If you could go back in time you would...
 

I'll start off this thread. I dont mean it to be a regret thread, but ALL of us at one time or another wish we wouldda done one thing differently.

I wouldda:

1. Played HS Football. I was big enough, and lived it. I shoulda done it.
2. Treated Clarissa better. She didnt deserve what I gave her.
3. Told me dad I loved him before he died
4. Taken AND passed more classes as a freshman.
5. Seriously examined who I was at 20, instead of 25.
6. Told AWW to phuck themselves back in the day.
7. Seen AM and AD and CK for who they were. And accepted it.
8. Made mysef a priority instead of the chapter. Yeah, I kept it open, but at a cost I'll never be able to repay to myself.
9. Worked out in HS.
10. Made my mom move us downstate in HS so I could have had the educational advantages the rest of the kids here had.
11. Been friends with my sister growing up. Why did we have to wait till 1999 to develop a relatiosnhip? We wasted all the years we lived in the same town. TWICE.
12. Taken the ACT sober. I took it hammered (twice, mind you) and got a 29, God Where could I have gotten into had I been sober.
13. Not squandered the first half of my inheretance. Shit, yall, shouldda known me back then. 18 year old with 100K in the bank? I treated EVERONE. ALL THE TIME. I wouldda flown everyoen to SA for a National GC conference. Seriously. The consolation, is that when I turn 35 I get the rest. Memo to parents: One Word: TRUSTEE.
14. Taken HS seriously.
15. Told Mrs Flume that, I would never, in fact use Algebra in the real world, and that IF was sucessful enough I could hirre people to do algebra for me.
16. Told Mrs. Prater when she told me, "In college teachers wont chase you around for your homework." Yeah, and if you feel a teacher REALLy isnt qualified to actually teach , you can not only can DROP HER SORRY ASS, but speak to her division head, and you get an opportunity to survey her ass.

My list. Whats yours?

1. Dated Andrew in H.S. I think that we could have had something great and we'd probably still be really good friends to this day.
2. Saved the money from my H.S. job instead of spending it on stupid, stupid stuff.
3. Dressed in "normal" clothes instead of rave gear. blahhhhh.
4. Avoided certain people who were no good for me...even though they did teach me certain things that I use as a basis for what I look for in a person.
5. Lived in a different dorm freshman year.
6. Rushed when I was a freshman.
7. Treated my bro better when we were little.

Uh, that's all I can think of right now, but I'm sure that I'll come up with more things later.

1. had more fashion sense when I was younger
2. stuck with gymnastics and tried out for cheerleading
3. not spend 17,000$ in 1 year (lawsuit settlement) and instead invested the money
4. gotten along better with SS and MM
5. not let my cat Mel out (he got hit by a car)
6. joined my chapter as a freshman

For you lifesaver
"Regrets, I've had a few,
But then again, too few to mention.
I did what I had to do,
And saw it thru without exemption.
I planned each chartered course,
Each careful step along the byway,
And more, much more than this, I did it my way."
Frankie Baby

-Jumped out of the market much sooner...
-Tried harder to be "understanding" of the mentality of this community.
-Pushed for more family vacations
-Had one more child
-Seen Donna sooner...
-Gotten a degree in a field that suited me not my chosen major
-Gone to Boston when I was offered the music contract
-Traveled when I was single and had PLENTY of cash
-Had the "wits" to fire back at "Denise" when she humiliated me in front of eveyone
-I told a lie when I was in grade school that haunts me to this day. Wish I had told the truth.

1. Picked a college by more stringent standards than "Ooohh, pretty hologram on the front of the brochure!"
2. Not always have had a boyfriend
3. Saved more money
4. Not cut my hair short in the 8th grade
5. Have not got engaged the 1st time
6. Would have told Mr. Mox to date me freshman year at Bethany
7. Gone to grad school right after college
8. Spent more time with my brother before he went into the Air Force

This is such a lovely thread after waking up from a high school flashback dream. Oh well, here goes:

1. Not have cut off my Marcia Brady hair the summer before 7th grade (began the descent into JH & HS Hair Hell)
2. Gone to LF's going away party
3. Nagged my parents more for contacts (like, every hour on the hour) so I would have had them before 11th grade
4. Realized JC was pretty much an asshole and got the word right in the spelling bee even though it would have knocked him out
5. Been on Scholastic Quiz and all around tried harder academically (not to mention I could have spent time with JD & MM and got my head straight)
6. Tried out for Pom Pom instead of letting ZV talk me into majorette...and then not even going to tryouts...WTF!!!
7. Gone to the room party at Wildwood
8. Dealt with the real world instead of retreating into fantasy-land when I couldn't deal
9. (this is the big one) Gotten up off the bench in front of Flounders Hall, walked away from BH up to my sorority house, and never, never thought twice or looked back.

When I think of the things I wish I would have done in JH & high school though...I'm kinda glad I did feel like an outcast...because if I hadn't, I might still be living there and have Wal-Mart be the highlight of my day.

This is a very cleansing thread.

-pledged Sigma Nu my jr. year instead of waitin til my senior year.

-not tried to drive myself home after dunking my ring.

-not opened so many bar tabs on credit cards.

-not let my buddy put the stolen life preserver in my Bronco in Galveston

-not have taken honors Engl. Comp. and Intro to Bio together my first semester at A&M and my fish year in the Corps

-would have called in sick to work and been at Bonfire when it fell in 1999

Kitso
KS 361

Did I read that right? :confused:

Similar to you, Aggie...

- Not tried to drive home after WAY too much alcohol...ran into a sign and f'ed up my car. It could have been worse (a car or person), and that terrified me. Also, how I made it homw without getting pulled over is a miracle (still driving home drunk and the headlight was hanging off from the collision)...REALLY learned my lesson.

*Not blown all my HS graduation money on a 'lemon' that was broken down before it was paid for.
*Used that $3000 instead to save(and buy some clothes).
*Known my freshman semester what I really wanted to do, I would be in Anesthesia school by now.
*Not gotten that Discover card my freshman year, all I "discovered" was how fast I could reach my limit!
*Not sat out of school for a year, I could be in Anesthesia school by now! :rolleyes:
*Would have went to the school I really wanted to go to and got a scholarship to, but instead I stayed in SC because I didn't want to leave my friends.
*Studied more my first years of college.
*EVER giving PLD the time of day!
*Waiting so long to move out on my own.
*Keeping so to myself during my first couple years of college.
*Buying Wyclef's album...
*Not getting Kazaa sooner...;)
*Bought that car, if I was going to buy a new car that I will be paying for eternity, I should have gotten what I really wanted.

That's all, I guess it's a good thing that my 'regrets' are too serious!

yes.

My Corps outfit was scheduled to be out there when it felt. I always felt bad, like i shoulda been out there to help my buddies when it fell.

Kitso
KS 361

-Never would have gotten all those credit cards sophomore year.
-Never would have dated JH.
-Wouldn't have crushed on Dave so hard for the better part of college.
-Seriously reconsidered the school and the program that I went into for graduate work.
-Told my former boss off in the beginning and not let her run all over me for a year and half.
-Not worked so much in HS, and had a little more fun instead.
-Gone on spring break sophomore year.
-Told JV how I felt, instead of watching him make a mistake.

Wish I.....
*Been more forceful with Brett and gone after that relationship that was SO right there but never happened

*Gone through Rush understanding the process better- I think I would have wound up in a totally different place

*Would have done homework in high school and actually tried

*Would have avoided my old roomie at all costs and never gotten into a friendship with her

*Went to dance school in California instead of finishing out my senior year of HS

*Didn't drink so much sangria last nite
:cool: this is me feeling it today

If I could go back...

* I would beg my father to stay on Okinawa instead of begging him to return to the states, only to move to hell on Earth.

* I would make my stay in hell on Earth a little better; made more of an effort to make friends more quickly and get involved sooner (than I did).

* I would not have allowed my parents to buy me that new car when they did. Instead, I should have bought a used car or just waited to get one until I was in college (or out of college).

* I would not start working...or at least quit my job before the beginning of my senior year in HS.

* I would not get involved in a relationship my senior year in HS.

* I would stay with my family in N.C., our new duty station, and attend UNC, instead of returning to Arizona.

* I would not let college overwhelm me and I would have majored in pre-med and minored in dance (possibly majored in it too).

These are my major issues and they're effecting me. I had a horrible night (the other night) just thinking about these things. It took me hours to fall asleep. I know that I can't change things. I know that I can't go back. I tell myself this. But sometimes it makes me so angry that I was so blind or that I didn't take control of my life. And it's hard to let it go or put it behind me b/c these decisions are effecting me now. :(

Thanks for letting me vent a little. This was a bit cathartic.:)

Report the bastard who played "chicken" with his big pick-up with monster wheels while my car was sitting STILL at an intersection last night. What's worse, the driver was not some punk teenager, that ass was in his 30's or 40's and his teenage son was sitting in the passenger seat. No wonder why children are so full of sh*t...they learn it from their parents. :mad:

-dated AG

-dated VJ

-wasted my final semester in school with someone who didn't deserve the time and effort i put into her....and who wasn't strong enough to let me know how she really felt, but i guess you can call that a learning experience....

-worked harder in school

I try not to think about my regrets... I think that "everything happens for a reason", but here's my list--

-- not had a boyfriend for a year and a half during freshman and sophomore year-- I spent way too much time with him and let my grades suffer and I should have made more time for my friends(ironically we broke up 2 days after I joined my sorority, and I'm a much different (better) person now.

-- went to Cancun for spring break sophomore year, again the whole boyfriend thing-- was planning on going, then he didn't want to go so I didn't go-- went to Daytona with him instead.

