What do you find sexy?
 

What's the damn deal peoples. I am just sitting here writing this poem about being Poetically Sexy. I had a discussion earlier about what sexy was and how can you tell when a shorty is truly sexy.

So I bring the question to you all. I would like to hear your opinions on what sexy is and if that is a quality cats look for in an opposite.

What do I think is sexy? - A poetic woman. I just love a woman who knows the fine art of being a wordsmith. Speech is sexy!


Imhotep #4
Eta Mu
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I did a search...
 

and pulled up a thread (Aight Bruhs) to help you along.

As far as my answers: conversation is a mental stimulant, coupled with eye contact is the bomb. A man who can dance and knows how to move is sexy, too. Being well groomed don't hurt! Beautiful smiles set it off, too! :) I also like a nice walk, swagger, if you will. Musical ability, too, sing, play an instrument, that's sexy, too.

OOOOOOH WEEEE
 

I find smart ambitious men to be sexy. I don't like to be the one spitting knowledge all day. I love it when I can hold an intelligent convo with a man. So in lamest terms I like nerds:D . Oh and I find a man who can handle his business (i.e school,work, family).

I know this is off the subject but I have one of the sexiest black men around and he is a super genius, like myself.

What do I find sexy....
 

The qualities that I find sexy in a man include intellect, ambition, a sense of humor (this really scores major points), an appreciation for the arts (music, dance, & literature), poetic, a man that can dance is really sexy (I feel ya on that one Ideal08;)) and a man that can dress ( I mean sharp- everything from casual to formal and then throw a lil' thuggish look in there every once in a while) !!! GOOD HYGIENE, full lips, and a nice build.

Re: OOOOOOH WEEEE
 

Nothing wrong w/black brainiacs. I'd LOVE to find a man who won't turn tail once I open my mouth. That's helluva lot more sexy than some idiot whose convo consists of yaknowaahsayin? :D

Honestly, I'm two years off 40 and haven't dated in a while. At this time in my life, looks for a man aren't a deal-breaker unless we're talking gold teefuses :p and serious halitosis.

That's funny
 

A yo, that's funny


Imhotep
Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc.
Eta Mu
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1. Intelligence. If you can't tell me the last book you read, we are going to have a problem.

2. CONFIDENCE. I love, love, love, love, LOVE a confident man. I like to see self-assurance in the way he walks, talks and behaves in a relationship.

3. Take-charge personality. Before I get clowned, please believe I will never be dominated, lol. But I like for my man to be able to take charge when necessary. Can you plan a date without my input if I ask you to? Indecision is a turn-off to me.

4. Eye contact. I gotta go with Soror Ideal on this one.. eye contact in (ahem) ANY situation is sexy and most appreciated.

5. Nice eyes and smile. I'm a sucker for bedroom eyes (see above, lol). And I love to see straight, white teeth. At LEAST have the white thing going on.

6. Spiritual. I love to see a black man pray.

::SHAMELESS PLUG::
haroldjohnson, I just had to shout you out since I see you go to UH... I go to Baylor. :)

A woman's outer apperance! This has been deemed shallow by society, but I truly beleive that the way a person dresses and grooms his/herself is a true representation of the kind of person they are.

Now, I'm not looking for Fendi and Gucci everyday, hell she doesn't even need to wear the name brands that I know. But the way you put it all together ie: clothes neatly pressed, hair and nails presentable, and a sexy pair of shoes don't hurt. If she wears make-up, do it right or don't do it at all.

It's the little things that count!

P.S. I'm a sucker for a pretty face and a well dressed woman any day!

A man is sexy if he has the following

1. CONFIDENCE: A man who can approach me and be confident in what he has to offer me. ;)

2. Intelligence

3. Career Oriented

4. Dancing skills ;)

5. His smile & teeth

6. His walk

7. A BLACK MAN IN A SUIT **fanning myself** -- A brotha in a suit can just make my mind do some things. ;)

8. His SMELL -- There was an Alpha who had this scent that made me go crazy. To this day, NO ONE quite compares to him. :)

9. Strong mind and body

10. His devotion to his family and friends and to God. Sweetest Diva is soooooo right about seeing a Black man pray and humble himself before God.

Men on trampolines.

