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I have a question. Say you like a girl, but are in a position of um...authority not really the right word, but sort of. A "higher" position than her. Is it okay to go after her. Would it make things weird at work?

It's time you pulled the plug. Go after her.

All I have to say is never date anybody you work with.

Ditto.

One of my favorite mottos:

"Never get your meat where you get your bread."

lol.

sometimes you get lucky. i dated my current guy while we worked together up to eight hours a day five days a week. we worked together for over a year. that was in addition to the large amount of time we spent together outside of work. overexposure? maybe. we just really enjoy each other.

That's the most sound advise I've ever heard. Thank you.

Haha sounds like something my dad says, though his is a little vulgar...he has always stressed to me and my bro "don't sh*t where you eat" For a long time I didn't get it but, yea, makes sense now. :) I agree though, dating someone you work with never seems to be a good idea. :o

I could make things weird at work if she doesn't like you or you broke up. My advice is to follow your heart wherever it takes you. :)

I thought it was "never dip your pen in the company ink." Hmm, well whatever motto you use, that's one side of the situation.

Second side, more important, is this worth the trouble? Do you think it will work? If it backfires, does your current working relationship become too difficult for you two to handle?

If you want her, go get her, don't let anyone tell you what to do. If it doesn't work, at least you tried. Good luck!

If you think it'll work out then go for it... if not then just be sure your friendship is alerady good enough that it won't make it weird.

Hey, if you gotta sleep your way to the top, you gotta do what you gotta do man.

Anywa,s time for another glass of whiskey.

If you think you can both be adults about it after you break up, and not let it affect the work situation, then go for it. I don't think there's any reason to avoid workplace relationships if you can both handle the ramifications professionally.

This is particularly true if she is in your direct "chain of command," so to speak.

There is additional exposure to you if/when you break up. If it's acrimonious, she could claim harassment and make it very uncomfortable for you.

I know of a number of office romances that have worked out very well, but they do come with much more than usual baggage to deal with.

LOL, I love that!

I wouldn't do it. It complicates things. If she's not into you, then it could be sexual harrassment. If she is into you, it causes work pressure and gossip starts. If you hook up and break up, there's a lot of tension!

watch out for interoffice relationships! the company i used to work for had rules in place. it was NOT ok for someone in a supervisory position to date someone in a non supervisory position. it was even frowned upon if people were in different departments.

of course, it does happen...and i know of 2 couples who are already married....and one who is about to get engaged. i also know of some couples who have had some less exciting endings. and some who have had explosive endings which caused riffs in the department.

I wouldn't do it - it could very easily lead to trouble.

A company I used to work for had a policy that relationships were ok as long as neither partner was in the other's chain of command. If you were in different departments, or if you were in the same department and at the same rank, that was fine. If that changed (e.g. you were in the same department and one of you was up for a promotion) the couple had to choose which one of them would quit. Just think of the drama that would introduce into a relationship...!

I think it's "Never dip your wick in the company ink." ;)

just be careful whatever you decide.

maybe go out in a big group and just become friends. you'll know later on whether the feelings you have are for real and might save some embarrasment and bad feelings