Some parents dont watch their kids.
 

There this lady at my job that has been bringing her nine year old son to work everyday for the last 2 weeks. He runs around the office with no shoes on interrupting everyone's job. He comes into the intern office and just bothers everything.

Another story on the metro today a couple exits through the gates and leaves their five year old daughter behind the gates while they walk off.

Even another story lol. Working at the Gap last weekend. This brother and sister duo ran around the store. They messed up my perfect folded polos, broke hangers, and bothered other customers amongst other things. I really feel that some parents dont monitor their kids when they are in public. My mother had me on an invisible leash I never left her side, and If I did their were consequences. Does anyone else feel this way?

oh yes,

I work at Uhaul, and people just let there kids run around. They are climbing on boxes! I just can't believe it

I hate when parents let their kids run all over the place. I have seen it from the mall to restaurants. And then my five year old asks why she can't. What do I say? They just have bad parents? :rolleyes: Can't say that. Five year olds repeat everything.

I hate to let my daughter out of my sight. And I never do in a public place. She is going to her first sleepover tonight. And I am so nervous I can't stand it. I almost keep changing my mind.:(

I think the problem is that too many parents want their kids to like them or let them hold the parents hostage by threatening to put up a fuss out in public, so they don't say 'no'. So the parents cave in all the time when the child cries and screams, the child is rewarded for bad behavior, and the child turns into a monster. Whereas, if the child knew one specific phrase "if you ask one more time, you won't get it at all" or "do you really want to go there", the child knows that it means a definite no or certain punishment (taking away a favorite toy, can't move off their bed for the remainder of the day, no tv) if they act up. My parents had a pretty good balance of love and discipline, we acted up at our own risk. Sometimes whacking your older brother was worth no Sesame Street though. :D

I absolutely despise it when parents don't control their kids. I wasn't allowed to get away with anything, and neither will my hypothetical future children.

A few years back, my husband and I were on our honeymoon in Aruba. We were trying to "relax" ;) in our hotel room one evening, when we started hearing giggling, screaming, and slamming doors out in the hall. So we stuck our heads out and there was a bunch of kids running around slamming the doors to their rooms, racing up and down the hall, etc.

Turns out the kids belonged to 2 families that were on vacation together. Their mothers had booked rooms on the club floor for themselves and put the kids into regular rooms on our floor. The adults had gone to dinner and left the kids alone, "supervised" by the eldest of them, who was about 15.

We caught one of the mothers, and she got an earful from me - I actually wanted to bitch-slap her, but decided it probably wasn't a good idea. ;)

We tried to fetch security, but got nowhere. We finally went down to the front desk and complained and demanded to be moved. They moved us to the club floor :D

A couple of days after that incident, we were heading down to breakfast when the mom and one of the kids got onto the elevator with us (this is how we know the parents were on the club floor - you needed a key to get access). The kid looked over at us and whispered to her mom (loudly), "IT'S THEM!!" I didn't say a word, just grinned my litte wicked grin :D

i completely agree!!! as a teacher, i watch many parents in horror!!! i am working at the pool...and honestly, sometimes it is like watching a train wreck. one of the regulars is the most permissive parent i think i have ever seen. the little boy runs around like a wild man. he has even tried to go through my bag!! he always has squirt guns and one day he kept squirting people in the face which is against the rules, so his mom threw them in the trash!!!! the next day, he came in with 3 brand new squirt guns! yeah, that really taught him something!

any my biggest pet peeve is parents who don't follow through with threats. this other parent was trying to make her son give her something...."that doesn't belong in the pool. give it to me. i said give it to me...i am going to count to three...1....2...3...i told you to give that to me. that is it. i am going to count to three...1...2...3. ok, we are going home if you don't give that to me before i count to three." this went on for 10 minutes!!!! she actually took him out of the pool and started packing their things. he handed over the toy...and she said, "ok. you can get back in the pool, but if you ever don't listen again, we are going home." YEAH....as if this little kid didn't know she was full of balogna!!!!

