Skinny people (Normal girls represent!)
 

So Im reading through Glamour and Im walking on campus and Im sorry, but I feel really fat. I know Im not, but the fact that theyre showing these size 0 girls in magazines now and then when they show "plus size" girls theyre wearing a size 13 (my size, a perfect non-plus size) or they are an EXTREME plus size, or they just have them standing next to the size 0 which can make anyone look like a whale.

Now... I just want the normal girls to represent... and boo to the skinny people... aka those girls who fit into sizes under a size 9!

My name is Alison, I look like a girl. I have boobs, a ghetto booty and hips. Guys arent afraid that Ill break when they hug me and I wear a size 13.

:)

When I was in high school I could fit into a size 0...these days I might be able to get one of my arms into a size 0. I usually wear a size 7 or 9 (depending upon the cut) and I wouldn't consider myself skinny or overweight...I consider myself just right. If I could stay this size for the rest of my life I would be perfectly happy.

Don't boo all the skinny people...some of them can't help it. Believe me I didn't break the 100 pound mark until I was around 22 years old!

Boo the skinny people who ruin their lives trying to be skinny!

Now THIS is more like it. I have to say, as a person who wears a size 4 and does not make any effort to be skinny, I get a little offended by all the haters out there. I have never made any attempt at all to be skinny, I just always have been. I was a size 2 till my freshman year of college, then I started birth control pills and gained about 10 lbs. I admit, I was WAY too skinny before, but now I'm pretty happy with myself and I think I look healthy. Yeah, I wish I wasn't as flat as I am (but I'm not totally flat!) but yeah... don't hate skinny people, just say no to the ones who starve themselves TRYING to be skinny! :p

Don't believe in the hype, being skinny isn't all that. Like AOX81 said, some can't help it, I eat and eat, yet it is so hard to gain weight. There's a dark side to being thin: a lot of guys only like you just because of it and you're a walking target w/ girls. It can also get your a$$ beat when you're young. :D

*edited* as I typed that there was a chick on the Early Show with a book titled "Skinny People are Evil" :rolleyes:

I am anywhere between a 7/8 and a 10. I think I look normal, although I have some weight issues. I would like to get down to a full fledged 7/8. I'm working out this summer, but we'll see how that goes... LOL, I definately won't mind staying this size for the rest of my life though.

OK Ali...

you woulda been hating me on campus....cause I weighed like 30+ pounds less than I do now. and I did NOTHING to maintain that. I was a 7 dress, 9 jeans cause the BOOTY has always been there. now I am not a 7 or 9. ;)

so I will tell you from experience...some of those gals walking around looking all skinny will come face to face w/ Mr. Metabolism eventually. and then it sucks cause you haven't learned to have healthy habits...sorta like playing piano by ear and not being able to read music.

if you are skinny, people will talk bad about you
if you are heavy, people will talk bad about you
regardless of how you look, people will always make an opinion about your looks. this is when you need to find your own comfort level of how you think you should look. yes, some people have a tendancy to go overboard with anorexia or bulimia, but those are a different class of people when it comes to weight issues.

I am a size 3/4. I eat correctly, I workout regularly, and I know when to have fun. But I am a small girl. I am only 5'2" and I don't have much room to gain weight. Despite my size, I have hips, a booty, and a nice set of boobs. I have a good body perception of myself and I don't judge others. If you wanna weigh 300 pounds and put your body through hell, that's your decision. I instead want to thank my body for everything it has helped me do, and I reward it by working out and eating healthy. If you are comfortable in your own skin, that's all that matters. Not everyone can look like Jennifer Anniston and Halle Berry. But just think, those actresses get paid to look beautiful. They have people who work them out, and make them food. I could look that way too if I had their livestyle!

edited to remove my offensive comment

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I just looked at your pictures. You are not fat at all!!! In fact, you are a very attractive girl. :)

(Maybe I'm just giving everyone a chance to drink, but.....)

Have you ever heard the comedienne that says, "Skinny women are evil and need to be destroyed!!" I think she's on the Parkers.

It should be changed to "Anorexic women" though. :p

Monique, lol. Yeah.

Dang y'all, why people gotta get bitter? lol.

I agree that people should not be hated because they may have high metabolism or something. I am 5'8, 131. I used to be very athletic and worked out like 3 times a day. Now I don't really do anything but my weight doesn't really fluctuate.

You know, for the people who hate on skinny girls, just think...it will probably catch up with us when we turn like 35 and we will be beached whales.

Also, I don't really think anyone should base their own self-worth on what magazines call beauty. People of all shapes and sizes can be beautiful, it is just a matter of how you carry yourself.

edited cause my spelling is arse.

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I just wanted to say how awesome I think this post is. It takes GUTS to be able to say you're happy with yourself no matter what size you are, and I totally respect that.

After reading everyone else's, I think I'm going to go start my own thread - Short people (tall girls represent!) - because all of you are like 5'2!!! And I feel like Amazon girl, clocking in at 5'9.

Wonderful point. Use mags for tools, not as a validation of yourself. When I was in my 20s, I was in the 130 range. I'm bigger than that now, but I never felt I was "fat."

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Thank you, but of course no one here thinks so and Im not happy with the way I look at all... and I try to do something about it... *sigh* nothing works. I just want to be able to find jeans that fit, not have to worry about my stomach sticking out and actually be able to wear a bikini... last time I wore a bikini was when I was like 6...

Edited to say: At times Im happy with how I am, but I just wish I could lose about 20 lbs. Im the heaviest one in my family. My DAD weighs less than I do!

Guys think
 

You girls should all take into account how guys view you.

-Rudey
--Unless you don't want a guy...or maybe you want a guy who cares about personality or something more ;)

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No kidding! I'm 5'8 (which still isn't THAT tall), and I always wanted to be shorter. But it was a pain if the guy I liked was any shorter than like 5'10... I put on a pair of heels and we're the same height! Luckily my boyfriend now is almost 6'.

Posts like these frustrate me. She asked for support from other "normal sized" people . . . not for a bunch of skinny people to come back and complain about how people always make fun of them because you're skinny.

I don't see how people can equate the two. I think everybody is aware that slimness is valued over largeness in our culture, and when somebody makes fun of you because you're "too skinny," it's because they're jealous (unless you legitimately ARE unhealthily skinny, in which case they're probably worried about you) . . . it's not derisive like when somebody calls you "too fat." If you'd ever been fat, or even just "not skinny," or even just studied weight issues with any seriousness, you would realize the difference immediately. So it really annoys me when people say, "Making fun of me because I'm skinny is no different than making fun of somebody because they're fat." Because . . . it is completely different. The teasing may be the same, but the motive for the teasing is different. And the outcome is different. I've never heard of anybody wanting (or trying!) to kill themselves because people always tease them for being skinny. The worst that happens is that they get insecure about their bodies. Unfortunately, overweight girls who are teased a lot, especially in middle and early high school, are often suicidal.

In our culture, being fat is often equated with being worthless. This is NEVER the case with being skinny. Skinny is just . . . skinny.

If you want to make a "skinny people represent" thread somewhere on the board, go for it. There's nothing wrong with that, and there's nothing wrong with being skinnny . . . But come on, was it really appropriate to respond to this post with "I'm so skinny, and I hate it when people make fun of me"? I don't think so.

Sugar, that was one classy post.

As for me, I'm bigger. I feel I'm past the point that no matter how comfortable I am in my skin, I need to lose weight for my health.

Do I hate skinny people?

No.

Do I wish I could live and eat like they do and still be thin?

Yeah. That would be nice.

When someone teases someone for being thin, it's usually because they're at least somewhat jealous, and it's almost always done at some level of jest.

When someone teases someone for being fat or not thin, it's usually just to be mean, and it's almost never joking.

I for one think it's gross that models are a size 0 and we're supposed to decide to buy outfits that they wear, because they look good on them, but when we go to try on the outfits, it doesn't even look like the same clothes.

I don't have a problem with thin people, but half of the women in America wear above a size 14. People in our media should reflect the majority, not the minority. It's really hard for anyone over a size 10 to identify with TV and models, because they just look like a different species from us.

You all know (and for those who don't know, search for the gastric bypass thread) of my struggles.

I've never teased or hated thin people. I just hate the bias and hatred towards the "un-thin"...

I'm also 6' tall, so add that to the mix and I was both HUGE and invisible, yet dying to be invisible for simply "fitting in"....

I'm not a "beached whale" anymore, as someone so eloquently put it :rolleyes:, and I still feel the sting and pain of the abuse I put up with for years....

Yeah, it's not the same type of teasing...Especially in our society...
It can feel the same and I will not ever diminish the feelings that may linger over the teasing you may have endured, but the long term effects and outcomes are usually radically different....

