To make thangs betta,
 

women should...

[This message has been edited by The Original Ape (edited July 20, 2001).]

Women should band together, and make these men accountable for their actions. Stop sleeping with that sista's husband, send him home. If you know he should be paying child support, but taking you out to an expensive resturant, bust him out. If he's the baby's daddy, get that paternity test, and take him to court, don't let him get away with throwing you a few dollars every now and then. Ok, I'm venting here, but I meant every word, LOL!

should not nag so much

should treat her man like a KING

...apologize and admit that she was wrong.

...love her man unconditionally.

realize the systematic economic castration of bruthas, and the impact it has had on our families. A part of this process include offering more and betta economic opportunities to sistas; so that THEY would be the bread-winnas of their families, thus making the bruthas look lazy, inadequate, and lacking ambition.

and DO realize that MANY brothas are not lazy or do not lack ambition, yet some are lazy and some do lack ambition.

realize that she must continue to support AND encourage her brothas. (Jill says doooo you re mem ba me?)

women should not...
1. Dog bruthas generally because the person having the greatest influence in yall's lives shared an/some isolated negative experience(s) and advised yall to do unto us before we do unto yall,

2. exploit bruthas simply because yall can(legally, and any other way).

3. Doubt/distrust bruthas without a real foundation to yall's doubt.

To make thangs betta, women should give us the respect we earned and deserve, which is the same kind YALL expect.

A woman should not run and tell her girlfriends everything when she has a problem with her man. Some things should be considered sacred and remain within the confines of the relationship. If you can't talk to your man about the problem you have with him, but you can talk to everyone else about it, then you don't need to be in a relationship

Women should know there are still good black men and that they don't have to result to dating white men once they become successful - especially AKAs;

Women should know that men don't have the answer to every problem they have;

Women should know that men can't read their damn minds;

Women should know that at some point men do expect to get some _ _ _ _ _;

Women should know that men want to be satisfied sexually just like women and if a man can do certain things then so should a women even if she is conskeeted.

OHHHHHHHHHHH! What/Who you talkin' bout Willis?

ROTFLMAO!

...stop backstabbing each other and work together

...strive to provide positive male role models for their children

...think before they sleep w/ someone and ask themselves if this is who they want for their babydaddy

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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

women should be a lady in the public and a freak in the bed......hmmmmmm NOT! Shame on you Professor! You are going to be in the dog house! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif you know what that means - no bones for you to lick on! LOL

[This message has been edited by Conskeeted19 (edited July 23, 2001).]

****Be able to turn a "flop" into a plan.


****Be able to accept the fact that things can't always go her way (even if she is a princess)


****Be able to let the small things ride

****Set the example that she expects her children to follow

Yall are some wise women; if only there were more like you all. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Leave that sista's man alone! Find your own or do without until -- it worked for me.

. . . treat her man the way she wants to be treated.

. . . stop trying to do so much. I don't know who came up with that superwoman crap, it's a crock of ish, for real.

. . . learn to sit back and let a man be a man.

. . . stop seeking validation from outside of her SELF.

. . . look within her SELF FIRST to find the love that she seeks.

tell her man that he is a wonderful gift of God.
be able to say i'm sorry and really mean it! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
tell her man that he's right when she's wrong.
should not withhold sex or affection just to be vindictive.
leave all past issues, in the past.
have faith in herself, her man and her God.
Love your man and your family like it is the last time you will be with them, because tomorrow is not promised. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

practice the post listed above - lol

if you do, hit me back

I don't have a significant other at this time but once I find this man I do intend to practice what I preach. I have matured pertaining to relationships, and I know that if you have a good man you should praise his accomplishments, his ability to be a strong entity and a respect him as a loving and complex individual. When my Nubian King enters into my life, I will try my best to do all of the above things listed and more. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

To make thangs betta...
 

Should raise their sons (with or without a man) to be the kind of man she would want her daughter to marry







Anybody can drops some seeds
it takes a real man to nuture the corp until maturity