Skee-Phi
 

Hey Sweetest Diva lets plan a Skee-Phi with your and I's chapter. Holla at me;)

Re: Skee-Phi
 

Sent you a PM. :cool:

Hell Yea - A woman that can put on a $10 dress and still turn everyhead in the room just by her style and grace catches my eye every time. It does not always require a designer name to pull off a desiger look. I like a woman with STYLE.

what is sexy?

sexy is............ a style, a look, a smile, a walk, an education, a baseball cap, a big sweatshirt, tight capri's, a future, a saved woman, a woman who knows what she wants, and most of all she must be a woman

What is sexy:

A man with a goal in life

A well groomed man

A man with nice lips

A man with eyebrows that have been tamed not arched.

A man who can show emotions

A man who isn't afraid to say I love you.

What do I find sexy? A man that knows himself, has ambition, potential to excel and pride in himself. An intelligent, honest, and respectful man with a humble spirit, and a big heart. A good black man that knows that good black women are to be adored, loved, respected and revered. A man that wants to be a king to his queen, settle down, and build a strong family is an absolute turn-on... And last but certainly not least, a man that can make his woman feel safe and secure in his arms, and know from his touch that she is his love...

A Quiet Gentle Inner Christlike Personality
 

Hi Everyone,

Sexiness and holiness sound like opposites in a lot of ways.:p;) :)

Nevertheless, if a lady serves the Lord actively in her daily life through working directly in a ministry in her church and by ardently studying the Word of God privately and publically (through consistent Sunday School and weekly Bible study), then I find that quite attractive (about as close to sexy as I can get...lol).

That inner Godliness will spring to the outer parts of her life in the coolest ways:

She'll dress modestly (i.e. She will not wear anything that will attract attention to herself in an obviously sexual way).

She'll converse genuinely and warmly with anybody and everybody as a habit.

She'll always be generous of her time and abilities by going over an beyond to help friends and strangers even if she never gets a word of thanks from any of them. (She won't think someone owes her something in return for her generosity.)

She'll forgive (and forget) if someone wrongs her, and she will do her best to repair the relationship to best of her abilities without any bitterness or withdrawal.

She'll always force those around her to raise their level of devotion to Christ in every faucet of their lives.

She will speak with wholesomeness. (No cursing. Ew...its hurful when a lady curses. :( )

She will maintain self-control. (i.e. No gluttony. She won't overeat
:( )

She'll will see a man's devotion to Christ as the man point of attraction (not his looks).

Gosh,...that kind a of gentlelady would take a feller's breath away....lol...

Have a great day everyone. :D

Re: A Quiet Gentle Inner Christlike Personality
 

Impressed...

SEXY?
 

I find a woman that is aware of herself mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally to be extremely sexy. When she can discuss current events as well as she can dress; and when she can massage her lover's ego as well as she can his body-THAT'S SEXY!!! I find that a woman that carries herself like a queen-without walking around DEMANDING that people treat her like a queen-THAT'S SEXY!!!

WHAT'S SEXY????

A neat brotha that is spiritually on point! That's SEXY!:)

Frat if I may
 

What I find sexy is a man's character and his inner being.
A man who can have an intelligent conversation is very sexy.
Someone who is kind and giving.
Confidence without conceit.
A man who is in tune with his spritual side.
A man who can be both strong and sensitive.
These qualities make a man sexy to me. :)

I wunda...
 

Ya know Bruhs...

Some of these ladies here listed what they find to be sexy in a man. I wonder if they met a man that possessed these valued behavioral traits but DIDN'T LOOK LIKE "TY", would they give him the time of their day?

Re: I wunda...
 

hmmm Very interesting. I think we Brothers do that all the time. We say we are looking for a woman with Trait A and Trait B but if the sister is not a dime piece we keep it moving.

A woman who can cook (well) and who is strong, independent, and intelligent has an advantage with me. Also I have a soft spot for singers.;)

I SING, I SING, I SING!!!! ;)

That's what I'm talkin' about.:p

Sense of Humor and Self Confidence!

Many WOMEN don't want these so called 'foine' men, if they are just about themselves anyway.

A man that is

(athletic) a.k.a not too pretty or lazy to go out and have fun getting sweaty, dirty, etc outdoors sometimes. Hey I'mma fisherwoman!

(fun) please, if you dont wanna have fun and laugh, joke, enjoy life, leave me the eck alone!

(caring) nothing worse than a man, esp a brotha, that don't give a damn about anyone.

(positive)I love a man that has goals and an overall positive outlook on life. We all know we are gonna die one day, lets not make each day a living hell with someone complaining all the freakin time!

Re: Re: I wunda...
 

I think that women do that too now... our problem as a people is that we say we want one thing, but we will settle for anything that feels good and comes our way.

Re: Re: Re: I wunda...
 