I think this point brings up something really valid & interesting- girls/women are judged on their bodies and appearance FIRST.
I haven't seen a single male come on this thread & say he's too skinny, fat, tall, short, etc. In fact, Rudey is the only male who's responded so far & his point was great, IMO.

We all know if we are living healthy lifestyles or not. I could eat better than I do, and definately need to work out more. But even when I am working out regularly, I'm an average sized person. I'm never going to be a size 6. And I really don't care as long as I'm healthy. We all know when we see someone who's overweight to the point of it being a health issue or who's too skinny- the kind where their face is drawn & they look tired & obviosly aren't in the best of health. It really bothers me to see women so hung up on their appearance for the wrong reasons. Take care of yourself.. yes. That includes mind, body & spirit. It does not mean starve yourself.

I have been skinny, and then I went to college and became chubby. Since college I lost the weight, lost too much weight, gained it back, gained too much. This year I decided to get into shape and be fit and healthy. I am at a healthy weight for my height, and I am not going to worry about it anymore. :)

Question:

Who do you think judges women more harshly: MEN or OTHER WOMEN?

Other women, definately.

When I was 16, I was 5'8"(still am) and 110 pounds. Way too skinny...but I ate all the time and never worked out. Then good ol' metabolism caught up with me and now I'm 135. It's a good weight for me. But at times I do feel like a heifer just because 25 pounds in 5 years is a lot. But I was way too thin in H.S. I'm pretty comfortable with how much I weigh now, but I do really need to exercise just to tone up not necessarily to lose weight.

I think that every girl/woman has some sort of body issues just because of the media and how they push the idea that if you wear over a size 6 you should just crawl into a hole and die. Thankfully though, most of the women are smart enough to see that this is major b.s. and have learned that they're perfect the way they are and to love themselves (for the most part at least :) ).

maybe it's me, but i'd love to just be a size 10, it seems like the perfect number for me personally and for a lot of people at a decent weight they are a size 10.

i won't reveal my size cuz i'm not that comfortable about it, but i wasn't as big as i was when i first came to college so that makes me happy.

i used to be a girl jealous of all the size zero girls cuz well nice clothes are in abundance since not many girls wear 'zero' but not actually seeing how boney and unhealthy they look, i'd prefer my body anyday.

so if you have some chub on you i'm happy cuz at least i know you are able to eat every night and not starve!

I see your point, and yes, non-skinny women are definitely picked on more as a whole than skinny women are. That doesn't make it any less offensive to hear people say things against women who *aren't* above a size 6, especially those of us who do not TRY to be that way! Honestly I don't think this entire topic is appropriate if you want to say our responses are inappropriate. And ya know what? I'm kinda jealous of you all who do have boobs and who do have a butt! HELLO, I'm Puerto Rican and I am sitting here wondering where my J-Lo ghetto booty is!!! Has anybody seen it??? :p ;)

Everybody just be happy with who you are, because ANY size can be beautiful! And there are a hell of a lot of guys out there who prefer women with meat on their bones! :)

This is exactly the kind of comment that makes normal-to-plus size people pissed off. It sucks that some people have to work so hard to maintain their weight and others can eat anything and not gain a pound. AngelPhiSig, if you want to "boo" to something, "boo" to that.

I don't know why people think this just applies to women. Men get just as chastised and shunned for their weight as much. And this whole "women don't care as much about looks as men do" is crap too.

Yes, but let's face it...it's more acceptable for guys to be big, "teddy bear" types than for women to be heavy, or even just packing on extra pounds.

It's funny - even when I was at my heaviest, I never hated on skinny folks. I think what's key is that you feel comfortable in your own skin and know without a doubt that you are FIERCE, no matter if you're a size 0 or a size 30.

(Shoot, can't tell me anything - I know I'm cute!) ;)

I think society is more harder on short guys than heavy guys.

Ok, seriously. No one wants to hear about how much it sucks to have a small ass, or how you can eat and eat and eat and not gain a pound.

Yes, it makes people jealous, but no it doesn't make people admire you. It just makes you annoying and smug.

Life is difficult if you are overweight whether you are a man or a woman. I do think that the standards are ridiculously high for a woman. I mean that a man can be twenty pounds over his ideal weight and society doesn't judge them as harshly as a woman who is twenty pounds over her ideal weight. I can attest to this as a woman who has weighed twenty pounds more than I do now.

