I'm just too embarrassed when we...(not for the sensitive)
 

I could be the only person who feels like this, but there are times when some of our "own people" just embarrass the hell out of me.

For example:

1. There is a local TV commercial (furniture) and it targets "us" :rolleyes:. Anyway, this guy is on there "saying his line", the camera is all in his mouth, teeth are jacked. It's a mess. THEN you cannot understand what he says, it's like he is speaking in "tongue". The entire commercial is a hott mess. That just makes me :mad:.

2. When there is a crime, the reporters always want to show "us" falling out all over the place hooping and hollering. :o

3. A few colleagues were out for lunch. The service was not that great. The waitress also over charged us. So, there is a discussion about this with the manager. This sista then yells out, "Yeah, you know we're known for protesting." We were like WTF? :o :o :o Some put their menus over their faces, others left the table and restaruant in utter disbelief. (Now, I can laugh about it.)

Have there been occasions where you could have just gone under the table when one of our own has said or done something?

I was a tour guide in college. And following the end of a successful year, the boss lady took all of the tour guides out for a dinner celebration. I was the only black female tour guide, and there was new black male who had recently joined the staff.

He had decided to ask a friend of his, who was white, to join us at the dinner, which was okay with everyone. Well...:mad: :mad: (look at that, didn't even finish and I am already upset..)

Anywho, as the dinner winds downs and everyone is waiting for the desert, he feels the need to inform his friend-- and basically everyone at the table that he must be getting home soon as "Black people get niggeritist after a meal and he doesn't want to fall asleep at the wheel."

:eek: :mad: Lord, Lord, Lord, it was so unexpected I didn't know what to say. I just shot him a look, cancelled my desert and took my "niggeritist" :rolleyes: :rolleyes: butt home!

Most nicer restaurant include a tip charge with large parties. Whenever I go to dinner with a big group of friends, one of my friends ALWAYS takes out her calculator at the table to make sure the tip calculation is right. If it's even 1 penny off, she has to complain to the manager. "We" already have a reputation for being bad tippers and I think this just makes "us" look like cheapskates

I'm sorry but to me, calculators at the dinner table are tacky:rolleyes:

I'm also embarassed when we roll up in the movie theatre half an hour late, sit in the front row, with cell phones ringing and talk through the movie.:mad:

Unfortunately, yes and it happened Monday.

I volunteer with an organization where I am the only minority (which is not a problem at all, everyone is great!) until this summer. We got a volunteer for the summer who happens to be a 16 year old african american girl by the name of Traci.

Anyway, me and the program director are in the office working when Traci walks in the office. The director says, "Traci, has your dad came yet?" Traci says "My dad? Please, he's black so you know he is running on CP time". :eek: The director ask "what's CP time" and then Traci says " Colored People's time. You know how we are always running late." :eek: The director just has this WTF look :confused: on her face and I just shake me head in embarrasment. :(

I plan to talk to Miss Traci the next time I see her. :mad:

AKA2D, we are from the same city, so let me guess. You are referring to the "Credit Doctor" commercial with this CLOWN that is supposed to crippled with bad credit. Then he hops off the table after he FLATLINES and his credit is approved. That is one BIG mess!

Lets' not talk about how the news always zooms in on the folk who look like chickens just tap danced on their heads or talk the ones who are 20 years overdue for ordering "Hooked on Phonics."
It's sad.

Let's not even get on how they have local rappers trying to lure the young folks into watching judge Mathis by turning the promo into a mini-concert.

The one thing that makes me CRINGE is when young Black males INSIST on referring to themselves and everyone in the continental United States as "niggas" when "other" people are clearly within earshot. Not that the use of the word is acceptable either way. Then they use it REPEATEDLY! Can I whack them on the head with a dictionary/thesaurus?!

I took a sociology class on race and ethnicity at school and we talked about how minorities of a particular group are always associated with one another and that's one of the reason's we become embarrasses by someone of our same group even if we may not know them. (Just food for thought). Sometimes I refuse to be embarrassed when another Black person acts out in public (but it's hard). Sometimes I give in though especally at the restaurant I work at for the summer. Lord have mercy some Black people can be very mean to the servers even when the service is good. When I see or hear the other servers talk about how they were treated or when they don't get a tip from a Black table I really want to crawl under a rock. I just know that generalizations are being made at that moment in their minds and a lot of times I can't blame them.

