Confession
 

I have a confession to make. . . :(
I have been a member of Greek Chat for close to a year and although it's been fun posting. I need to come clean... Though many of you may be in shock to hear this.... Mostly everything that I have ever posted have all been lies. The things I have posted about either happened to someone I know or were just made up. Yeah...I WAS a college student but after not being accepted by Delta or AKA I dropped out. I was rejected by AKA my freshman year, so I switched to Delta, then I tried Delta again this past semester only to not make line again (because AKA couldn't have a line.) So I have come to the conclusion that maybe I wasn't meant to be greek. I posted on GC hoping to get information that would for once help me make line...but yall are so tight lipped about YOUR "precious" sororities that you made it hard for me.I have never dated a guy in a frat so that story about me being "abused" was made up, I've never won a scholarship, or any scholarship for that matter, especially not from AKA. I made it all up!!! Deltas...the reason I asked those transfer questions was because I contemplated going to another school to pledge. It hurts when your friends pledge and make it and you don't...you're left out in the cold. Hopefully, if i go back to school i can join a grad chapter. It's been fun. Anyway, this is my last post on GC.

UMMM
 

???????????????????????????????????:confused:

I thought about closing and/or deleting this thread, but this is a good "lesson" type of thread.

I'm not shocked by this revelation. It wasn't a secret that you were sitting on the fence between AKA & Delta, which is fine; you just didn't do a really good job of being discrete. I really don't understand how anyone who has been around either board for over a year wouldn't know that we're not coming off any information regarding our intake processes. Not because we want to be difficult, but because we have rules we have to follow. It's been that way for a little over 2 years. But hey, folks are gonna try & see what they can get. *shrug*

The funny part in all this is, all you have to do to get information that's going to help you in your quest is to get to know folks & be truthful about who you are. If you talk to me and get to know me and I get to know you and I feel like you'd be an asset to Delta, I'll help you out where I can. I'm willing to be my Sorors and Sister-Sorors feel the same. But if you feel you need to lie and stretch the truth to get people to like you, and become INDIGNANT and UGLY when the answers you get aren't the ones you wanted, then you have some issues that you need to address BEFORE you step to a sorority for membership. Becoming a member isn't going to change your issues.

:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: Oh my dayums oh my dayums oh my dayums. . . Everythnig my co mod said is so true. There are some great SFs on GC for any of the orgs and there are some I would gladly help out in some way. However, Innocence22 and anyone else who is being less than honest about their situations, you GET BACK what you put out there. It might not be that you were not meant to be GREEK, but it just might not be your time and because you tried to take shortcuts and deceive those who were in a position to help you, your road to Greekdom is a bit rockier than others' experiences.

:eek: :eek: :eek: because I am still like WHOA!!!

What I want to know is...why post this? Unless you are screaming for attention. I think you need to sit down and take a long hard look at yourself and your priorities.

While Greek organizations are very beneficial, attaining membership should NOT take precedence over your education and it CERTAINLY should not lead you to lie or falsify information for whatever reason.

I am not Greek, but when I was trying to decide whether I was going to attempt to become a member of an organization, the first question I asked myself is WHY? I think you need to do the same. It sounds to me like you are interested in joining because you are looking for an identity and place to belong. If this is the case, you might want to spend less time obsessing over the nuances of AKA and DST and more time finding out who you are.

I agree Librasoul but at the same time- I commend her for being honest at least once. Who knows how many people are telling the truth/ or a lie on these forums. Personally, I do not care- as long as the person is not a Perp! It appears to me that she has reflected on her decision to lie and has decided to come clean. Hoepfully this will be a learning expereince for her. Moreover, I hope she will truly reflect on her reasons for wanting to be greek. Sadly, some people just want to be greek...... I know some of those people personally (both greeks and nongreeks). I hope Innocence reads the words of advice given to her by her sisterfriends/memberfriends... If I may use the word friend :D .

