need advice
 

okay so I'm in a sorority and I got pulled over with my friend(she was driving) and the cops ended up charging me with a minor consumption, possession of marijuana, and paraphernalia. does anyone know what will happen to me/if I will get kicked out of my house? I am freaking out

Best advice I can give you is to immediately contact your President and Chapter Advisor. Don't wait for them to find out about it.

Are you an active or a new member?

they do know about it, I have an exec hearing on Monday, I'm not a new member I'm a sophomore

All depends on your story and any other evidence you may have...witnesses,etc.

there were no witnesses, and that's pretty much what happened..but how likely is it that I will get terminated completely? because it didn't happen in the house, or even on campus for that matter

No clue. What's happened to other folks? And will your friend who you were with come testify for you? No way to know.

well my friend got a dui so she can't really testify for me, I've never gotten in trouble before; what usually happens at exec hearings?

I'm not in your chapter! There is no way for me to know. However, the procedures should be published in some manual that you can read. Ask the chapter adviser or chapter president.

You're going to have to live with the consequences of your actions. I would imagine that the laws of your state would come into play, but without knowing your own sorority and chapter by-laws, no one would be able to answer what the outcome will be. Don't justify or make excuses. Fess up, have a plan in place for how that is never going to happen again and throw yourself on their mercy. And for dog's sake, don't drive around with illegal stuff in the car. You should know better than that. I'm not going to tell you not to smoke weed, but if you live in a less progressive state you are REALLY inviting trouble. And the fact that she got a DUI is at least as distressing. Seriously, buzzed driving is drunk driving. The only answer is NONE. Uber is your friend. You could have killed someone and you'd be having a whole different discussion right now. Seriously. Killed.

okay I didn't need all that Input all I wanted to know is if I'm gonna get kicked out of my housing. and we don't have uber in the city I'm in so yeah, irrelevant.

Yeah but there are taxis,sober sisters, etc, etc, etc. Own up and beg for mercy.

And if all you are worried about is losing your housing, you've got bigger issues you should be worried about. You may get to be the guest of the county...

Go in with that attitude and your hearing will be over really quick.

My sorority calls the meeting you are scheduled to have next week a judiciary meeting. Girls who had better outcomes came in contrite and were willing to listen and work within the parameters the judicial board set. I would suggest you do likewise. Try to remain calm and state the facts. Try not to get emotional or personal.

Yes, you asked for opinions. She gave you an opinion. You did not quantify the parameters of the responses you desired. Remember you are posting on a message board full of college educated men and women. Take the opinions for what they are, opinions. No need to get bent out of shape.

Good points IndianaSigKap. OP-Pay attention to the advice being given to you by the members here. Take into consideration that these are members who have likely served on chapter executive boards as actives and as alumni so they have dealt with similar situations.

omg hahahaha smh nevermind you guys don't understand what I'm asking and this information can't help me so forget it

Not only that, many of us are/have been chapter advisors or national officers and have sat in on similar hearings.

Let me take a stab at what you are hoping to hear-because the only specific question you have asked is if you will get kicked out of your house. We don't know, but it is a possibility. In my experience each situation is handled independently-there are guidelines on how to conduct the hearing, but there are no cookie cutter decisions. So even if a chapter sister of yours from the past had been charged with a similar misdemeanor, her situation would have been looked at individually and separately from any similar situations.

Let me take a further stab at what FSUZeta was trying to say... what is the question you want answered? Because all I've heard is OMG Mom, you totally don't get me. Because NONE of the what, 100 old broads who visit this site every day have ever gotten into any trouble for anything ever and we couldn't possibly provide insight. But hey, go out and kill someone next time. And then come to us asking how to get out of it. (Hint: don't call your mommy first. She won't get it AT ALL.)

We completely understand what you're asking. We just can't give you the answer you're looking for unfortunately. Each organization has different policies, so while one organization may allow you to retain your membership after a drug arrest, others might not. Also, individual chapters of each organization have their own codes of conduct that members to which members must adhere. So, we can't tell you what your individual chapter will do.

The fact that you're making light of putting the lives of others at risk makes me hope that you are not a member of my organization or that if you are, your adviser is alerted to your cavalier attitude and your membership is revoked.

Actually, we DO know a lot more than you give us credit for; and your behavior falls under the umbrella of "conduct unbecoming a member" so YES - you have some really serious consequences facing you.

1) Look at the housing contract you signed. It will tell you if you can be "kicked out". You DID read it before you signed it, right?

2) I don't know what chapter you are in so I have no idea what will happen at your hearing. There are a lot of things that come into play here.

People are actually trying to help you and give you valid information. Just because it isn't what you want to hear doesn't make it any less valuable or worthwhile.

"Girl, you in Big Trouble" comes to mind.

I have a feeling that the OP will get exactly what she deserves....

You should talk to your lawyer about talking to anyone in a contrite fashion or about this incident at all. You have much more serious issues facing you than your sorority membership.

OP, seriously, this has much bigger consequences than just sorority membership. A conviction on any of this could keep you from getting a job in the future. Many companies do background checks, and if they see this, they might choose someone else. Many states have accessible databases where people can type in your name and see this. Do you want future boyfriends/employers/anyone to be able to see this?

You need to get a lawyer right away if you don't have one. If you are close with your parents, you need to tell them and have them help you if they can. Trust me, you do not want to have this on your record, or spend any time in jail. You could also have to pay a big fine. Wouldn't you rather spend your money on clothes or Spring Break?

Take everyone else's advice about the sorority stuff as well. These women know what they're talking about.

Good luck to you. Everyone makes mistakes when they're young and hopefully this is something you learn from.

I agree...read your housing contract. I'm a house corp. board president.

In my organization, if your membership is terminated, you have 48 hours to move out of sorority housing. Residents have to be sisters in good standing. It's in the contract and our international rules and regulations.

Honestly, I would retain an attorney, and I would start looking for other housing, because the contracts are reviewed by an attorney, and they tend to be pretty ironclad because all of our groups are prepared for these kinds of situations. The deck is stacked against you.