I don't get it either. I was out w/ some friends last weekend @ dinner and there was a group of kids (avec parents) sitting out on the patio where we were. I think they were in town w/some sort of swim meet or something. Anyways, these kids were so damn loud. All three of us kept looking over w/ the evil eye hoping the parents would notice and do something about it. It wouldn't have been so bad but these kids were somewhere between 9 and 11 and therefore old enough to know better. I actually lost my appetite over them. I am amazed at the number of times I've been run over by some snot nosed little brat at Target, the mall, or wherever. Or been unable to think due to some fit a brat is throwing over some plastic piece of sh*t. One of my friends has a summer job taking care of 2 girls (the parents are country-clubber types and NEVER home). The six year old is absolutely the devil. She called her own number one night to record the 6 year old screaming. It was awful. I think I won't ever have kids because if mine ever tried to pull a stunt like that I'd lose it! :eek:

Ugh!!! I work at a nursing home and there are at least three employees that I can think of off the top of my head that constantly bring their children to work ... Actually, one of them doesn't even HAVE kids -- she brings her NEICE AND NEPHEW with her!!! :mad: It's so annoying for so many reasons - - mostly because 1) they just run around and get in everyones way, and 2) they all need MAJOR attitude adjustments; they think that since their parents work there, they own the place. :mad: Arg!!!

That just bugs the hell out of me!! Many teachers in my school have children, and they make arrangements for their day care on school work days. A couple are not so considerate and bring their little darlings to school when they are supposed to be working. They run up and down the hall and bother everyone. I have had a few who had the gall to ask if their kids could just come stay in the library and watch tv. I told them NO!!! I made one new teacher mad last fall because she wasn't watching her toddler when she was using the laminator. I could just picture a little hand going through the laminator.

If I had acted a fool in a store, my mama would have taken me to the car (and it wouldn't have been pretty!!)

What type of employer would allow this type of BS?

I was at my apartment complex pool the other day. This woman was taking a tour of the complex. She was being shown the laundry facility. The door to the laundry was too small to allow a stroller to pass through. Most normal parents would have just peeked into the room in that case (it's a laundry...nothing spectacular). This idiot woman leaves her kid on the pool deck and walks into the laundry room with the leasing consultant for over a minute. Hello???? Anyone home????? A minute is all it takes for some psycho to run over to the stroller, grab the kid, and take off. I couldn't even believe that she did that. My parents would NEVER have left me unattended like that. On top of it, this poor 2-year-old starts crying hysterically because he thinks his mother abandoned him. Some people just shouldn't be parents....


The best is when people allow their kids to run around department stores. I wasn't allowed to walk 2 feet past my mother at all times! My boyfriend and I witnessed a kid throwing around different display items at Eckerd's the other day. The clerks were freaking out while the other kept saying to her kid in a gentle voice, "Now, sweetie, we know better than to do that." My parents would have grabbed me out of the store so fast..... My boyfriend turned to me and joked, "Wow, I want one just like him." Bleh...

Not everyone should be allowed to have children. I'm breeding to combat stupitidy.

My very first summer job was working in a brand new Barnes & Noble. I was working in the children's department and I decided to alphabetize and arrange by series all of these books on the spinning shelf. It had taken me so long to organize, and I was off taking care of a customer, when I saw this unattended child taking out all of the books I had just organized! Oh well, at least it gave me something to do (it was slow that day).

An antique shop near my house has a sign up that says, "All unattended children will be given a kitten."

You'd better believe that they don't have problems with unattended children.

This is gonna sound so dick, but I see the kid running, not looking, and LET them hit me, bounce off and start wailing. That gets the parents attention, then I say in a concerned voice to the parents, "Could you parent? Even for just a minute? Things liek this prolly wouldnt happen." THen walk the PHUCK off. :)

ugh..yesterday at work the wife of one of the salesmen brought in their two kids and just let them run amuck...the kids were literally running around the office and screaming. :mad:

Lifesaver!!! You've inspired me. As we speak, I'm suiting up in combat gear to fend off the evil monster Kidwithbadparents! :) Seriously tho, I might just do that next time. Maybe it would teach the kid that indeed dumb actions have nasty consequences. But I will make sure he's not gravely injured before I walk off. :p

My biggest pet peeve is in restaurants. These parents that just let their kids be obnoxious, standing up in the booth, climbing up the back, or crawling around under the table. Then there are the kids that are banging on the table or their cup with a fork and throwing food everywhere. And these aren't babies, these are 5 and 6 year old kids. I know when I was a kid, my mom had my ass in the seat eating my food quietly.

What is WITH parents these days?

I don't know why some parents let their children misbehave. Some of the things I see kids do today, I would have had my a$$ whopped if my parents ever caught me doing anything like what some kids do.
I was in the car with my father and we were driving behind a family. My dad and I were talking, and in the back seat of the car infront was a litle girl,w ho couldn't have been older than 5 was sticking her tongue out at us and holding up her middle finger. I was appaled at the behaviour of this girl. I would have had a beat down if my father had saw me doing that. I get yelled at now if I accidently curse in front of my parents. I was so disgusted by this girl and her parents. What are they teaching her (or not teaching her). Not only was this girl rude, she was crawling all over the backseat of a moving vehicle with no seatbelt on. If there was an accident she could have been seriously injured or even killed.

Sometimes I want to smack the parents for have such obnoxious children.

I dont have so much of a problem when parents let their kids wander around stores or what not..(kids are kids and well i didnt really pay much mind to my parents then either) BUT the thing i dont get is when parents let their little kids lose at the beach as if the lifeguards are supposed to babysit their kids. That is one of the things that pisses me off the most!! ahhhhhh :mad:


ALSO since im one the subject it pisses me off to see parents with kids on "leach-like" thingys!! If they wanted that kind of control they should have gotten a damn DOG! :mad: :mad:

I work in retail too and it trips me out to see how some of these parents let their kids run around and "show out". My momma woulda whuppped my azz!

Shuddering at the memory of my mom whuppin me in the middle of the store...it was the last time I acted a fool in a store!

My $0.02 here (maybe more).

In my old apartment complex (a co-op, to top it off), the is a little park for the parents to bring their children, but they have to cross a street to get there. A lot of the parents don't want to do that and let their kids play in the garden. These rugrats have destroyed flowers and shrubbery, left rubbish on the benches and have made so much noise. What was even worse, they would run around the hallway and make so much noise while people wanted peace and tranquility. Several of the neighbors have complained about it, but the parents said they didn't want to, for some idiotic reason, cross over the street with their urchins to play there.

When I was working as a legal secretary, one of my responsibilities was to accept and begin processing legal documents. One day, a young father came to serve the company legal documents and he brought along his young child. I had to call someone from another office to figure out what to do with the document. All of a sudden the kid gets cranky and is getting on my nerves while I was on the phone. I was on the verge of having an nervous breakdown or a heart attack. My boss tried to calm the child and me down. After they were gone, I tried to calm down.

Just recently I was in San Diego, and one of the places we went to was Sea World. I was in line to look at the fishes when a girl cut me off. No apologies or saying these two words 'excuse me'. I was enraged, and wondering what happened to ettiquette and social graces.

Kids are at their worst in malls, dept. stores, restaurants, and with their peers. I know we have seen incidents of screaming and crying kids around.

I am not sure if I want kids or not. If I do, they will taught to behave and not have a hissy fit when they don't get their way.

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actually, most parents use those to protect their children. there are lots of kids who just RUN no matter where they are. of course, they don't look for cars or for other dangers. a friend of mine said her parents used one for her when she was little bc she never stopped running! and i work with several children who are "bolters," basically, they will be walking along for and whatever reason, just take off in another direction!!! if their parents didn't use those leashes...they probably would have been hit by a car and killed by now!

I agree...I hate the leashes too, but if you must have one for a hyperactive bolting child, get the ones that attach at the wrist. The "harness" ones that go around the child's chest are ghastly...they give me Mommie Dearest flashbacks.

