Did you get your first choice?
 

I was just wondering, how many of you got your first choice sorority? If not, what did you do and how has it worked out?

Kara :D

Hmm..yes and no I suppose. Before rush began I was set on Pi Phi. During rush I really liked another sorority, but in the end I did become a Pi Phi. Admittedly, I was disappointed when my at the time first choice released me, but at Bid Day I saw that I was home. It's been a great three years so far, and I'm proud to be a Pi Phi. I'd say it worked out well for me. :cool:

Yes, I got my 1st choice. If I hadn't, however, I am the type of person that probably would have made the best of my situation and become a good member of my 2nd or 3rd GLO. Like erniegurl00 said, the disappointment must be dealt with before the acceptance and happiness set in.

I ended up dropping rush in the fall because I went to pref night for a sorority I could tell I wouldn't have been happy in. I was really disappointed, but it was for the best so I tried going through spring rush and sure enough, I got my top choice from the fall and of course again in the spring...Chi Omega! :)

I got my first choice...but I think I'm a special case, since I'ma founding sister of my sorority. But we liked Tri Delta the best, so as a collective local group, we wanted to go Tri Delta. So I guess in a way, I got my choice!!!


I have another question that is realted to this topic...formal rush is completely new to me, I didn' go through it at all, but I'm trying to learn as much as I can. So obviously by this thread, the PNM knows which group they want first...but do the sisters of the group know what order the girls ranked the sororities? For example, say "Mary" picked another group first, but ended up at Tri Delta cause she didn't get her first choice, do the girls of Tri Delta know that she picked another group first?

When my fellow founding sisters and I were establishing our sorority, we wanted to be one national. Unfortunately, we couldn't (it's a long story). We tried to get the NPC at our school to give us a chance to become another national. Another setback, we were voted down. However, we did regroup to become a local with aspirations to expand to other campuses. Although I sometimes look back and wonder what we could have been, I am glad with the way things have turned out! http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/scatter.gif http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/spiny.gif

I got my first choice :)

Mostly, no. Each campus and each chapter do things differently but, in many cases, only recruitment chairs and advisors are supposed to see anything concerning voting...sometimes the recruitment chairs aren't even involved in putting together the bid list.

Technically when I went through rush as an undergrad I did not get my first choice. . .actually my third (and I kind of regret accepting. . . ). A somewhat long story about not getting a bid because one group thought I was definitely going the only one I got a bid from, etc - by the way, it was deferred rush. . . I am truly where I belong, though (well, at least with regards to Greek Life! Vocation is still being worked on. . . :) )

Sarah

I would have to agree with erniegurl00 (;)) . I was in LOVE with Pi Phi before rush started and because of a mishap on the first day I fell in love with another group. When I opened my bid card I knew it would be Pi Phi but I was a little upset it wasn't the other group. But, when I ran to the house and was hugged by my [future] big sis I realized I was where I belonged! :D

PPL & mine!
Jess

technically, I got my first choice. I only went to AGD's open recruitment, but I know now that I wouldn't have fit in any other sorority!

well!
 

The house I had thought I wanted to join pre-rush and into several parties dropped me. But, I ended up getting the house I wanted after prefs. I sucided but hey it does work out sometimes!
ALPHA-CHI!
*mk*

Just one more thing. I think things worked out for the best because Jharb and I became best friends after she joined! I guess I've always been the optimistic kind, but things always do seem to work out for the best, even if it doesn't appear so in the beginning. Honestly, Jess and I would probably never would have met if it hadn't been for Pi Phi. *Tear* (Ok I'm done being sentimental...All of this talk of rush is doing it! LOL)

Going into recruitment, I didn't know anything about sororities or greek life. My friend and I had someone approach us while we were walking through campus to encourage us to go through rush (what it was called at the time).
I decided to go through, not knowing what to expect. When I walked into the first party, I knew they were not for me. In the second party (ZTA), however I felt like it was a perfect match. The first girl that I met eventually became my big sis. I got along well with everyone that I met and felt really comfortable there...they were my favorites all the way through.
I preffed ZTA and another house that I knew wasn't for me. They were nice girls, but I didn't have any real connection like I did with the Zetas.
It's been a choice that I have never regretted since. :D

There was one other chapter that I would have been happy in as well, but I didn't pref them (they released me before pref).