Another time I was on the bus at school in the morning and it was full or White people (I think I was the only Black person on). My school is predominatly White and very rich and fairly conservative. Two Black girls got on the quiet bus and started talking extremely loud about how they were going to "beat this other girl's ass". I really wanted to jump off the bus and get away from them. (I hate feeling like that) Why can't White people ever feel this embarrassment about their mannerless people?:(

I won't say too much because "they" are probably reading right now but.....

when we show our azzes in public.I was coming from a sports type game room and a group of people who were clearly adults were hollering and shouting at motorcyclists and asking could they get on.One lady even got on!!She didn't even know him!

When we are on public transportation or anywhere really using more curse words than subjects and verbs.

When we have embarrasing characters/hosts/concepts on our own cable network.Cita and Hits are very disturbing.

Embarrassed, but not surprised
 

The scenarios that have been described are all embarrassing, but I'm not surprised at anything that I've read. If you are in an environment where there is no proper modeling and values transmission, it seems likely that you will act an azz in public.

Let's take an example of the girls. If all they see is their mom, sister, grandma, aunts, et al, squawking and talking about kicking one's butt, they might be tempted to model that.

Such behavior is, IMO, one of the unintended negatives that came out of integration and open housing laws. With housing options opened up, the stable, middle-class folks moved away from those that are less fortunate, draining some communities of people who lack couth, among other things.

Well I had one of those experiences this morning..

I was at the doctor's office... my nurse and were exchaning pleasant converstation when another nurse comes into the examining room... {the latter of which is one of us}

She begins to talk about her club experience last nite.."Gurl about 30 girls wanted to fight me so I pulled out my box cutter.. and my man told them that they would have to pay him and pay me just to suck his d$#% !!!... and see that b@!#$ has been tryin to put voodoo on me but like I told her -- I know voodoo, too my family is from Louisana..."

I could not believe that she just wallked in to my examining room with that MESS:mad: :rolleyes:

Then there are those stupid questions I encounter..

I was buying baby furniture and my hubby was going to pick it up. After getting my name the salesperson {also one of us}, she asked for the name of the person that would be picking up the furniture.
Seeing that the man had the same last name as mine she asks

"Oh so your daddy is gonna pick it up?" I told her no my husband would be picking it up-- she asks me if we are really married or do we just live together?

And at the grocery store.. while buying formula I was asked where my WIC paper was or was I going to use food stamps..I told the cashier {one of us} neither.. she said "you think you too good for food stamps and WIC?" ..Well you black just like me!!

:rolleyes: :mad:
WTF

WOW is all I can say right now!

Well, neicy, I guess I'm considered one of "them"...but I just wanted to assure cleopatrajones that whites do indeed die of embarrassment when another one acts up in public, particularly one of the "white trash" type. Likewise, I've seen Asians and Hispanics cringe when other Asians or Hispanics make fools or spectacles of themselves.

Another thing that's embarrassing is when I'm out of the South and I hear and see another Southerner acting like someone from The Dukes of Hazzard. That's how the South gets the rep we have.

One great thing about GC--I know that GCers of all races have apologized to others in posts and pms for nasty behavior from others of their race--as in, "Sorry about that, he/she isn't representative of what all of us think.":)

About 2 weeks ago, my friend and I went out for drinks with a woman we met at a campaign dinner. We unknowingly walked into an Irish owned/operated/frequented bar/restaurant. As we came in the door, the music stopped, people dropped their drinks, the lights flickered.......(Ok, ok, I'm embellishing a little, but I was just trying to get you all to feel me on this one) Anyway,by the looks on everyone's faces when we walked in, it was apparent that not too many of "us" came into this bar. Well, we decided to stay and have our drinks anyway. About 15 minutes later, 2 white men (very distinguished looking) came over to our table, tried to holla, and asked if they could join us. We agreed and they sat down and bought us a round of drinks. We were really having a great time, when to my (and my friend's) horror I hear the black woman that came with us saying the 3 most embarassing things anyone could say in that type of environment:

1) "Well you know what they say...the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice." :eek:

2) "Have any of you ever dated black girls? (black girls...I'm a grown a$$ women dawg!)...........Because you know what they say..Once you go black, you never go back!":o

3) (Her explanation to the now inquisitive white men on why once you go black, you never go back):
" Cause when we do our thang, we do it right! We make sure we smack it up, flip it, rub it down......." :mad: (Oh. no!)