Innocence- I wish you good luck and I hope you will reflect on your reasons for wanting to be greek. It is a HUGE committment.

Wow....

I am not Greek affiliated but in my quest to seek out the organization that suits me I am glad that honesty has always been my policy. If you truly want to become part of any organization you should not have to contemplate whether or not you are honest with them, it should just be. Being a part does not mean conforming to a certain group, but fitting with it based on who you are. Being fit is not learned, or formulated, it is simply what is. If it is right for you to be greek than it is right for YOU not some fairytale you have created.

I am glad you posted this, and I commend you for your willingness to be honest, not only with the members of this board, but yourself. If you are not content with who you are everyone can see it. Especially those who are attempting to get to know you for possible membership into their great organization.

Continue to search for what YOU fit into. Don't attempt to squeeze yourself in. You should feel comfortable with everything about it, then your search for sisterhood will end.

I wish you the best............

what I posted on AKA fourm
 

I thought the point of going to college was to get a DEGREE, not some letters? Did I miss something?

What was the point of lying? What did you gain from it? Do you really expect AKA or DST or SGRho or my Zeta to accept you now?

I applaud you for telling the truth, but you still seem hostile that neither org would reveal that information to you. Why should they? You just dont walk up to an XYZ and say "I wanna be down, now what does this mean?" It doesn't work that way.

Excuse me if I sound harsh, but I just dont understand why some people feel that membership is something that should just be handed over to them.

I hope you find a school where you can feel comfortable..I wish you the best.

Re: what I posted on AKA fourm
 

That tripped me out too. I was :confused: that she only went to college to earn Greek letters. :(

But I was :mad: that she lied about abuse. What purpose did that serve? Did she think that her being abused would cause me to say, "Well, you know that one of DST's 10 commandments is thou shall not be beaten by man alone." :eek:

I wish her the best because she has a long road ahead of her. Get to know yourself first. SELF-KNOWLEDGE goes a long way in life.

Re: Confession
 

I really still don't know what to say about your post. I have been on GC for almost 3 years now, and I will be 2 months old in Delta come the 26th of this month. When I first joined GC, I must admit that it wasn't like it is now as far as asking membership questions and what not, but, once it was established that questions about membersip and things of this nature would not be answered or tolerated, I was like cool. I say I was cool because I knew that if I wanted to continue to partake in the conversation around GC, then I would have to adhere to the rules of each board, and y'all know I post all over the place. The members not answering any questions I may have had still did not make me want to lie about things that were done to me, or make me not want to continue my pursuit into Delta as well. Don't get me wrong, there have been times that I may have gotten a PM, and you know what, I was fine with that as well. I didn't get angry or anthing of that nature either. It's a learning experience. What I did was get to know members in the actual chapter that I was trying to join, these woman would actually carry more weight anyway when it came time for me to apply. What I liked about GC was getting to know different people in all the different areas, and making what I hope are real friendships.

There are members and SF's on here that I have met face to face and we hang out all the time, and there are ones that I have only seen pics of maybe, but we talk on the phone as well.
I think that you have to realize that in order to truly make friends, you can't come on a forum and just make up lies, and when things don't go your way, say oh F it.

I agree with nikki1920 that your purpose for going to college was to get your degree, so sit back and rethink all of what you said, and why you did what you did, and I hope that you will make the decision to go back to school to get your degree, and if you are able to join a sorority on the graduate level at some point, that will make it even better.
:D

I can completely understand your frustration. I have applied for memebership into Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. twice, and twice I have received a rejection letter. And after the second letter I got frustrated and thought about acting like I was someone who I am not so that maybe I would be accepted. Then I had to really take a step back and look at who I am. My mother, who is not greek, and doesn't know much about it, used to tell me well, it's their loss. And for a while I thought the same thing, but after careful reflection I realized that there has to be a reason why these ladies do not want me to be in their sorority. I have yet to learn what that reason is hence the name DontHaveAClue, but I have realized that there are some things about me that I don't like, and that I need to change, and I think that you should do the same. Instead of lying about who you are, try to make yourself into the person that you want to be. I am trying to change myself, not so that I will some day be accepted into Delta Sigma Theta, but so that I will some day be happy with every aspect of my life, not just my grades, and career accomplishments.

