living with parents
 

OK, so I am moving back home to save money as I go to grad school and am facing two years with the parents. I think I can make it, we have a good relationship and the money I save is so awesome.

Question is do and have any of you lived with the parents while in school? What were your experiences. I am 23, so I feel odd just cause I am so used to being on my own as I have for six years. I have friends that have not moved out of their homes at all, they went to college and now have jobs and still live with the parents.

I am doing it currently to save money while I look for a job. Its not to bad, free food and what not , and I have alot of freedoms I had when i didn't live at home. There are rules I have to get used to again but all and all it is ok. Can't wait to get a job and move out though!

I was living on my own too and moved back in with my mother last year.

It'll take some getting used to, believe me. They'll probably try and impose some rules and such, but at the same time they'll remember that you have been on your own, so you yourself know what's best for you. My situation's somewhat different because I don't have to pay rent, but I do pay a 1/3 of utilities just so I can remember that I do have responsibilities and it's not necessarily a free ride.

On the other hand, it's awesome not having to pay hundreds of dollars in rent like I used to, and I realized the importance of having a nice home cooked meal!!

I lived with my parents for several months after I graduated from college, when I was 22. Let's just say that it was an experience I'd like to forget. My mom and I fought a lot, because I wanted more freedom than she wanted me to have. It was also pretty annoying because my parents have at least one tv on 24/7, so it was hard to get any quiet time at all. I think that sometimes parents have a hard time realizing that their "babies" are adults, but good luck!!!

I don't think I could do the living at home thing again - I haven't really lived at home since after my freshman year of college. I get along great with my parents, we have a really good relationship - but I just couldn't do it after being on my own for so long.

I'm doing the same exact thing, actually. I am 24 and I've lived with a friend of mine from college for two years. In the interest of saving money for grad school, we're both moving into my parents new house.

We're still in the process of moving everything, but I think it will be worth it to not accrue any student loan debt. Fortunately, I like my parents and we get along great.

If the moving thing would just go ahead and end already, I think I would be fine :)

I lived on my own during the school year in college, and at home during the summers. The summers were always interminable.

When I started law school, I just didn't have as much of an incentive to be up by myself in Baton Rouge (serial killer, boyfriend 90 miles away, all my friends had graduated...) so I ended up moving back home full time.

I get along well enough with my mom, I'm much closer to boyfriend-now-fiance, and I'm overall much happier.

My mom is nice and pays for my gas and commuting expenses, which is really really nice (driving 150 miles a day can get expensive!).

I don't have hardly any of the freedoms I did in college (no going out to bars, staying out with boy until all hours of the night, etc), but its worth the trade off, for me at least.

I've pretty much been on my own for about 3 years, and this summer, I came back to live with my parents on and off. For the first time in a very long time, it's working out. Sort of. As long as I can take a break from them, or they can get a break from me, things work out fine. If we spend too much continuous time together, things get a little stressful.

My brother moved back home after going to college out of state for a year, and is continuing locally, and living at home. Although it does save money, he's at the point where he really wants to get out and do his own thing. It's kind of a toss up between how much freedom you want, and all the money you save. Personally, I have swallowed some of my saturday nights and saved the money.

I personally would love a situation where my mommy would come over and make me food, do my laundry, and give me encouragement and then let me be.

-Rudey
--Instead I'm doomed to my cold life of Subway select sandwiches, pay-by-the-pound laundry, and people who humble you like none other.

I moved back home right before I got married. I taught for a while.
It was a piece of cake and MY Mom was so much "kinder" than I would/will be. She did the cooking and laundry and I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE!!!:o :( Where was MY head...self absorbed, that's where.

Once you kids move out, our life is set free! I realized that this year because my son is very independent and my daughter works in GA.

Should they, and statistics indicate at least ONE of them will return, we will be more than happy to give them a hand, help them save money and all that jazz. However, I don't want to become the maid again and the kitchen will close when I'm done for the day. I guess the comfort for EVERYONE will depend on their attitude and level of maturity. If they act like a guest, I'll get a little ticked off. If they pitch in, in leu of paying rent, then great.

It could be a nightmare or it could be really great. Just remember, those years you were on your own, your parents didn't try to move in with YOU. Be appreciative and all will be well.