My friend and I were like WTF? Is she really saying this? We were so embarassed and ashamed of her...
She was saying stupid things like that all night. I couldn't wait to get out of there and hem her loser a$$ up.

Between Sorors Loviest and Sexy Mocha, I can barely hold my composure right now...in fact..as soon as I finish typing this, I'm running to the bathroom 'cause I'm laughing so hard that I'm about to...well y'all know the rest.

What embarrasses me?....when one of "us" does a dumb a$$ thing like leaving her children in the car for 2 hours to get her hair done, causing the children to die. Plain damn ignorance.

Hear, hear. And what will be more embarrassing, if it happens, is that some jackleg "activist" will try to explain away the actions of that mother, err, piece of human garbage, and blame it on "she's-poor-and-black."
:mad: :rolleyes:

Soror ST, you know I got the idea about this topic from YOUR post regarding the lady getting her hair done, but leaving the kids in the car. :eek:

RD Diva: yeah, that's what I'm talking about and that "nurse" girlllll I HATE that commercial with a passion.

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!???????????!!!!!!!!!!! :eek:

I have this one co-worker who always irks me whenever a group of us go out to lunch or dinner. She always has to ask exactly what comes with each entree (not a problem) and compares that to the price of the dish ~ in front of the waiter/waitress. Like say the steak dinner is $21.95. She'll ask what it comes with (salad, bread, side items, etc.) then she'll be like: "FOR $21.95!! I'm not paying $21.95 for that little bit of food!! Hmmmm, what do I get with the salmon?" It never ends. Then no matter how the dish is prepared there is always something wrong with it. Hence, her refusing to tip because of "bad service". And the thing is she has money. She's just cheap.

I have refused to go out with the group if she goes because she reminds me of Chris Rock's character in "I'm Gonna Git You Sucka" when he goes to the chicken place and asks how much for chicken wings and acts like it's too rich for his blood, even asking for the price of ONE wing. Then he pulls a whole wad of money from his pocket. Plus, when I go out I like to enjoy myself and have a good time. The negativity spoils my appetite.

It also makes me want to run and hide when "angry black man" (my ex was one of these) goes out to eat the same night I do. You know the type that proceeds to cause a scene and demean the waiter/waitress calling him/her every bad word in the book over the smallest most insignificant thing. On top of that, nothing management does is satisfactory (paying for the meal, drinks on the house, etc.) and even you're thinking the person is clearly overreacting. Then, people start looking at you to see if it's going to turn into an all-out riot in the restaurant. Next thing you know, people start asking for doggie bags and stuff and trying to leave before it really gets out of hand.

What embarrassed me the most, recently?

99.9% of the 2nd Annual BET AWARDS!

ETHNIC PROFESSIONAL
 

Hello,

As many of you may already know I'm a multicultural female (black, amerindian, and latina=black through skin color) that is pursuing the career of a sports doctor. Now what really urkes me is the people who choose to talk to "White" patients on a professional level and talk to "Black and other minority" patients on a broken-lower level. This is a high pet peeve of mine. I believe everyone no matter who they are should be treated the same until they deserve otherwise (I'm a waitress for the summer-and I know some people can really piss you off, By the way for those who don't know there is a such thing as a "TIP" and it is green with a dead president on it. It has been a stereotype that a high percentage of "our" people won't tip more than $3 if anything. That also gets to me).

Another peeve is the fact that all our women have to be advertised as "hoochies", "models", or "dancers" why can't we have professional women-more nurses, doctors, lawyers, and anything that requires more than a high school education.

