Help, Advice Anyone
 

I have been dealing with this young man ever sense I was 11. Through high school we got closer and now we are in college we are extremely close. I want a relationship with him but he hides that fact that he is scared of getting hurt. Its like he has a wall up against me. like I am some type of antibodie. Yesterday I was going over his house and when I got almost to his house my friend a boy name cogie call me and I went over their while the young man waited for me on the steps. When I got done talking to cogie for a minute I went over to the young man to give him a hug and he dissed me and said I was rude for coming to see him then go over to another guy. Well at first I did not look at it like that and If he would have did it to me I would have been mad because we are to close. I apologized and then he said I am easily persuaded and that I act like I don't have brains at times. I said what? He said you don't have brains sometimes. I got up and told him you only have one time to tell me that and I left. As soon as I hit the corner All my tears fell down and I cried and went to sleep. I was really hurt because I am extremely smart not just in books but common sense. I want to call him so bad but he was wrong for what he said and I say if he wants me then he will call no need to chase. What do you think?:confused:

sniffles
 

I really like this person

well girlfriend you were wrong too for not thinking about his feelings in the first place. Call him and appologise and tell him that it was hurtful for him to tell you what he did even if he was mad. Dont let your EGO get the best of you. If he doesnt appologise to you---- he's not worth it. Trust if he can tell you that now and he's not your man, he wil tell you worse he he ever is


nachural

I know what you are saying is right and I do believe that I have pride at times. I have my stuck up ways what woman don't. Sometimes we have to have guard up because as soon as a man see you are trying to be nice it seems that they take advantage of you. But I guess I will call him. I had already Apologize in his face. But I known him sense I was 11 and we have been close so I will let a few days past ya know give myself a chance to clam down so I want say something I don't mean, then I will approach him respectfully.:rolleyes:

???:confused:

Maybe I have to much pride for him

I don't have any advice for you, but I (and I don't know about anyone else), would appreciate if you refrain from your use of the "N" word on our beautiful forum please. MMKAY? THANKS!:cool:

I 'm sorry
 

I changed it so you won't be offended, but why come into the forum it you not going to answer?:rolleyes:

Sleepy, I think you're a victim of your own attitude. If you handle your relationships in the same manner you've handled your situations on this forum, then you've got the answers to your problems.

You can't jump into a new forum (or any situation for that matter )full of attitude and expect to be well recieved.

What
 

What attitude so I have besides people being so sensitive that they can't answer a question all they want to give is smack. Thats why you always here that saying if you can't say something nice then don't say it at all. People on her get offended by simple questions instead of answering them. If you don't like the thread why answer. I have not used bad language and I always apologize if I hurt someone feelings with my question so now you tell me what is the whoop de doo!:mad:

HAHAHA, I couldn't resist!!
 

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Exquizit, girl...don't bother! My sistafriends have hipped me to this chick, and I am now exiting the thread. Come with me!!!! :p

Re: What
 

Yes, we always HEAR that statement, so I guess that's why most of the answers and replies are from YOURSELF. :rolleyes:

Let me follow my sista out of this madhouse...

Re: I 'm sorry
 

I hate when things like these happens. My advice to you is dont make remarks like the one above. If you are sorry just be sorry and dont try to start new arguments with anyone. When you ask things like you asked above you can't expect to be treated with respect. You just come off sounding like you have an attitude with the same people you want to help you. I dont expect members of this forum to dislike you forever but if you argue with people then hey wont - POW "dont bring any negativity in here".


look forward to you posting with more tact and respet for everyone else. Just because this is the internet it doesn't mean you have to be nasty with peolple....try being friendly instead!

nachural

That put a smile on my face:)

Anything for you sweetie! :o ;)

I have to strongly DISagree with apologizing to him. I honestly do not belive that you did anything wrong. I'm picking up a bit of jealousy on his part and insecurity. Even thoughh you two are not together, it is obvious you have a relationship, in which he got mad over you hugging someone else even though your intentions were to come see him? In my opinion, that is very childish and close minded on his part. I respect you twice as much because you handled it like a woman. You told him he was OUT OF LINE for insulting you like that and adviced him not to do it again. Then you left. I believe it is up to him now to BE A MAN, and a respectful human being, not only to a WOMAN WHOM HE INSULTED, but to a child-hood friend, and apologize whether or not it leads to his true feelings being revealed.


:( I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER...

Thank you DEvynSince84
 

I have good news I stuck with with what I firmly believe in and he ended up calling me. He apologize and admits that it bothers him when another dude is in place I said when then why won't you be with me he told me because he won't be faithful and we go to far back I said I respect that and thank you for respecting me but when you are ready I can't promise I will always be there he said he understood but I told him I will never stop being his friend. Now everybody is happy thank you to those that had something good to say and to those that didn't no love loss.:D

:D Thats Grrreeeeaaaaatttt! (LOL, don't I sound like Tony the tiger?) I am so happy for you two. See, I told you he needed to come around and he did. Good Luck, with any future relationship that may conjure up between you two. ;)

Need Advice (Another topic)
 

Greetings Sorors and SFs,

I need a little advice. I am a member of this book club that met for the first time about three weeks ago. Well there are about three guys in the club and one is a serious cutie! We have a group list and I want to know if you think it is appropriate to ask this guy's friend(female) for more information about him i.e. is he seeing someone, would he be interested in chatting, etc. Now the girl i would be asking is a good friend of one of my good friends. Basically I dont really know her. Or do you think I should just shoot the brother an email and see what happens? Any advice would be helpful!

Peace,

Soror Erika