Joining a different chapter
 

I am not sure if this has been asked before, but I couldn't find any information about it. I was initiated to a sorority 3 years ago as a sophomore at my university and soon after I became inactive and dropped. I did that because it was a bad experience and I was lied to about things the sorority had and was going to do. Now that I have graduated I want to be able to join another sorority as alumnae. I know once you have initiated one you can not join another but I have read a lot of posts from previous years where people have seen it happen so it is possible. The president at the time of my chapter even said it was possible but wouldn't give me more information. I really want to join another one because I want the lifelong friendships and I love community and philanthropy. The one I was in does not do much and the fact that I was lied to makes me not want to ever be a part of it. Please, can someone help me and give me some advice.

Is the group you were initiated into part of either the NPC or NPHC?

Didn't you just answer your own question? And, you said you couldn't find any information about joining another sorority after dropping, but then you said you "read a lot of posts from previous years where people have seen it happen so it is possible". :confused:

If you dropped your sorority membership, you aren't a part of it any longer. Like SoCalGirl, I'd like to know if you were in an NPC or NPHC sorority, or if you were a member of a local sorority.

yes it was NPC :( but like I said I was lied to and the president at the time told me I could join another sorority after initiation if it did not work out. I do not know if that was their way of getting me to join, but now that I know more I find it unfair.

I meant to say I didn't find any current information about it on here.

The alumnae experience is far different than the collegiate experience. Do you believe that hypothetical group B would have a different alumnae experience than you would have in group A (if you could get updated to an alumna in good standing)?

What type of experience are you looking for as an alumna?

I know it's different! Sadly I lost the chance to have a real sorority experience in college due to the issues with the sorority I joined because I couldn't join another one especially not in the same school. The one I joined is much smaller than the one I want to join nationally and in my state.It has a lot less events and philanthropy events that the one I want to join and that's something I'm interested in.

I'm sorry to say it but you can chalk the statement that you could join a different NPC sorority after you initiated into one is yet another lie that you were apparently told.

With the NPC, it's one and done. Period. Any "exception" you've heard about that would have involved the initiate lying - and we know you don't respect that (nor do we).

You've got a couple of options:

1) Figure out how to make the best of it in the sorority you pledged lifelong loyalty to... get involved and perhaps be the change you wish to see. There are women here from all 26 NPC sororities so someone could surely tell you how to do that.

2) Find somewhere else non-NPC to build strong female friendships and give back through philanthropic service.

Alumnae initiation into an NPC sorority is not an option because you are already a member of an NPC sorority. That ship has sailed.

^^^ she said she dropped (resigned her membership) from the sorority she initiated into so your option #1 isn't an option.

Could you possibly be reinstated? I don't know if any orgs do that.

I know of at least one case where a sister was reinstated, but I don't know of many details except that we're talking a long time ago.

I also know of one. The drama of your collegiate chapter goes away as an alumna. You might at least look into it with the one and only sorority you are eligible to join.

But if I was lied to from before that's not fair I have to be in it for ever and not be able to join another!
I've read that some have switched sorority after being initiated in the same school? If it's really not possible how did they do it?

They probably lied on the internet, or lied about their previous membership. It's not possible for you, whether you think it's fair or not. Your best bet at this point is to look into reinstatement for the org you were a member of, or just not be in an NPC sorority at all.

Hey, you guys remember that woman who alum initiated into a 2nd group and got busted on the Internet? That was real drama!

OP, in case you're for real--why would you think that alums of your old group would cause the same problems as the sisters of your alum club? People do grow up.

Because sometimes life isn't fair, and as an adult, you have to make the best with what you are given.

All my friends are in other chapters and are even willing to sponsor me. The chapter I joined is not strong enough nationally or in my state to give me the opportunities the other one could.

Well, life isn't fair.

Okay, I'll bite: when you say chapter, do you mean your national GLO? Usually, chapter means the individual chapter at each individual school.

Is it the whole GLO isn't strong nationally, or is it that the chapter where you initiated isn't strong in your GLO?

This makes my blood boil.:mad: You're not interested in lifelong friendships or a sense of community or even in being philanthropic. Please do yourself a favor and stop pretending to be.

For you, a sorority is a means to an end. You're interested in what membership can do for you, not what you can do for your organization. You want to take the easy way, to reap the benefits of membership without putting in the work. Well guess what? That ship has sailed for you. YOU ARE NOT ELIGIBLE FOR MEMBERSHIP IN ANY OTHER NPC GROUP SO STOP ASKING. Take the advice others have given you and reach out to the organization you initiated into. Put your big girl panties on and deal with your choices. No one forced you to sign your MRBA, no one forced you to go through the new member period, no one forced you to initiate. Either make the best of your situation or go away but stop with the entitlement. Sorority membership is a privilege, not a right, and you my friend ARE NOT entitled to membership in another group despite how you may personally feel.

It's nationally not strong. I didn't post this to be attacked. If you have nothing nice to say please don't comment and be rude about it. I'm glad your sorority did not lie to you to join but I feel uncomfortable being part of an organization that has to lie to get members. I can see people here do not want to help me but it's ok I'll even call nationals if I have to or petition but it has been done before I will find a way.

Right. You're already a liar--you call yourself greekgreek and you're not even Greek.

You want it from the horse's mouth? Read here, Item III1..

Yes, you can join another. NOT, however, an NPC.

Why another would want someone who is in it for what she can get rather than what she can share is not something I understand, but I'm not involved in their membership selections either. I suppose it could happen.

[QUOTE=carnation;2417716]Right. You're already a liar--you call yourself greekgreek and you're not even Greek.[/QUOTE

I made this when I was Greek and haven't used it since just FYI

I feel attacked and Clearly none of you you understand my point of view because you guys didn't have any issues in your experience and I'm glad you didn't. I know a lot say it's not allowed but it's happened so I will continue investigating and getting information. Again if you have nothing nice to say please just ignore my thread as I was only asking for information.

If the GLO is not strong nationally, you need to decide if you're willing to work to make it stronger. If, and only if, you are willing to do so, then by all means, contact them. Plead your case, and try to be reinstated.

Drop the "they lied to me" bit. It was immature on their part, and you only take yourself down to the same level by constantly mentioning it. The chances are good that the only way that you will be reinstated is by proving that you're adult enough to follow through.

You cannot join any other NPC sorority, so the choice is yours: Contact your national headquarters with proof that you are what they need to grow, or remain a non-greek. That is the only hand which you can play. Life really isn't fair.

Don't try to turn this around. No one is attacking you. Your question has been answered. DGTess even did you the favor of pointing you to the exact regulation that bars ANYONE from initiating into more than one organization.

You feel attacked because you're not getting the answer you want. No one on this forum is going to sugar coat the truth for you. No one on this forum will support your attempts to seek membership into another group. Once again, put your big girl panties on and either seek membership in a group not affiliated with the NPC or try to mend bridges with your own group.

A few women may have been deceitful and joined another sorority after being initiated into a different one, but 99.9% of the time they are eventually found out and drummed out of both orgs.