Ok-enough of that.

job interviews
 

About three-weeks ago I had an job interview and I was one of three black young-ladies and there were two black men. Tell me why the two men walk in with jeans, dirty white tee shirts, and a pair of timberlands. The interviewer politely told the two that there clothing was inapporiate (sp). Then they had the nerve to make a scene in the office causing the employer to call the police. Now I understand that not everyone has the luxary of having alot of clothes but I felt that what they did was completely out of line...

Awhile back while I was still in DC i had to go the Social Security office because I misplaced my card. After waiting two to three hours with all types of CRAZY people around me a black woman got in front of me and said "I need my check because I have to go by my crack"......... WTF

I know that some people GC aren't big fans of BET..but at Howard BET was one of the 8 channels of we had during the first semester. One day HITS came to Howard and asked a fellow student to show her thongs and she did on national TV.. I'm still looking for her a$$ on campus.. Just to ask her what in the hell was she thinking :confused: !!

If you wanna talk about US situations- how about Greekfest?

I went to Jones Beach GreekFest and was DISGUSTED by what I saw. First of all, there were maybe 5 Greeks at the event total (I was a neo, seasoned Sorors told me about it, but I guess it's one of those things you have to see for yourself to believe). Second, why come every black woman not in a BGLO there had to have her azz hanging out? Why come all these nasty ass men were out there with video cameras trying to 'catch' something? Why come MEMBERS OF BGLO's were out there DRUNK as hell in LETTERS. I was just mortified all round.

And WORST of all was all my Jamaican folks out there acting a FOOL. I turned around. walked the damn MILE back to the bus and went home!

Re: job interviews
 

lmaooooooo


i am thoroughly embarrased when "we" don't wear clothing appropriate for our body type OR appropriate for the occaision. There is a young lady that works in my building that is what the fellas would consider thick. She looks like she's either on her way to the club or in from a long night of partying EVERY DAY, i call her style of dress "loud." She comes in the office wearing tight pants, low-cut shirts, the sandals me and my girls call the "strappy h* shoes" form-fitting dresses, super-fabulous jewelry, ALWAYS with hair to match. YES, i said hair - red dress = red hair in her guide to fashion education. she walks down these halls like someone from vogue or elle is about to pop out from the elevator and offer her a modeling contract, but ol' girl is a MESS... the other people in the building shake their heads when she walks by and i've heard the bad comments... but get this. There are a few older black ladies in the office and they CONTINUALLY tell her she's cute. :confused:

Re: Re: job interviews
 

Those older women are playin her for the fool!:mad:

Waitt what about this one..
 

Grocery Store Embaressment.....
I was in the grocery store and it was packed with white people. I'm just shopping and all of a sudden a ghetto fab woman comes in with her hair up to heaven comes in talking loud and using all kind of foul lanuage. Nigga this Nigga that. So i'm trying to walk away from her cause i am soooo embaressed. When she just busted out.*Damn where all the Nigga wenches at..working in the kitchen ..hahahahaha. Say Nigga(whiteman in his late 40's was red as hell) u know where the forty's at..My man just got out of the pen and we finna go f*%k and drank and smoke some weed.*I almost fell down becasue i was running so hard to get out of their.

Block buster
My family and I went to blockbuster for a Movie night. So we had like 5 different movies and were tryong to decide what to get. It must have been really bored because EVERYBODY was at BB. So we were in this super long line and still couldn't decided what to get. This white couple was behind us with only 1 movie so we said*Yall can go in front of us* They smiled and said thank u and walked in front of us. They must have had around 5 friends with them so everyone was walking in front of us when we heard realllyyy LOUD*Say Niggas This ain't 1965 during slaverytime:eek: Don't let them crackers buss in front of u like that. Kick They azz,Buss em in they MOFO face..Damn These crackers:eek: :confused: .Slavery been over since 1965. We is Free to do and say what we want to the white man.*:eek:

Yall..... i was sooooooooo embaressed. Yall I love Being Black and I love my black people, but at that moment I wanted to be any other race but black. i WANTED THE FLOOR TO EAT ME. I cannot express to u how that made me feel.. Especially when all the white folks sarted to laugh and say*1965 huh brother:rolleyes: * I felt so badddd:(

I HATE WITH A PASSION TO BE PUT IN THESE TYPES OF SITUTIONS:mad:

