sexually inexperienced
 

Do guys mind it if girls are inexperienced?

Anyway, I am 19 years old and quite of unexperienced and just have a boyfriend since one week. Do ya think he's going to mind?

No, as long as you don't have to big of a FUPA. :D

This was on another thread... I have known many boys who are impressed and respect girls who are inexperienced. They say it makes them feel really special if they get to be the one to "break you in," so to speak. It's kind of like a challenge for them, sadly enough.

I don't think it's so much of a problem. If you're worried about inexperience you can do quite a bit of reading on the internet. All kinds of good things to know. I had much more experience going into my current relationship (hers was basically none) and all has been well.. very well...:cool:

Amen! If it wasn't for the internet and GC, I would still be in the sexual dark ages. :eek::o

NO ONE should be in the sexual Dark Ages after reading GC of late! :eek:

Agreed, I think my sexual knowledge increased like 300% within the last few days!

Now all you have to do is try it all! LOL. :D

Inexperienced: No
Insecure: Yes

Re: sexually inexperienced
 

No, because you can provide them with experience and then take pictures so everyone knows they've got some experience afterwards.

-Rudey
--If they're really good, I even write them a letter of recommendation. :p

Since you've only been dating the guy for a week, I don't think your biggest concern should be about sex and inexperience.

Be nice Darlin' . . .

as long as she doesn't flip out when I..uh...when I do what I do best:p

Someone once pointed out to me that guys want an inexperienced girl yet they want her to tell them that they are the best. Interesting, though true.

My girlfriend was a virgin when I met her, let's just say she's not anymore, but I feel kind of special, because she hadn't done anything but kiss a guy before she met me. Sometimes it's odd because sometimes I have to teach her the ins and outs. NO PUN intended

HAHAHAHA, I thought that was local slang!

What is it about "deflowering" someone?? Sorry, but you could be getting used just as much as you could be loved by that person! So, don't get all high and mighty! AND, if you do find out someone is a virgin, please don't freak out and think they are going to make a big deal out of it if you do have sex with them! Nothing makes them feel worse when they already feel like a social anomaly!

Am I speaking personally, OH YEAH! Sex is sometimes just that, SEX! I'll letcha know when we're MAKING LOVE, OK! Geez, some men act like women are these emotionally fragile beings!

HERE'S SOMETHING YOU MAY NOT KNOW:

WE LIKE TO GET OUR FREAK ON TOO!!!!!!

I totally understand your rant, SigmaGrrl! A guy will think he is a god if an unexperienced girl hooks up with him, but it could totally have nothing to do with him as a person, and just has to do with the timing.

On the other hand, sometimes it does have to do with the guy, so please don't take advantage of inexperienced girls who think you actually care about them, boys!

Do girls mind inexperienced guys?

I don't mind inexperienced guys. Seems we have to reteach the experienced ones everything anyway because they have usually developed bad habits (and yet they think they are so good)! Better to start with a blank slate!

It seems like GC keeps getting better and better.:D Well, at least this thread is PG.

Optimist Prime, no I don't think that girls mind an inexperienced guy, but this is coming from an inexperienced girl. Even the way experienced girls have come across a guy who hasn't been around much and I think that it gives the girls a change from the same type of guy that they are used to- the ones with the big egos who think they are great.

I too am concerned about the original post- I think that if you are that concerned as to if he will mind your lack of experience, he might not be the right guy for you. However, I understand your questions and I think that it is normal to wonder things like this, especially when you are getting to know a person. The best person to ask this kind of stuff too: HIM!!
I know it might not be the right time now, but if you are planning on having any type of initimate relationship with this guy, you should be able to talk about things like this when the time comes. Okay, I'm really not trying to sound like a preacher, sorry if it comes across that way. :)

Does it matter if you end up getting some? Just send her over to the campus feminist group if she's not satisfied and she can vent all she wants in the comfort of others who might be more sympathetic.

-Rudey
--I'm only kidding ladies :D

Nah. It gives us a chance to shape you in our own image. :D Honestly... I'd advise anyone, regardless of experience level, check the ego and arrogance at the bedroom door. I know we all talk about "getting some," but ideally, sex is best when it stems from a mutual desire to please the other person. With time and a healthy relationship (or a really amazing one-night-stand), you come to trust that she'll want to please you just as much as you want to please her. That allows you to take it to new heights.

And above all, communication! Need I say more?

If the guy really likes you and is not an asshole he won't mind. Sex with a new partner is about learning anyway. Learning what you like, what you don't,l and how to make it the best for both of you.

Since that's my attitude toward sex, I don't do it with people I'm not going to see for long. Inexperience doesn't make much of a difference to me. However, I think guys who are willing to try new things and make efforts for good sex are awesome!

Oh, and Amen KappaKittyCat! I agree 200%
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I was trying to be nice...I could have been much more blunt.