WTF!!
 

I just don't know what to say:mad:
This is too funny, I mean, what is this..a soap opera.
All I gotta say, since everyone has already said everything else is,

God don't like ugly
what you sow you reap

no wonder she didn't reply to my email when I asked her why she was soooo interested in Delta.
no wonder she was asking me all kinds of information and when I wouldn't answer her..she stops her email.

It's been a looong time since I have posted. I may need to reintroduce myself properly.... Soror Moderators, put me in my place as you see fit:D I cruise the forums, but I have been in the mood to watch, listen and learn. This post though {{shaking my head}} ...I got something to say today.

This does not surprise me. Many people are obsessed with what they drive, where they live, what they belong to and hardly in touch with who they are. The obsession with outside appearances is dangerous. Everybody thinks they can fool folks. Now we have to contend with Jayson Blair clones on Greek Chat?

You need serious help. Run don't walk. Get help. Deciding to "come clean" is the first step, if you're sincere. Who knows, you probably decided to "confess" because someone else was going to expose you azz.

Your behavior is dangerous not only to yourself but to others. What if your need for attention does some serious damage to another person? I don't expect you to answer, but I know you're reading all the replies post. How could you resist?

Remember that God knows your heart, your motivations and intentions. You cannot deceive him. Work it out.

Maybe you should be talking to that chapter and finding out so that you will have a clue.

Not being mean, just honest.

Oh Gurrl....you took the words right out of my mouth :o

I really don't have much to add to this. I think my sisterfriends and memberfriends on DST Blvd and AKA Ave. have spelled it out BUT don't lie, joke, play around with being abused. That ISHT IS WRONG and I can't believe you did that. I have a friend and a VERY close cousin that was abused and just knowing that your LIED about that...I have no words.

*shaking my head*:( :(

And another thing, your s/n is offensive. Innocence22? Surely if you were applying for membership in DST, you know the significance of 22 to my beloved sorors. Yet you would get on a messageboard full of Delta's and have 22 at the end of your name. You'll probably say it's your age or something but I don't care. It's the respect(or lack thereof) and balls you show to have that name on a Delta message board. And if you are coming clean with this thread, the first part of your name needs to be changed as well.
:rolleyes:


Now with saying all that I want to let you know that it takes a big person to admit they are wrong. If you are sincere, then you really need to sit down and figure out WHY you want to go greek.

I think the answer is very clear with this one sentence:


QTE

A HOT MESS!
 

I can't believe I just read what I read....Innocence22, you're a hot mess. Some things just need to be kept to yourself. You sound very bitter, not apologetic. You're still mad because you weren't accepted into the sorority of your first choice (AKA), then gonna try to slip into mine?? I'm so glad the sorors saw you for what you are...unworthy to wear my letters or those of AKA.

Seek therapy.:rolleyes:

Yeah, lying about being abused is SOOO WRONG for sooo many reasons. There are women in this world who are running and fighting for their lives b/c of abuse. What if someone else comes on one of the message boards saying she was abused - how are the moderators and other posters supposed to take her story? People like you are the reason why women are afraid to talk about this subject matter. You are making things bad for those who really experienced this mess. I can't speak for any of the sororities b/c I don't hold membership in any of them, but please take their advice.

First and foremost, look to God and within to find the truth about yourself. You need to be able to look at the real you in the mirror every morning and every night.

The Vibe
 

I am detecting a sense of YFSUFE vibe because of Innocence's confession.

