GreekChat.com Forums

GreekChat.com Forums (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/index.php)
-   Dating & Relationships (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/forumdisplay.php?f=206)
-   -   Would you be Mad at your Spouse... (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=39955)

KillarneyRose 09-24-2003 07:38 PM

Would you be Mad at your Spouse...
 
Imagine, just for a minute, that you've been out of town on a business trip for a few days and you're flight is arriving at, say, 10:10 pm.

Say that your wife doesn't want to pick you up at the airport because a) she doesn't want to wake up your two young daughters and load them in the car and b) the final episode of Big Brother 4 is on from 9-10 and your wife's sorority sister from her chapter is in the running to win and she wants to see it.

Say also, that you're b**ching that hiring a car to take you from the airport to your house would cost $30 yet you bring home a hefty paycheck every two weeks and live very comfortably.

Would you be pi**ed off at your wife (who is, incidently, a wonderful wife and mother :) ) or would you just shut your mouth and hire a car then forget about it? Is the wife being unreasonable????

AXJules 09-24-2003 07:40 PM

The sleeping kids thing is what got me. Big Bro can be taped, but asking you to disrupt 2 sleeping children is a bit much.

You're right. Tell him to suck it up and you'll have dinner waiting for him when he gets home.

Peaches-n-Cream 09-24-2003 07:45 PM

I think that you should take this rare opportunity to meet your husband at the airport wearing nothing but a coat and La Perla's finest. It's a perfect night for your kids to stay at the neighbor's. :)

The1calledTKE 09-24-2003 07:50 PM

Doing something for someone you love is not always easy and you may not want to do it. It is sometimes the little things that count. After being away from his wonderful wife and kids he might want to see them all happy and smiling there to welcome him back. Make him feel all that hard work to bring some money home is worth it. I am sure he knows it's worth it, but sometimes actions speak louder than words. Just my opinion though.

kddani 09-24-2003 07:59 PM

Knowing how much your hubby travels, what do you usually do?

I think waking up the kids is a bit much. Tell him to go without a couple lattes if he's that concerned about the $30.

Maybe he's just crabby?

This sounds more like something that a woman would get pissy over ;)

Imthachamp 09-24-2003 08:00 PM

i would divorce this woman as soon as i got home and then boot her out of MY house.

bethany1982 09-24-2003 08:29 PM

The issue with the kids seems legitimate to me, but I couldn't support the other part of the excuse. I think the husband should understand about the kids, and that should be that.

adpialumcsuc 09-24-2003 08:44 PM

I would want to be the one to pick up my husband if he had been out of town. Waking up the sleeping kids could be difficult but I think being there for your spouse is most important. Plus if the roles were reversed the wife would want her family there to greet her at the airport.

deltaphi94 09-24-2003 08:55 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by zntke711
After being away from his wonderful wife and kids he might want to see them all happy and smiling there to welcome him back. .
I don't know about the two children in question here, but I promise you that mine would be absolutely unbearable if I were to wake him up in the night to run to the airport. He would probably not be smiling and happy.

That said, I can understand why you wouldn't want to wake the kids. Like someone else said, though, Big Brother can be taped.

LeslieAGD 09-24-2003 08:56 PM

If you sited the TV show as the reason, I could understand why the spouse would be upset. But, 10:10 is a little late to be packing up the kids...especially if the airport isn't close by. If the flight was coming in earlier, I'd say go...but since it's not, I don't think it's unreasonable.

AGDLynn 09-24-2003 09:10 PM

I agree with the majority. Kids = Stay, Show = Go.

BTW, my first boss here hired a limo to pick up wife and mil at the Atlanta airport to drive home. What should have taken about 45 minutes took about 2-3 hours because the bozo driver took the WRONG direction around I285 (which is a huge loop around Atlanta). He practically did about a 150 degree loop THEN head north on I75! That time of day, there was MUCHO traffic.

adduncan 09-24-2003 11:42 PM

Either airport is a long haul for me.

Mr. Adrienne, chivalrous knight that he is, doesn't feel good about yours truly making a trip at weird hours of the night. Plus, w/ work and managing the house, it's not like I'm sitting on my ass all day. So if hes' on business and his flight gets in late, he hires a car.

But that's just us.

Adrienne
:D

AXO_MOM_3 09-25-2003 12:48 AM

Mr. AXO_MOM_3 would just have to be mad because I would not be waking up my little darlings to go get his hiney from the airport, regardless of what was on tv! Schedule a late flight babe, and be prepared to pay for a ride home (especially if he can afford it!) Saving $30.00 is not worth having wide awake children at 3:00 in the morning, and having grumpy children the entire next week because their schedule is totally off. Nope, he would just have to be mad!

honeychile 09-25-2003 12:51 AM

It's all about the kids.

winnieb 09-25-2003 02:39 AM

I say stay home-- he will get over it. My reasoning is the kids, I also have two kids once they are asleep I don't want to wake them!!!
Was he on a business trip? If so, expense the ride home. My reasoning for that is---the company pays the hired car, or next time they pay for his parking at the airport. *I pay all the salesman's expenses at my company and I would never hesitate to pay for a car*

-wendi

AOIIalum 09-25-2003 08:36 AM

DH travels quite a bit for work, and just drives back and forth to the airport. Home to airport parking is a minimum 45 minute drive from our house at 4:30am, one way :) He is reimbursed his parking fees as part of his business trip expenses. You may want to have your DH check if that is an approved business travel expense for him, and then he'd have his car waiting for him when he gets back.

Hope it worked out in the end!

starang21 09-25-2003 08:48 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Cream
I think that you should take this rare opportunity to meet your husband at the airport wearing nothing but a coat and La Perla's finest. It's a perfect night for your kids to stay at the neighbor's. :)
co-sign.

ZTAngel 09-25-2003 09:07 AM

I'm going to vote that he pays $30 to get a taxi/car to pick him up. Your kids will be cranky if you wake them up and I'm sure he won't want to deal with that after a plane flight.

texas*princess 09-25-2003 09:14 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by AGDLynn
I agree with the majority. Kids = Stay, Show = Go.


aurora_borealis 09-25-2003 09:30 AM

If you need any head butt support from Bill the Goat...you just let me know.

http://www.navyonline.com/giftshop/i...data/17878.jpg

Perhaps he needs a good stern talking to from my new hand puppet???

aephi alum 09-25-2003 10:21 AM

I agree. If it's just the TV show, that can be taped... but kids, especially young kids, need their sleep. Besides, what if the flight is delayed and doesn't get in until midnight or later?

He should be able to expense the taxi.

damasa 09-25-2003 10:29 AM

You better have a nice dinner and some romantic plans setup for the young chap!!

Oh yea, I like Cream's idea lots too.

dzrose93 09-25-2003 10:41 AM

The kids are sleeping. That's all he needs to know. Call the cab ahead of time and have it waiting for him if that would make him feel better. :D

CutiePie2000 09-25-2003 10:45 AM

I don't think that the kids should be woken up...after all, even if the plane lands on time, by the time, you get luggage from the carousel, you are lucky to be out of there 45 min later (and that means it's getting ever late for the kiddies' bedtime). Kids need their sleep or they are crabby the next day.

As for Big Brother, KR, you know that I luv ya, but I have to say that the VCR is the answer.

So, in the best interests of the kids getting their much needed rest, I think hubby should be taking a taxi or town car.

(FWIW: if you were childless, I might say "tape Big Brother and pick him up"....but that's not the case, so that's that! :) )

MysticCat 09-25-2003 10:55 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by zntke711
After being away from his wonderful wife and kids he might want to see them all happy and smiling there to welcome him back.
True. But trust me, like DeltaPhi94 said, if the kids get yanked out of bed to be at an airport at 10:10pm, neither they nor the mom who had to put up with them on the car drive out there will be "all happy and smiling." And everyone will pay for it the next day.

