Corporate Man, Blue Collar or THUG?
 

I have had a host of experiences with different men of different walks of life. I have had the thug (weed-smoking, kick it on the weekend, rap music bumping,etc.) I have had the blue collar (steel worker, union member, long hours, overtime on holidays,etc.). I have also had the corporate (secretary, palm pilot, busy, laptop carrying, etc.). I myself am a professional, corporate sistah. I am just wondering what is the preference for those other sisters out there. Each of the 3 has an upside and a downside. Corporate is too busy, but he has the money and the business savvy. Thug cannot come to the company Christmas Party and he is a police (social) risk. Yet, Thug admires you 100% as a professional woman. Blue Collar can be rough around the edges with slang, dirty nails,etc. However, he knows the value of work and is usually committed to his job and does not have time for excess. I know these are very general and stereotypes, but what is your preference?

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Shireen:
Thug cannot come to the company Christmas Party and he is a police (social) risk.

ROFLMAO!!!

I have been there and done that with the thug. Not only could he not come to the company Christmas party, I could not let him meet my family. He was for sexual purposes only.

I would prefer a white collar man over a blue collar man simply because we would have more in common. Don't get upset fellas, I don't have anything against blue collar men and I have dated them. But they aren't always able to relate to me the way white collar men can.

One big downside to white collar men is that they are a rarity and they know it. They tend not to want monogamy since they are so in demand.



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We often give our enemies the means for our own destruction.

Aesop c550 BC

Couldn't mess with the thug! As far as white collar or blue collar -- it wouldn't matter as long as he loves, respects, and worships the ground that I walk on http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif (and vice verse of course!).

My ex man was a thug, but he has since changed and moved his way on up to blue collar and folks seem to think he can quickly move to White collar ... Though we are apart now I have been there through all the transitions (7 years) and I believe I can deal with all of them, but I sure am liking what I see in the blue collar almost white collar MAN http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif

Sisters Sisters Sisters,

Am I understanding that the most beautiful and intelligent ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha, Incorporated find it difficult meeting, for the sake of conversation, men as noble as Alpha men.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Professor:
Sisters Sisters Sisters,

Am I understanding that the most beautiful and intelligent ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha, Incorporated find it difficult meeting, for the sake of conversation, men as noble as Alpha men.

LOL. I am beautiful and intelligent, but not a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha. However, after a very long dry spell, I have in fact met a very noble Alpha man. He is a white collar man, but not the average white collar man. I don't think I will be interested in any thugs, blue collar men, or GDIs anytime soon. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

My man is white-collar, with a thug/white/blue collar mentality and I am loving him to death. Frankly, any man who can feed me intellectually (and I have come across brothas from all walks that can do this), sexually (just my nature) and keep my interest, I'm down for... I think that, although it's definitely not the norm, there are some brothas out there who are holding it down on all walks of life.

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Jazbri,

Are you offended by my post? I can't see why anyone would be. However, to answer the question that you deleted a GDI is: A general but objectionable term that some greeks use referring to non-greeks. So that would be someone like me.

I added that information to my previous post because I was speaking about an Alpha man that I am particularly impressed with, in the Alpha's forum. It was intended to be a compliment to the Alphas. I stated that he was not the average white collar man because at some point in his life he was a knucklehead/thug, but those days are over. He is white collar, but not a stuffed shirt.

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We often give our enemies the means for our own destruction.

Aesop c550 BC

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Professor, not at all! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I stated that I couldn't get involved with a thug. However, I feel that nobility transcends across economical lines...

Anyway, even though I looove my Alpha bruhs dearly (skeeeephiii!) --- as I've stated before in another forum, my hubby is the "smoothest, suavest," and most "debonair" man that I Kould have ever married. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

MIDWESTDIVA,

I edited my original post because as I was submitting it, I was talking to my best friend, a distinguished lady of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated, who informed me what a GDI is. I laughed uproariously and realized how doubly dumb I sounded. So, no, I'm not offended.

I salute all men and women who have crossed the burning sands. I've gained much respect due to my close exposure. My dad's a Nupe and my man is an Omega.

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Point of Clarification. I love the men of Alpha Phi Alpha. However, I am not a AKA. It does not matter what organization you are down with. Us Black Women have a problem finding the Corporate Money, the Blue Collar Family Mentality and the Thug Love. Do ya feel me? I have had all walks. Its funny, because I have never seriously dated a Greek man. They have all become my best friends. I am not sure why. If I had to guess, it is because I could not trust any of them when they were out of my sight and with the frat brothers. If I had a choice, I would choose the Greek, Corporate Man that is a little Rough Around the Edges. Any Takers??? SMILE

i want a mixture, someone who can wear many hats if need be. someone who can ball with the fellows, close the deal on a conference call at work, and take out the trash. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif that to me is the idea man.