From my observations over the past 3 years, the SFs who are in it (pursuit of their Greek org of choice) for the right reasons and for the long haul are going about it the right way. Some of you all have made a few cyber boo boos, but you have learned from the ones you have made and the ones fellow SFs have made. :)

Say what?
 

:eek: It wasn't a secret? :confused: I guess I don't READ the boards like that...lol.

Ditto what I said at AKA.

I don't know how many times I've read this thread, but I just can't find the words to do my thoughts any justice...
http://www.gamers-forums.com/smilies...ythescream.gif

I posted this over on AKA Avenue
 

In response to someone saying they wondered if this "confession" was a lie.

It probably is a lie, too. Why the sudden hit of conscience when she (could even be a male trying to be funny) is basically annonymous on here anyway. He or she could have just stopped posting or re-registered under a different name. Funny that he or she went back on May 30 and 31 and edited many of her or his posts from last year.

Re: I posted this over on AKA Avenue
 

GIRRRRRL, you KNOW the future lawyer-digging-for-evidence side of me came out and I traced her posts. On 5-31-03, she went in and edited or tried to delete all of her posts.

NEWS FLASH: Editting/deleting your posts makes no difference once someone hits the quote button. You see, dear, your original message is forever etched there attached to someone else's message!

That clown is playing a game and like before, she's the loser. :rolleyes:

Re: Re: I posted this over on AKA Avenue
 

LMAO. She is straight up SUUUUUUSPECT!!! LOL, yeah once I quote you, I got you,

Last year this time she was a recent high school graduate from the Bronx. She was headed to NC A&T in Greensboro. She arrived a virgin, gave it away, got abused, et al. I remember telling her she would not need a car on campus and even offered to take her grocery shopping once a month -- WTF was I thinking?

:( :o :confused: :eek: :mad:

Re: Re: Re: I posted this over on AKA Avenue
 

You thought you were helping/mentoring a young college freshman. You were doing the right thing...so you thought.

Re: Re: Re: I posted this over on AKA Avenue
 

CT4, I gotcha! You are forever stuck to the quote that you tried to help the shyster. :p

This is truly a trip. I wonder who she is now.... Maybe someone should try to send her an AIM since she did leave her info on her profile. Seems that she goes by the handle KlassyMISS on AOL, if that's true. I guess since she didn't think about deleting that yet, and I KNOW she comes bcak to read these posts, her profile info will be gone by tomorrow. :rolleyes:

Huh???????
 

OK...

I know I haven't posted in a hot minute, but I had to insert comments here.

Why would you post a confession when all you had to do is STOP POSTING??? :confused:

And to LIE about being abused...That is just trifling! I just hope you never find yourself in that situation for real! Trust...It ain't cool.

You really make other prospectives look bad when you come with this mess. :mad: But then again if the number in your user name is an indication of your age...I can believe it.

Re: Re: Re: I posted this over on AKA Avenue
 

Ohh! That's why the name Innocence22 sounded familiar! I remember sending her a PM or something with my information in case she needed a ride somewhere or wanted to hang out since we are in the same city. When I first read this thread, I was like Inno-who?? :confused: Daaag. Oh well. Innocence if you are reading this, I hope you learned your lesson. It's easy to get caught up and go about things the wrong way as a naive freshman in a black college... but if you are sincere in your endeavors, take some time out to chill. Quit lying. Learn the difference between friends and associates. Declare a major. Try to earn a 4.0. Find a hobby. Go mentor some disadvantaged children. Get to know yourself and what you really want so you don't end up looking like an a$$.......again.

Re: Huh???????
 

Thought I wasn't going to post in this thread but. . .

I agree with what you wrote Hopeful. She DOES make other prospective SFs look bad. However, I disagree that her being 22 makes her act this way (if I read what your wrote correctly). I am 21 and I would NEVER, EVER disrespect DST intentionally in anyway. Innocence seems to be a person who just needs to find out her TRUE self, as many have stated before. She is a GROWN ASS woman. She knew what she was doing: lying, transferring, the whole nine.