I think that is because we are the now generation. We don't like to see the long term benefits of people. Beauty fades but goodness is forever. I think we need to get back to that level of relationship building.

Sphinxpoet

Wistfully longing....LOL!
 

1) A well-dressed man will make you have daydreams of your entire wedding party! Lately, a bangin' suit sends shivers up/down my spine! Nothing like a well-dressed man...that's sexy!

2) A good-smelling man will make you have daydreams of your wedding night! Lately, my scent of choice has been "Curve for men by Liz Claiborne" OOOHHH LA LA

3) Intelligence is sexy. I want to be able to hold a conversation with you...preferably one that doesn't start off with, "Ay, what yo name is?" All the cologne and dress clothes in the world can't save you if you are stupid.

4) Height. I know some will say that I am discriminating, but I just like a tall, broad man! I am 5'10" myself, and I just want to look up to you.

5) Humility. I think it is sexy when a man realizes that there are times and places where it just is NOT imperative that you have the last word. Deference/Reverance to God, elders, authoritative figures, etc...I love it.

6) Goals/Drive. There is something about having a conversation with a man when he gets this gleam in his eye as he is telling you his masterplan for his life. When he is going on and on about things that are passionate to him and he is actually making moves to make that happen, that's sexy.

I have so many more ideals of sexy, but I guess I will stop now.

Re: Wistfully longing....LOL!
 

Sounds like you talkin' 'bout me, although I dunno if six feet is tall enough for you :p

;) That will definitely work! :D

A man that can make me laugh is super sexy...Someone that doesnt take everything in this mixed up and already complicated world to heart is always fun to be around

A man that loves his mom...not a mama's boy..trust me there is a difference

I always find a guy that is adventurous to be sexy...i like doing fun and risky things...however jumping out of a plan isnt one of them...small steps please :-)

A man that can cook is also sexy and i would say the thing i find to be very sexy is good conversation ie. about politics, international policies etc. i knows sounds heavy... but stuff like that interest me.

I just thought of another one...

...a fresh haircut (if you have a fade), or well tapered up edges (if you are a braided/dreaded). Just like men say they like a woman with her hair in place, I like a man who keeps his hair groomed as well, that's sexy.

Re: Re: Re: Re: I wunda...
 

The truth is out!
I have so many men tell me that they don't like this type of woman and that type of woman. When complaining, I remind them that I am not like that and they'll agree. Well, guess what? I'm still single.
If every man is looking for a woman like me, why not me? (I am a good looking lady, by the way.)
Married men are always quick to let me know how the men are missing out with me and that if they weren't married they would marry me.
And men, it's not me. I am a pretty, educated (Masters Degree), saved woman who lives by the commands and promises of THE WORD. I get along with all people and serve all people.

Which leads me to what I find sexy.

1. A man who loves the Lord and lives obediently, according to his purpose. He has to be like David (don't kill my husband ;) , meaning he must study to show himself approved and then hide that Word in his heart that he will not sin against God.

2. He MUST be able to accompany me to dinner at the White House AND to a cook-out at my country cousins while feeling right at home at both.

3. And finally, a sexy man is able to appreciate the strength that I 've been forced to have for all these years of being alone. Then by gently placing the cup of his hand on the side of my face, looking tenderly into my eyes, kissing my forehead and pulling me close by pressing his hand in that special place at the small of my back, make me feel like he's got it from here.

That's sexy.

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: I wunda...
 

Welcome soror and thanks for the comments! I totally feel you on them. However the door swings both ways what can the women do to start building those qualities as well?

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: I wunda...
 

I'm not sure I understand the question. What qualities are you talking about?

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: I wunda...
 

I personally feel that you can demand of no one what you can reach yourself. A Lot of things women want in a man I think they should be able to achieve and do as well. I saw a lot on your list and I was wondering what we can do to get Brothers and Sisters to achieve both.

Sphinxpoet

Re: What do you find sexy?
 

i believe that a man is sexy if he is articulate, funny, and sweet. Great teeth and locs are definetly a plus. I also enjoy someone who is on the artisitic side i.e. sings, writes poetry, dances.

Peace

Money
 

I love a man who is smart with his money.

That is sexy. You have all the gadgets, sports stuff, CDs and DVDs, subscriptions, and PS2 stuff you need and want, but you have spent at least as much on investments and have little or no debt...

THAT is sooooooooo sexy!

Good credit... sexy!

401K... sexy!

Owning... not renting... sexy!

a savings account for family emergencies (momma needs a stove, cousin needs books for school, auntie needs a new hip) ... sexy!