Adopted??
 

I was just wondering who, if anyone, on greekchat is adopted?? I love to hear stories!!! I'm adopted... I'll post the story sometime when I feel like typing a lot ... Yes, I've found them...Yes, I've talked to them...No, I haven't met any of them... Yes, I want to.. No, I'm not bitter about anything. Yes, I have three brothers I've never met...That's the VERY short version..

Anyone else?

I am not adopted, but for a few yrs I have felt that God really wants me to adopt children. I would love to have a big family. Hopefully some day I will be able to adopt.

My dearest pledge son was adopted. He was brought over the US from Korea when he was 2 years old ... he said he never would find his real family. I guess it is illegal to find out the real parents, and the adoption agent would never give away any information regarding the real parents.

I was adopted right when I was born. I havent met my birth mother though. I know her name. I hope to find her someday, but I think the first thing to do would be to start looking :rolleyes:

Five of our 13 are adopted--4 from Asia and one who is Central American but born here in town. I knew her birthmother. We exchange Christmas cards and pictures with one of the Asian birthmoms.

We could probably find most of the other birthmothers if we searched but it's still such a stigma in those countries to give birth when you're unmarried that I don't know if we will. The moms are probably in their thirties and forties now--with new families.

I'm not adopted but two of my cousins and a very close friend of mine is. My cousins were adopted because their mom had leukemia 10-15 years ago and is now unable to have children of her own. One of them is Asian and is a spitting image of my husband...it's soooo cute :)

I have given a lot of thought about adoption and I would actually like to do it someday. :)

I'm not adopted, but I'm practically the only person in my family who isn't. My mother, brother, sister, and about 6 cousins are. I have a terribly small family, too, so that's a large number for us. Only two cousins know their birth parents. None of my immediate family members have met their birthparents, but my mother knows who hers are.

I was adopted when I was 5 days old. I've never met or contacted, and have no interest to meet or contact my natural parents.

At one point about 20% of my sorority sisters were adopted. I thought that was pretty interesting.

Wow,

Carnation, I just want to tell you what an immense amount of respect i have for you. Adopting children and giving them a better life is probably the greatest gift you could ever give. We definately need more people like you and your husband in this country.

Only a narrow-minded idiot couldn't see that it takes a big heart to raise children right, and an even bigger one to welcome children into your family who aren't biologically yours.

I cherish every time my Kindergarterners come to PE. I was always the guy that was like, ugh, kids, but i've definately changed. The little ones just melt your heart, especially up here, where a lot of them don't enjoy the same luxeries that i had growing up. Just having them say, "hi coach K" and wave to me when i pass them in the hallways, or have them all get excited when they come into the gym is enough to make me look forward to the day when i've got my only little tykes. :D

I've been thinkin about adoption lately, mostly cuz i look at the kids in my school and think that some of them deserve better life situations. Hopefully someday when i've got my little brood, i'll be able to adopt a child from up here and give them some of the advantages i had growing up.

Seriously, if you don't get a warm-fuzzy feeling being around little kids you're probably working with a smaller heart than the grinch. Again, carnation, you are an awesome woman and i'm sure a great mother :)

Kitso
KS 361

I'm not adopted, but a classmate of my dad's (from high school and university) and his wife adopted a son. He's 11 years old right now, much, much younger than any of the other "kids". He's going through the rebellious tween/teen phase right now

I'm not adopted but my cousin is. She was adopted from birth.
My cousin knows she's adopted but as far as I know she has never had any sort of contact with her birth mother. The biological father has no idea he has a daughter.
I do not know if she has expressed any desire to meet her biological mother. But she is still very young (12 years old). So maybe when she gets older.

Similar percentage in my chapter when I was an active. Maybe its because they're seeking out further family ties, in a way.

I was adopted when i was born. Something about how my mother's doctor knew someone who was pregnant and i guess clueless about what to do because teh adoption process started before i was even born. I know that my biological mother was 19 and unmarried when I was born. She worked as a Dental Assistant, was petite like me with same hair and eye color. She too also had an interest in the arts and I know her last name at the time of my birth. I know she lived with her parents and had some brothers and sisters but that's all I know. I havent decided if I would like to meet her one day or not to thank her for my life. Despite mishaps here and there, it's been a great one! I'll forever be grateful to her for her decision.

