I don't want to be in-love, I want to be in-love in a movie!
 

This was a classic line in the movie: Sleepless in Seattle.

Meg Ryan's friend turns to her and says, "Your problem is you don't want to be in love, you want to be in love in a movie!"

When I heard that line, I realized that it was a problem I shared.

I don't really want to be in-love in real life with all the boring moments of sheer monotonous dullness that means, I want more.

I want love-montages! I want cool music! I want romance, and magic.

I want clever dialougue!

I don't know how many times I have sat there and realized a relationship wouldn't work out because she just wasn't a clever conversationalist.

I sit there when I first start talking to a girl, whether on the phone or on person, and wait for cleverness to be consistantly revealed in their conversation.

But alas I am usually left bored at the mindles and uninspired monotony of their inane conversation. *sigh*

Sorry for wandering. But does anyone else share this handicapp? Anyone else been spoiled by movies and have grown to expect more from their partners?

And, is it so hard to maintain intellegent flirty conversation over the course of an entire relationship? Or will I have to write scripts for my partners lol?

OH, and since men are on the average even less flirty and clever than girls in conversation, I really feel for you ladies!

Oh James. You're young and single. Enjoy it. :D

James, you sound like us girls! :p

See James, I'm so witty that I keep myself entertained regardless of what the other person is saying. LOL.

I want to be in love like in a Danielle Steel novel. For those of you who don't know, Danielle Steel novels are cotton candy for the brain. Sickly sweet, no substance, yet very enjoyable!

The heroine is always a beautiful damsel whisked away by a handsome, rich man who showers her with gifts all the time. When women in Danielle Steel novels give birth they get things like multi-carat sapphire and diamond earrings with matching necklaces. Or a new mansion.

I got a plant. *sigh*

Personally, I’d rather be in an action flick. The bombs, the fist fights, the... wait, that sounds like some relationships I know.

Killarney, it looks like we're going to be duking it out over the same guy, because that's exactly the type I need! A guy that would give me an expensive bauble every now and then...or maybe a villa in the South of France...or hell, at least someone who would take me to someplace other than McDonald's once in a while. ;)

It's easy to have love like the movies James. I can tell you how in these simple steps.

1. Hire an orchestra to follow you around. If you can't afford this, have someone follow you around with a boombox. Voila - your soundtrack.

2. Hire a team of writers that must contain at least 3 female friends of the girl you want to be in movie-type love with, have them write lines that they know she would love to hear, memorize them, and say things in situations that are bound to cause her to give you the lead in to these perfect lines.

3. Pay people at her workplace, in her family, etc to create the ideal situations for these lines to take place in.

MTSU...you forgot to mention the person that drops the rose petals/leaves/snow/etc... over the lovers as they kiss that one kiss at the end of the movie that lets the viewer know that they live happily ever after... hehe

Oh yeah...

You'll also need someone to follow you and the girl EVERYWHERE to continuously touch up her hair and make up. She must always look perfect - even if she just came out of a pool. For some reason, you're allowed to slide a bit more... They may brush your hair every 6 hours or so. But only if you've been through a wind tunnel.

Here's a song just for you James (except it's sung by a girl, and you're not, but oh well)-

Once Upon A Mattress (Broadway Musical)
Happily Ever After


They all lived happily happily happily ever after
The couple is happily leaving the chapel eternally tied
As the curtain descends there is nothing but loving and laughter
When the fairy tale ends the heroins always a bride

Ella the girl of the cinders
Did the wash and the walls and the winders
But she landed a prince who was brawny and blue eyed and blond
Still I honestly doubt that she could ever have done it without that
Crazy lady with the wand--Cinderella had outside help
I've got no one but me
Fairy godmother godmother godmother where can you be?

I haven't got a fairy godmother. I haven't got a godmother.
I have a mother. A plain, ordinary woman.

Snow White was so pretty they tell us
That the queen was insulted and jealous
When the mirror declared that Snow White was the fairest of all
She was dumped on the border
But was saved by some men who adored her
Oh I grant you they were small
But there were 7 of them practically a regiment
I'm alone in the night
by myself not a dwarf not an elf not a goblin in sight
That girl had 7 little men working day and night just for her
Oh sure the queen gave her a poisoned apple.. even so
She lived happily happily happily ever after
A magical kiss counteracted the apple eventually
Though I know I'm not clever I'll do what they tell me I hafta
I want some happily ever after to happen to me

[original]
[Rapunzel had platinum tresses
That were double the length of her dresses
She was kept in a tower for years by a wicked old witch
Till one night in despair down
She scrambled by letting her hair down
That's what I call quite a switch
I wonder no it'll never hold
I'll be finished before I begin
And besides]

{Revival}
{Winnifred Pade of the myre
Has one simple human desire
Oh I ask for no more that two shoes on the floor next to mine
Oh someone to fly and to float with
To swim in the marsh and the moat with
As for this one well, he'd be fine
but now it's all up to me!
And I'm burning to bring it about
If I don't I'll be stuck with goodbye and good luck and get out
I don't want to get out I want to get in
I wanna get into some happily happily ever after}

[I don't want to get out I want to get in
I want to live happily happily happily ever after]
I want to walk happily out of the chapel eternally tied
For I know I'll never live happily ever after till after i'm a bride
Then I'll be happily happy
Yes happily happy
And thouroughly satisfied

I know what you mean...the girlfriends I had up until about a year ago all failed b/c I liked the idea of having a girlfriend rather than really liking the girlfriend. It's a bad trap to fall into...

