I like a guy... he don't like me
 

Isn't there a statute of limitations on crushes lol?

I know girls that have had crushes for 4 and even 5 years... while sometimes I wonder about their sanity :) it does happen!!!

This is the current chapter in my life right now. I like this guy but he's such a player and community property (he's a ho). I don't know why I like him, but I just have a crush on him. He is definitely not the committment type right now. I have not been physical with him except for a kiss. I don't think he'll settle down until he's probably in his 30's or 40's. I will just keep my crush on him for now.

:( Annice

Well I olike a guy, and I have no idea how he feels about me. He's so confusing. One minutes he's the sweetest guy ever, and the next minute he's the biggest ass. He tells me how much he wants to see me and get together with me, but he stands me up. Then he apologizes for standing me up and makes plans to see me later and guess what he does...he stand me up again. When I confront him about he gives me a song and dance about how he has priorities, yeah and I don't because of course my entire life revolves around him:rolleyes: Then I won't here from him for days and then when I do he acts like nothing happened. And he's not hanging around because I'm putting out because he's not getting any, but he's always telling me how much he wants to see me. What is his problem? What does he want from me? And why am I still hanging on to this guy?

I think because I'm not putting out for him he'd rather get it from some of the easy girls that he picks up.

alright....girl chat time.........
 

ok....for the most part, guys suck. i'm sorry, but they do. there's a very small portion of them who just kick ass and are nice and funny and sweet and everything we want/need them to be. and don't get me wrong, i know chicks suck, too....but this is girl bitching time. :D

we've all liked our share of a-holes, we've all dated and been in loooove with our share of d*ck heads....but here's something i have learned the hard way: ultimately, it is up to you to determine how you are going to be treated.....lady pi phi, girl, you're letting him be an ass. save yourself and just let it go. i know easier said than done, but if you let him do it.....you can't really be mad at him. this is a harsh reality that i had to come to terms with...and it ain't easy b/c it is sooo much easier to blame the other person for being crappy...BUT they may not be that way if ppl didn't let them. does that make sense? so...drop him like the bad habit he is. doesn't seem like you're missing out on too much when he bails on dates.....

and PM_Mama00.....is there anything substantial to this italian stallion other than his looks? don't settle for a pretty boy when a big beautiful "average joe" may be your prince charming. :)

ok, the "dear diva" section is done for today.....hope you don't mind the advice intrusion, but it's just that i've been there crushin on a cutie when a much better guy was waiting on the sidelines--and i lost out. :( i have also dated several mean, hateful, but later kiss-ass guys who would make me mad and sad, etc....but at the end of the day, i had control of the situation. i could have gotten out, but i didn't. so who's more to blame for the girl's misery: the guy that is a dick, or the girl that has the power to stop it and doesn't? and even if there is no one right now....go out and have fun with your sisters!!!!!!!! "boys come and go, but...." ;)

-sigh- 361 reasons why kitso isn't one of those d*ckheads :cool:

AMEN sister! This is also the story of my life. For two years I have been dating this guy on and off. One minute he will bend over backwards for me and the next he's an ass. So me being the mature individual I am.... I wait a day or two to return his calls, and guess what he calls me more often, stops by my place. I think he in it for the thrill of the hunt, but why? The kicker to the whole thing is that last Friday he suggested that I move in with him! :eek: Really what kind of guy does this?

*end of rant* :)

one addicted to crack..................:p

I dont like you! Will you get over me?:confused:

Time wounds all heels or shit happens!

Get on with the life of living!!!;)

If you can live as Mature as I are, then that is an accoplishment!:D

Oh, maybe I misunderstood the post PM, Sooooory!:)

Not being sarcophigas. HEHE! Got to grt to bed soon>>>>>

TTFN!:)

I know I'm letting him treat me like this. And yeah, it is easier to blame him. It would be much easier to let him go if he were physically or verbally abusive towards me. I don't know why I am still hanging on. I've stopped calling him and I haven't heard from him in a few days, but if calls me again, I'm going to tell him. Because this is the last straw (well the last straw was a while ago but I'm a fool). I think I am hanging on to him because I don't think I'll find anyone else.

LOL Really he is a nice guy, I just get frustrated with him and his lack of time for me right now. I actually changed the subject when he said that, so I think he took as a very abrassive responce. I'm waiting till he's maybe a little less stressed (He's changing jobs right now) to talk to him about it. Like Lady Pi Phi he is never abusive in any manner. And I did let him go and he came back.


FYI He called as I was typing this, go figure!