If you know some COMPLETELY AVAILABLE MOST NOBLE, EXQUISITE AND EXCITING phirst phamily BROTHERS OF ALPHA PHI ALPHA FRATERNITY, INC. with no female problems, no guys named "Bubba or Guido" after them and have no outta control mama or baby's mama issues--I'D LOVE TO MEET THEM!!!

As usually, trying to find the available ones that are down for the "real"--MEANING THE "C" WORD AND THE platinum-palladium metal, flawless, princess cut, true 1-2 carat Argyle Pink Ice solataire. (But I haven't given up on the bruhs...) 08)

Hey Professor, whatz up wit you? I bet you got yo lil angels emailing you daily...(Just joking!!!)

And yeah, and whatz up wit yo single line bruhs? Whatz up wit hookin' a pham sistah up?

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Ms. AKA_Monet,
It is obvious to me that you don't live in the MD, DC area. There are plenty of single, handsome, no baggage brothers of A Phi A. If you're not too far, I suggest you come kick it with us for a weekend.

Ms. AKA_Monet,
It is obvious to me that you don't live in the MD, DC area. There are plenty of single, handsome, no baggage brothers of A Phi A. If you're not too far, I suggest you come kick it with us for a weekend.

Sister AKA_Monet,

I have been dating an AKA for about six months. We are doing wonderfully! As a matter of fact - well - all I can say is if the walls could talk you would understand (lol).

On a seriuse note, my lady is great and I know this is the one. It is difficult not to rush a relationship when things seem perfect. I want to date no less than a year before popping the question. Although, I really want to now.

Much like my frat says there are good men and women. One just has to wait and pray the R I G H T match.

Post Script: Brothers and Sisters should post events that their chapers sponsor. I would dash to DC to hang out with frat and sisters.

To all the sisters and brothers of the forum,

Howard University is having their homecoming stepshow tomorrow at 7pm. You can go to their website for more information and click on student activities. I live in the MD/DC area and if I hear of any other upcoming events I will be sure to post.
http://www.howard.edu/

fatto:

It's true, I'm on a whole 'nother coast--and some of our folks don't like being what they are... Goto the "thread" about Black women and see what's the issue. However, one of my DC sorors said she was "through" with the Maryland bruhs--ALL bruhs. And I have been told never bring your man to DC or MD 'cuz of the "debt to income" ratio is really high--meaning, women outnumber men 5 to 1 or more... Is it true? I am not going to work with odds like that when there are just enuf bruhs out here. They may be dazed and confused but the odds on the otherside of the nation are just too high for me AND I'll take my chances with being alone for the rest of my life out here...

Professor: Congrats on finding love. Especially with a pham member! Hope all will workout between you and her. And work hard to take things really slow.

To ALL:

Eh, why don't all of our organizations hook up a "dating service" thingy? How about it? My folks were talking to other Sigma Pi Phi Boule members and they were sayin' what's wrong with our kids not hookin' up??? Then my SANDS and I had to get on our Silvers and Goldens 'cuz they got some available, single and good sons and they ain't hookin' up their single sorors. Then we are forced to meet guys with "jumbled" teeth, bad credit and baby's mama drama. Or the straight outta Compton, will blow your MF head off Thuggish Brutha's Big Pimpin' thing...

UuuuuHHHHH, I get soooo angry with what I have to deal with out here!!! But the weather's great and there's lots of freedom to do whatever you wanna do...

You would think LA's the place, but let me tell you 'bout knowin' the real ones from the fake ones... You would think that Frisco got it goin' on, but if you have to question their preferences, then you KNOW you outta not have to question. You would think Seattle got a much "cooler" climate, but that's not the only white thing a brutha likes. It's winding up that a sistah in SoCal has to be "Livin' La Vida Loco" or a NoCal sistah has to think about "Turnin' Japanese" or a PacNorthWest sistah...well... You could think about the other boys... They do say there are numerous single MEN in Alaska... Oh well. Times are rough...

And don't ask me to leave my beloved west coast. I love it out here. And I been there and done that with the ATL and the FLA...

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HE HE HE

ROTFLMAKAAO!

ROTF

***SHAKING MY HEAD***

SOROR, YOU ARE WAYYYYYY TOOOOOO MUCCCHH! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Yeah Soror, It's alot of COMEDY out here... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

AND YOU ARE SOOOOOO CORRECT!

I'M GLAD I ONLY OBSERVE THE COMEDY AND THE DRAMA! I HAVE BEEN THERE WHERE YOU ARE AND I HAVE BEEN GIVEN SOMEONE WHO LOVES ME!

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