People like her are the reason why members of any sorority (NPHC, NPC, etc.) don't want to help people, and now I understand why. This entire situation has just pissed me off to NO end.

I say we pay her NO MO'tention, because right now she is either crying over cheesecake or laughing with beer & pretzels. I can't believe liars, so honestly I can't believe the post anymore. You got your attention, now go get some help! :rolleyes: :mad:

I agree with you on this one Gyrl7....BUT...CT4 what the heck does YSFSUFE stand for. I have been looking at that all day, and I be damned if I can figure that one out.:p

Re: Re: Huh???????
 

You are right. At 22(many moons ago!), I would have never disrespected DST or any D9 org. that way. In this instance...Age doesn't matter. It is her young MIND and immaturity that is speaking volumns! Hell, she should have just stopped posting.

What makes me wonder is why now??? Why the confession now?
Seems like a bunch of BS to me...:rolleyes:

She/He will be back posting under a new name if she/he isn't already.

I have a gift for her...
 

To: Innocence22(lol at the word innocence)
From: Greekchat
5 free therapy sessions with Dr. Phil, so he can help cure your crazy,lying behind behind!

J/J - No she/he/it really needs to take this time to discover Jesus and to have a little talk with him, because she really needs him, and we should all pray for her:D !

ETA: If she is 22 she obviously doesn't know when her b-day is since her is September 22, 1984, that would make her 1 month younger than me, and i'm 18! Busted!!:rolleyes:

Re: Confession
 

WTF??:eek: :mad:You can't be bouncing back and forth--D-9 doesn't work that way.

See, Karma is a Iitch when it comes back at you. WHY would you try to PLAY Sister-Sorors AKA and DST like that? And if you did it on the SAME campus? Dayumm...:rolleyes: You're lucky no one put their foot up your a** or did they?

Well, with all that has already been said, I won't repeat but will say this. Until you approach the sororities of the D-9 with RESPECT, you have no place here. Plain and simple.

Re: I have a gift for her...
 

Yo azz is scrait up crazy!

So now you all don't know if she is a she, he, it, shim?

:confused:

What's really going on?

You know, the first time I came across 'Innocence22' I thought 'she' was a SGRho, until I read some of 'her' posts. Thanks for explaining her screen name.

I kinda think this is a bad joke/hoax. Why would this person do this? I guess to see how far 'she' could get, then 'she' probably could not get far, or was about to be exposed. Why would anyone want to be part of an org where people can lie and get in? The org would not be very strong.

Re: Confession
 

I know this is a serious issue, but this phrase had me ROTFL. Why does it sound like she switched to decaf. LOL

WHAT THE F#@*!!!!!
 

OK..........THIS IS SOME HEAVY STUFF!!!! I know how it is to want to belong to an organization soooo bad that you can taste it. However, I have never and will never lie to get information in the hopes of getting on the inside. I'm not familiar with the abuse story, so please feel free to direct me to that tread!!! I hope that the young lady learned her lesson and I commend her for coming clean. But, I will share with her what I feel. Find the organization that best suits you and then stick with it. Don't change just because one org. "couldn't have a line". Your choice should be in your heart...if it were you would do whatever it takes and take what's given!!!! I too hope to become a memeber of a BGLO ( can anyone guess which one!!!???:p ) and I know that if I were to ask any of the ladies on this board for information they would be glad to direct me to either a book or a site that would help. But, under no circumstances will they give any "secrets" (and I would want them to..I want to earn my letters!!!!) And another thing.....YOU TO COLLEGE TO GET YOUR DEGREE.....YOU CAN GET YOUR LETTERS AT THE GRAD LEVEL IF NEED BE!!!!!! OK....I'm done now! Thanks for letting a SisterFriend holla.

you
fudged
s***
up
for
everybody

:D :cool: :o

Thanks, because sister girl could not on any level figure that one out for NOTHING. :cool: