random dating question
 

ok...this might be fairly strange, but probably not. but for those of you who are in relationships, or have been (which im sure is most!), how long were you and your SO together before you said the three magic words of "i love you"?? just curious! thought itd be a fun topic! :D


roxydiva

actually i was with this guy for like 4 months and he made me a card (home made one form the computer)for my b-day (which was early Dec) and it said I love you. Well I panicked and almost broke up with him. But i stuck to it. and by valentines day I decided I do "love" him. So I told him and he freaked out. but i then (the next day) showed him the card and he was all proud and was like "i said it first"

We stayed together for 1 1/2 years.

Chris

it was two weeks before my bf said it. i kid you not. it caught me off guard. it took me another two weeks to say it back. i was scared to say it.

I've only said "I Love You" to four guys. The first two were guys I dated in high school and I think it was definately LUST. Not to mention that they were totally wrong for me.

The other two I said, "I Love You" to were both guys I was in serious relationships with. I think it was about two months or so for Derek, and about 4 years with Will....lol

Well, we had been going out for about 7 or 8 months, when I told him 'I think I love you' among other things....he just smiled this gigantic smile and I wouldn't let him say anything back. I'm like, if you feel the same way, tell me when the time is right. If not, then don't say anything at all.....

Ok well we almost break up 4 months later b/c I'm like, If you don't love me now, you never will.
His response???
I've loved you since the first month we started going out but I didn't want to tell you b/c you said that where you're from, people don't say I love you until at least a year after they've been together.

(P.S. I SO never said that.)
So I ask, why didn't you tell me when I told you?? this whole time I thought you didn't love me...
He goes, You said "I THINK I'm falling in love. " THINK. I figured when you caught up to me you'd let me know.


Boys can be soooooooo ghey.

About 19 hours after the start of our first date. It was a really long date.

Married 12 years and counting! :D

Let's see, I started dating this guy June of my sophomore year...and I dont think he said it till April of my junior year, so about 10 months in. We were sleeping at my friends house on the floor and he just kinda whispered it then turned his back to me. I was like "HELLO! You can't just say that and turn around!!!" Haha...

Hate him now, but that was a cute moment for us. :)

I was proposed to on our second date. We have been married for almost three years.

Note~ we got married about two years after we first met. :D

Wow, it was probably about a day and a half into a visit he had made (we were friends for a while, then he came to visit...only as friends). He woke me up to tell me that he loved me and that I was the person with whom he wanted to spend the rest of his life. That was three and a half years ago. Engagement and wedding plans are forthcoming; it just makes more financial sense for us to stay unmarried until I get out of grad school.

We met in 1995. We started dating in 2001. So, 6 years!!LOL

Actually, 11 days after we "officially" started dating, he told me he loved me...

We are still "involved" but in a messy way....Man, does love suck and blow and rock my world!

i started dating my bf in april and then by may he told me he loved me and i liked flipped i was like i can't say that i have never said it to any of my bfs and then we kept talking until like 2 in the morning and i was crazy half asleep and just b4 we hung up i said i love you...now we can't stop sayin it lol

I have been in a few of these relationship things and I am proud to say I have never said the Love word. Reasons it wasn't love like wanting to marry the person. I cared for the girls i went out with but I wasn't gonna say i loved them just to say it. When I say that I mean it.

I had a bad habit of letting the bullshit fly out of my mouth when talking to girls. I was real good at getting what I wanted and telling girls what they wanted to hear. There've been a few times those three words came out pretty damn early, say 2 months into it all. Each time I wasn't sober and it slipped...I know it sounds bad but I justify it all on the account I never retracted those statements. Anyhow, the bad thing about those three words is that relationships always take a bad turn after that comes from someones mouth. Either the girl freaks out, you freak out, you start cheating on her or she starts cheating on you. Then there's the other side of it all where you just start acting like you're both married after "I love you" is said and you seem to go through what it's like to be married...( the worst possible scenario that can happen by saying I love you, trust me). It's all fucked up in my opinion. Then there's the commitment factor and fear of being tied down, from either the girl or the boy. Then there's rejection side of "I love you", someone tells you they love you and you kinda just sit there while you're bain is trying to figure an apropriate response if any at all. There've been 2 different occassions where girls have told me that and my brain actually locked up. I just sat there. With one of them I couldn't think of anything better to say than...."Thank you". The girl started crying and went back to her apartment, it sucked and killed whatever it was we had going on.