Me? Kids in bed or not, I'd tell Ms. MysticCat that under no circumstances would I want her driving out to an airport that late at night by herself, much less with kids in the car. If I hadn't driven myself to the airport so that I would have a car there waiting for me (which I would do if my office were reimbursing expenses, and might do otherwise, depending on the length of the trip), I would either take a taxi or ask a friend to pick me up. I'd want to see my wife happy, smiling and safe at home. The kids I'd be happy to see peacefully sleeping; smiles will come in the morning.

My $0.02.

CutiePie2000 09-25-2003 11:34 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by zntke711
After being away from his wonderful wife and kids he might want to see them all happy and smiling there to welcome him back.
At 10:30 at night at the airport??
Ha ha ha ha ha...that's a good one. http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmili...py/roflmao.gif
I take it you don't have any young children in your life? (nieces, nephews, etc.)

AchtungBaby80 09-25-2003 06:55 PM

I suppose your husband doesn't realize that the Golden Rule is not that "do-unto-others" thing, but "Never wake a sleeping child". If he insists on making you pick him up at the airport, make him deal with the cranky kids. How's that? :)

damasa 09-25-2003 07:00 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
I suppose your husband doesn't realize that the Golden Rule is not that "do-unto-others" thing, but "Never wake a sleeping child". If he insists on making you pick him up at the airport, make him deal with the cranky kids. How's that? :)
Unacceptable advice.

Loss of 10 points.

AchtungBaby80 09-25-2003 07:05 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by damasa
Unacceptable advice.

Loss of 10 points.

Good thing you're not married to me, then! Don't listen to him, Killarney.

sigmagrrl 09-25-2003 07:08 PM

My father travelled for work ALL the time....It was more unusual for him to be home than to be on the road....He always just took a cab home from Kennedy.

My mom was home with us, where I'm glad she was! Granted the trip from our house to Kennedy was only 15 minutes, but could mount to 30 once you factored in NYC traffic...

Now, I know this is a hypothetical, but based on Washington, DC area traffic, at that time of night, going from, oh, let's say Annapolis to, oh, I don't know, BWI ;) could take about 1/2 hour each way. If a neighbor was around, you could ask them to come over and sit with the kids while you go to the airport to pick up the DH, and tape the show. If no neighbor could come over, 10:10pm is a little late for a school night to get them out of bed (this is based on the assumption these children are of school age)...

DH should understand that the kids need to be watched....and be damned grateful they're asleep when he gets home so he can give his wifey a special, ahem, welcome home gift ;) :D

greeklawgirl 09-25-2003 07:10 PM

I agree with Cream! Tape the show and let the girls spend the night with some friends. Take it from me--you will be very glad you did! ;) :) :D

veemers 09-25-2003 07:35 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by zntke711
It is sometimes the little things that count.
I agree. If he's arriving late, that might wake the kids up anyway. I know when my parents got back from PTA meetings and I was asleep, I would always wake up. And then hot cocoa is always needed to get back to sleep, etc.

I agree with the send kids to a neighbor's house idea.

But I also think that the only reason the husband had to be angry was the choosing TV over him. That's a legitimate reason to be upset. It's totally not cool to choose something that can be taped and watched later over a real person who loves and cares about you.

damasa 09-25-2003 07:38 PM

In all honesty I am sure that Killarney loves her husband very very very much.

Sometimes it just has to deal with the comforts of marriage. Face it, you get sick of doing shat for the people you love sometimes. Many of you have bfs and gfs or husbands and wives and I know you don't do everything they ask, want or expect!

KillarneyRose 09-25-2003 09:00 PM

Thanks everyone for the advice! Turns out Mr. KR took a car home and didn't get here until close to midnight because his plane was delayed. So it's a good thing I didn't take the girls to pick him up!

I got to watch Big Brother 4 in peace, but I felt guilty the entire time (and rightly so! lol)! I should have just kept my mouth shut because looking back I didn't really need any other reason than that I didn't want to wake up the girls. Oh well, live and learn!

I don't expect this will happen again because he normally just drives to the airport himself. But his car was in the shop and he had to go out of town on short notice.

All is well; thanks again everyone! :)


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 09:07 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2025, vBulletin Solutions Inc.