The Fat Lady Sang--an AI Encore and Curtain Call
 

The regional coordinator just called me and told me the answer was no.

This is the short version. I need a little time to collect my thoughts and I'll be posting the detailed version a little bit later.

The AI journey is over for me. I found my home but the door was locked. I will always keep my promise though, of supporting Greek life, whatever my status is, because I still believe it is the best way for collegiates to begin their foundation for their adult lives. And I'll be here too, just probably not posting as much.

And I will be forever grateful to those of you who encouraged me this past year. Each and every one of you is a credit to the organization you pledged for opening up Greek life to others regardless of where they are. You are the reason I always will support the Greek system.

Love,
Adrienne

Adrienne, I am really sorry to hear this. We're here if you need to talk.

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All of us are here for you if you need us! We love you!

I am so very sorry to hear this news. I know that you are just processing this disappointment right now, and I hope this statement doesn't seem like "too much too soon, " but I would like to take the time to suggest that in a while you may want to consider other options. Your enthusiasm for your search would suggest that you would make an extremely active member, and I know that all sororities need those in abundance. Just a thought.
Much Greek Love,
violets

i am so bummed for you!!! i am sorry things turned out this way. i will definately be sending you good wishes!

sending hugs!
 

i am soo sorry! there are other options if you really would like to be greek... hope u are doing okay!

Adrienne,

I am so sorry!

I know right now you must be hurt, but I do hope that you will reconsider alumna initiation. Who knows? Maybe the fat lady was just signaling the end to act one and not the end to the whole opera. You'll never know what act two holds for you unless you pursue it.

Please know that I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If there is anything I can help with, do not hesitate to let me know.

~ Annie :)

I'm so sorry to hear about this :(

We all still love you and support you in everything you decide to do!!!

Your story was one of the ones I was really interested in, because you are so passionate about Greek Life. Please continue to keep a positive attitude about Greek life, and please don't leave GC! :)

Re: The Fat Lady Sang
 

Oh sweetie! I can't imagine how you feel, but offer hugs!! Let me just repeat the wise words that were once spoken to me..Everything happens for a reason!!Maybe you have yet to find your true home!! And when you get there you will truly know!!

Keep your head up!! And know that you have so much support here!!

We're here for you, Adrienne.

I'm so sorry to hear this Adrienne. Lots of hugs to you girl!

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Aww...

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<hugs>


Adrienne, you'll always be one of my PNAM sisters....



.....Kelly :(

I am so sorry. I didn't want this story to have a sad ending. We love you and will always be here for you. WE think you add a lot to our GC group, so please continue to stay with us.


Lizz

Awww Adrienne sorry to hear of the response you recieved, but don't give up yet...like others have said things happen for reason.;)

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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Adrienne}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

We love you!

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(((((((((((((((((((((Adrienne))))))))))))))))))))) )

:( I am so sorry Adrienne. My heart is breaking for you. I am hoping after everything sinks in that you rethink your AI options. But I totally understand your dissapointment, and subsequent reluctance to do so. We are here for you either way.

Loyally,
Kristin

I'm sorry Adrienne. I wish you the best.

I'm so sorry. :(

No!
 

This is so upsetting.

I know I'm just repeating what everyone said, but I'm so sorry to hear about this. I can't imagine what it feels like...

Adrienne, I am so very sorry to read your update. My thoughts and best wishes are with you.

Christin

Adrienne I'm so very sorry. Many hugs to you :(

I pm'd you :)
~TCV

{{{{Adrienne}}}}

Dear Adrienne,
Please remember than AI is still a new process among NPC groups, and only a very few alumnae are initiated each year. Many factors could have contributed to the decision to not initiate you, and I am sure that you have skills and qualities that another group could be hoping for from an alumna. I hope that you find another worthy goal to which you may focus your energy and devotion.

Big Hugs from me...

LM

One peach does not make a peach pie!:)

One set back is not the end of the world!;)

Adrienne,

I am truly sorry for your disappointment. :( I can understand if you want to take a break from things and just recuperate from the roller coaster ride that you have been on.