Why must some of us act like this.
My aunt saysthats simple because there are 3 types of us..African-Americans,Black folks and NiGGas...
When I asked her what is the difference, she told me to keep on living:confused:

Embarrassed
 

I'm embarrassed whenever I ride the subways in NYC and our folks just feel the need to talk loud enough so that the entire train car can know their entire life stories :mad: Another thing that pisses me off to no end is when there are young black and hispanic people on the train saying "n****" this and "n****" that, not caring that there are people on the train that are not of their ethnic background (if you know what I mean) and it doesn't matter whether it's young boys or girls.
:o

- I went to the mall last weekend with a female friend of mine. When we were leaving, a car full of young(younger would probably be more accurate) black guys pulled in front of us BLASTING their music. The problem wasn't the volume(well..not entirely). The problem was that the song they were playing was literally filled with swears. I'm driving behind these kids and every other word is f-this and nigga that. I'm looking left and right at these white/black/asian mothers and fathers looking in disgust/rolling up their windows/peeling in the opposite direction. I was embarassed to be the car behind them. Whenever people looked over they saw both of our cars and I know they lumped me in with whatever preconceived notion they had about those kids.


- I went to a private elementary school and I was one of TWO black kids in the entire school. (Grades 1-8) Why did the one other black kid have to go ahead and start stealing things out of peoples bookbags AND bring a knife to school? Needless to say he was expelled. You can imagine how it must feel to be the only black kid in an all white school in an all white town after the last black kid was kicked out for stealing stuff and bringing a weapon. Not fun.

Re: Waitt what about this one..
 

I am http://www.click-smilie.de/sammlung/...fragend002.gif and http://www.click-smilie.de/sammlung/sauer/sauer055.gif at both of those scenarios !!! OMGoodness !!!!

Re: Waitt what about this one..
 

Now this? I hope that didn't happen.

Quote:

Block buster My family and I went to blockbuster for a Movie night. So we had like 5 different movies and were tryong to decide what to get. It must have been really bored because EVERYBODY was at BB. So we were in this super long line and still couldn't decided what to get. This white couple was behind us with only 1 movie so we said*Yall can go in front of us* They smiled and said thank u and walked in front of us. They must have had around 5 friends with them so everyone was walking in front of us when we heard realllyyy LOUD*Say Niggas This ain't 1965 during slaverytime:eek: Don't let them crackers buss in front of u like that. Kick They azz,Buss em in they MOFO face..Damn These crackers:eek: :confused: .Slavery been over since 1965. We is Free to do and say what we want to the white man.*:eek: Yall..... i was sooooooooo embaressed. Yall I love Being Black and I love my black people, but at that moment I wanted to be any other race but black. i WANTED THE FLOOR TO EAT ME. I cannot express to u how that made me feel.. Especially when all the white folks sarted to laugh and say*1965 huh brother:rolleyes: * I felt so badddd:( My aunt saysthats simple because there are 3 types of us..African-Americans,Black folks and NiGGas... When I asked her what is the difference, she told me to keep on living:confused:

cut my throat and call me speechless
:eek: :o

Glad you ran w/this idea, Soror.:)

It's just so frustrating to see behavior that we're discussing. My parents would have none of it -- they lived through segregation, Jim Crow, et al (my mom's going to be 75 this year and my dad, had he lived, would turn 80). Because they lived through that kind of garbage and created a great life for their family, I owe it to myself and them to conduct myself in a certain way.

Dignity and common sense are soo important.

On Soror Lovelyivy84's post: Why do WE, NPHC and other BGLO members, have to show out? I thought we were supposed to be a cut above, as it were.
:confused:

LMBAO - - -

It never fails when I walk downtown with co-workers for lunch I run into cousins - folk that I know from childhood and they greet you with "What's Up N****R." - - - N****R you got it going on. You know those type of remarks made in front of co-workers. Well of coures my co-workers look as if they will piss in their pants and later say "Is it ok for Blacks to use the "N" word. Hell, I don't know what to say myself because many of us pubicly use the word. Just listen to some new music.

Bad co-worker
 

Chris Rock said.....
 

"there's a war goin on in the black community right now and there's two sides.

