Annoying Relatives
 

Ahh..Thanksgiving..the time where loved ones get together to spend quality time with eachother. BULLSH*T!! This can be the thread in which everyone can share the bad parts of their T-Day...

Here's mine:
Okay, started out bad..as soon as I hop out of the shower I get a call from TKE209 saying that his car died and he can't come down. Okay, I can handle that..then comes my favorite sister w/her 2 kiddies. The kids are cute and cuddley for toddlers, but hey, everything goes great and the generic lovey-dovey holiday act continues. Fast forward a few hours..my oldest sister w/her a$$ of a husband and her 2 brats show up. (Yes, I know they are my neices, but I can still think they are annoying even though I love them) Well, we eat -again- and I go to my comp to check my e-mail and etc. Well, TJ my bro-in-law in sitting behind me watching what sites I go on just to be annoying to me. Well, I jump on good ole GC to see how everyone is doing. Well, he goes ON AND ON about how Greeks are 'gay', 'losers', and etc. Also, he makes it even more uncomfortable for me because I'm wearing TKE209 sweater w/his letters on it and around my computer screen I have pics of my greek friends (w/all various letters) taped up around the frame. Then he says, "Kayla, it still makes me wonder of why the hell you would let yourself get caught up with losers like that..". :rolleyes: :mad: If I had only a nice rusty shovel sitting beside me I could have split his fat head into. Oh, just to add this in, he continues to ridicule me of my weight saying I'm fat and etc..yeah..nice moment there (which I'm still wondering if he was just looking at a reflection of himself...). The conversation after that I will not put here..heh. Okay, I've did my rant..now I'm gonna hit the leftover turkey :) :)

Kaya

Hey guys! I just today figured out the secret of co-existing with evil in-laws: Alcohol! Lots and lots of alcohol!

My mother-in-law asked me what she could bring down for T'giving dinner. I said, how about dessert? She said, ok, I'll bring pie. She meant that literally. She brought a pie. One pie. One pie for 14 people :rolleyes:

I didn't know what to do; I ended up pouring the remains of my daughters' Halloween candy in a bowl and passing it around to supplement the pie!

We were rather sad because we couldn't afford to go to the annual gathering at Hilton Head with the rest of the extended family. ASLFRose and BlazerCheer went over to my in-laws' house to cook part of our dinner since they were in HH and we needed the extra space.

The phone rang and it was a distress signal from the elderly neighbor who, unbeknownst to us, has some kind of phone hookup with my in-laws to alert them if she falls. She had fallen and the 2 girls ran over to help her. Unfortunately, she was inside her barbed-wire-enclosed back yard and there wasn't a gate. BlazerCheer kind of tossed ASLFRose in and both got rather torn up from the barbed wire..they called 911 because the lady was badly cut from her fall. The lady is in the hospital now but she'll be okay in awhile.

Anyway, thank God we were here--it was below freezing this morning and I don't know what would have happened if we'd left.

My Thanksgiving dinner was 98% cool. The 2% uncool part was when one of my great-aunts started being obnoxious. She blurted out "I haven't seen so many picky eaters, and that's one of the things I cannot STAAAAANNNNNDDD!", she went on to complain about me being a Junior and not having a decided major, and the worst-I shouldn't be complaining about poor people recieving grants because I am poor myself. WTF? :mad::rolleyes: I am NOT poor (not rich either though, lol)! I mean, I've been told much much much worse things, but it was in front of a room full of people and I seem to be her ONLY target for some reason. :rolleyes::confused:

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Hmmm .. well I think overall Thanksgiving Day was good.. it was the drive home and the drive back I'm not looking forward to.

On the way here, I hit major traffic in the three major cities, ft. worth, austin, and san antonio... that made an 8 hour drive last 10 hours. And i get to head back to school on saturday.

I should have flown. :p

Lord knows every time I spend an extended period of time with the relatives I am out in the garage drinking. Bonus points if there is a TV out their so I can watch the game.

DANG! You guys have it pretty tough! We do have one relative that tends to knaw on eveyone, but he is much, MUCH better now.

First-I used to bite my tongue out of respect for my inlaws, but there comes a point where unless you take the dive and shovel it right back, it will NEVER end. Just because you are the "yung uns" doesn't mean ANYONE should be allowed to belittle you.

I suggest a preplanned statement (the generic form) that can be delivered in the full family forum (without passion) yet hits the mark. An example of my last one was-______, I've noticed that at every gathering you find something to criticize. Last year you felt everyone was too fat. (He was running and looked like a prisoner of war-no exageration) Before that, you couldn't understand why my daughter didn't want to be a chemical engineer. (This arguement went on for HOURS) This year, you are upset because the rolls are too brown and the kids went to private school. I would really appreciate it if you kept your negative remarks and
opinions to yourself and let us enjoy being together as a family.
Things really did go great this year and even ________ was in good form.

TKE209Sweethrt WHAT A JERK! You REALLY need a good comeback. Have one ready for CHRISTMAS!