That being said, what Tom says above is true. I've been on GC for 3 years and I know of a woman who suffered heartbreaking disappointment. I kept with her and told her to take a break from things, then when ready, regroup and carry on..... she is now a happy AI and loves her "home".

So, while I think it is important to take a break as you've suffered disappointment, when you are ready, you may wish to carry on and reattempt with a different GLO. You will be supported on GC, I can tell you that.

Best of luck and I hope that you do find your way to your "home".

Adrienne,

I haven't been on GC in a while, but I was so disappointed to log on and see your update. I agree with everyone that you would make an excellent AI in any group you pursue. I'm so sorry that this hasn't worked out for you. I also agree that perhaps this isn't the end of AI for you. Who knows -- another group may catch your eye or things may change as AI becomes more common.

((((Adrienne))))

Adrienne,
I too need to tell you how sorry I am to hear this news!!! Greek life is missing out by not having you as a member-- I am sure of it.

I have to say--truly SHOCKED that this happened to you. I mean who wouldn't want a dedicated, smartand mature member in their rolls?? Please do not let this be your final attempt at AI. Each group has something different to offer--and things aren't always what they seem on the outside anyway.

Best wishes!!!
Heather

You guyz have to be the most unbelievable group of cyber-friends a girl could ever have.

Today is better than yesterday in quite a few ways. I went back with my sponsors and other people involved with this phase of AI and it turns out, the chapter was in favor of having me join, the national office had a big chunk of my paperwork with no red flags or objections (initial response was favorable). And some of the people in the chapter thought it was a done deal--just a final matter of paperwork and ritual.

The only fly in the ointment was this single regional officer/specialist/whateversheis deciding to tell the chapter "no". Remember, national was "all systems go", but a regional person (who admitted to me ON THE PHONE that she didn't know what AI was until she took this position) said it wasn't happening.

Something sketchy happened and several people are getting to the bottom of it. There are some **angry** chapter members on the phone to national. I pity the national officers with some of the calls and emails they're getting.

Thanx everyone for the PMs and emails--I promise I'll answer each and every one, but I'm still in getovertheshockandcalmdown mode. I had my hair done, got declawed (what my husband calls a manicure) and burned up a credit card at Saks. Amazing what that does for morale!

Once the brouhaha settles down, the entire story will get posted. (I'm working on it offline so I don't get logged off in the middle of a post. Happened before. It sux.)

The fat lady may be taking a curtain call at some point.

{{{{{{{{{{EVERYBODY ON GC}}}}}}}}}}

Adrienne

(edited to add: I do appreciate everyone's encouragement about keeping options open. As of this very second, I think I've done that--if I got an invite in the next 5 minutes from another org, to me it would be like shopping until someone took me and that's not what I'm doing. It's almost like getting out of a relationship, then going through a "rebound" phase. Not to say it's impossible, just things are still up in the air, w/ no clues as to where they are going to land, and I don't know what it would take to get me to the point where I could research and pursue another org without feeling....what's the word.......guilty I guess for "shopping" and "just going somewhere." Don't worry, youse guyz will be kept up to date.

--ADD

Yay!

Would it help if GC offered to go kick that one officer's butt?

I'm glad things are looking up at least a little bit. Hang in there! Hopefully this lady will be converted to the good side after all! ;)

Oh, my goodness - the mental image I got from that!! Dozens of sorority women slapping that person silly!!!

Adrienne, glad to hear that the retail therapy is working! Please know that you are loved and respected here ALWAYS!!!!

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ADRIENNE!!!!!!!! So happy for you!!!

Hopefully, this messy situation will get all worked out... there are so many lines of communication to keep track of! I only wish that all NPCs had a better organized AI process, similar to the NPHCs!

<Kelly grabs a torch and pitchfork> Alright!! Where do we go?!?!

;) :p


It must be a relief to know that this was the work of one possibly misunderstanding person and not an outright rejection from the entire group! I suppose there are two pieces of good news. First, you still have "another chance" and two, this will serve as a learning opportunity for people (like this regional coordinator lady) who either don't understand or don't like AI.


Good for you, Adrienne! We look forward to a great finish!


PNAM,

.....Kelly :)

I'll help! it has been a good long time since I have been in a street fight! :D