Yes and no.

When I rushed, there were 4 national sororities and a local. The local did not participate in formal rush that year.

I had a definite favorite going into formal rush, and there was a second sorority that really impressed me during round 1. Both sororities invited me to round 2.

During round 2, I came to two conclusions. 1 - I really liked the idea of being part of a sisterhood; 2 - neither of these two sororities was the right choice for me. So I dropped out of rush.

The following week, the local held their rush, and I decided to drop by... and found my home :)

Well, when I started recruitment, I had my heart set on one group. They dropped me in the third round, but after that round, I knew I didn't belong. (Incidentally, in that round, they also cut 2 of my friends who ONLY wanted that group.) So on pref night, I had to make a tough choice. I LOVED SDT's pref ceremony, but my other choice was a bigger, more established sorority on campus. I really liked both groups, but I knew that, in the end, I would be the most comfortable with my Sig Delts!

Oh, I also got dropped from the group I'm a legacy to! But at Emory, that's not such a big deal...I don't know anyone who got recs, either.

What helped you girls decide what group you wanted to be a part of?

I went to COB. I rushed just wanting to meet girls, so I went to the COB for the biggest chapter on campus. (Does anyone else look back now and think, "Boy, if I knew then what I knew now!") We have AGD, Sigma, Phi Sig, and ASA too. I didn't know that then though. ASA and Phi Sig are the only other groups that had fliers up then. And I had classes during both of their COB parties.

I'm glad I ended up where I am. I think I would have been OK somewhere else -- after all, sisterhood is the important thing -- but I really fit in so well with the Phi Mus, in so many ways I didn't fully realize until AFTER we were initiated!

Funny how so many of us chose our groups for crazy reasons... and figured out later we wouldn't have gone any other way.

Yes! :)

As a legacy to another GLO, I had very much planned on pledging that sorority. Yet, from the moment I met the ADPi's, I felt at home. It was harder to explain that I wasn't going (other GLO) than I care to remember, but in the end, it was the right choice for me.

As an alumna, I saw 2 pnms become new members one year, knowing that the one had been really rushed & we were her first choice, and the other we wanted, but we were her second choice. One year later, Second Choice was the most respected member of the chapter, and on the fast track to becoming President, while First Choice had already considered deactivating! It's definitely a matter of attitude.

i did get my first choice, but my story isn't exciting. i went to one pref...i knew this was the house for me from day 1, etc. plus there were only 4 groups on campus.

i did have 3 sisters who did not get their first choice. phi mu was 2nd. one of the girls in my phi class really wanted axo, but didn't get a bid. she spent the whole bid day crying. sisters were trying to make her feel better and the rest of her phi class did as well. by the end of the day, she realized that she was with the group that she really belonged to. she ended up really enjoying her collegiate years.

the following year, there were two phis who didn't get their first choice. one was a phi mu legacy and she had been quite torn between phi mu and axo throughout the whole week. the first hour or so of bid day was really tough for her, but she knew so many of us really and truly wanted her to be there, plus her two roomies were also phis.....and she realized how excited her sister was going to be....so she pulled it together and had a blast. she became a very dedicated and wonderful sister!!! now, she is an advisor for a different chapter! hurray!

the third person who i know didn't get her first choice really didn't think to much about it. she was disappointed at first, but she knew that she wouldn't have been happy in that other group. she also became a very dedicated sister and is still involved even after graduation!

Got my first choice! Before rush I wanted to join the same sorority my older sisters were in, but as soon as rush started that all changed. Almost everyone in my pledge class got their first choice; in fact, I was one of the few who didn't "intentional single preference" (why can't we just say suicide anymore?).

I definately got my first choice. I knew I wanted Sigma Kappa the day I stepped foot on my campus freshman year. So I rushed in the spring and with final rounds came, that was the only party I wanted to go to. And they wanted me just as bad :)

Diamonds are pretty and so are pearls, but nothing compares to us Sigma K girls!