Guys...I don't think we'll ever completely understand them :rolleyes:

Anyways, I think I have some stubborn issues...here's my situation:

I was friends with this guy for awhile, we dated, he treated me good (in a taking me out to the movies kind of way...not a getting me flowers and writing me poetry kind of way). Anyways, things with us just kind of stopped...I still liked him but I wasn't going to be the one to admit it to him when he seemed like he had a perfect life without me. So fast forward about a month...he gets back with his ex but is still super flirty with me...and had the audacity to call me this one night to try to get some booty...I was like "ok, listen you pathetic dirty little man whore...I am nobody's friend with benefits...and I am nobody's sloppy seconds...if you want to get back with your ex that is totally ok...just don't come knocking on my door because you lost any possible chance you had with me months ago"...and then I hung up the phone. Anyways, he was drunk the night he called me and thought he would get a piece, apologized, and we're still friends (but only because he apologized). Here's the thing...I still sort of like him and if he broke up with his ex and said some sweet things to me, I would probably get back with him....grrrrr I hate how I'm so stubborn on the outside but in reality, it would probably only take a hug and a few short sweet words for me to fall into his trap again :mad:


And there's another ex of mine who was sweet in the buying me flowers, writing me poems, playing with my hair 'til I fell asleep kind of way....and I miss him only because guys like him are hard to find and I felt like a total princess when I was with him. And the reason we broke up is beyond me...that makes it harder....and he also got back with his ex after me...:confused:
Maybe it's something I do....???

LadyPiPhi- I know exactly what you mean exept for me I am one of those insane girls that has hung on for about 4 1/2 years to this guy I have a crush on which does the exact things you described about making plans then standing me up then calling and acting like everything is okay. And the thing is he is a great friend I guess.. I mean he has always been there when I needed him I guess he just sucks at the being the guy I like.

For example he called me the other morning at 3am drunk and of course he comes over. Well to make a long story short I went to the bathroom and he just left. Didn't say bye or anything. What is wrong with him? Wait what is wrong with me to keep letting him do this to me....

I really need to get rid of this one!!

why do we really torture ourselves like this???? i am/ was in a terribly screwed up relationship...not bc our relationship was bad...it was awesome, but it was his family. long story short, his family wanted him to have an arranged marriage (not to me bc i am not indian) to some girl they picked for him in india. he said over and over and over that he would never go through with it. he couldn't tell them about me, even tho he had been planning our wedding! he even said that he would rather not get married at all bc he didn't want to hurt his family by saying he wanted to marry me....and he didn't want to marry some chic they picked for him.....so in feb., he went to india (and swore up and down that it wasn't bc his parents were going to find him a bride. i even told him that i didn't believe him, but that i was going to say i did, so that we could stop arguing about it) and came back engaged. i am mostly over the relationship part, but he was my best friend for the past 10 years!!!! holy canoli, i can't and don't want to give that up, too. but then i think would i ever let a best friend treat me this way...the answer is always no. so why is it that i want to call him? and why when he does call me, i always answer...even tho i have caller id and i know that it only makes things worse? if anyone can figure out why we do these crazy things to ourselves, please let me know. i am not sure how much more i could take of this.

and pm-mama, if he is perfect in every way, except one...then he isn't perfect at all. there is someone who is really perfect out there. that is my daily mantra and it has really helped!

ok, girls are notorious for everything thats been said here, girls are worse than guys when it comes to liking someone but they dont like you, and acting one way, then the next minute acting another...

Pinky - Not to give you unsolicited advice...okay, I will give you some unsolicited advice :D

That boy needs to grow a set of balls and you can and will find someone better than him!


All you college sweeties: Listen to me 'cause I'm old and I've been "out there" in the "real world"! The way things are in college is not the way they are out here (unless you live/work in Washington, DC, which most folks don't) so just hold tight until you graduate and I promise things will improve greatly!!!

whenever I have guy troubles I always think of a quote I once heard... "Love isn't about finding the perfect person. It's about seeing an imperfect person perfectly." and that always makes me remember that there is someone out there that won't give me the crap that the current guy is giving me... and it helps me to get past all the not so great people and look to the future...

Well I don't date guys for the very reason that you girl complain about lol ;) Which makes my life much easier.

But I will say this. Figure out what good relationship skills are, in terms of consistent actions. Something both defineable and quantifiable. Then develop those consciously. Otherwise you will always be at the mercy of someone else to make you happy or to make your relationship happy.

There are a lot of good people in the world that have bad relationships because they and/or their partner lack good relationship skills (which are different things than what you think you learned in high school). And the worse part is that many people wallow their entire lives in lameness because they don't know the difference.

I'm sorry about how conceited this may sound, but I just don't know how else to say it.

I had a couple of huge, hopeless crushes in junior high school that went on for a couple of years, but by the time I got to my junior year in high school, I was ready to play -- and had a great time the rest of high school and college. Lots of girls. Lots of dates. Lots of fun. It sort of made up for those heart-wrenching unrequited "(puppy) loves."

Unfortunately, and not by choice, I left some very unhappy young ladies behind. At least four of them, whom I had dated casually or just a couple of times in high school, came to Ohio University, at least partially, because I was there.

While I tried very hard to be nice and considerate and friendly, I just wasn't interested in dating them -- let alone any kind of long (or short) term relationship. I wasn't trying to dump on anyone -- I had just moved on. We just didn't click anymore.

It was also about that time that I met the woman I later married. She put a pretty healthy dent in my dating -- but didn't stop it completely for a couple of years.

The point to this, if there is one, might be that not all college guys are out to dump on women -- sometimes it appears that way because we have (had) our own interests -- and the two sets of interests don't always intersect.

