Fraternity Sweethearts
 

Hi I just wanted to know do alot of fraternities have sweethearts? If so, I do go about choosing the girl to be your sweetheart? I've always wanted to be a sweetheart but I don't think the frat's on my campus still do this.

Also, if anyone's been a fraternity sweetheart?

In my sorority, it will be a first time in many years that we have made a guy our sweetheart. I was just wondering if frat's still do this.


FSS

My wife is my fraternity sweetheart. It's not too difficult for us to establish sweethearts, but in my case, I didn't have to make much of a case as I had already proposed to her before requesting that she become my fraternity sweetheart.

It's been a while since any other of our members officially made their S.O. a sweetheart, though.

Our chapter has had 'official' sweethearts in the past (judging from composites) but have not in a couple years...

Of course, any wife of a brother or girlfriend of a brother is 'unofficially' a KappaSig Sweetheart.

I was a KA Rose
 

I can't say that there is anything that you can really do to get letters at a house. Some guys are pretty vicious, and if they sense that you are "trying" to get letters at their house, they won't give you letters just to make a point.

It's probably different on every campus. I personally had never dated any of the guys in the house. I hung out with them a lot, because I thought they were fun. When they made me a KA Rose, I was pretty surprised. Lots of girls had been hanging around the house, cooking food for them, cleaning their kitchen. Stuff that I would never bother doing. In the end, I knew it was because they respected who I was. Most of them are like little brothers to me anyways.

My best advice for you would just be to not try to get letters. Hang out with the guys, get to know them, and you might make some really great friends.

RedHotChiO

sweethearts
 

I am a sweetheart of Sigma Pi and Sigma Phi Epsilon. The Sigma Pi's at my campus choose one sweetheart for each pledge class. The pledge class has to all agree on one girl, and they are usually in a sorority. At the end of their pledging they take her up to Old Main and stand her up on the steps and sing to her their Sigma Pi sweet heart song.
The Sig Eps choose their sweetheart one each year and sing to her at their formal.

Astbunny
Alpha Sigma Tau Sorority

we have a beta sweetheart every year. the rules for choosing her are:

-she cant be a freshman
-she cant be a current girlfriend of any brother (as the past has proven that other girlfriends get quite jealous)
-she is chosen by the seniors

the sweetheart is usually a girl most seniors are friends with. in addition to the singing and other stuff, she will also be in our composite picture for that year

Fraternities on our campus haven't had any sweethearts in the last four years. We've got Delta Chi, Theta Chi, Theta Delta Chi (underground), TKE (underground), Kappa Sigma, and AKL.

Too bad..... it's a tradition that definately seems to be getting lost.

Just wanted to say there is a HUGE difference between choosing one sweetheart on a yearly basis and choosing several girls who retain their titles as long as they are in school.

The former is fine, the latter is very similar to having little sisters and outlawed by most national fraternities.

Our sorority
 

Our sorority has been PIKE Dreamgirl and TKE Sweetheart except for two years. Last year, the TKEs chose a girlfriend of one member(she's really nice). And the PIKEs chose the girlfriend of a member. Other than that, if you walk in their office, half of the stuff they have is from a PHI SIG.

If you're trying to be a sweetheart, the most important thing to remember is to do things for them because you like them. . .not because you want to be a sweetheart. Last year, a girl in our sorority was nominated because she showed up to all of their fundraisers and was like the big sister to the pledge class. This year, I don't know it's kind of tough.







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I was a Pi Kappa Phi Rose. I did not date any of the brothers, but had many great friends in the fraternity. I used to make them goody bags during exams and recruitment, and would take them those huge cookies from the Cookie Factory. I guess I made the bags so full, all the brothers got some of the goodies! They would also have fundraisers in my hometown, and I would take them donuts and coffee by since they had to stand outside in the cold all day. Maybe thats why I was chosen, I don't know. It's funny - I was not planning to attend the formal where they announce and sing to the Rose, and they were all like "you've got to come"...They paid for my tickets and my date, a Pi Kap from another chapter. It was so sweet!

At the school I transferred from (University of Minnesota) I know that a lot of the fraternities and sororities have sweetheart competitions, where new members from each sorority or fraternity compete with the others to see who the sorority or fraternity likes best. One of my guy friends was running for Kappa Alpha Theta sweetheart and by the end of the week he kept telling me, "I don't know if I want to win anymore!" because he liked the girls so much, and it was in the rules that the guy who was crowned sweetheart king wasn't supposed to date any of the girls in the house. My friend was never so happy to come in second place.

I know that most of the fraternities at Minnesota had sweethearts, but I'm not sure about the ones here at Wisconsin.

A few girls in my sorority were discussing this today while we were painting at our house. We thought it would be a good idea to see if Alpha Phi has a sweetheart program like the TKEs and Pikes (both on our campus, so those are the ones that we're familiar with). There have been a couple guys that have done a lot of great stuff for us, and usually the only way we can think to reward them is making them our Homecoming King (organizations compete against each other, and each have a king and queen for court).

I'm not really sure that I understand the difference. Can you explain? Why is it a problem that the girls would retain their title vs. picking a new girl yearly?

Most NIC groups outlawed little sister groups on the basis that it was taking away from fraternity programming. They had a separate pledge program, initiation ceremony, and there were little sister-related offices for the brothers. Your reference to "getting letters" was what sounded like little sisters to me. It might be different at your school though. We are not allowed to have more than one official sweetheart per fraternity or sorority at one time, and a different one is chosen each year.

FWIW, I have no problem with little sisters, but it's one of those things that depending on the national you have to be VERY careful with nowadays.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by 33girl
[B]Most NIC groups outlawed little sister groups on the basis that it was taking away from fraternity programming. They had a separate pledge program, initiation ceremony, and there were little sister-related offices for the brothers. Your reference to "getting letters" was what sounded like little sisters to me. It might be different at your school though. We are not allowed to have more than one official sweetheart per fraternity or sorority at one time, and a different one is chosen each year.

I'm not really aware of that kind of little sister program. I'm sure that they exist, but that's now how it worked at my school. I think that the only thing resembling a real pledge program is that I got a both a big brother and a little brother. Both of whom I am very fond of. I never really got involved in any other their brotherhood stuff, because I just feel that would be kind of innappropriate. Also, that is exactly why I am in a sorority.

However, I can see your point. There are girls that get way too into the politics of a fraternity and it shouldn't be that way.

RedHotChiO

This is how it is with Phi Mu Alpha. Little sister groups are prohibited. Chapters may choose a chapter sweetheart (exactly how this is done would depend on chapter tradition and practice). Chapters may only have one sweetheart at a time and may not a have a group or association of former sweethearts.

Sigma Pi's Eta Rho Chapter in Ottawa has one and only sweetheart forever here-Amy L'homme who was a member of my sorority Xi Delta Theta roll -069- . She was dating a Sigma Pi until the time that she lost her battle with cystic fibrosis. She is even in the Chapters portrait for that year. Every year here girls claim that they are sweethearts of Sigma Pi but they will never be. Its a kinda of special bond that ties the two together. Every year we have A.L.L spirit weekend-a fundraising weekend dedicated to Amy to raise money for cystic fibrosis and Sigma Pi comes and helps out.

My chapter just chose our new Sweetheart, and Scarlet Court. Each fraternity on campus has a similar formula. Its usually like Homecoming Court- There's the Sweetheart and her court (also girls that that chapter elects. Pi Kappa Phi has their Rose Queen and court, and Pike has the Dreamgirl and court. The others really don't do anything. Sigma Nu is the ONLY fraternity that openly has official Little Sisters on our campus.

My chapter elects girls based on their dedication to our fraternity. We choose 7 girls, and they are usually in sororities (but not always). They are presented, serenaded, and usually given a letter shirt (that is the only thing of the fraternity they are allowed to wear). Our sweetheart goes on our composite, and represents Kappa Sigma during Homecoming.

This year our Sweetheart is an Alpha Xi Delta. Our Scarlet Court consists of 2 more AxiD's, 2 DZ's, a Zeta, and a Phi Mu

Just About Every SigTau Chapters has a sweetheart which is voted during Our White Rose Formal. The Criteria is the same: Based on the amount of time spend helping and promoting the fraternity

None of the women in my sorority have ever been sweethearts and I don't know why because we are one the best sororities around. I feel that we are all beautiful and very smart. However, most of the girls (not my sorority sisters) that hang around most of the fraternities are their little groupies who would do anything to be with a fraternity guy. Which I think is so sick.

I just thought being a sweetheart would be something really nice. The guy that we chose as our sweetheart is not in a fraternity because we felt that none of the frat guys that we know were worthy of that tittle.

I don't know maybe that's why none of Phi Sig's have been choosen as a sweetheart.

Annice

Hmm well my mom is my frats current sweetheart, usually its someones gf though. the way we go about choosing her is about a month before homecomming (we have a huge homecomming reuinion brunch every year) the actives nominate women who have done things to show they love us and have gone above and beyond the call of duty to help us out, then we vote and whoever wins gets announced as the new sweet heart at the homecomming brunch. Then all the actives/alums sing her a sweet heart song and give her a plaque and a dozen roses.