There's black people and there's niggas, and niggas have got to go!

Every time black people wanna have something, ignant ass niggas fuck it up. "

What do you guys think of this statement? Of course there is a degree of truth in it, but do you think it's elitist at all?

This whole convo kinda reflects the gaps in our own society between the haves and have-nots. Middle class morality vs. a ghetto mentality.

And the gap only widens every year.

Re: Chris Rock said.....
 

Chris Rock is on point. There is a gap in our society and I'm glad to see that we're acknowledging it, rather than glossing it over.

Putting it in blunt terms, we've had less than 50 years of civil rights (I date it back to Rosa Parks and the bus boycott).

How does one expect that around 50 years of civil rights could possibly undo around eight, nine generations (as I think Soror LI84 said in another post) of crap, including institutional racism and all its attendant ills, particularly when you still have people that, for whatever reason, can't advance their station in life?

Remember, whole populations don't advance lockstep from poverty to affluence. Only those who are prepared do so.

I can TOTALLY relate to this. I have a huge fear of walking downtown with my coworkers. I am the ONLY black person in my office, so you know I always try to represent. But, it never fails. Picture it ..... we're all walking along, all have on business suits, carrying briefcases and along comes Mr. Gold tooth-permed out-full length mink coat approaching me with, "whatcho name ils?". :eek: When I try to smile politely and keep going, I then have to deal with, "F*ck you then b*tch .... you ain't all that anyways. You ain't white. Don't forget where you come from." All the while, my coworkers stand by looking mortified, ready to call the police because they now think all of our lives in danger. Different versions of this scenario have happened to me quite a few times while I'm out with coworkers.

For that matter, I'm thoroughly embarrassed anytime the FedEx/UPS/copier fixer/lightbulb changer/messenger/coffee deliverer, etc.... tries to game me in my office in front of my coworkers. I know that sounds horrible, but even if the brotha was a CEO wearing an Armani suit, there is a time and place for everything. My office is NEVER the time nor the place.

Now y'all got me thinking. This is kind of a different twist on this thread, but why do SOME white people think that because you're single and black that it is there duty to "hook" you up with ANY single black man that they know. Our office manager kept telling me about this gorgeous guy that I just had to meet because we'd be perfect together. She told me, "I've never looked at a black man like that, but he's really cute." Y'all, why did she tell me to go down to a shoe store across the street during lunch to check him out. She doesn't even know that man. She only sees him through the window on her way to work. Now I'm no elitist, but damn, I do have standards. I am a professional, college educated woman. What in hades made her think that I'd have anything in common with a shoe salesman? She even asked if she could stop in and give him my phone number. Ummm no, you can't.

This has happened to me several times. I guess it's becuase they know so few black people that they figure we're all alike and just because we have similar skin color, we're bound to get along.
:rolleyes:

Dang, now I feel like I'm prejud"ist":). This topic has really got me thinking.....

Re: Chris Rock said.....
 

I do not believe it is elitist, especially when the people who make these comments come from the same neighborhoods as you and have the same oppurtunities. Look closely at some of the stories- we are talking about co-workers, friends of friends, classmates-- people who are sitting at the same table as the rest of us. Except, they choose to take of their shoes and put their feet up on it. And, I do not think there is ever an excuse for improper behavior.

To me, I see people trying to take advantage of a situation or streotypes. Already, they think White people view them as hostile and ignorant. So they exploit this streotype becuase they know that the whites are less likely to confront their hostility and more likely to shake their heads in silence.

That, I believe is the spirit in which this thread and Chris Rock's comments were intended. Not that their is a caste or tier system, but instead there is gross exploitation that not only trivializes true racial discrimination and injustice but also belies the intelligence and better judgement that we were all born with.

I actually just returned from the supermarket and was going to post yet another experience. I was on line at the courtesy desk trying to get a few money orders. And, a Black guy who had just been served loudly storms from the courtesy desk yelling, "Thats why I hate white people, dammit I hate you white people because you always wanna mess black people up!"

The white woman and hispanic male in front of me lowered their eyes and shook their heads. When the hispanic male in front of me gets up there he has a problem with his card ( credit, debt, whatever..) and cannot complete his transaction, so he leaves. Now, when I get up there the white male behind the counter is pleasant with me, I get my stuff and I am out of there in no time at all. Now, what is the purpose of making a scene?