I will have to diagree with you on that one. Although in the cases in which a child's life is in danger from being hit by a car, then in all honestly I can see where these harness like "things" can AND should be used. BUT im talking about the times when im walking in the mall and I see a mother with a "leach" on her child. The child is in no way in harm of being hit by a car..this is just another case of somone being completly lazy enough to be pulled by their child rather than taking their hand or holding them while shopping. In THOSE cases is such behavior completly un-called for. The parents should take on the responbility to watch their kids NOT WALK THEM!! GET A DAMN DOG IF YOU WANT TO DO THAT SHIT!! End of story: that is a horrible thing to do and I think it looks cheap on the parents behalf! :mad:

Kids running wild here is out of control. I just love it when the parents drop their 6 year olds off at movies like Pirates of the Caribbean, X2, and The Hulk and the kids are running all over the place and are up and down out of their seats and never watch the movie. Hello some of these are rated R movies! Does a 3 year old need to see The Matrix Reloaded? Last night someone brought a newborn to the movie and wouldn't take the kid out when it started crying! For the Love of God what is wrong with people?!? :mad:

Until you walk a mile in their shoes..THINK PEOPLE!!!!
 

Disclaimer: I never used harnesses, but did need the wrist leash for a while with one of my guys.

If you have a child who does the duck, run and disappear thing, the various types child harnesses are a big help. Same goes for the child who needs a little physical reminder to maintain composure in everyday life. Not every child physically or mentally is capable to be a compliant angel in public. No, it's not for every child--but if you are blessed with a child who needs the extra reminders or extra safety, the harnesses allow you to experience the outside world in a safer capacity. If you've ever witnessed your child or any child break away from his/her family and almost get killed, child harnesses aren't such a bad option. It's not a black and white thing, folks--just like people with Handicapped parking access who don't "Look" handicapped and most definitely are. Just because a child doesn't look "different", it doesn't mean that they aren't. (/end of child harness mini-rant)

Another thing to toss out--I was a child of the "Raise your child in fear!" generation. Got spanked and reprimanded in public plenty of times, even though it usually took just one look to scare me to death, the joys of being a young child in the 1960s.

Folks, in this day and age, there are too many people who won't hesitate to inform authorities if you are "abusing" a child in public. I was turned in to store authorities once for trying to restrain my child (he kept climbing out of the buckle/strap restraint in the grocery basket and attempting to climb out, I kept re-buckling him, he kept fussing and then screaming, hopefully well-meaning stranger reported me.) From what ya'll are saying, I shouldn't have restrained him in the first place and when he acted up just spanked his rear end. If I had done that, I would have had my children taken away and been thrown in jail. Or, I should have stayed home until he was old enough to behave. Sorry folks, he's almost 11 and I'd still be home with him, because that's just how this child is wired. He's grown out of a lot of it, thankfully, but not every parent with such a child is so blessed.

It's just not that easy to raise a child, and no parents are perfect. When you live in our current society with it's quite restrictive opinions about child abuse (come on folks, there's abuse and there's keeping your child healthy and ALIVE!) Good luck to those of you who may be parents one day, and have the strength to make the choices best for your child and your family--and don't give a darn about those who do not or can not understand.

Christin

My dad (a child of the 50's) was tied to the clothesline if his mother was outside in the garden or whatever. Apparently it was emotionally traumatic. He never used leashes on me or my sis, and thankfully never had to. Whenever he sees a kid in a harness or on a leash, he whistles "How Much Is That Doggie In the Window". I guess it's his way of dealing with it. :p

I see your point AOII Alum, but at the same point I work at Pottery Barn Kids. We have toys and things, but they are displays and not to be played with. It's supposed to look like a child's bedroom in the store, not actually be one. If it's a rainy day then parents bring their kids in the store to play. These kids don't just play nicely either, we had these big jumping balls that were blown up as a display and I come back to the area where they are and there are two kids beating the ISHT out of each other with them. In that case the mom had gone to the next store and told them to play in ours! :mad:

That isn't a rare instance either. Stuff like that happens all the time. Kids end up breaking our displays and we have to keep putting out more. Our store doesn't have a "you break it you buy it" policy and half the time we are so swamped at the registers that we can't tell who it is that broke whatever it is. I'm not saying that kids shouldn't come in the store, but the parents should teach the children not to play with things in a manner as that they get broken. The parents should have control to some extent so that the kids aren't throwing things or breaking things.

I was never leashed as a child. Not with a physical leash, anyway - but mom had the "invisi-leash" going - "get back here right this instant or else!" I knew she'd follow through on the "or else", so I got back there!