I do want to point out that there is that little period, assuming both of you tell each other those three words, where things go pretty good. If you ask people honestly, it doesn't last long before they start having second thoughts.

Hmm..with my former ex it took almost a year, and he said it first, yet it was on the phone..how lame is that??

With TKE209 he said it around the 3 month mark, I said it shortly thereafter. ;) We had not seen eachother for a week and his smelly roommate wouldn't leave for us to have some "quality time" together. I was about to cry and he was getting pissed so to cheer me up he told me this completely retarded joke something like this:
TKE209- Why did the monkey fall out of the tree?
Me- I don't know.
TKE209- Because it was dead.
Me- *muffled laughter*
TKE209- Why did the other monkey fall out of the tree?
Me- Have no idea.
TKE209- Because it was stapled to the other monkey.
Me- *more muffled laughter*

Somehow there's another part of the joke in which he said, "...because he loved you" :D

6 months.

We're up to a little past 3 years now.

My husband and I had been dating for 4 months before he said "I love you."

It was very worrisome, because he'd been in two serious relationships before we started dating, and he told each of those girls that he loved them within a month. He says that in retrospect, he hadn't really loved them - so he didn't want to say "I love you" to me until he was absolutely sure it was the real thing.

Nobody else I dated ever told me that they loved me - things just never got to that point.

So what you're actually saying is your husband is a retired player?



-check my previous post in this thread and you'll see why I drew this conclusion-

Um, no. :rolleyes:

My husband and I did things in a rather mixed up order. We had been friends for four years, and then we realized that we had serious feelings for each other. After telling each other "I love you," we decided that maybe we should try dating. We dated for eight years, and we will be married ten years this December.

Um, yea:rolleyes:. You just haven't realized it yet. Talk to him, ask him if he was a pimp back in the day. You might be surprised.

He said it right away. He said it and meant it a few weeks later. I said it a few weeks after that.

LOL @ aephialum being married to a retired player/pimp! ;)

Go back and read what he said to her, what do you think? Think he was telling those girls he loved them and wasn't getting any? I doubt it. He was definitely pimping out.

Its not something I throw around. But, if you feel you love the person then say so. I would love to be able to tell some one I loved them. I would want to say it first though, to prove I'm romantic.

D'OH! :eek:

I think he wishes he'd been a player... :p

In all seriousness, I know my husband better than that, and I know he wasn't getting any. I've met both of these girls. One was the wait-until-marriage type and the other was the not-waiting-until-marriage-but-not-ready-to-give-up-my-precious-flower-of-virginity-yet-either-and-besides-I'm-a-psycho type.

Hmmm... I wonder if he was telling these girls he loved them in order to get them to put out... :confused:

I'd say he probably was.....I know plenty of guys that say that to women, and it's all bullshit.

I've only said it to one guy-- my ex-boyfriend of a year and a half... it was after 2 months when he came to visit me during winter break... he said it first, then I did. We even talked about marriage after 8 months. Now we haven't talked to each other since January and I'm sure we never will. Go figure.

On our first date, which was about a month after we decided to be boyfriend/girlfriend (hey, it was high school). I said it back that night because I was a bit freaked and didn't know what to do. But I know I meant it on some level.

We'll be together 6 years on 9-7-03. We're getting married on 5-29-04. :D

My bf and I have been together for almost two and half years. Umm...we said I love you after a week. Yeah, I know it sounds rushed, but it felt like the right time. :)

I was kind of sketchy on telling my ex-bf that I loved him cuz I knew he was uncomfortable with those words, but then after we'd planned our six month trip to Niagara and then he started talking abt going to Hawaii for our one year I figured - yeah this guy is pretty committed, I can say it to him (this is around the 3.5/4 month mark) so I told him that i love him...then got broken up w/ abt a month later! prick! :(

bumping inorder to explain all the bad turns I'm reading after saying "I love you".