Being a junior, I've been privileged (and sometimes I think handicapped) to observe the chapters that we have on campus. I can honestly say that I would be happy with any of them, with the possible exception of one. I have met wonderful girls in each of them, and some not so wonderful girls in each. They all have different strengths and different weaknesses, and if I am aware of some of these already, I can't wait to see what I think during recruitment!

I honestly do not have a first choice, do or die, "I want this one so much that it'll kill me if I don't get it" chapter.

I love ABC because they are so awesome with their philanthropy.

I love DE because the girls are SO friendly, diverse, down to earth, easy to be with, and accepting.

I have a wonderful impression of FGH because one saw me walking from an observation in the rain, and not only did she stop to give me a ride, she was the sweetest persone I'd ever met!

I haved just loved every IJK I have ever met, and there was one active in particular that helped me through some rough times with my family. Every IJK, even the ones here on GC, have filled me with respect.

I love LMN because they are all so sweet, and because their philanthropy hits so close to home. I have never met one I didn't like.

I love OP because, once again, their philanthropy is awesome, they have an amazing school spirit, a very strong sisterhood, and I had a roommate that belonged to them who was my all time favorite person.

I don't really have an opinion one way or the other of QR, but I can't wait to form one.

WOW that was LONG.

I did get my first choice, but I didn't have my heart set on going where I went. I think I would have been perfectly happy going through college as a sister in my second choice sorority.

I definately got my first choice!

I rushed Spring 03 (informal) and I loved everything about our ADPi chapter. The women were very welcoming, nice, down-to-earth, and I really felt like they were the ones for me. I felt like they were the perfect fit for me, and it turns out they were :)

I did, but in a roundabout way. My frosh year I was going to go through formal until I found out TPA wasn't recolonizing because I wanted to be in the penguin sorority. We dropped formal after they left because Gamma Phi was the only NPC left. Then over the summer, up until people started moving into the dorms, I was pretty convinced that I was going to rush one of our locals, just because they were the biggest and most "popular" in my GDI eyes. I thought the other local hazed too badly and didn't want to be in CERES. I changed my mind as soon as I saw a friend from my wing last year moving in - she rolled up with her Gamma Phi letters on her car and seemed so excited to see me again. I remembered the last year when all the girls in the locals that were pledging had to do stupid isht and carry big ugly pledge books and Cassie just got presents and was always SO excited to go to Gamma Phi activities. I told her I wanted to rush Gamma Phi instead of the local and she was incredibly excited. Now, I'm so glad I impulsively changed my mind!

I did get my first choice. (Kinda. I went through informal recritment during a colonization.)

Realistically, if I hadn't been offered a bid for Kappa, I would have likely not gone through any other recriutment. I had major reservations about going through formal recruitment as a junior.

However, I think I would cry pretty intensely about not getting my first choice initially, and then suck it up and really enjoy my second choice. That's just the way I do. I beleive I could probably be happy in a majority of the groups at my school.

I went through informal rush, got my bids, and made my decision. Yes, I got my first choice. I was thrilled to receive my bids. :D

Hey, girl! You sort of dropped off the face of the earth for a while after rush last year. I'm really happy to see that all of my fellow Madison chicas are in the right place-- Sugar & Spice in Tri Delta, BadgerRushee in Theta, and now you in Chi O! Yay!

I did get my first choice-- I watched the sororities for a year and then rushed Kappa alone during informal my sophomore year. It was the Kappas, my big sis especially, who made me see that Greek was a good thing to be, and that Kappa was the right place for me (look, a rhyme!). I know that if I hadn't gotten a Kappa bid, I'd still be independent.

Agreed. I often wonder what would have happened if I'd've gone through formal recruitment. Realistically, knowing what I know now about the rushing styles and the personalities of the groups on campus, I'm pretty sure that I'd either be a Kappa or one other (we have three), and I'm pretty sure I could've been happy there, too.

But hey, I truly believe that everything works out the way it's supposed to, and many things have happened since to show me that Kappa's the place for me!

Yes and no.

