LB's/Dating/Frat Hoes
 

This is the worst pick-up line I heard of the year 2000.

I was at a club when I met this guy. Come to find out we know the same people. Get this he was my bestfriend's Line Brother. I didn't want to come out and say I'm seeing your LB on the DL(down low.) So I said we were real good friends. So his reply: "Ya know LB's share everything." I was like "Ummmmmkay I'll make sure I tell him that tonight." Thinking that comment was lewd enough. He said something alone the lines, "Well it'll be your word against mine. So you might as well let me cut. And if he already hit, like I said LB's share everything." (replace hit and cut with F!@*.)


Second story. We were at this Step Show. Before I had a baby I was like 105-110 after I had him I was like 130. I was talking to this guy and he was like blah blah...kicking a little game. So I whispered to him don't you know me...I'm blah blah friend. He said oh well he's over here. And I was like, "Hi you doing?" gave him hug and what not. And his boy was just going on and on. And I was like "you're cute and all, but you don't remember me?" He's like "nah." Now blah blah getting hot. Like I know she ain't flirting were my bruh!!! I was like "oh I'm the mother of your Godson." His response, "Oh shyt 'bout time you started eating."

Just wanted to post something kind of funny. Question have ya'll ran into any situations with LB's concerning girls? Or do you have a set rule? I mean do LB's really share everything? What do you feel about frat-hoes?

This is off-key but related. I have a child by an Alpha and I told him out of respect for him I wouldn't date another one (that's going to be hard to do. Hello, are you an Alpha? just kidding.) He doesn't really have a comment on that, but he thinks it's strange and besides he knows I'm not trying to date anyone else right now.
But it's like I know of too many Alpha hoes and I don't want to be classified as one.

(My bestfriend thinks it's b-s and I shouldn't classify people based on that. I say b-s because he's an Alpha. And he knows I adore him to death, but he's still an Alpha.)

Hey Squeaky, that ALPHA LOVE is STRONG, AINT IT? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

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[This message has been edited by The Original Ape (edited January 16, 2001).]

This is a funny topic...this happened to me recently. I was on the phone with my friend (a member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity) who happens to live in a frat house. After having an intimate conversation with this guy for about two hours (mind you, his LBs/frat brothers/chapter bruhs were in the same room with him for the entire conversation...right next to him). Well, my friend says "hold on for a minute" and the next thing I know a strange voice comes on the other end saying "Hello? What's up girl?" I tried making small talk until my friend came back to the phone but the guy was really playing his self. He was like "So, you're coming up here next week right? Well, I'm going to personally take care of you when you're here." After saying a few inappropriate things to me, he goes "Ok, here's ______, nice talking to you" as if we were having an innocent conversation!
Girl, I don't know about the Alphas (my beautiful bruhs http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif)...but I have stories for days about the ques!

Hey squeaks, remember me??? subzero06

Ummmmmm pleading the fifth yes and no. Remember the name and what not...But ummmmmmmmm. Kidding yeah I remember you...a little bit.

I have stories for days about Sigma men.....I've seen some shady things. I've seen them "approach" the same female on different occasions knowing good and well their LB was jus spittin' game to her. As far as sharing, I've heard conversations along the lines of "she was great, u should try sometime"......I'm not saying you cant date greek men, i would just suggest extra investigation into their background and groupie history..

Hmmm, thank God I have not encountered this type of behavior. I think most men are scarred to approach me in that manner. Well lemme go get some popcorn and wait for the men to respond to this topic.

I know!! I am soooo glad I had never encountered such!

I dated a Kappa for an extended time and none of the guys from his chapter (moretheless his LBs) ever approached me in such a manner. We were able to have cordial conversation, but it never got to the point where they were hitting on me. They may have shared girls....but I can tell you one thing for sure I would have never been caught in such craziness!

I'm glad you haven't been in that predicament. For some reason, I am attracted to/attract Kappas. I've been in situations where I've dated Kappa men from the same chapter. It's a small world. They aren't even close to the same age. Anyhow, there wasn't any bad blood when they found out. We were all at a party together. I'm sure they talked about me the next day though cuz they were both trying to run game on me at the party.

Now, with this being the Alpha board, I love the men of black and gold. One of my best friends is an Alpha. They are so intellectual, professional, and well kept(trying to earn my brownie points back :p). Someone I tried to make my boyfriend is an Alpha, but he moved away for work. :(

this is kinda funny... i've never dated a greek guy but i've heard that they're ALL shady... I remember one guy (org I will not mention) who hit on me and tried his hardest even though i KNEW he had a girlfriend... how did i know? well, a little while later it was revealed, and surprise! his girlfriend is one of my LS's... I'll let your imaginations run wild on what his face looked like when my LS introduced us for the "first time"

Low down jokers can sense a good woman with morals.;)

I don't think it has anything to do with the organization- that's just a stereotype. It's like saying all AKAs are pretty... oh sorry, can't use that. Anyhoo, what I'm trying to say is boys will be boys.

