So you think you're mature, huh?
 

Judging from all of the things that made you mad during the past week, are you mature?

Wow. This is a really good question. OA, if you're going to be posting threads that make me look w/i myself, I'ma hafta stop comin' over here. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

But really, wow, in the last 7 days, I only got mad (really mad, like for real) once. And that was yesterday. And it only lasted for about 30 mins. I would have to say yes, I am mature. [Disclaimer: This does not, and should not, include road rage. That is an illness. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif]

If you had asked this question about a year or so ago, I would have had to say no. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/redface.gif

I got mad over sumptin' wit my lady; and I have to admit I was being selfish. I realize that then; and I didn't stop because I felt justified in doing so. I compromised. So, I guess that makes me almost mature?

I LIKE COCO http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

I've gotten mad twice since Sunday. I would say my response was mature. I've grown a lot in the last 10 years, seeing the most improvement the last 5 years.
I use to be a fighter, no-nonsense, curse you out type. Now 90% of the time I bite my tongue, turn the other cheek, most importantly I pray a lot.
The internet thing, receiving hate email set me off, but I ignored it. A supervisor wrote me un yesterday, again, I bit my tongue.

Yeah, I'd say I'm mature because I don't get mad very often. This past week I've been pissed off, extremely annoyed, agitated, and bothered. But, I wouldn't say that I was mad. When I'm really mad, I want to smack the taste out of someone's mouth. Not many things make me want to do that, so I would say that I am very mature.

OA,
You are more mature than most people, to even compromise. Sometimes that is the hardest think to do. Last week I was immature in my attempt to find a boyfriend because I was lonely and a little mad that I was alone. However, with the help of some mature sisterfriends, I got over it. I guess I am still growing and learning. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif But to answer your question, I do think I'm mature, http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif because years ago I wouldn't have listened to anyone's advice. I thought I knew it all back then. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I'm pissed everyday! My life is very stressful but I deal with the ups and downs. I can't say that I'm inmature but will add that there are areas that I can always improve upon. For example, when one of my employees asks a questions he or she already knows the answer and I just look at them without answering or when my girlfriend says she will be over at *)):00 and I don't dress because she is always late and I don't won'd to act as if I'm pissed about waiting for her.

it all depends on the time of month. lol

Professor, You probably should get a full body message to release some of that tension, they are so relaxing. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif As for your co-workers, try your best to think you don't have to go home with these people or ignore them, it always works for me. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif.
Conskeeted19, I agree with you on that time of the month thing. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I know that's right!! LOL. Since we're only judging from the past week, yes. But overall, I could use quite a bit more emotional maturity--I am cool in every other category (like I know how to take care of myself and pay my own bills http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif )

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"If there is no struggle, there is no progress"--Frederick Douglass

I know that's right!! LOL. Since we're only judging from the past week, yes. But overall, I could use quite a bit more emotional maturity--I am cool in every other category (like I know how to take care of myself and pay my own bills http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif )

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"If there is no struggle, there is no progress"--Frederick Douglass

yes and no...i am mature in the since that i can handle pretty much any situation with a level of tact befitting a woman...but not mature in the since that some people measure maturity...i.e. being docile and repressive vs. speaking your mind at any given time, truthfully, as a child does and handling your business when you need to...so some would call that immaturity...i consider it maturity...so yes...i am mature...


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[This message has been edited by CelestialBlu1 (edited August 12, 2001).]

I'm normally described as cool, calm, and collect. I can normally go through a storm and no one know of it except those closest to me.

I'll be praying my way through and just ask that the Lord will prevent me from getting unprofessional and loud with people...especialy dem coloreds. I'll say that I'm mature because I will remain composed and professional, which is truly growth for me given my former hot-headedness.

I've had to get plain with some people in the past week or so, but have remained poised and dignified. Cause my life is too precious to stress at the drop of a dime.


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I will bless the Lord at ALL times His praise shall continually be in my mouth. (Psalms 34:1, KJV)

[This message has been edited by nikki25 (edited August 06, 2001).]

I feel you Professor. I get tired of people who say things to me that are uncalled for or ask questions they already know the answer to. In times pass I would "cuss" them out but in recent years I have learned to not to respond to ignorance. So to "borrow" the words of one of GC's well-known moderators, I say "no comment." http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I have a mature personality by nature...

But as far as my anger-management...It depends on WHO makes me angry.

i.e. I will argue with my man, profusely... but at some point (anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour) into the "discussion" I can stop -- regroup and then resolve (if he's willing) the issue. That process used to take anywhere from a day to a week to a month, depending on the issue... Ugggghh

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when ANYONE ELSE pisses me off... I don't have to say, do, respond very much b/c 2 minutes later I usually dont care... I can even continue to deal with idiots in "close" situations... and they may know they irritate me, but they can still trust/work with me. I can remain a pleasant person. People apologize to me a lot when they do piss me off because I continue to be nice to them.

IMHO I am less mature with my man b/c I am still working on my relationship management skills... It's like dayuuuum, I almost expect other people to be stupid asses, but I chose to "date" you b/c I felt you were on a different plane... but people are going to be people. I know I have no right to expect near-perfection from him, hell I can't provie that!!

But I would say I am fair to middlin' concerning my anger-management maturity 'cept with my man.

I didn't get upset in the past week.

The last time I did was because of the actions of someone else. I try to deal with issues in a methodical manner.

When something that is not really important to me gets me upset, I try to forget about it. It's not worth the energy. For example, the head of the PhD programs keeps asking me personal questions and keeps hinting at what her expectations of me are (and that I am not living up to them). I got upset about it, but couldn't do anything about it. Besides, she's bitter, has no life, and pisses everyone off. Plus, my advisor (chair of the dept.) supports me. I'm at a point in the program where she has no power over what I do next. She's inconsequential, so I let it go.

When something that is important gets me upset, I try to work through it without letting my emotions take over. I've realized that reacting to something out of anger often leads to more problems.

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I'm doing a really good job of managing my anger. In that respect, I feel that I am maturing. However, people and their horrible driving were pissing me off.

I agree with that, and new noisy neighbors really pressed my immaturity button this weekend! So there is room for growth-even though I held back from confronting them in person! and let my landlord deal with them:mad: