Apartments of the other sex
 

The apartment essentials thread got me thinking about this. Guys and gals, when you enter the apartment of someone you're seeing for the first time(whether it's to hook up or just meet up with them), what items would make you take notice or help to define their personality? What would you like to see decorating someone else's apartment? What would really bother you?

Odor. It has to smell nice. And how clean is the bathroom, the toilet in particular.

The first time I saw my bf's room I noticed the framed picture of him and his sisters. That implied to me that he had a strong relationship with his family (which is true).

On the flipside, alot of guys have their room plastered with naked pictures which would be a bit much for seeing a guy's place that you're dating.

It would really bother me if I was showing up at my guy's place for the first time and it was GROSS. I have been over to some nasty azz places in my day. I don't care so much if it's really neat, but it needs to be clean. The bathroom, especially, should be clean so that one isn't afraid to touch the toilet, and I appreciate a lack of offensive smells.

Other than that, I'm not too particular. I'm pretty sure that all guys look at porn at some time or another, but I really wouldn't want to see it laying around all over the place. I would also like it if his apartment indicated that he has taste similar to mine -- for example, I like old buildings with hardwood floors and big windows, so I'm going to be more impressed by such a place than by, say, a carpeted, more modern apartment in a high rise or complex or something. The idea of living in a high rise freaks me out, and I don't know that I would have a lot in common with someone living in one.

When I get my apartment next month, I am prolly gonna put framed pictures of myself all over the place.

I might even put a giant poster of myself right above my bed so I can remind myself how good I look before I sleep and when I wake up.

:)

Porn doesn't bother me, but I do get weirded out when he has pictures of his ex posted all over the place. Usually those guys haven't gotten over their ex yet and aren't really ready to move on. The weirdest one I've seen was where this guy almost had a kind of shrine. I didn't go back over there...

The guy I'm seeing now has pictures all over of him playing with his niece and nephew, which are like 2 and 10 months, respectively. From a female standpoint, that says a lot in regards to good family relationships and the fact that he likes kids (not saying that I necessarily want to have kids with this guy, but you know what I mean!).

I'd probably check the fridge out too come to think of it ... a guy who has more than a six-pack and cheese spray is a keeper. Guys who can cook are the best!

check the sink to see how many dirty dishes are in it, and check to se if the garbage looks like it has been taken out recently (or to see whether it is overflowing)

I take a look in the medicine cabinet as soon as possible. If she's got any of that Monistat crap, I'm out of there. I also look at what's on the bookshelf because that says a lot about a person.

-Rudey
--Seriously, the only yeast in her apartment should be in the bread.

Ah, come on! Eating the wrong foods or taking medicine can bring that on, and it's probably happened to girls you've dated before. You might just not have known it.

I check out the pictures also.. *nods* Family photos are a big thing and/or friend pics.
Also if you can actually walk through the bedroom, if it's a work-out just to get to the other side of the room, he's not worth the time, lol. Because if he doesn't have enough time to pick up his clothes he doesn't have enough time for me. :p

I take a look at the pictures. I like to see pictures of the guy with his family.
What I hate is walking into an apartment that is disgusting. I don't mind seeing a bit of dirt here and there but a friend of mine has an apartment that is a trash/garbage/rotting food obstacle course. And it smells like crap. The worst part is that if he had rats he'd probably never know because his apartment is piled in garbage.

pictures- yes. key. check shoes, too.. dirty and battered and he's not very detail oriented... nice shoes= stylish ;)

I've found myself checking out pictures, overall decor, and yes, the shoes.

When the closet's open and I see some really weird article of clothing, he points out that it was for a social and then I breathe a sigh of relief.

Lately I've been looking around trying to figure out what to get the boy for Christmas. I'm going crazy!

if he's not yet established, or just out of college, he should have a clean place. not anally clean, but not a pig-sty

if he's older, he should have some nice things. no more bean bag chairs or flip-n-fucks. time to grow up!

What is this and how do i get it?

-Rudey
--I only have 2 more quarters of school before I'm considered an adult.

Flip-n-F**K!!! Ha ha, haven't heard that for awhile.

Rudey, they are those cheap, foldout couch/chair things. They are like the predecessors to futons.

Wow, a blast from the past. It was more of a freshman year thing. Hopefully if the guy you're interested in has an apartment he has a real bed.

I would check out the bedroom and see how clean that is. Generally when a bunch of guys live together the house can be a mess but at least if they keep their personal space clean that's a positive! :) Also, I look around to see if they have anything around that will let me know about hobbies.

I had a brother who was the exact opposite. His apartment was always immaculate.. His bedroom was a bunch of clothes on the floor with paths carved out to various important spots in the room.

Anyhow.. As far as women's apartments go.. I really don't pay all that much attention and don't think I'd care one way or the other unless I lived there.

The first time I went to my exfiancee's house was last year over new years. First of all the place he lived was BAD A$$! Like three swimming pools, gated entry, townhome-like instead of apartments.
Then we entered his place and the kitchen was messy. Like he didn't own a mop and so the floor hadn't been cleaned (BLAH). The overall set up and furnature was a little more reassuring. He had black leather couch. Matching coffee and end tables. Nice lamps. Huge entertainment center. Everything black and white. Then we went upstairs to the bedroom/bathroom. The toilet was also nasty (no toilet brush either). But he had a nice shower curtain that matched the color of the walls in the room. The bedroom was pretty nice too. He just was messy is all. Very good, expensive taste though!
So I guess he was into putting on a front like he had a lot but really he didn't.:rolleyes: Oh well!

Like a sofa-bed? If you live in a studio that costs a couple grand a month in ny, those are a necessity.

-Rudey

My ex lived in a small apartment in NYC and had a Murphy bed. I thought that it was kind of weird at first, but it was great because it was out of the way when it wasn't in use. I've never heard it called a flip-n-f@*&. :p

What are those things called that are beds but in the wall then when you go to sleepy time you pull them down?

A Murphy bed

I've never even seen one of those before.. Except on TV.

flip-n-f***s are found in a lot of dorm rooms. the fold up to be low to the gournd chairs with short backs and when they were onfolded they were beds with the low back turned into the pillow. they ae great when friends come to visit.

It definitely needs to be clean - free of any sort of odors, mold, etc. Neat is a plus, but I don't expect it to be immaculate by any means. I'm never thrilled with pictures of naked/half-naked women plastered everywhere. Sure, a guy has his magazines and his video collection and that's fine, but cutting them out and pasting them up on bulletin boards or walls is a big turn off for me. I always check the food - you can tell a lot about a person by what they have in their kitchens. I also like to see if a guy has any books (non-school books) and what kind they are.