Ive been single for the majority of my life (Ive had two month long relationships that had titles - aka - having a boyfriend) Ive dated and they last like a week...

I definately understand the movie thing, my friends say Im picky, but I need that cute, nice, smart, talent wonderful guy to just come and sweep me off of my feet...

hence the fact that I am still single.

omg, beta, that is SO it.....and i always seem to end up settling for guys....like, i dug the idea of being with someone, so i settled for ANYone. i convinced myself they were great and cool and NICE, but in reality, they were crap and boring and MEAN. exes.....learn from them. and i think i have b/c i have consciously been b/f-less for a year now and no one has even sparked my interest until recently b/c i refuse to settle for the first thing that comes along (go me for kissin off dude with a g/f tryin to get on me, dude who smokes up non-stop, dude called "dick", and just dudes who didn't do a thing for me).....someone has to genuinely intrigue me for me to LIKE them. i have to be curious as to what their story is and what they're about. doesn't hurt to be told that my "fat ass" is really a nice "ghetto booty," either. ;)

but yeah....i'd be ok with movie love......background music is SUPER and those long stares and the way the guy always seems to touch the girl's face or run his fingers through her hair....*SIGH*......plus the fact that these guys are normally ben affleck, brad pitt, matthew mcconaHEY, or taye diggs don't hurt, but ya know. :D movie love also always seems to over-come those lil obstacles....like, they get mad for a while, but then someone kisses ass enough and it's all happy again.

movie love is another term for "romance"....which is so hard to find......the whole "courting" thing doesn't really exist anymore. guys don't have to try as hard b/c chicks are willing to put up with so much. the slightest bit of attention and we seem to just think that's it.....OY. forget just boys bein dumb, we ALL are. :p

damn, that was pretty long and typo-free for me takin shots like a champ this evenin!

Any what about the room filled with a million white candles. I always thought it was pretty, but dang, wouldn't that get rather HOT?!?!?

Personally, I want to love James *SMOOCH*

BTW, I am having an illicit non-Pika affair with my favorite Kappa Sig, James. It's ok. My boyfriend's biological brother is a Kappa Sig.

tee hee!
I http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmili.../heartface.gif James!

well at least we found james' penis! ;)

This is why we all love James. He's not afraid to admit he wants some romance! I :heart: James!

I totally want some romance but realize I'll never have the movie romance. I don't just want the love in a movie. I want to be Meg Ryan in love in a Movie. She always gets the man. Even when she plays an alcoholic! :sigh: And I wonder why I fear commitment. 'Cause it can't stand up to the hype!

Okay, so say you have love like in the movies where everything is crazy perfect and amazing. I think that after a while, you'd even get bored of that. Then what would you do?

I am gonna agree there, i think you would get bored and then you need the practical love, the kind that happens in the real world.

How Dare life not be like the movies.

In the previous relationship that I haven't broken out of yet, I ACTED the way I saw people act in movies (truthfully, what else do we have to go on?), and he didn't act that way back. I got very hurt and frustrated, thinking he didn't love me.

It wasn't til I realized that he did love me....the way he knew how...

I think we all need to learn more about the other person and let our fantasies about anything or ANYONE being perfect.

I can't be a size 6 and he can't be Matty McC, so we'd better let our illusions go and let our defenses down...

Love is hard, but it doesn't have to be a struggle. Usually when it's a struggle, you are struggling with yourself and your perceptions...

If you let them go, you will either realize that this person isn't for you and leave or look at things in a different way and love them for who they are.

I don't think that's impossible...call me an idealist...but that's called true love.

I dont think it is impossible for true love.... I am a firm believer in it.

Sorry, too many chick flicks for me lately.. :)

ooooohhhh....i definately watched too many 80s movies, but pretty in pink has always sort of been my ideal romance. fall in love, have a hardship, everything works out in the end. i will let you know when i find my "blaine."

defintately learn from your relationship mistakes. take into account the things that you did or said that may have made the relationship go ary...not just what the other person did. bring those "learning moments" to your new relationships. by the time you meet the right person, you will know what you want....and you will be a better partner. don't be with someone just to be with someone....you will never be happy.

personally, i am waiting to find the man of my dreams. i will wait until i am 90 if i have to, but i am going to be with a guy whose eyes light up whenever i walk in the room, no matter what is happening...and my eyes have to do the same thing. oh well, i am an idealist.

I don't want movie love... it's not even good enough. I want love that makes the characters in the movie jealous!

No... really. I DON'T want movie love. It's too saccharine and fake. I just want really good, "real people" love. I want love that is perfect in its imperfection. Where we fight, but we know we'll get over it. And neither of us backs down or flees... Where we never get bored. We'll hurt each other again and again, but hey - if it doesn't hurt, you obviously never cared in the first place. And I'm okay with us hurting each other - we're only human, afterall - as long as we stick around to nurse each others wounds. I want someone to love me with an ardor that is unparallelled, and to show it in their everyday actions. That's all...

Okay, so let me get this straight...you are in love with Damasa? lol

But which movie would we want to be in-love in?

This is one of those great threads that remind me that all boys do not suck. And that my "movie" love is out there somewhere.

I want to be in love like in the Notebook....spunky, young love, and forever love.

Ever After...
Silver

When I was born my daddy bought my mom a diamond ring.