Tri Delta wasn't my favorite at first, but my favorite dropped me right before Pref. By the time I'd gone through the Pref ceremony at Tri Delta, though, I knew that I wanted to be there. I put it first on my Pref sheet and was absolutely thrilled when I got my bid from them on Bid Day.

I was a little upset about being cut by my favorite, but I quickly came to realize that I wouldn't have really fit in there the way I thought I would. Of all the sororities on my campus, Tri Delta is definitely the best fit for me.

Originally posted by erniegurl00
Originally posted by hopefulgreek
My situation was sorta like erniegurl's and hopefulgreek's, I did not rush as a freshman and I had my heart set on Kappa Alpha Theta prior to and during rush -- my best best best friend in the world was a Theta and I just loved that house...but sadly they dropped me right before Pref...I was pretty upset...but I tried not to let it crush me -- my 2nd choice all thru rush was Gamma Phi Beta...after Theta dropped me, Gamma Phi became my 1st choice -- you see, I finally was able to realize after Theta dropped me that I had a ton of friends in Gamma Phi who all were proud of me -- even being the ROTC cadet and band geek that I was!! Whereas at Theta I just basically had that one best friend and some acquaintances...Gamma Phi Beta wanted me all along and they were my first choice after Pref and to this day I am 100% certain I am where I belong!!! :D

Ironically, my real little sister is a Theta! Go figure!:D

Crystal!!!!!
 

Girl, your mailbox is full! Clean it so I can PM you!!!!!

LOL! Yes maam! (followed by a salute)

Re: well!
 

The EXACT same thing happened to me! It was close through rush between Chi O and "XYZ" but XYZ dropped me right before pref, but I knew by then that Chi O was for me! I suicided b/c I wasn't comfortable in the other house I preffed. I was the happiest person alive when I opened my bid card and saw Chi O! Now, looking at XYZ, they came off very differently during rush and I would not have been happy there. I am a Chi O hardcore!

I knew going into rush that I wanted either Pi Phi or Chi Omega, I didn't care. Pi Phi definately ended up being the place for me though, I preffed them! :) So yes!

Alpha Chi was the only group i would have fit in with and i knew that from the beginning.

i suicided and it worked out great!

I went to college knowing I would rush... a girl I greatly admired joined a sorority and told me about how wonderful it actually was, and not the awful stereotypes a lot of high schoolers hear. I tried checking out the sororities websites, but only Alpha Phi's was up, and at the time, it wasn't very complete.

I got to know an orientation counselor named Jenn through a mutual friend. When it was finally time for Meet the Greeks, I dragged two of my friends along with me and met all the sororities. Or rather, I should say, one. XYZ sorority talked my ear off and I didn't get to meet Alpha Phi. However, I was really excited to talk to them and seemed to fit in well with them. My roommate, who I didn't care much for, talked to XYZ for about a minute before she went and talked to Alpha Phi, because she found out that most of the cheerleading squad was Alpha Phi. When it was time to go inside, I ran into Jenn, sporting some Alpha Phi letters. During the actual presentations, XYZ made a somewhat snide comment that bothered me a little bit, but I was determined to give both groups a fair chance.

Throughout formal recruitment, I was pretty sure that I was going to go XYZ. My roommate had her mind set on Alpha Phi, and to be totally honest, I was rather glad, because I didn't care too much for my roommate. However, I was starting to even out a bit in that I met several nice Alpha Phis. I felt that I had more in common with XYZ because they were very into intramurals, and I'm a big soccer player, but I felt like I had more in common with Alpha Phis in terms of personalities.