I think wrist leashes have their place. If you have a little kid who likes to run off into crowds or traffic, or you're going to an unusually crowded location, or you have 3-4 kids of varying ages to keep track of, it's probably safest that the little one be "attached" to you lest s/he get lost, hit by a car, kidnapped, etc. But a kid should not be leashed as a matter of course. Nor do I like the harness leashes - you wouldn't put a dog or cat in a harness (unless it's a seeing-eye dog, but that's different) so how can you do it to your own child?

Sorry hijack...

but you might put a dog in a harness. One might put a dog in a harness, even if it's not a seeing eye dog, becuase they have they tendency to pull, and therefore break collars and leashes. Also, smaller dogs will be put in harnesses of sorts because if you were to put a leash on their collar you could snap their neck.

Many dogs are put into harnesses.

Now I'm not saying it';s ok to put a child in a harness because I think that's awful, but it's not an accurate comparison to say you wouldn't put a dog in a harness, why a child.

Has anybody noticed that the people who are anti-harness are the ones who haven't been parents yet? I don't care how many kids you've babysat, that doesn't count, nor does working in a daycare center. I was the perfect parent too..before I had kids. Whole new ballgame then.

I was anti-harness too until BlazerCheer and Ballerina were bolters when they were toddlers. They had a sister a year older and 2 younger sisters. The twin stroller for the babies was difficult to handle and if one of us was maneuvering that, the other did not have 3 hands for leading the toddlers and preschooler. Sooo...we used harnesses and the girls' psyches weren't harmed and before long, we didn't have to use them because the girls got over the "bolting" stage.

We didn't use harnesses on the next 8 kids but we would have had we needed to. When you're a conscientious parent, you do what you have to to protect your children.

So what if I'm not a parent yet. I still don't like the idea of putting my child in a harness if a wrist tether, or better yet the "invisi-leash", is sufficient. (Notice I say "if".)

My mom hated leashes and refused to put us in one...
Not that she needed it...

All it took was the LOOK of death and knowing you were getting an ass-whuppin to keep us in line

y'all know how i feel on this subject. the death look followed by a fast hand kept us in line. eff a leash....the belt works fine.

cereal aisle, JC Penny, you name it. shoot, out in the open in FRONT of folks!!

Amen brotha!
Moms did it with her shoe. This little lady, barely 5 feet tall, was trying to call my mom out on spanking me...

Moms wasn't having that...she pulled up to her full height (nearly 5'10.5) and was wielding her shoe and said to the lady:
Unless you want some of this, you better back the EFF off!"

and needless to say....since you embarrased her in public, you got some more when you got home!

My Moms is a sistah who does NOT play! We are tallking RUFF NECK

You had 10 kids?! DAYUMN! I bow to you...

But I agree with you....with the crazy mo-fos that are out here today you gotta do what you gotta do to protect your kids!


PS Can't wait till my internet is up at home so I can find my cool smilies :D

OK, Jill, now I'M afraid of your mother!

I went through a bolting phase. Whenever my mother sees a small child on a leash in public, she remarks that she wishes she'd had one of those when I was that age. If we were in a store with a toy department, I could disappear in a split-second. On the up side, they always knew where to find me. (This was before we were all so worried about child abductions.)

Knowing how quickly I could slip away, if I had children who did the same thing, you bet I'd harness them up!

;) I wish that a wrist tether had been sufficient enough! We tried it but they would bolt so hard and fast that their arms were almost dislocated. Also, you know what those are closed with? Velcro! It takes 2 seconds for a kid--even a toddler-- to realize that she can just undo that and be FREE! And it is sooo easy to lose a kid at the mall or Disney World. :(

I wasn't putting you down, aephialum!(I just now realized that my post came after yours and it wasn't aimed at you!) I just get aggravated because it seems like the public is never happy when someone tries to restrain or discipline a child. We cannot abide the wild kind of kid like the first poster described and we try to keep our kids close to us. So-- we used a harness on the twins for safety's sake and got dirty looks. Any time we popped a kid (not beat, popped once on the rear) for tantruming in public, people looked shocked. Likewise if we hollered at anyone.

It seems like if you keep your kids under control in public, people act aghast. If you don't, they act aghast (and should). It seems like a parent can't win.

(Oh, Jill1228--we have 13, not 10!)