When we resort to inflammatory speech and behavior to express our disappointment we reinforce stereotypes and emabarass the hell out of everyone else- regardless of race. And frankly, I agree with Rock's statements because these people OBVIOUSLY want to cause a scene. And that is wrong.

Can I say Amen! My stalker is the a/c repair man who likes to make sure that it's running properly in my office. One day, this fool waited until I finished talking to my mother and a manager to ask me if there was a color copier he could use to copy some cd covers for his bootleg cd business. This man and his attempts to get at me is now the joke of my whole office. I don't find it funny.


I'm SO tired of hearing , "I know this really great guy that would be perfect for you". :mad:

I was walking through the mall with a couple of my friends and we heard a commotion. When we got to the store where the commotion was, we saw the mall security escorting two females out of a store. Come to find out, the two girls had gotten into a fist fight in the store and they knocked down three racks of clothes. They even said that one of the girls was fighting while holding her baby.:eek: :mad:

A couple of years ago, I was attending a predominately white university. One day I was sitting in math class and out of no where came a loud snore. I looked over to find out that it was one of the few other black people in the class. Yall, he was snoring so loud that I was surprised that he didn't wake himself up. Nobody sitting around him tried to wake him up. He snored through 30 minutes of class while the professor kept on teaching like he didn't hear the snoring. (I know he heard it because it was a small classroom.) I was too embarassed.

Originally posted by Bamboozled



For that matter, I'm thoroughly embarrassed anytime the FedEx/UPS/copier fixer/lightbulb changer/messenger/coffee deliverer, etc.... tries to game me in my office in front of my coworkers. I know that sounds horrible, but even if the brotha was a CEO wearing an Armani suit, there is a time and place for everything. My office is NEVER the time nor the place.

AMEN!!!!!!


Now y'all got me thinking. This is kind of a different twist on this thread, but why do SOME white people think that because you're single and black that it is there duty to "hook" you up with ANY single black man that they know. Our office manager kept telling me about this gorgeous guy that I just had to meet because we'd be perfect together. She told me, "I've never looked at a black man like that, but he's really cute." Y'all, why did she tell me to go down to a shoe store across the street during lunch to check him out. She doesn't even know that man. She only sees him through the window on her way to work. Now I'm no elitist, but damn, I do have standards. I am a professional, college educated woman. What in hades made her think that I'd have anything in common with a shoe salesman? She even asked if she could stop in and give him my phone number. Ummm no, you can't.

This has happened to me several times. I guess it's becuase they know so few black people that they figure we're all alike and just because we have similar skin color, we're bound to get along.
:rolleyes:



IT's not just me!

JUST because we're both black and they like both of us does not immediately follow that we will be soul mates or something, lol! I politely decline those invites.

Folx think that BLACK=GHETTO!

My most frustrating and embarrassing moments with 'us' come at work. Even though the corporate dress code is Business Casual, people have no idea. Only 'us' come into work with club gear, you know sheer blouses, navel rings showing, mile high hairdon'ts, spike heels, spaghetti straps, etc. I also cringe when some of us get on the elevator putting all kind of personal business in the street, talking loud and carrying on. Of course 'they' think 'we' all act like that! No wonder it took so long for 'us' to move into management in my company.

I thought it was just me too...
 

Bamboozled..... I thought it was just me too. I work in a hospital and of course who tracks me down to my office to ask me out to lunch? Not the doctors or even male nurses, no the guy who makes the lunches in the cafeteria, or the brothers in housekeeping, or patient transport. Now when I decline the offer and state that I have a man, I am all of a sudden stuck-up, WTF:rolleyes: . Sorry, even if I didn't have a man, I just don't feel right dating a guy that I ask for extra cheese on my sandwich everyday.

At my previous job, every friday was casual day. But by the way some of the black women dressed you would think that they were getting ready to slide down a pole :eek:. I'm talking fishnet stockings, mini-mini skirts, booty shorts, the works. Then have the nerve to catch an attitude when told that they will have go home to change their clothes. :rolleyes: