Whats your relationship ratio?
 

What do you weigh each aspect of a persons attribuites when you are considering going out with them? Percentage wise, for example: (not mine, btw. I still dont know what mine is)

30% looks
30% intellegence
20% attitude
20% sense of humor

I am just wondering how everyone scores potential dates/mates.

What are ya'lls thoughts? I know it isnt this scientific, but generally, If a fella is quite handsome is it ok if hes broke, has no future or is dumb as a bag of hair? Or what if a girl is intellegent, loaded, funny, sweet and caring, but looks like the back of a bus?

LOL! Sorry. Just the way you worded all that was just amusing to me. Anyway, I guess I will try.

Looks-20%
Intellect/Common Sense-25%
Humor-25%
Bank Account-5%
Motivation-20%
Integrity/Honesty/All that stuff Dr. Phil talks about-25%

(This will prolly change as the thread grows.)

Good topic!
 

40% looks
30% ambition
20% intellect/ability to communicate
10% love and appreciation of music/art

20% looks/style
20% Christian background
20% At least middle class
20% Extroversion
10% Humor
5% Politically moderate
5% Intelligence

I've been sort of thinking about this topic all day (hey, I had the day off -- what else am I going to do?) and I can't come up with an answer. I think that chemistry has a lot to do with it, and I'm not sure how to break that down into categories. Of course I value looks and intelligence and kindness and humor and all that...but I'm not sure what is most important. I can say that to me, money isn't important.

I guess when it comes down to it, I like someone who is the hot, male version of myself. ;)

Amen! :D;)

See...this is why valkyrie is the coolest GCer alive. I mean after me, of course, lol.

20% looks
20% intellegence/education
20% attitude/drive
10% sense of humor
10% faith
15% family values (or closeness to family)
5% income

My thoughts exactly. ;)

If I HAD to break it down though it would go something like this

39%-looks
39%-intelligence/ambition
11%-sense of humor
10%-family values
1%-hmm whatever is leftover

I think that is 100% or around there. :D

50% intelligence/interestingness/innovation
20% supportiveness
15% easygoing
10% looks
5% humor/silliness

30% looks
30% personality
20% intelligence
10% family values
5% income
5% ambition

hmmm...
I don't know the %'s really but characteristics in order of importance:

1- We are good friends (or that we can be, so in other words we have stuff in common and can talk/ relate to eachother well, and he's a generally nice guy)

2-Chemistry! I suppose this is superfically "looks" but it's a bit more complicated than that.

3- common sense and intelligence. I simply can't deal without one or the other.

(Actually, 1 2 and 3 are essential. It won't happen unless they are all there.)

4- on the big issues we agree. I love debate, but it would be nice if I don't get into heavy abortion arguements with my man.

5- No mental problems/ wierd realtionship issues. This is important.

6- That he has an idea of what his values are and how he wants to live his life. I don't have to want to be in his field, but I don't like it when people just sit on their asses. If you don't know what you want to do, start trying stuff!!!

That's about all I can think of at the moment...
-M

Thanks! ;)

20% looks
25% intelligence
30% sense of humor/personality
15% respect/values
5% income
5% religion/faith

this is just an approximation....it's easy to say when i'm not actually looking for someone at the moment.

I'm superficial

Brains 20%
Personality 20%
Looks 35%
Adventureness 5%

I don't have a ratio. I like men who are smart, kind, generous, respectful, tall, attractive to my eyes, humble, and treat me like I am the answer to their prayers. :)

I'm suprised that bank account/income are on so many lists.

Funny, this was on msn today.

From the Men are from Mars dude...

"Relationships in which one party is attracted to another solely on one ingredient — his or her physical attributes — rarely last. Physical attraction is the first ingredient men are drawn to.

Generally, a young man starts out on this level. Sometimes the more mature man regresses to this level when he is on the rebound from a failed relationship. He simply follows his attractions, and doesn't learn to become more discerning about whom he picks. The more a man pursues women he could not love, the less he is able to feel physically attracted to a woman he could love.

While physical attraction is important for a relationship to grow, three additional ingredients are needed:

The first of these additional ingredients, complimentary needs, is a give-and-take among soul mates that occurs without resentment, and through love. It releases us from an unrealistic ideal of what our soul mate should look like.


The next ingredient, maturity, occurs when we have depths in all aspects of our lives, and are ready to share experiences with our soul mate.


The final ingredient, resonance, occurs when you and your soul recognize you have similar values. If a man can move beyond that first chemical ingredient, he will get closer to finding his true life partner. "

40% - Personality/Attitude/Sense of Humor
20% - Appearance
17% - Interests/Values/Direction in Life/Ambition
10% - Intelligence/Education/Common Sense
10% - Integrity/Loyalty/Trustworthyness
3% - Ability to fit into each other's lives/Get along with friends & family

30%-Looks
30%- Personality
20%- sexual capabilities
10%-intellect
10%- hygene and sense of fashion

I can't believe I missed this thread... it's pretty interesting. I too, do not think I can break it down into ratios... I just like guys who make me feel a certain way and all of the men I have dated have been very different from each other, yet all still have been great for me.

Here are components that definitely have to be there, though:

Good looks/physique
Values/morals/religious beliefs similiar to mine
Intelligence
Ambition/Goals
Humor
Sense of style and hygiene
Friends I like
Loyalty, honesty and dedication

Also, I find it helps if they come from a good, strong family... but if they come from a rocky past, it can be okay as long as they acknowledge that it's messed up and they strive not to continue the cycle and be messed up too.

Must have equal parts of or be....

Personality
Physical Attributes
Sensitivity
Sense of Humor
Religious Faith
Honesty
How kissable they are
Ambition
Intensity
Affectionate
Good Sense of Style