Is it near impossible to join an NPC as an alumnae initiate?
 

Just curious...

For many organizations, yes. You must have strong, deep ties to a chapter, a history of service and support. Some organizations are looser with their policies. AI is not something just handed out because someone wants to join.

As a Kappa, I’m guessing?

I don't think that KKG AIs.

It varies from group to group. In Alpha Gam, you need to have a "sponsor" and have attended alumnae chapter/club events a certain number of times. The motivation to initiate alumnae is for women who will be involved at the alumnae level, not just someone wanting to wear certain letters, so say she is a so and so. I believe that most of our alumnae initiates are sisters, mothers or daughters of Alpha Gams.

I'm not sure why Beta Sigma Phi isn't enough for you--

Also, you already asked this and we gave you answers. And we are not "candy" in a store to be chosen from.

Very helpful, and completely understandable. Thanks for the reply.

I didn't already ask this. And I certainly don't view sorority as candy. Not sure where you're getting that twisted impression. Although, I imagine there probably are people like that and I can respect your experience being treated as such.

As for BSP, I'm giving it everything I've got, but I recently met someone in both BSP and ASA--her story piqued my interest and prompted my question.

Clearly, she didn't go to the Greek candy store, so to speak. But, if it's in me to be that person, I'm up for the commitment.

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Old 04-21-2019, 11:29 PM
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Thanks, everyone. I thought I missed the opportunity to be part of a sorority As a junior transfer. I had no idea that orgs like BSP and ESA existed.

I did join BSP, and in “digging in” I learned about NPC alum chapters too. I have that kid in a candy store vibe about me right now. I’m interested in learning...

I have been working on an update to an old but popular Greek Chat post about sorority after college. It was so helpful, but also dated at this point. I’ve been on this quest to update with more info in case it helps others.

You have posted this EXACT question on the reddit sorority subreddit and were given the answer time and time again. On that thread in particular, at least 3 KKG members told you for a fact that they did not do Alumnae initiation. You can post questions like this as much as you would like, but KKG won’t change.

Truth. I need to up my involvement with the alumnae chapter. Ever since I left teaching, I've always been traveling for work when chapter meetings are happening.

I am excited by opportunities I never knew I had. That's what I meant by my comment. Apologies if that came across too literally. I have a lot of passion for a community of women that serve their communities and lift each other up all the same. At least most of the women I've met are that way.

Girrrrrl, no. Just no. ASA is not your backup plan. One person does not reflect the opinion of the rest of the sorority.

SeekingKappa has nothing to do with KKG, btw. It references the Kappa chapter of one specific sorority at the college I attended.

Not an opinion. For her it was enriching experiences and honor. I just thought it was cool.

Not me. I've never posted on reddit.

I'm certainly no expert on AI. Not positive that I ever met a woman who joined after college...but it seems to me that someone who wanted this experience would have a close relationship with women who are already members. Posting on an anonymous message board attempting to discover information on the process does not appear to be the way to go about it.

I wanted to be an SEC cheerleader back in the day. It turned out that I was way too tall and not talented enough. Do I still get a pang sometimes watching the game of what might have been? Yes, but then reality hits me and now I think, wow, that ship has sailed without me many years ago.
I do wish you the best.

I sailed on that ship back in the day! Fun but a real grade-killer.

Where is the "like" button? About the fun :), not the grades. :(

My girls are Chi Omegas from FSU and several members from their chapter cheered. It was fun to watch them on national TV!

A couple of chapter sisters cheered. They were always having to miss things (excused, of course) but when they could make chapter or an event they gave their all.

Seekingkappa, to the majority of GCers your name is interpreted as someone seeking AI in KKG. Even if it means the chapter name of your desired sorority ( and I hope you didn't attend the University of Texas), you should've chosen a neutral name. It gives off a creepy, entitled, assumptive vibe. As to the candy store allusion, oh yes you did. And we take offense to it.

BSP offered you membership and you accepted. Have you given it your all? Have you thrown yourself into BSP events and chapter meetings? Have you given it time? If not, you should before you seek nirvana elsewhere. What will a NPC alumnae group provide you that BSP can't?

Thanks for the respectful insight. Education is important, right? Creepy, entitled and assumptive is far from intent. And I understand that others' perceptions are what matter.

So isn't there a way for me to change my user name? I believe admins have to do it? And I am happy and willing to change it if it's viewed as bothersome.

When I joined GreekChat as seekingkappa, I didn't even know BSP existed. I sought membership to BSP and was accepted because I first learned about it here.

So yeah, I'm still learning. #neverstoplearning

You joined GC in September 2018, then joined BSP and in 9 months or less decided that BSP wasn't enough?

Actually, I joined BSP in February 2019. Yes, the relationship is pretty new. But it is for life. What I do outside of BSP, and why, is entirely on me. It speaks to what I want to achieve for others -- not what it gets me.

Please accept this advice the way it is intended...you seem to have gotten all the answers we have to give. Coming on here attempting to receive validation for your journey is starting to have a negative impact. You don't seem to get the point of AI and the process that a woman would go through to obtain it.

Asking the same questions over and over expecting to get a different result never succeeds. Or maybe you are trying to get info to write a book. You certainly won't be the first.

What I would recommend, is private and personal research. If you have NPC member friends, ask them, not complete strangers. In all sincerity, you are starting to burn bridges here.


I do wish you the best of luck to find what you are seeking.

What?

How do you have any idea what you will have time for outside of BSP when you’ve only been a member for 2.5 months?