Say a prayer for a DG
 

My mom has been fighting breast cancer since December of last year...we thought she had just beat it, but she has since become very sick...here is an e-mail my dad just sent me:

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There really is no good way to tell you this, but your Mom is not doing
well.
Barbara's oncologist called this morning wanting to meet with her and me
about
the results of the CAT scan she had Friday. The results were not good.
The scan
revealed spots of cancer in her liver, lungs and spine. The doctor was
shocked at these results. Rarely does cancer grow and spread while a
patient is being treated with chemotherapy and radiation. The doctor
knew of only one instance where this had happened. The oncologist
thought the chemo and radiation would have put the cancer in remission,
but it didn't. All the blood work and testing during her treatments
provided no hint that this was happening. The doctor believes Barbara's
extreme nausea is being caused by the cancer in the liver.

The oncologist is scheduling a bone scan tomorrow and a brain scan on
Thursday; then will meet with us Thursday to discuss options. I wish I
could tell you there are lots of options, but the bottom line is there
really aren't many options. Statistically, patients in this condition
live less than two years. We will be seeing another oncologist on Friday
to get a second opinion.

Mom wanted me to try and keep this from you, but I thought you should
know. There is really nothing we can do. Life does goes on. We both want
you to try to stay focused on your school and studies. That is what will
make her the happiest.

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I am in pieces right now and don't know what to do...she is an Eta DG...please keep her and my family in your thoughts and prayers.

CJ

Sweetie, I am so so sorry to hear that. :(

Dear CJ,
Your mother are in my thoughts and prayers.
I am sorry to hear this news. Please know that we Delta Gammas are here for you.

Once again, I'm asking for prayers and warm thoughts. For the past few months, my mom has been slowly getting worse. They weren't even sure what was wrong. She can't really talk now, can't move around real well, and is basically bed-ridden. I'm 21 years old and terrified to say the least. Today was the first day that I have heard my dad cry since the beginning of all of this. I'm sure he has cried, but he tries to stay so strong infront of my brother and I, and infront of my mom. Well, he called today and the doctors are pretty sure the cancer has spread to her brain. There will be more tests tomorrow and into the weekend to determine the certainty of their suspecion. We are looking at anywhere from 2 weeks to 6 months. I just thought I'd let everyone know.
CJ

Re: Say a prayer for a DG
 

You got it sweetie! If you ever need to talk, you know how to get me!

Laura

Prayers have been offered--please keep us posted.

I'll keep your mom and your family in my prayers. Hang in there, the GC community and your DG sisters are there for you.

WhiteDaisy128, I just read your posts and they brought tears to my eyes. My prayers are with you and your family.

Sweetheart, of course our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We are all pulling for you--try to stay strong.

In December, I, along with a couple of my other sisters, got the opportunity to meet CJ and her mother Barbara. It was a wonderful experience and a memory that will always be treasured.
CJ....the Akron girls are here for you and we are focusing all our prayers to your family. Your mother is a wonderful asset to our chapter and to Delta Gamma. We can only hope that she can pull through this. Stay strong and please keep us updated.

ITB,
Andrea

Dear CJ,
I will be thinking of you & your mom in my prayers. I am so glad that hannahgirl and her DG sisters got to meet you and your Mom.
Sending you love and strength in this difficult time.....

I've been at the hospital all day with my mom. She was admitted around 1 PM. She couldn't walk and can't talk. She is in a semi-comotose state. They did an MRI and the results showed no physical tumors in her brain. This is good. However, there are some forms of cancer that when they spread they do not form physical tumors, instead just inhabit many cells with-in an organ. They will be doing a spinal tap tomorrow morning to see is that is the case. They suspect that it is. They would like to put her in a hospice to provide the most comfort for her. My dad is a university professor and his schedule is somewhat flexible, but there is no way he can take care of her. He thinks this is for the best too. We will go look at the place tomorrow to make sure that is where we want her to go. It's been a terribly hard day for me...I have amazing support. The things that hurt the most are things I have not gotten to share with her...my wedding one day, children, etc. But I have gotten to share so much with her and for that I really am thankful. Everyone do me a favor and call your mom's just to tell them how much you love them. Please keep my family and myself in your prayers. I'll let everyone know how it turns out.
Thank you again for the kind words and support. It's nice to have a place to go where I can say whatever is on my mind.
Love,
CJ

WhiteDaisy, all of my love and prayers to you and your family.
Thanks for reminding all of us what's important in this life.
Don't you worry sweetie, even if God wants her with Him, she WILL be there for your wedding, in your heart and through your father's eyes, she WILL share the moment with you. Please believe this.

CJ, I'm sending you and your family much love and positive thoughts right now.

Christin

there aren't words...
 

to try to help you and your family....
please know that you are in everyone's hearts and prayers right now.
and if you need, please pm....
i'm in texas but i'm game....
my heart goes out to you.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. :(

CJ-
Any updates for us? You're all still in our thoughts and prayers :)

I am so sorry about your mother, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

You and your family are definitely in my prayers, I pray that God comforts you and your family in a way that you can see and feel throughout this time.

Thank you for reminding us how much we need to value our parents. My heart goes out to you and your family. Everyone here wishes you well and hopes that you find strength and support in one another.

Ivy

Thank you for reminding us how much we need to value our parents. My heart goes out to you and your family. Everyone here wishes you well and hopes that you find strength and support in one another.

Ivy

CJ-
I passed this on to girls in my chapter, so know that Phi Mus are thinking of you and praying for you and your family. I've also had members of my family go through cancer, so I can identify with what you must be going through right now. I'll be thinking of you!

My mother has had breast cancer too, as have 2 of her sisters, and we all send our prayers to you all.

Hope everything is okay!
 

CJ- Your family is in my prayers. I also go to State and a member of the GL community so if you ever need anything please let me know.

Sorry it's been so long for an update. I'm sorry to say that my updates usually come when things are not going so well. Since last I posted, mom spent 13 nights at the hospital and no signs of cancer in her brain was found. However, she was still greatly confused and in some pain. We could not take care of her ourselves at home. When she was more stable, we moved her to a nursing-home like facility. She was there for exactly two weeks. Today, she had to be moved back to the hospital. Her blood was becoming very thick and was not circulating (her feet were very dark purple) and she was in a lot of pain. We had her transported to the emergency room. Her body is shutting down. The doctors say it will be 2-4 days. Her liver is almost totally shut down, her circulatory system is shutting down now, and all the other body systems will follow. There is nothing they can do to stop it (and she wants no heroic efforts). They have assured us that from now until the end, she will be in no pain as they are controlling it until nature takes over. Um, I'm not sure what else to say. One amazing thing today was when we were still at the nursing home and just deciding to move her to the hospital, she asked for "dad" - thinking she was asking for my father, whom she often calls dad, I told her he was teaching class but that he was going to get a grad student to come in for him instead and that he'd be there soon. She replied, "no, not that dad, Earl" - Earl is my grandfather, who passed away of a heart attack before I was born. My mother laid there in the bed and had a conversation with my grandfather while my grandmother and I sat there. It was the most erie feeling, I know he was there and she mumbled things about "waiting", "pain", "pain-stopping", and "patience." Somehow, experiencing this put me more at ease. My grandmother's eyes were so wide when my mom was "talking to Earl" - I don't even know what to think. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. This is going to be a very hard week for my family and my friends. Somehow everything will be okay...

Sweetie, bless you and your family. I'm praying for all of you.

Sweetie, you are definintely in my thoughts and prayers right now. I wish I knew what to say to confort you, but all I can think to say is that I am thinking of you. You are a very strong person and I know you can get through this. Always know that your mom will always be with you, no matter what you do and where you go in life. If you ever need ANYTHING, do not hesitate to email me or IM me. I am always here if you need someone to talk to!!

Love in DG,
Laura

CJ--you, your mother and your entire family are in my thoughts.

Christin

You and your family are in my prayers.

~ Annie

You're in my prayers and the prayers of my sisters.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

CJ, You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

CJ,

You and your family are in my prayers along with my family and the DGs at Akron U. If you need anything at all, please do not hesitate to ask. You have my number if you ever need it. Take care and always know that your mother will be with you where ever your life takes you.

all my love and ITB,
Andrea

do not mean to crash in on your forum...


From one follow sister (BSP) to another - Hang in there...you and your family are in my prayers ( hugs from Sac CA). I lost my mom suddenly at age 29 (major stroke 2 days before her 50th b-day).

Michelle

Beautiful Sisters (DG and Greek alike),
Today, March 10, 2003, Barbara Alan (Bonar) Moore - Eta (Akron) passed away at 9 PM after this long struggle. She was in no pain and had been sleeping soundly for almost 24 hours. She slipped right away into the arms of the Lord. Of course, we are all sad, but we are thankful for God's grace through this all. Thank you for all of your help. It's been a long hard battle. She was ready for some rest...as are all of us.
LITB,
CJ



Andrea - we will be having a service here in Cary, probably on Thursday. We will also have a smaller one in Akron, probably on Saturday. Her ashes will be burried at GreenLawn with her father at her side. I would love if you would come to the service, if for nothing else to help me. If not though, I understand (especially if it's Spring Break...as it is for me). I'll call you this week sometime or catch me on IM. Thanks for everything. I love the Eta women!

CJ, you have my deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved mother. Try to take some comfort in the fact that she is resting in a place where there is no pain, or sorrow, or suffering--she is with the angels now.

God bless you and your family in this time of need. Please let us know if there is anything at all that we can do for you.

Sweetheart, I am so sorry for your loss. Just know that you mom will always be watching over you and will be with you during all times of your life. You are an amazing woman with more strenght than I could have during this time, and your mom would be so proud of how strong you are being. If you ever need ANYTHING, you have my email address and IM. Stay strong, and know that you have a guardian angel watching over you now. You are definitely have been in my thoughts during this time!

Love in Delta Gamma,
Laura

:(

Sorry about your loss. May God give you and your family strength.

My condolences to you and your family. Your mom is at rest now after a long struggle. Take comfort in the fact that her passing was peaceful. May your memories of her be your strength in the days to come. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Just another note real quick. The hospital just called asking if it was alright to donate her corneas. As we all know, DG's national philanthropy is Service for Sight. My mom is giving this amazing gift to someone. I am so proud of her and how strong she has been through everything.

CJ