-- not told a guy I was seeing about a kiss in Acapulco during spring break last year.

-- went through recruitment freshman year.

-- studied a lot more than I have in college.

-- stuck with cheerleading (I think it would have been so much fun to be a cheerleader in college).

-- went to college in California and majored in film studies.

-- saved my money instead of blowing it on clothes.

--should have gotten more involved in campus organizations.

-- started my post-graduation job search much earlier instead of freaking out about it right now.

Although I am struggling with my aforementioned regrets, I am trying to find the good in my decisions since I too have come to believe that things happen for a reason.

I would have...

taken a year or so off before starting college
majored on Education at La Tech
stayed an extra quarter at Tech and taken those education classes
come out to Tx when I wanted to 1998, instead of listening to my mom and moving back to Louisiana to be with her

-Cut more classes in highschool.

-Went to that girls house that one day. I know she liked me too.

-sometimes talk more, sometimes talk less

-Read the freaking callboard.

-Stayed at the other bar last night instead of going back to the first on.

I guess it's not a regret. I just wish that I hadn't worried so much or felt so insecure. I feel better now.

I also would have:
gotten my driver's license in HS
told my crushes that I was interested
applied to law school
kept in touch with more people from HS and college
been kinder to my mother
been more aggressive

One more
 

OP got me thinking...

I would have gotten drunk and went to class in HS, at least once, my senior year. It seems everyoen did it once, and I wish I would have, just to say I did it.

I know whats a wierd one...

Re: One more
 

You can always go to your high school reunion, get trashed, and tell everyone what you really think of them. :p ;)

Things I wish I'd done:

1) Not wasted so much time with anorexia -- it's not worth it
2) Taken ballet
3) Gotten involved with high school activities (cross-country, theater) earlier
4) Not wasted so much of my time on Brendan
5) Gone through sorority rush last year, at Minnesota
6) Not taken high school so seriously
7) Taken last semester MORE seriously :)
8) Gotten a job earlier than last summer
9) Put more effort into finding a college

I'm sure I can come up with more . . .

-stayed in touch with Jarrett Williams when he dropped me off at school.

-not been so caught up on a 21 yr old fraternity boy liking me . ..and not lost my virginity when i was 19

-not gotten credit cards

-not gone to florida state. . .only to almost flunk due to grades

-moved away from texas(now i feel like i can't leave)

-not moved to louisville. . .all of the clubs here suck

-not taken my friendship for granted with my friend, casper. . .he found out that i was into his best friend and now, he'll never speak to me

-not left the PIKE formal on sat nite because i didn't bring clothes to stay the night(stupid excuse)

-should have moved to seattle when my brother asked me to. . .he's got a phat house overlooking the pac ocean

-not used up my inheritance on prada, chanel and gucci shoppiing sprees. . .half of the items, i can no longer wear

-i would given dave matthews my number a long time ago. . .and justin timberlake. . .and matt damon. . .

-i would have pursued a music career at belmont university

-Stuck with soccer after HS, I may not have been great, but I had so much fun.
-Never gotten the first credit card.. or the other four
-Not let JM talk me into putting everything in our new apt on credit
-Paid off my cards way before now
-Left JM when I found out he cheated on me rather than waiting 6 months because I was afraid to be alone.
-Given BL a chance even though I was afraid. He was the best thing that happened to me and I couldn't even see that.
-Let loose a lot more in HS
-Found myself before this year
-Had confidence from the beginning
-Been involved in more clubs and organizations in HS and earlier in college, I have nothing to put on resume's and aps now...
-Appreciated Europe when I went in HS, rather than getting tired of all the cathederals.
-Not fought with my mom all through HS. I still wish we had a better relationship now.

Good things to think about
 

Looking back I wish:

-I hadn't procrastinated as much
-I hadn't spent as much time with the boyfriend I didn't really like
-Lived in an all-frosh dorm
-Gone to Spain over the summer
-Studied harder last year
-Not applied to Medical School this year

What I hope I have the strength to do in the future:
-think about who I want to be
-DO what my heart tell sme to do, even if I am afraid
-commit myself to losing 10 lbs and finally feeling proud of my body
-M

For me, I wish I had...

-continued to pursue modeling or acting

-stayed in touch with more people from high school

-NOT PROCRASTINATED because I would have done so much more better in my classes, i.e. waiting the night before to start a 20 page paper last semester

-not been a journalism major

-gotten a fake ID as soon as I got to college

-not crushed on a certain older guy for most of college only to realize now in my senior year that he's just a jerk

-took more chances and not held myself back so much in fear of getting hurt

-not interned for a certain news station last semester because the internship was horrible experience

-done Semester at Sea or went abroad for a semester

-went through recruitment as a freshman (instead of soph. year)

* not stopped playing soccer or dancing
* have gone to my high school prom
* have taken my first two years of college more seriously
* have gone to the Rec and worked out more
* gone to Chris' house before he left and told him I love him
* started planning more for my student teaching unit