Would you tell
 

Have any of you bruhs been in love, messed around on yo girl, AND TOLD HER? What happened? Did you lose her? Was it worth it to tell?

When I was much younger, my girlfriend and I "shacked" while in college. After returning from a trip to SC I ran into the love of life. A young lady I dated from 6th grade 'til my junior year in college. She was oh so good and I could feel my heart and of course the rest of body saying I've got to have that. The current girlfriend and I had been a couple for about 1 1/2. I went home, told her I was still in love with my ex. and was going out with her that night. She was pissed but I went out anyway with my ex. After spending a hour with my ex. I realized why we did not make it as a couple and more importantly what I relationship lacked. After taking my ex home I went back the apartment and told my girlfried what a poor decision I made. She forgave me and that was that.

Post Scrip: I think that if you really love someone and want be with a person you will learn to forgive your mate for making SOME bad decisions (I was just lucky).

HELL YEAH; you WERE LUCKY bruh! Women don't come built like that anymore. If so, they're few and FAR BETWEEN.

*Whew*, Professor, you were lucky.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Professor:


Post Scrip: I think that if you really love someone and want be with a person you will learn to forgive your mate for making SOME bad decisions

Professor, I agree whole-heartedly! I believe in the "three strikes and you're out" method myself.



[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited August 21, 2000).]

Original Ape, I don't know about other women, but I am truly offended by your comment http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif. There are a lot of us good women out here who come "built like that". Maybe
you just haven't been looking in the right places sweetie http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif!

[This message has been edited by MissDiamond (edited August 22, 2000).]

Sista! My intent was not to insult you; but to draw out all of you rare flowers with spunk! and it worked

Well, you have succeeded in drawing out one. Now, the question is, what do you do with a rare flower once you've found one http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif?

I'm with Miss Diamond!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif Although we rare flowers are often overlooked, we are certainly not a dying breed!!!! Back me up, Sistas!!!

Well then, where yall at?

We're right here sweetheart...now if only we can find that rare brother with all the RIGHT qualities!! Any of you out there? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

We're out there!

But just like how we do women, ya'll be overlooking the good stuff...for the flashy packages!!!!

I tell you...everything that looks like OLD GOLD...isn't!!!!

And Professor...you WERE VERY VERY LUCKY!!!!

But I'm finding out...that women have a very complex ideology!!!

I have had some Sorors and Deltas tell me that they don't engage in sex (while dating)!
However, they don't think men can keep themselves...so all they care is that they better not find out!!! And that you better treat them like the QUEEN they are, when you are in their presence!!! (they are not endorsing outside stuff, but they feel like its not a choice)...

Ain't that nothin!

While thats more than I can handle...I think it underestimates Brothers...and continues to oversexualize Black men who are often not held accountable!

What'cha ya'll think!

A PHI,

PHI-SKEE,

I am,

The Ice Cold Kreator

Looka here, florita:

Don't start no fiyas you can't put out!

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Ice Cold Kreator:

However, they don't think men can keep themselves...so all they care is that they better not find out!!! And that you better treat them like the QUEEN they are, when you are in their presence!!! (they are not endorsing outside stuff, but they feel like its not a choice)...

Can you suggest a better choice?

Hmmmm! If this forum wasn't for all eyes...I would REALLY respond to that one! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

AH, AINT THAT SWEET! I HAVE A PROFILE...

What a coincidence! So do I!! *wink, wink*

Maybe it's just me, but this sounds like a possible luv connection!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

No Cream Puff, it's not just you.

Sexy Mocha,

I think that women should expect the best...and Demand it!!!!

If a man cheats on you now, what makes you think he's gonna be faithful later?

Plus, I know some brothers who don't engage in sex b/c of religious or personal reasons...these brothers do exist! You just got to find someone compatible!

I think that women should put religious orientation a little higher on their lists then they do? Would you rather have a Religious faithful man who works hard everyday and brings his paycheck home who doesn't have a degree....or a man who has no moral girth with a degree who can't be loyal?

My thing is STOP being fooled by the SEX!!!
Start looking at the other things!

Holla At Me!!

[quote]Originally posted by Sexy Mocha:

Quote:

Originally posted by Ice Cold Kreator: However, they don't think men can keep themselves...so all they care is that they better not find out!!! And that you better treat them like the QUEEN they are, when you are in their presence!!! (they are not endorsing outside stuff, but they feel like its not a choice)... Can you suggest a better choice?

I have a suggestion; but it's for your eyes only!

[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited August 24, 2000).]

Original, you always seem to have all the right suggestions/words to say to us women in here...what would we do without you?

Sexy Mocha, I agree with you! We all would like to think our man is that rare one that doesn't cheat but we DO have to be realistic sista! We can not just put our full trust in a man, no matter how much we are in love with this man or care about him. Expecting the worse can lessen the blow if I do find out he's cheating.

Stop it Sexy! You're makin' me blush! Naw, thanks for the complement sweettart!

HOLLA AT ME TOO!

Original, making you blush was not my intention. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif

HOWEVER...I'm glad you have such a keen sense of humor http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif.

I see you're feeling me on certain things I have said, but actually...I do not agree with you on the issue of trust. If I'm in love with a man, I'm going to trust him 100%, UNTIL he gives me a reason not to.

However, Miss Diamond , we, as women, do have to stay alert and on point.

i agree with you.i am the same with you.if i love one girl i trust her 100% until she gives me the reason not too......

Ice Cold Kreator~ Boo, I disagree with the comment about us ladies being attracted to the men with all the flashy material things. I, personally, along with a host of other women, the REAL women--that is, out there don't care too much for the flash. Nine times out of ten, men who have to flash what they have are insecure about something. Now, I don't know about ya'll, but, I can't stand an insecure man. I would much rather have a man with little and a whole lot of sense than a rich fool--Ya Dig? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Intensify, You took the words right out of my mouth! I couldn't have said it better myself!

Ladies...you have NEVER lied! The last thing a sister like myself wants is a flashy, foolish man.

News Flash: Men who have to flash and flaunt material items are trying to compensate for what they're lacking in life...such as a personality or intelligence

REAL WOMEN like us need a man of substance!

Can I get an amen ladies?



[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited August 24, 2000).]

AAAAAAMEN Mocha!!!!

Alright...Cut the cheerleadin'!

Hey Original! You know my sister friend is speaking the truth!! We have to back her up!

AAAAAMMMMMEEEEENNNNNN!!!!!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMEEEEEEENNNNNNNN!

ATTENTION, ORIGINAL APE!!! We are in desperate need of another hot topic such as this one. We are all waiting for some ORIGINAL flava! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I didn't want to seem like a talk show host, so I decided to chill and let someone else have the floor. As creative as everyone on our side and your is, I'm sure we can come up with alot of juicey topic!

Hi, I am that "rare breed" of woman who still exists. My man cheated on me this summer and I had the proof to back it up. After a few weeks I forgave him and tried to reassure him that I wouldn't cheat on him simply because I don't have the desire to.

So let me spice this thang up some more, http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif
THIS IS FOR YOU PROFESSOR -- Once she forgives you are things still the same? My man won't let me out of his sight because he fears I will retaliate and do the same.