That doesn't make things any easier -- but as the old cliche goes, "It takes two to tango." Or Tangle.

If one of the two isn't interested, it's nearly hopeless. Not always. But usually. And often, time to move on.

DeltaAlum Stop! you are giving away secrets . . .! WE might act badly, but its kind of nice if a girl will make herself easy and available for very little effort on our parts isn't it? LOL

But yeah, essentially DeltaAlum is entirely correct. If we were really into you we wouldn't be giving you the problems you are posting about. Bottom line.

Indifference from a guy means he doesn't like you much.

Some advice that I just received recently is "Don't make him your priority when your his option". So, I'm going to try my hardest to not think about him, because I bet that he's not thinking about me.

Annice :) So smile (if you can ladies) there are guys out there for us.

Phi Sigma Sigma

If someone doesn't want you the way you want them . . . and you are having emotional issues with just being a booty call . . . you should cut them out of your life completely. Otherwise you are just going to keep getting hurt.

Stop dialing them, call block their number. Don't return messages. It makes it easier to get over someone.

PM,

On the other hand, if a guy doesn't like you, he clearly has no taste. Have a great day.

I had/have a crush for 4 years... *sigh*

I like a guy right now... well I did... hes in a fraternity (duh) and hes dumb dumb dumb dumb!

A wise woman said:

If you love someone set them free,
If they don't come back,
Hunt them down and kill them . . .


;)

lmao......yay for psychotic women quotes!

PM...girl, let things come naturally. don't go running to his friends that you like him so they go run tell him and then you sit anxiously awaiting for him to rent a white horse and sweep you away. play it coooooool, smooooooth...yes, flirt. yes, show interest! be cute, be smart, be funny, be coy......be mysterious. ;) don't always give him the satisfaction of your attention (not saying you are on him like a moth on a bug light, but jus'sayin)...his friends are cool? SUPER! be cool with his friends, and then instead of his friends telling him you like him, they will be like, "YO! PM is super cool.....we like her....she's KEEN!!" :) then, if his mind isn't already thinkin about ya, that will start him wondering about how "cool" and "keen" you really are! let him make the first move.....yes, it's hard to be patient. but half the fun is the challenge and the chase, right? let him chase you!!!--it's sooo much better that way...small, but very sufficient, doses of attention from you=big, fun doses of attention from him. hard to get, girl....play hard to get! :D

/telling chick secrets of how to snag a man ;)

I can totally relate. I feel in love with this guy. We started seeing each other and we would be together all day everyday. We kicked it so much. His whole family thinks we're together. He tells me he loves me, but he doesnt' want a girlfriend...ok i could deal with that at first, but now he's turned crazy. One minute its boo i love you, then its shut the f*ck up!!! Then it's i wanna be with you then its i'm seeing 5 other girls...this guy is nutz, but i was a bigger nut for puttin up with it. So i had to let go and realized i loved a guy that didn't give a shit about me...so i stopped talkin to him:( but i know its for the best:D

see?!? it can be done!!! way to go!!! :D

thank u thank u
its really hard though cuz i still see him on campus and i see all his new girls and they dont know about each other and i know about them all i just wanna blurt out, "HEY HE'S A LYING JERK DON'T BELIEVE ANYTHING HE TELLS YOU", while slashing his tires, but i'm really sensitive and the thought of handcuffs restrain me ;) lol

is it illegal to print out flyers with a jerk's face, name, and warning label on it and place it all over campus? would that be considered slander....even if it's all TRUE???

i just think of that designing women episode where mary jo got screwed over by that guy who tried to date her several times, and when she finally caved in, after a few dates he was out....and then all those women had formed a support group over him. so then she got on that show bernice was hosting and held up his picture screaming, "if you see this man, RUN!" such inspiration.......so tempted to do it......

mine would read:
<idiot's name>
in the air force
he screwed me, he will screw you, too
he is married, with a baby....you won't find this out through him!!!

lol i got one i got one

have u seen this guy???
<picture>
he will lie to you, lead u on, don't believe anything he says, cuz what he tells you, he's telling her too. he's having sex with about 5 girls right now, so if u love your life, don't lay down with him.


ohh oohh what if we do them anonymously *spell check* and if we dont put our names on it, we can't get arrested!!!

sa-WEET!!!! sounds like a plan!!! i've got so many pics of that ass hole i can post him from all angles, too!!! BWAHAHA!!!!

so, updated flyer reads:
<idiot's name>
<idiot's picture(s)>
hobbies: air force, screwin ppl, tryin to be a playa, lying, lying, lying, cheating, lying, and...yeah, lying
he is married, with a kid.....and none of this info would you have found out through him the easy way/by yourself!
he will appear charming
he will appear handsome
he will appear caring, understanding, and sincere
he will deceive you in all of this
he screwed me, and he will screw you, too
ARM YOURSELF THROUGH THE POWER OF SELF-PREVENTION!!!!!

*courtesy of the angry ex girlfriend brigade

yo, have you asked him out for just the 2 of you to hang out and chill......be subtle when you do let the cat out of the bag, so to speak :D