Kitso,

Thanks from a fellow Texan! I appreciate the kind words-- and the world is full of little guys who need a home.:)

My best friend was adopted from birth. The funny is, I didn't find out until I was 25. We've known each other since we were like 5. My mom told me, and I was like, huh? She thought I knew. I asked him about it, and he thought I knew also. When it all boils down to it, it really doesn't matter. Adopted or not, he's still my bestest friend in the whole wide world! His family has given him a blessed and favored life. He talks occasionally of finding his birth mother, butI don't think he's going to do it.

I was adopted soon after birth and can not remember not knowing that I'm adopted. I don't know who my birth parents are and have no plans to ever find out or meet them, unless such info is medically necessary to keep one of my own children alive.

I'm the same AOII Alum. I've always known that I was adopted.

I was adopted at 6 days old (took a few extra days because I had a little cold!). When I was 18 I decided that I wanted to find my birth mother. Part of it was because I wanted to know where I came from, but I also really wanted to know my health history.

When I walked in, the case worker had a look of shock on her face. She later told me that it was because she had seen a picture of my biological mother in the file and that I looked EXACTLY like her.

I was a little surprised about a few things. I hadn't realized that she hadn't really known my father (I figured it was a boyfriend or something), and that now she had a daughter. She also had the same name as an aunt that I was very close to when I was younger. I wrote her a letter and sent her a picture, and she wrote me a quick note back a few months later. However, a few letters later, there's been no response. The last time I spoke to the case worker she made it sound like she had just told her daughter about me, and may not have taken it very well.

In any event, I'll admit to being a little bitter about being slighted. After 18 years of being told how special you are and being loved by two parents who obviously wanted you so very much, it hurts to have someone who you thought would care blow you off. But I understand that it probably has to do with her daughter, who she has a priority to. I'll probably forward her a graduation announcement through the adoption agency, and do the same with an engagement announcement and send a wedding invitation even though I don't expect her or my half-sister to show up. The choice is hers. I just think I should send an occasional update when a major life change occurs.

It's hearing the stories of people who were adopted and found a loving home that make me more pro-life than ever!

When I was a senior in high school, my then-boyfriend was adopted. He had always known, and was content with it. However, while he was a freshman in college, his half-brother found him. They had the same name! And, the half-brother is famous in his line of work.

Anyhow, the h-b had found their mutual mother, who really wanted to meet my bf. He went through a horrible struggle with the decision, and honestly, I don't know what he decided to do. We broke up after about 3 months of drama. Part of him had always fantasized that his birth mother had been a starlet who couldn't afford to have a child at the time - then he found out that she had been a prostitute. He also referred to her as "the woman who had me" and his adopted mother as his mother.

I was only 16, so I'm sure I said some stupid foot in mouth things, but I do hope he found peace, whatever his decision.

Approximately half of my family is adopted and I have a bunch of friends who are also.

I was able to be present when my counsin, who is 14 now, and my best friend met her birthmom and sisters. Her mother gave her up because her birthfather was killed in a car accident when her birthmom was about 6 months pregnant and her BM decided she wasn't able to care for 2 children. That was probably the most amazing experience I have ever been through in my entire life. The love that everyone felt was incredible.. indescribable. It was a simply amazing time.

I hope someday to adopt children.. as many as God will allow me to properly care for. I think the act of adoption is such a generous, loving and selfless act.

that's all.. I've shared my bit!!

carnation- you are an amazing person!!!

I am semi adopted. My mother is my mother but dad adopted me when i was 1 yr old. i never met my biological father ...he relinquished all rights when my parents divorced. WOuld iw ant to meet him? maybe but my father is my father and the funny thing is i look more like my dad then i do my biological father.

MY PARENTS KNOW THIS FAMILY THAT HAD A HARD TIME HAVING CHILDREN SO THEY DECIDED TO START THE PROCESS OF ADOPTING! WELL RIGHT BEFORE THEY GOT THE NEWS THAT THEY COULD ADOPT A BABY THEY FOUND OUT SHE WAS PREGNANT! SO WHAT THEY ENDED UP DOING IS HAVING THEIR CHILD AND ADOPTING ANOTHER ONE AT THE SAME TIME! THE TWO BOYS WERE THE SAME AGE SO EVERYONE THOUGHT THEY WERE TWINS! THEY WERE EXCELLENT SCHOLARS AND VERY ATHLETIC! JUST BY LOOKING NO ONE COULD TELL WHICH ONE WAS ADOPTED! THEY GRADUATED FROM MY HIGH SCHOOL AND WENT ON TO IVY LEAGUE SCHOOLS!

PS: SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS! MY COMPUTER HAS A MIND OF ITS OWN!

Hootie, there is a really sweet girl at my school who has the same situation you are describing (adopted with a twin brother who is a biological child). She actually lives with my little sister. Even better, she's a Chi O! :)

Being adopted and looking it from that side of things, THIS IRKS ME OFF MORE THAN ANYTHING!!!! I mean, how rude!!! I alllllways knew, as soon as I was able to comprehend, that I was adopted...I would be LIVID :mad: if my parents had waited until I was 18 to tell me. Not cool!

My husband feels the same way. He was adopted at 5 months old (back in the day, they didn't "give out" newborns). He has no ill will. She was just a young girl (16) in a bad situation. She was sent to an unwed mothers home until she had her baby

Not telling a child he's adopted can have so many consequences. We know a woman who faked a pregnancy back in '82. She did a great job faking--hardly anyone knew and then she went on vacation and "delivered" the baby there.

After a few months, it became obvious that the baby wasn't all white. Now she had to decide what to do--reveal her ruse or let the whole world think she'd been running around on her husband. She decided not to tell the truth and for years, people wondered what on earth was going on. She finally gave up and told the son the truth when he was 13--by that point, he hardly looked white at all--and he absolutely went nuts. I don't think he ever got over it.

I'd heard that the adoptive couple conceives because of the lack of stress previously put on the result of the performance. I know at least three times it's happened.

And I've been thinking that's what's going to happen to Monica & Chandler, too, especially since Courtney Cox is pregnant!

my cousin, who just got a bid from Phi Mu today!, was adopted from korea when she was a baby.

her mother got pregnant immediately after adopting my cousin.

she is totally loved by everyone and doesn't really mention being adopted at all. i love her to death

Yeah, my mother in law got pregnant 4 years after adopting my husband.

And you can definitely tell my husband is adopted. He had blonde hair and blue eyes and his brother has brown hair and brown eyes.

A former coworker of mine (White) adopted a multiracial newborn boy 3 years ago (mother was Filpina and White father was Black). The birth mom just turned 14. They were in the process of adopting again when she got pregnant. Brayden knows he is adopted and he is the cutest little boy!

I knew a Phi Kap in school who was adopted along with his sister - they were both born in Korea. A couple years later, their mother had a blonde-haired, blue-eyed daughter. That daughter was 5 before she realized that she was different from her brother & sister!

Hootie,

I went to high school with two siblings that were in the same situation as your friends.

Their father was a teacher at my high school and he told me the story.

Coach Hazel (the teacher) and his wife were having problems having kids so they decided to adopt. Well, it was taking a while for the adoption to go through and they decided, what the heck, we'll just try again for chance. Well, they tried, not thinking anything would happen pregnancy-wise. Well, a couple of months later, Coach Hazel received a call at work from the adoption agency saying they could adopt this little baby boy (which they named Michael). Well, about an hour later, he received a phone call from his wife saying she was pregnant, and he said "well, we can adopt a boy." Obviously, she said OK with the continuance of the adoption and with the pregnancy. So they adopted a baby boy and named it Michael and had a baby girl 7 months later and named her Sarah.

I am but never met my birth parents because unfortunately they passed away.

my cousin was adopted, and then 3 years later my aunt was pregnant, and then 4 years later, she was pregnant again. my cousin knows he is adopted and they are a very happy family. all 3 boys were treated the same amongst all my family...which i know may seem like it would be the norm, but after hearing some other traumatizing stories, i consider it a blessing.'

i, too, plan on having a "brood" of kids. i wanna be pregnant and all that (maybe...this back pain has about killed all desire for labor :p ), but i really want to adopt. not just babies, either. i know there are plenty of pre-teens, teens, "non-infants" out there that need perfectly good homes, too.

Well...you have to quit having just buttsex if you want to get pregnant.

I'm just being honest!

oh, blaine....i don't wanna be pregnant noooow.....so for the moment, i can have all the buttsex i want! :p

--can i call you rudey?

;)

No way dude. That's reserved only for the man behind the name.

Just call me buttsex.

I highly encourage buttsex as a way to prevent unwanted pregnancies.

-Rudey
--Massages your inner spirit!

HAHA


20 points.

speaking of, i need my check. thanks. :)

since you would rather be called "buttsex"....that's an automatic minus 20 pts for you....i win. :D

/hijack of perfectly good thread :p