Well said! It has nothing to do with whether your a man or a woman. Is all about having morals, values, and exercising self-restraint.

I really sound like a parent

Exactly!

Good to see another brother on here with morals.

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It isn't easy, but I try to practice what I preach. We can't keep making excuses for childish behavior, saying things like,"I am a man and thats what we do." We may think about something like this, but there is a hell of a difference between thinking and doing.

Its just that I would have an issue with my frat brothers trying to pass some girl/frat hoe to me that they all have smashed. I would assume that eventually folks would grow out of that, but.....some have not. Too many stds going around and condoms don't protect you against everything.

I knew a girl who would get down with xyz fraternity members on campus and ended up pregnant not knowing who the father of her child was. Trust me when I say, the members of that frat that got down with her were not trying to step up and claim her son either.

:confused:

:eek:wow.....allllllrighty then...

You pretty much have to wait until they get the immaturity out of their system. I wouldn't suggest anyone to date a guy who just crossed because all they have their mind focused on is, their fraternity and trying to run through the women as if they were in a candy shop.

I'm glad to see a brother who walks in integrity! There are so many men who don't! Keep your morals and standards high because God is going to honor you with a wife who has outstanding character and morals as you have!

Back in the day, I can NOT recall any of my Brothers even thinking about picking up another's GF; while they were still actively dating each other.

That said, however, I do recall a few "ladies" (all members of GLOs) that while not dating anyone went through several Brothers in my house and several others.;)
Odd thing about this was that one of them had a younger brother who went through rush and became a Brother!

And we did have two "silver tongued devils" who seemed to be in competition with each other.

When I was in undergrad, if a woman told me that she knew any of my fraternity brothers on a personal level, I wouldn't give her the time a day. Even now I wouldn't, if a woman told me she knew a fraternity brother on a personal level, because 9 times out of 10 he slept with her.

Going through a whole house, I just can't understand. We had women that did that mess too. How can a woman sleep with that many men and then still have respect for herself after the fact, or expect other people to have respect for her?

The title of this thread is wrong.....dating and hoes don't belong in the same sentence.:)

On one side you have members of fraternities using their letters to get a$$ and on the flipside you have chicks willing to do anything just say she got down with a member of xyz fraternities. Pretty pathetic on both parts especially if a dude has to use his letters and it doesn't end at college.

Judging solely on your post, it would seem as if you believe that all of those who live in dorms and off campus are saints.:confused::eek::p:D;)
I learned, way after the fact, that at least two of the sororities on campus matched or even surpassed us in some activities.
As did at least one sports team.
And I have very little doubt of the activities in the dorms.

However, as we all know, any GLO's name and letters ring better in the news than Smith Hall.

Did I say that? No. Who the hell said anything about dorms or off campus housing?:confused: No one is a saint, not even me:D, but when you make yourself the frat groupie or when dudes have to use their letters to get a$$, yeah like I said its pathetic. The thread is about fraternity members sharing a woman (didn't pick the subject).

You know gentlemen, the same thing can be said from a woman's perspective, except as "collegiate society" would have it, the comments are perceived harsher coming from fraternity men...

What I mean is, should not the decision to "get with" a man be solely the woman's even if it is just physical? And that attraction is purely one of "experimentation"? Most young ladies haven't a clue on how to have a relationship nor be in one until their 30's, much less their 40's.

Moreover, the point is "lasciviousness" or "polyamorous". An astute woman would know how to play on that on pubescent young men. But a woman mindful of her sexual wiles and be discrete in regards as to how to best express them. If she choses to beguile her seduction, he or she will know it and would choose not to share...

Most young ladies really probably enjoy male friendship that happens to go too far and gets out of control. Some young ladies allow themselves to become doormats to these gentlemen. Yet, some young women delude themselves into believing that they are actually in love with the fraternity lifestyle. Lastly, some young women just do not know any better.

How does a man uplift a hurt sistah without context? Consistency in response. Support for primary goals in college--to graduate and obtain a career. So many of our young women are broken. You see them on Oprah, Springer and Maury. You see the very complaints made here on GC somewhere. Rarely do you see supportive statements made for one another.

Have we bought this "battle of sexes" lock, stock and barrel?

I refuse to think those things anymore... As a womanist, I cannot. Men have hurt and are hurting, just as much as women. Which makes this problem a lack of the Spirit...

Love one another... Put a little love in your heart... God is Love... There is Love in the rain--God resides there...

Gentlemen, I watch ESPN Sportcenter because my husband loves it... The news gets deferred when it is on. Yes, I know who Chris, Lee and Kirk are...

