new Mercedes, to bring me a Big Mac on his way over to my apartment...he had a nerve to show up without it AND expect some nooky!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif I put him out and never looked back! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/cool.gif
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I forgot to mention that she had no job at the time so I was supporting her for a little while and a week later, when she got the job that was when I knew it was over for real! The Sphinxpoet "Bitter but not Angry" |
I knew it was over when I was told that he was seeing someone else and wasn't moved by it in the least bit.
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I knew it was ova when:
My boyfriend and I had been together for 3 yrs and my baby was 1. He had helped pay most of my bills during my maternity leave and mostly everything was all good. Then during my leave I was offered a job with NYPD long story short is that because I was new on the job I of course had the 4pm to 12am shift that no one with senority wanted. Anyway I'd reach home every night about 1 or 1:30 am. Since I past my house on the way to the babysitters I'd always just stop and throw my bag down. Ya know I didn't want to give a mugger any excuse to consider me a victim. Anyway on more than one occassion I'd come home to MY house and this fool would be up in my bed chillin'. I'd search the house and there'd be no baby. Huh? That's right after working all night coming home really late this fool still expected me to go back out into the darkness (did I mention this is nyc?) with the murderers and crackheads and get my baby alone. Mind you he'd been home since 6 or 7pm. After the last night of taking this crap ---God woke me up the next day. I realize this fool hadn't paid one friggin' bill since I'd started working and when I questioned him about the situation he had the nerve to tell me that since I made more money than he did I didn't need his part. Um, ur, rah, excuse me! That was the straw that broke the camel's back. After all the crap and other woman drama he had put me through. Needless to say he married one of those other women in less than 9 months and hasn't held a job since then. My girl is still paying for the wedding and bought her own engagement ring. And he has got to be the flyest unemployed man I know. Iceberg this, gucci that. Humph! betta her than me. Thank you Lord for awaking me!!!! ------------------ "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful" |
Hmmmm, I knew it was over when...
The guy I had a humongus crush on and played in the NFL got this woman, from outta nowhere that used to be married to Vinny Testaverde, pregnant. I found out be seeing her about to drop that child. Fortunately, all my friends kept tellin' me that "Bart's" (as we called him--as in Bart Simpson) retarded. Do you know, I've been told that that child is truly mentally retarded... After that fiasco, I promised myself to never put all my "eggs" into one basket until vows have been said and legal document signed... 'Til then, ain't gonna be no, "I knew it was over's"... |
When one of my ex's told me "that was my cousin.." (can we say "stupid" -- he forgot he showed me a picture of his "ex") and I didn't care because I realized I had been looking for a reason to dump him.
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well this was never my boyfriend, but a guy that I had been talking to back in high school....
I knew it was over when he and my homegirl got into an arguement on the phone (you know how we used to do 3 and 4 way on the phone with all the homies). Well anyway he got pissed and hung up. Then he called me back on my line talking about "bitch, you dont know who the f**k I am, dont nobody talk to me like that....." Whoa! Obviously HE didnt know that no one talks to ME like that! |
whew!! Good Lord help us! I am REALLY shaking my head at some of these posts!! Well... pull up a chair, I feel the need to vent!!!
My ex (or as my friends and family call him "The Crazy One") and I had a VERY ROCKY 10 or 11 months together. Our families were extremely close and so EVERYONE was really happy when we got together... One of his parents passed and shortly thereafter, we got together. He was helping me out a lot, as I am a single mom (not his child), & wanted us to be married -- almost from the jump. I felt swept off my feet, he helped with bills, spent time with my child, & basically did everything he was 'supposed' to do. I was so happy. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif He loved to spend time with me, wanted me to be happy, sacrificed things of himself... He did not work, but had plenty of money from investments and insurance. Since he had a lot of free time & I am a full time EVERYTHING, mom, student, worker (volunteer, & your standard Mon. through Fri.9-to-5). I am already in my profession, so missing work is not an option for me (I don't work at McDonald's). I have serious responsibilities & it is BAAAD if I miss a day unscheduled. Well, he ALWAYS wanted me to call in, miss class, spend time with him AND my son on days I kinda needed time alone to bond with my not-yet-one-year-old. This became a problem for him - that I am such a BUSY woman. The things he had once admired about me (my dedication, level of personal success, independence, etc.) became a HUGE problem; I couldn't do what he wanted WHEN he wanted. He began accusing me of all kinds of things (cheating, lying, stealing), waiting for me outside my job, calling me asking about background noises (dropped spoon, dishwasher, vacuum), asking me where I REALLY was when he'd called me at home. If I was at work, he wanted me to answer every time he called - meeting or no meeting. We would fight, he'd apologize, and we'd try to move on… This went on for about 8 months - he got increasingly possessive & demanding - before we started the break-up/get-back-together-cycle… He held things over my head (i.e. the shoes he gave my son for his B-day, the $10 he gave me to put in my gas tank, the $250 for my car note, etc.) I never asked him for anything, so I stopped taking. I figured he was troubled b/c losing one of your parents can cause major emotional issues… I didn't want to rock his boat even more. I thought I could stick it out and he would be okay after he got to a point where he could deal with it. Instead he said I was trying to shut him out and we fought even more, that I must be getting $$ from another man and I didn't love him. I KNEW IT WAS OVER WHEN... I was over his house and my company-furnished cell phone became the subject for an argument. He looked in my phone and started calling numbers (of co-workers) accusing me of cheating with these people. He made me strip, stand in his garage naked http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/redface.gif (it was cold as hell outside too) while he repeated obscenities to me. He held a gun in plain view, and doused the crotch of my pants with Listerine. He didn't give me my underwear back so when I did get my clothes back on (I only got my pants b/c he tore my shirt, glasses, and underwear up) things weren't so comfortable for me down there. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/redface.gif We fought over my car keys b/c he insisted on driving "the whore" (as I was called) home. He wanted to drive me home persoanlly so that I wouldn't go over my "other man's" house and tell him what had just happened to me... It might've been nice if I'd had another man to call... so he could beat my ex's a%%! Needless to say - I did not have any misty-fuzzy-sweet-candy-coated-memories of my ex this Christmas. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif Ohhh drama. Never again. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif ------------------ ~those who truly give of themselves - know exactly how to receive from others~ |
OOOOOOgirl I cannot believe that. I would have left there running. I am glad that you are ok.
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don't play!!! Girl, I wish I could setup a workshop..
-- HOW TO KNOW IF HE'S REALLY CRAZY, OR JUST HAVING PROBLEMS -- OR better... -- HOW TO KNOW IF HE'S REALLY CRAZY, OR JUST HAVING PROBLEMS (and realizing that it's NOT YOUR PROBLEM) -- lol sheesh |
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