PM_Mama00 I would NEVER let ANYONE do that to my kids!
(unless they deserved it) Perhaps you should tell your parents how YOU feel when they see him treat you AND your sister that way.
My sister's ex said something "ugly" about her in front of our Grandpa. He got out of his chair, bit his lip, looked him DEEP in the eyes and said a husband never speaks to his wife that way.

Killarney LL, You have THE best M-I-L stories!!!

Have you ever noticed that these annoying perpetrators are usually male or the elderly?

Well, I do have a jerk brother-in-law, never married or a father, who tries to tell the rest of us how to raise kids. Naturally, his nieces and nephews hate him.

I find that younger women tend to do their dirty work throughout the year--to drop little hints around that so-and-so doesn't keep her kids clean 24/7 or so-and-so's kids don't wear the best clothes. They don't usually drop their bombs around holiday time. I'm not sure which is worse.

Carnation-I find that younger women tend to do their dirty work throughout the year--to drop little hints around that so-and-so doesn't keep her kids clean 24/7 or so-and-so's kids don't wear the best clothes. They don't usually drop their bombs around holiday time. I'm not sure which is worse.

LOL! My husband always says-"Take it like a man and blame it on thewife!":p

Carnation, I'm picturing BlazerCheer picking up her sister and heaving her over the fence. That is one strong little girl you've got there!

Good thing they were there. I've been in a similar situation, and few things make your heart fly to your mouth faster than finding someone (especially someone you love) hurt on the floor after a fall.

And justamom -- Yay for Grandpa! Now THAT'S a real man.

LOL, SilverBlue! ASLFRose told her, "I'll put my foot in your hands and you boost me up!" And BlazerCheer tossed her up-- and over.

i feel bad for some of ya with the stories you posted! this sounds bad, but most of my family really isnt that close, so we dont see eachother much. but for the most part we all get along when we're together, but that might be due to the fact that we dont see eachother much.

Yeah...my relatives. Well, don't usually see most of the extended ones until winterbreak xmas, but hopefully i will be working.

I figured that one out years ago. Works on all relatives, not just in-laws. Funny how the holidays always seemed to go much more smoothly once I was old enough to drink... ;)

my annoyance isn't male or elderly...
 

First of all, I'm always kind of on guard at family gatherings because I recently lost about 80 pounds or so (this becomes important later). I don't know if any of the rest of you have experienced this, but they treat me so much better now. It's always, "Ohhhhh I'm sooo happy to see you, you look sooooooo great, it's really amazing how much better you look blah blah blah." Now, I'm probably being too sensitive here, but sometimes it feels like they think I'm a better person and more lovable now that they're not all commenting about how heavy I've gotten behind my back. In a perfect world, your family's supposed to love you no matter what, right? It's one thing if that insensitive guy in your class says, "You look so much better now that you've lost weight," since you know he didn't even look at you before, but family isn't supposed to do that. Ok, enough of that rant.

So I get the normal goings-on about how skinny I am now, etc, to which my mother yells, "Well, she STILL thinks she's fat, she'll NEVER think she's skinny enough," making it sound like I'm completely anorexic. In reality, I have a few problem areas that I need to work on some more and could maybe stand to lose 10 more pounds, but she has to announce this to the world and make it sound like I have an eating disorder.

Then we're eating dinner. I have one plate that I put a little of everything on without taking a lot of one thing. That way I'm not going to feel like I have to go back because I missed something. When you take a spoonful of a few different dishes, the plate can get pretty full. So my mom then decides to say loudly, "You know, if you keep eating like that, you WILL be fat AGAIN."

The fact that 99% of the time, I live off veggies and lean cuisines means nothing, apparently...but what do I expect from the woman that told me that I must be starving myself because I got into a smaller size than her. She's a 12/14. I'm an 8 right now and am just shooting for a flat stomach, then I'll be happy. It's not like a 00 is falling off me.

No offense to anyone who is that size, it's just not a size I could personally get to without risking my health. My bone structure's just too big for that.

Re: my annoyance isn't male or elderly...
 

Ohhhhh, yes. This reminds me of what happened when I went to one of my out-of-state cousins' weddings in high school. See, I looked like a complete dork all through middle school and the first year of high school, with these big glasses and scary '80s hair (hey, I'm from eastern KY, all right?). So then at the end of my freshman year, I got contacts and grew out my hair, but of course my out-of-state relatives didn't know that because we only got together once in a blue moon. Well, my cousin has this big wedding, and I went with my parents...and my aunt and uncle didn't even recognize me. They were like, "Who the hell is THAT?" I liked the reaction, because people just ignored me before, but all of a sudden everyone was being soooooo nice to me and introducing me to all these people, and then my cousin remarked to my parents that if she'd known "how much I'd grown up"--meaning, how much better I looked--she would have asked me to be a bridesmaid, too. (My older sister was a bridesmaid and my younger sister was the flower girl.) That sort of ticked me off because it was like saying, "Well, you weren't good enough before, but now that you don't look like a white female version of Steve Urkel, you're OK." Geez.

But that's a shame about your mom--I think she's jealous! She should be supporting you instead of trying to make you insecure.