Come Pref Night, I was invited to both. I was torn. I hoped that one of them wouldn't invite me back so that I wouldn't have to make a choice. My roommate of course, was only invited back to Alpha Phis. I went to Alpha Phi's first and was really touched by the Forget-Me-Not ceremony. Jenn, as it turned out, preffed me. I had a great time and honestly didn't want to leave. However, Jenn asked me a question that terrified me, "Honestly now, do you want to join Alpha Phi?" I pretty much stammered that I was on the fence, but after seeing how well I got along with everyone, I was beginning to feel at home with Alpha Phi. I didn't want to be cut because I wasn't sure, but I had to be honest. Then I went to XYZ's Pref, and the girl who I had been getting along with from XYZ preffed me and another girl, because they were so sure that I was going to suicide them. All I could think about during the entire ceremony was Alpha Phi. I realized that it was them that I wanted a bid from. When I filled out my Pref card that night, I ranked Alpha Phi as number 1 and XYZ as number 2. What now terrifies me is that I think I should have Intentional Single Preffed, or whatever the hell they call it. Some people look down on it, but when you know where you belong, you just know. I didn't realize how the bidding system actually worked, so if XYZ had put me number 1 on their list, I would have gotten a bid from them. Luckily, Alpha Phi actually put me as their number 1 because they knew how bad XYZ wanted me, and Jenn told them she knew I wanted Alpha Phi (well, I wish I had known as well! :o).

I sprinted to the SUB that day to get my Bid. I jumped around like a complete moron when I opened my bid and saw the Alpha Phi crest. My roommate also got a bid, but I figured I'd live (and what do you know, I did). Jenn still gives me a hard time about me not knowing where I belong, but I guess she has a right to, because she's my big sis. :D

what a fun thread! and its totally meanignful to me.

yes, i did get my first choice, and it only took a year and a half! i went through the first parties of formal rush at IU, in the fall of 2001. when i returned for the next rounds, i had been dropped by everyone but 2 houses. of course i had had a favorite, and of course, they werent one of the 2 that invited me back. i was bummed. i dropped out of rush. later in january i went to an informal party at one of the houses that had asked me back, but decided that even though they were super sweet girls, they werent me.

then there was the chance that tri sigma was coming to colonize at IU sometime soon, so i was working with the group of girls that was trying to head that up. all the while, i was still jealous every time i saw my favorite group on campus, and eventually accepted (grudgingly) that i wouldnt be one of them. but i worked with the tri sigma wanna be group through spring and fall of 2002 only to have it lead nowhere.

i ended up transferring to indiana state, and was pretty sure i was gonna be a DG because thats what my best friend/roommate was, and i already knew most of them. but then i found out that my *favorite* from IU Was doing informal as well, and i knew i owed it to myself to check them out. so i did. turned out i loved them at ISU as much as i had at IU, if not more so. and they loved me too! i am now a very very very proud member of alpha chi omega. it was a long haul, but every day i look at my lavaliere, or my history book, or talk to one of my sisters, i am reminded that the long trip was worth it :D

AX love and mine
roxydiva

*Edited for spelling and to add more details!

Yup, I ranked Theta first all the way through recruitment. I had heard good things about the house before rush, so I guess they were my first choice even before recruitment started. Then on the first day they were the last house I visited, and I felt like I was at home in the house talking to the sisters. Throughout recruitment there were two houses that I really liked, and I think I could have been happy at either, but I'm glad that I got my first choice!

Sarah

I never went through recruitment my freshman year because I didn't know alot about sororities, plus I was very shy and I figured that it wouldn't work out too well. So all my freshman year I saw girls in sororities and I wanted that, because I saw how close the sisters were and I was envious of that.

I thought about rushing my sophomore year, but I knew it is harder for sophomores to get bids at my school (though my freshman year roommate went through recruitment her soph year and went Gamma Phi Beta). So I thought that there would be no chance for me to be in a sorority as an undergrad, and that made me sad because I really wanted to be in a sorority. Then in November of my sophomore year (this past Nov) I heard that Delta Gamma was recolonizing at Auburn and I was so excited! I went through DG's recruitment and became a member of the colonizing pledge class!!

Even though I think it would have been fun to go through Recruitment, I know that Delta Gamma is my home! :D

LOL, I'm guessing that I'm the only one who got her first choice but ended up being unhappy with it. When I went through rush, I was in love with one group from day one, and I ended up getting a bid but I dropped out after a few weeks because it just wasn't for me and I didn't feel at home there.

Years later, I decided to pursue alumna initiation. Granted, it's a completely different experience, but after researching all of the NPC organizations, I decided on one organization and I am now a proud member.

So I guess you can say that I got my first choice twice!