I just graduated and I also moved back in with the parents at 23. Sometimes I get frustrated, but most of the time it's okay. My parents aren't trying to impose rules on me, but they do like to know where I am going and what I am doing, which sometimes makes me feel like I am 16 again.

I'll be 26 in a week's time and I moved away from home when I was 18. Though, I did make the 1.5 hour drive at least once a month. Even so, 8 years on my own is a long time.

At the moment I live in England. All of my junk is being stored at home in the US. When I return to the States in a few months, I won't have anywhere to live. So yeah, I suppose I will *have* to live at home at least for a little while!

I guess I'm OK with that. Depending on how long I stay there, I'll probably make a contribution towards bills. My dad has his own life now and I don't want to cramp his style. I've always had a great relationship with him; I don't expect there to be any problems.

.....Kelly :)

I feel you. I just graduated last month, am 23 and back at home....*temporarily*:rolleyes:

The boy is at home, after returning after some family stuff. They let him do what he wants, he helps out in a lot of ways, so it worked out really well for him.

I can only name two people (besides myself) who will not be living with their parents this year--one is an international student going straight to grad school, the other is living pretty far from home and going to work. Most people who are working or going to graduate school in Boston or Manhattan will forego the steep rents and scarce housing to live with their parents for a year. Another friend's father died last year, and she decided that it was best to be with her mom instead of moving out right away. So, you're in pretty good company. :)

Happy to say
 

I am happy to say that I still live with my parents. :) I dont really calling moving into the dorms for a year moving out but it did grant me more freedoms. I love my parents dearly and we RARELY get through a week without arguing but I think it is a good situation. I will have to repeat everyone else in the free home cooked meals. YUM. But I wouldnt give up living with them because of the free rent. It's funny though - they impose SOOOOOOOOOOOO many more rules than they did when I was in HS. I think that's cause they are scared taht I have grown up... anyway... i dont know if any of that made sense.


Laura

Even though I live at home, my mom is NOT my maid. I help out with all the housework, cooking, laundry, etc. She did my laundry a few weeks ago and I was so thankful - I never expect it.

FI is in the same situation. He lives at home, but he helps with everything around the house, cooking at all.

For us, its more of a situation of having parents as roomates. Except with a few more rules.

I moved out and then moved back home, It was a hard adjustment...but as long as you respect them, they respect you...which can pay off in the long run b/c right now they are helpin me get a new car...woohoo anyways thats besides the point.

I lived down by campus at ASU for three years, and I've just moved home to finish up at the west campus so I can save money.

I am still adjusting. It's harder than I thought it would be. But then I look at my sister who decided to stay home from college and she's doing all the same stuff I used to do when I was her age, but my mom is there to see it all and my mom is going NUTS and freaking out about everything. I told her the other day that I did all of these things within a few weeks of moving out.

We agreed that ignorance is bliss and that going away to college is probably a good thing for both parent and child.

But I JUST got a car last week, and my mom is starting to really clamp down on wanting to know where I'm going and getting worried when I take my time going places and don't let her know. I don't even want to think what she's going to do when the year starts and my friends are back in town and I'm driving down to Tempe to see them all the time.

Read Dear Abby today...really sad. The girl finished one year and moved home for the summer.

Anyone remember the thread last year about the girl who moved back home and her Dad took her cell phone away?

Other than moving back home after my sophomore year for the summer, no. My mom and I argue on a daily basis so I try to go home only on holidays. It would suck to graduate college and have to move back home after having complete freedom.

When we all finally left the nest, my mom bought herself a two bedroom patio home. Well as justamom states statics are that at least one of us would return. At one point or another all four of us have stayed with mom.
I moved in when I left my ex (which is the best thing I ever did) and I brought my little one with me. Then a few months later my sister broke up with her boyfriend and she moved home. A little bit after that my youngest sister got engaged, her future hubby was deployed and she didn't want to get a new lease because she would be moving, so she moved home for a few months while we prepared for the wedding!:eek:
What I learned is that each one of us had a different relationship with mom, and a different way of dealing with being at home. Mom & I fight the most. The youngest is like best friends with mom. The middle wants mom to take care of her. It is really funny.
Needless to say, my daughter loved those months having that small house crowded with girls. Always someone to play with, even though the youngest was 23. And last year when no one was home, I think my mom might have missed us. When my last lease was up she talked me into moving home again. :D