I do agree with your thoughts.
I never thought of or saw anyone "using" letters to get some "action"
Thus to me, this sort activity can and does happen in any kind of social or living environment or group.

Interesting take on this.:) I do realize a woman is capable of flipping the scrip. Suprisingly I never thought of the fact that some may not know how to be in a relationship. Don't get wrong I am not dismissing or trying to say it is wrong to have casual sex, but when you spread yourself around a group of men or women at a given period.... in this day and age is a dangerous thing.

True, true.

It is about role modeling. Just like a young boy cannot really become a MAN unless he has a man teach him how to be one, same goes for a young girl who cannot become a WOMAN who loves and trusts a man in a relationship if she does not see her parents (or step parents) who are lovers...

How would a woman know truly that "experimenting" with every Thomas, Richard and Harrold does not help her own personal psyche. Besides, men travel and swing in groups all the time, go from one sorority sister to another, sometimes in differing sororities or not... And some men play these same women against each other--as an experiment... Some of these same women say turnabout is fair play... I didn't say I agree with that logic, but that is what folks say.

And danger does not fit into the game when folks are playing it...

I think many young women just get caught up from one guy to the next--a merry go-round--and they figure it out when it is too late, after they are pregnant, or have a STD, or raped. Some are sold on the fairytale fantasy read to them by their mothers. Do you think Snow White and Cinderella were ever upgraded?

Hayle, I just had to burst the bubble of a 4 year old this past holiday season, telling her these Walt Disney fantasy fairytales are not real... I think I made her cry... Moreover, I hurt when I asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up, and she said "a princess-mommy". WTF a "princess-mommy"?

The advertisers sell these "princess outfits", with the shoes, etc. They even have the "Cheetah Girls" with plastic rings accessories!!! :eek:

So when you fellas are so ready to discount a young woman who has lost her integrity, remember, she probably did start off like my little 4 year old friend with full indoctrination... Better than any illegal pledging and hazing period any of the D4 could muster up...

I work with 6th, 7th, and 8th children and one day some of the teachers decided to split of the boys and girls to talk about sexual health after seeing a movie on HIV which I feel to this day the movie, not the topic, wasn't age appropiate. I am a firm believer that sex education in the schools needs to be revamped now and after carefully answering any questions the boys had after the film in regards to their body and sexual behavior one thing became clear, that children believe having multiple sexual partners at one given time is the norm. I wasn't suprised due to all the things their minds become polluted with from media influence to interactions with family and friends. Not to mention that one of there 7th grade classmates was pregnant at the time.

I am now working with the school to bring the parents and the department of public health into this so they can recieve some type of health education since the science teacher has yet to introduce subject of puberty to 8th graders (something should have gotten in 5th grade). You are right it starts in the home and with parents.

That's a cop out, and a poor excuse that a lot of women use. This is what they say: "I was out there back in the day when I was young. I felt I was too young to get in a serious relationship." blah blah blah.:rolleyes:

Hell, when I was in undergrad, I was young too and always wanted to be with only ONE woman. I'm still that way, and I'll always be that way. I can't stand it when a woman says that same ol' lame a$$ bullisht about her being too young for a serious relationship. By the time she's in her 30s and 40s, more than likely she's been used up and screwed by a bunch of trifling a$$ bad boys. Who wants a woman like that? I sure as hell don't. When they're young they don't want the nice guy. They want that bad boy thuggish idiot who doesn't give a rat's a$$ about her. Then when she realizes her biological clock is ticking away, and that those bone head thugs aren't about anything, now she wants a decent man. Please. I refuse to go behind a thug.

I joined a social fraternity to enhance my social skills because I've always been a shy person. I'm still quite shy, but I have improved. I had several opportunities to sleep with fraternity groupies, but I turned them all down because I wanted a traditional good woman. I don't have any remorse for hoes whatsoever. They're not ladies in my book. Just because she's older and more mature now, still doesn't make a difference to me. She may have hoed around in her younger days and now may have changed, but I still wouldn't get involved with her. To me, SHE'S BEEN USED UP.

I noticed the OP meets jokers at night clubs. If I had a street sweeper, the night clubs would be the 1st place I would go to start sweeping up the trash.

Hoes and the glorification of hoes baffles me. Its funny how rappers brag about getting all the hoes. Hoes really don't go after the best men they will get with anyone with a little cash or pay them attention making them easy to obtain and maintain. I think its harder to get attract a classy lady because they are selective and to think one man can satisfy more than one at a time nearly impossible. Because a true one knows her worth and can not share and will not share her man.

just my 22cents.

p.s. I don't know if its just me, but a how is fashion trend. If too many people are wearing it out why would I want to jump in on the trend too? I don't like to have the same thing that everyone down the street has.