Just to play devils advocate here......
 

anyone brave enough to admit that they wished they'd joined a different GLO? Anyone get into their top choices and now are thinking "Damn I wish I could do it over. I'd have gone....."
Personally I like my GLO but I wished I'd gone to school somewhere else and had more choices. I informally rushed in the spring to a group where I knew a bunch of the girls already. When I was 18 i had NO CLUE what I was getting into or how serious it all was. Worked out fine for me, but anyone have regrets?

Through all the crazy events in my chapter, sometimes I've wondered what it would be like to be in a different organization on this campus and not have all the problems. But I know that I could never be a member of one of those groups. I know that I wouldn't be a Kappa at a different school-- UW Madison is always my comparison because it's where half my high school went-- and the sad thing is that I probably wouldn't have rushed at all.

To quote a famous Theta, "It's not getting what you want; it's wanting what you've got."

No regrets!! I was actully tried to be recruited and rushed other orgs. ONe had an image i didn't want, and I didn't like some of the bros in the other. I got snap bidded and only knew two people in the org i joined before that. It rocked, think of all the great friends I would have never met.

I have no regrets, but I did get lucky; I didn't really know what I was getting into, and it just so happened that my GLO was perfect for me. I joined the first semester of my freshman year, and I understand that most campuses require students to carry 12 credits before they rush. This year, we modified our recruitment process so that the PNM's would have a better idea of the committment required to be a sister, even though most of them are first semester freshman, and it really worked out well.

I regret having gone to this school. I love my chapter, but if I knew then what I know now, I would have never have come to this school. I go to bed with dreams of UConn......

My thoughts exactly! :) I have never, once regretted my choice.

Obviously there are ups and downs to any group, especially one that tries to do all the stuff a sorority does.

I think most people ask themselves what it would be like if they had made a different choice. I sure did. But I think that happens with any decision we make. We wonder if our lives would be different if we weren't at the college we're at, weren't pre-meds or English Majors or what have you. In the end, I am proud of my girls and of Chi O, and am happy it is part of my life.

-M

ps- Also, i think the girls that really think "damn, I'd do it different!" drop out before they graduate.

I was lucky in the sense that considering the campus climate I could have gone anywhere. Of COURSE I've wondered how things might have been different, but most likely, they would have been much the same.

If anything, attending a different campus where Greek Life had a greater impact would have been the choice for me. Then again, I wouldn't have met my "soul mate" and I wouldn't be mother to the children I have. They too would be different. I couldn't imagine being any happier with my family than I am. Like the old Jimmy Stewart movie, "It's a Wonderful Life"!

JAM, once again you take the words out of my mouth! :) I've wondered what it would have been like to have rushed on a more traditional, pro-Greek campus. But then I realize that I probably wouldn't have rushed on a traditional campus!

I will never, ever, regret joining Alpha Gam. She brought my husband to me!

i love AXO!! but if i were at a different school, who knows what would have happened. while i still loved other GLOs at my school, i wouldn't have fit in there and was much more comfortable in AXO

Michelle, VERY well said.


My dad used to tell me when I was a little girl that there is no such thing as coencidences. I'm just now starting to figure out what he meant by that.

honestly, looking at the other orgs at my school i don't think there is ANY other way for me to go- i fit here. i am not what the other girls are about... it just works for me. :)

I have wondered what it would have been like had I gone with a different chapter. As I have said before, I really liked 3 chapters pretty equally. But far more so than the specific sorority, I have had some regrets about not giving other colleges a look. I always just kind of assumed I would go to Kent State.......(we are a big KSU family.) Once I enrolled I looked at some other schools, among them the University of Virginia.....I thought about transferring. At that time though the things that interested me and places I thought were cool are most definitely not the same places that I am interested in now. Strange thing is, my husband really kind of ended up at Kent as a fluke. He had his heart set on the Naval Academy and was getting recruited by a number of schools for golf. He looked at various places but it was all Navy. But then even though he was golf-scholarship material, had a GPA of 3.8 and was in the National Honor Society, his stupid test scores (I think it was the ACT) weren't high enough to get directly into Annapolis. He was given an opportunity to attend NAPS (the prep school) for one year and then move into the Academy, and he said "screw that!" So Kent it was.......good thing too, for if it weren't for Kent State, Delta Tau Delta and Chi Omega I wouldn't have my precious family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I thought about going Greek when I was at Truman and just lived in the limbo of never really deciding if I wanted to join a sorority in the first place. (But I had decided that if I were to grace Greek life with my presence, I was in love with Sigma Kappa ;)) That was a whole lot of me being stupid. Woah, that makes it sound like I'm dissing Sigma K when I was really just saying I was being stupid since I never actually TRIED to give Sigma Kappa a chance by rushing to figure out if I really did want to join a sorority or not.

SO, after getting into a serious long distance relationship with a great Phi Kap at UMR, I ended my sophomore year with a diamond ring and acceptance to what would be my new school. I got to UMR in the fall and knew nobody but him and his fraternity brothers, which was fine except that I didn't want to feel like my life was completely interpreted through his. After hanging out at the Chi Omega house with a girl who went to my highschool and a new friend who lived down the hall from me (who was a Chi O pledge) I realized that all my wondering was leading to the same conclusion: I just HAD to join Chi O (informally) because everything about the girls is fantastic!! I absolutely LOVE it, although on occasion I do wonder where I would have gone, had I participated in formal recruitment. I think I could have fit in at ZTA, too.

But I never EVER for a moment regret joining Chi Omega, and I never doubt that it is where I was meant to end up in the scheme of things. If it weren't for Phi Kappa Theta, I would have never considered joining Chi Omega, and I would have never met some of the BEST people to ever enter my life.

Please note my signature before reading this! :)

I was 16 when I graduated from high school, 17 when I started college. I had a full scholarship to a school in Virginia, but my parents didn't feel that I was mature enough to live away from home at the time (never mind that it had been my mom's family's home!). Over the years, I see that they were right. I went to college locally my freshman year, fully expecting to transfer afterwards.

And then I pledged ADPi. I LOVED my freshman year! I was very torn about transferring, but what sold me was that there was not (at the time) a chapter of ADPi at the VA school. I would have lost out on the majority of my sorority experience.

This is my Road Not Taken. Where would I be, had I gone away from day one (and probably pledged a different sorority)? It's really not ADPi that I question at all, it's the school.

That all being said, I couldn't imagine being happier in a sorority other than Alpha Delta Pi!!

honeychile

I like sorority girls no matter what age they are!! !

I think during the first few weeks of my pledging, I was concerned with whether or not I made the right choice. It's very clear now that I did. XOMichelle said it right, "Obviously there are ups and downs to any group," but I would never trade the sisterhood and friendships I have found within Alpha Gam. :)

First off, Billy You are a Letch! Young but still one, cannot fault you for that! Wait till you become an Old Letch when you have underwear in the chestadrawer older than the ones you look at!:D

Hey Main, we need to have a Tod Together, belly up to the bar so to spake! Lets work on it!

Being the New Kid On the block is never easy. You are in a situation with people you do not know and are getting things that you may not like to do, just like home with Mom and Pop!

You will have more life long situations than you cannot fathom now!

I have had realationships with Brothers from 1965 and Brothers whom have come after me up to 2002 and hopefully many more years to come!

This can be you! It is the best time of life!:)

I'm going to go against a lot of the grain here and say, yes, I sometimes wonder. On a national level, I definitely think AXD is the organization I believe in most. But I've had to go through the heartbreak of seeing my chapter shrink and close, and that hurts. I wonder, if I had joined my second choice org, which is doing quite well, how would I feel today? To see my sisters doing well, succeeding at rush and Greek Week and the rest?

Then I look again. That second choice org, while thriving, is not the same group it was when I was rushing. I still couldn't brag about my sisters winning Greek Week, because they don't anymore! And more importantly, I look at the couple of girls who dropped out of what would have been my pledge class to join other GLOs. I think, honestly, if I had gone there, I would have depledged as well - I wouldn't have been personally ready to deal with some of the stuff as a rather immature 18-year-old. (I was a rather young 18.) And I don't think I would have gone elsewhere. So I wouldn't even be Greek today.

So that leads me around back to where I am today, and what I have realized is that out of struggles come opportunities, and I still have the opportunity to leave my org better than I found it when I leave this world. Just because my chapter is closed doesn't mean my opportunity is.

I would probably not have been Greek had I not been given the chance to help start a new chapter.

Organizations on my campus are still very 'old-school' so to speak. Out of 5 fraternities on campus before I came on... One lost recognition because of alchohol violations, 2 have had their charters suspended by their HQ for hazing, the other 2 haze -- one of our brothers depledged one of them to be a Sigma Nu -- after bad hazing experiences... and the other we live close to so we are 1st hand witnesses to their yelling at their pledges (which you can hear a block away when they do it) and their 4AM runs... They also require them to keep a Madagascar Cockroach with them for a week which they later eat... I'm perfectly happy with my choice :cool:

cockroach.....that's a new one on me. My dad had to eat a rather large spider.

speaking of hazing
 

We had show our "Granny Panties"!

I'll go with the opposite of what FuzzieAlum said.... yes, I sometimes do wish I had gone with a different organization - specifically, an NPC sorority (or a social local).

I love my collegiate chapter to death, but our organization on an inter/national level just doesn't resonate with me. Our inter/national organization is based in music, which I really have no interest in.

However, I am getting a second chance through Beta Sigma Phi! Thanks to my fellow Greek Chatters I was introduced to this wonderful organization, that does truly speak to me on a national level (and with the possibility of starting a local chapter, DEFINITELY on the local level!) :D

I went through Rush week bouncing from one to the other (we have a small campus and only have 2 womens fraternities) and when it came to bid day, I closed my eyes and went with the first face that came to mind. I closed my eyes and saw the face of my eventual-to-be Big Sis and went DG. It was one of the best decisions I made in my life. I knew if I closed my eyes and listened to my (i know, corny corny) heart, I would make the right decision, and I did!

No regrets -- I was Pi Phi or Die from day 1!
However...when I went through rush 4 of our 6 houses were in dorms, and 2 were on Greek row in houses with the fraternities. The two on greek row were the other two that were my top choices as well as Pi Phi, and while Pi Phi was my first choice when it came down to it, I was always a little envious about the housing thing and thought "what if" on occasion.
Of course, now that we too have a house on greek row (which is SO GREAT!!!) too, there are no what ifs! I'm glad that I went with my heart and chose the right org for me rather just a place where I would sleep for 1 year...

I'd like to echo the sentiments of what someone said earlier. I LOVE Tri Sigma, am "Faithful Unto Death". BUT, I would have loved to go to another school. In retrospect, I regret my college choice. BUT, on the other hand, I wouldn't have been a founding sister of my chapter. So, 6 of one, 1/2 a dozen of another...

Never crossed my mind. Although I am a first generation Greek I have had green blood from birth!