I am a dork
 

I did it, in a drunken state, tired of bars and this huge city where I know noone and slightly upset that my ex-boyfriend married this weekend - not so much that I miss him, just that I wish I could find a nice, cute guy for once, I signed up for match.com. Gosh, I think I am such a nerd.

Anyone have any experience with this stuff - internet match services? Am I truly a loser .... ???

On a good note, I have lost enough weight to be a size 8.

You’re only officially a loser when you pay to respond to someone’s ad.

I have a friend that does this thing called-it's just lunch. She has been on several dates and has fun with it. You never know who you will meet!

You're not a dork!!!! :)

hey sister
u arent a dork! i met my bf of 2.5 years on the internet.. and then met in person. dont worry! Try to find someone that has something relative to you, and then people you know might know him. When i met my bf, i found tons of people who knew him.
good luck!
LITB
ashley

DORK!

love ya ACOM!

~ Cory

You're not a dork. :) Just be very careful with anyone you meet online... if you do decide to meet in person, go somewhere where there are a lot of people, and don't have too much to drink.

I used match, and I never paid to respond to anyone's ad ... even in this supposedly more enlightened age, we women can afford to wait for the men to respond to our ads!

Anyway, it did nada for me. I got so many emails (and some guys had clearly not even read my ad) but only a fraction of them were interesting. (Like I said my age limit was 21-40, so why is a 50-year-old writing?) I corresponded via email with a few, and met three or four in person. One guy I hung out with three or four times, but it was obviously going nowhere romantically, although we got along as friends. Then there was the date with the short little troll ... he kept winking and saying, "So, am I irresistable yet?"

Some things I learned:
- If some guy (or chick) has some annoying tic or a weird nose that you can't deal with, you can't figure it out until you see them in person.
- That really witty email took them five hours to write; in real life they are painfully dull.
- Pictures lie, even when they're not trying to.
- I can tell if I might be attracted to a person within a few minutes in real life, or I can spend days talking to them online and still have no idea.

The irony is, I know a lot of people who have met their honey online, but none of them met through a dating service.

Personal ads don't make you look like a dork. Maybe desperate but not like a dork.

You're defintely NOT a dork alphachiohmy! I know alot of beautiful, intelligent women using match.com. Its just a new way of meeting people you may otherwise not meet.

my experience with match tho is EXACTLY as FuzzieAlum described hers.

Good luck!
Amy

You know, the internet is something that a lot of people use to meet people that they would have never been able to meet otherwise. I have realized that for a while now, considering I have come to like a lot of people that I have met on GC, and would like to meet some of these people some day, not to mention, I meet this real hottie off of GC too! LOL

But you know, about the whole "a picture lies, even when it tries not to" thing, to me, sounds kind of wack (no offense Fuzzie) but, looks aren't always everything.

AlphaChi, you aren't a dork, don't worry. You are in a big city, still kinda new to the place, nothing wrong with that. If you want, I can hook you up with one of my brothers from Illinois?!?! hehe

Oh, I'm a dork too
 

Alphachiomy, PM me and I will tell you my story on online personal ad dating... it's slightly too embarrassing to post on GC :)

I actually signed up for that but i felt bad b/c i got all of these messages and never wrote anyone back b/c of the charge...so these poor guys go out on a limb and probably never get any messages back.....so i discontinued my "membership" i guess you could call it

I don't believe "looks are everything." All I meant was that, from a picture, you build up a mental image of what a person looks like. I have three different ID badges of me sitting on my desk, and they all look like three different people. If you met me, based on any one of these pictures, you'd say, "Hm, she doesn't look quite like I expected."

Of course looks aren't anything. I don't know why we even need to go there. I didn't say they were. If anyone chooses their dates based only on what Playboy/Playgirl says is hot, they're pretty shallow. But people do pick their partners based on how attractive they are to them, and there is nothing wrong with that. Being attracted to them physically is the reason you are dating them instead of being their buddy. Why on earth would I date someone who I didn't want to kiss?

you should just use greekchat to find guys near you and that way you already have something in common.....:p

I wasn't attacking you in anyway, just to let you know, if you think that, i'm sorry.
But to be honest, I would rather take a girl that I can relate to, even if she isn't attractive, as opposed to a girl who is hot, but can't talk to me or make me happy.
Basically, in the end, we all lose the looks and we all end up old, what holds people together is the love.

Wait, so Blaine are you saying I'm not attractive ;):cool: kidding!

Anyway, AlphaChiOMy - youre not a dork, trust me. Chicago is huge and its hard to meet people who aren't fake or a complete loser. If Blaine's brother from Illinois doesn't work, one of my friends has an older brother in his first year of med school at Loyola ;)

I hold out for someone I am attracted to and can relate to! Mind you, I'm not saying I date all ripped studs or anything. I look for guys I'm attracted to, not ones that everyone else says are great.

Of course, if I see a cute guy and talk to him, only to find out he's a jerk, he stops being attractive really fast. Personality is more important than looks, for sure.

You are not a dork...at least not for this. ;) I think that you are a little lonely. Maybe you can affiliate with a college alumni group as a way to meet new people. Perhaps there is a great guy here on GC who lives near you and is waiting to meet you.

Unrelated question: damasa and/or IowaHawkeye, are you a couple? Did you meet through GC? Damasa, how are you feeling? Are you all better?

I'm one of those "overprotective" moms........PLEASE BE VERY CAREFUL!

It's hip to be square. ;)

so...there's...
 

Room for Squares?