Exactly

I would agree with that, unless the guy is unattractive and heavy...then he's really screwed.

Yeah, maybe it's just my chapter. I don't seem to get it as much as I do from them and my family.

Yup. I could eat the recommended 2,000 calories a day and I would gain a lot of weight.

I can eat 1,500 calories a day and maintain status quo.

To lose weight I have to limit to at least 1,200 or 1,000 calories.

So hearing thin people talk about how they can eat 5,000 calories a day makes me sick, and really makes me not want to talk to them.

Because people rib you for being thin does not mean you identify with people who get made fun of for being overweight.

People don't yell "Hey skinny girl!" out of their car windows at thin people on the street.

But people do yell "Hey fatty!" out their window at me at least 3 times a week.

So no, your being a size 2 and having friends joke with you about your thinness does not help you identify with people who are overweight. It doesn't make people prejudiced against you. It doesn't make people think you're disgusting.

So really, stop trying to make like you identify with people that are above size 10.

Damn.

What you're going through isn't hardship.

Me working out six days a week and eating a strict diet, but still having people assume I'm a lazy twinkie eater is hardship.

I've never been actually fat, but I struggled with anorexia in high school, and let me tell you something -- being teased for being skinny is NEVER as mean-spirited or as prevalent as being teased for being fat, and the outcome is almost never the same. I know so many girls who were seriously scarred for being called fat when they were younger -- even if they weren't fat at all, they came to believe it. I don't know a single girl who has ever been seriously affected by jokes about her slimness. Is it a mean thing to call someone anorexic when they're not? Sure. But does it have anywhere near the long-term ramifications or the spitefulness of being teased because you're fat? No. Not even close.

Every time a skinny person complains about how they "can't gain weight," I get annoyed, and I know I'm not the only one. To me, that's like celebrities who complain about how "fame isn't all it's cracked up to be." Come on . . . a million people would kill to be in your place -- why the hell are you complaining? It's the same thing with really skinny girls. So you can't gain weight? So what. Nobody out there is calling you "a beached whale." Do people stare disapprovingly at you when you eat in public? Can you not shop in Banana Republic and Express because they don't carry your size? Do you have perfect strangers come up to you and say, "You should be ashamed of yourself"? Give me a break. The worst thing people say to skinny girls (and trust me, I've been there) is "you look anorexic" or "you're way too bony" -- both of which are looks that are emulated in the world of fashion, music, movies, and TV.

I said responding to her thread that way was inappropriate because it was uncalled for. Like I said before, if you're going to complain about how you're too skinny and you can't gain weight, that's fine. Most girls, even the size 0s and 2s, have something they hate about their bodies. That's perfectly legitimate. But complain about it in a different post, because that's not what this one is about. It is really frustrating to be upset about your weight and then read a bunch of complaints from skinny girls who say things like "Wah wah, I have no hips. I eat and eat and eat but I don't gain a pound! I weight exactly as much as most girls would kill to weigh and I'm still not happy!" I'm not saying that's not necessarily a legitimate complaint -- maybe you ARE too skinny. But it's not what girls who are above a size 10 (or for some girls, above a size 6 or even a 4) want to hear.

My best friend is the perfect example of someone who is disgustingly skinny, eats as much as she wants, but cannot gain weight. Unlike people who would die to look like her, she is depressed about being that way. When we were in high school she was called down to see a counselor all the time b/c the school administrators were convinced that she was anorexic. From being friends with her for so long, I know that there are skinny people out there who are just as unhappy with their weight as heavier people are.

funny story about her though: we were at the bar one night and she was talking to this guy. He was like can I buy you a shot, a drink, or a hamburger?

OMG is that the sad truth. I excerise every day and have changed my diet somewhat and I'm still overwight, and everyone still thinks I'm "ummotivated".

It's not cool when automatically you're blamed when food is gone, or when everyone else is getting seconds and you're the only one who's called on it for doing so, or when the first thing out of your relative's mouthes is "have you eaten yet?" (although that may be a Filipino thing), or when you have to swim with a shirt on.

I agree, sometimes the way you carry yourself (no pun intended) can overshadow (again, no pun intended) your weight when it comes to the opposite sex, but it doesn't make your life any easier. Insults, though not neccesarily mean-spirited, hurt just a little bit more because you're such an easy target and you get it just a little bit more.

All I'm saying is, I'm pretty sure a waif doesn't get the same amount and same stength of insults that someone with a gut does.