Pregnancy
 

Hey yall

I'm new here but my concern is huge and I hope I can get some of yalls input.

ok....this is huge

my girlfriend and i had sex or whatever and I "went" inside. She is on birthcontrol and all that but I know that doesn't really mean anything. Her "time" was just last week so I'm thinking that there is less of a chance but is that true? I mean it was right after that "time" and all so it doesn't seem like she would even have eggs yet. this si obviously huge and I have no clue what to do or think or say right now. anyone who knows anything that could ease my worries or give me more, i don't care i just need honest thoughts if you'll post them here below. thanx

If it was right after her period you should be in the clear but no guarantees. If ya'll are really worried about this then I'd go down to your campus health center (or a DR) and get her tested. If she's on birth control though and takes it religiously at the same time every day the chances are really low. If I recall correctly the chance for conception in a woman on birth control pills is about 1%.

Probably much lower b/c of the timing..

Good luck.

LHT
Kevin

Yeah....Huge....but maybe not that bad

Supposedly there is something like a 10-day grace period (we'll call it)....10 days after her period the ovulation isn't really ovulating....It's good that it was so near the end of it though, because where you went it will stay active for about 5 days, so you should have nothing to worry about...but I won't give you any false hope...you may also have a LOT to worry about, but for now there is nothing you can do except maybe take her to a doctor (maybe campus Dr) and/or take a test.

Cory

well, according to mtv's sex show you can get pregnant when a girl is menstruating..HOWEVER...my human sexuality professor taught that she can only get pregnant while ovulating..which is about 5-7 days out of the month..generally toward the middle of her cycle..so even if she just fininished her time..or just started you should be in the clear..who do i believe? my professor. if you are that concerned go to the doctor..however, remember it takes about a week for conception

stop worrying!!
 

A girl on the pill DOES NOT OVULATE.

Feel free to correct me, but that's what I've been told.

So if I'm right, this whole business about when her period came and how many days, etc. really doesn't matter much if there's never any egg being released (if the pill is working).

It's fairly normal to come inside a girl who's on the pill... that's the whole point of her being on it... to prevent pregnancy.

If she takes it every day (no forgetting), and takes it at about the same time every day, there's really a 1% chance or something that she could be pregnant. That is the pill's failure rate (even when you don't pull out, ever) for a whole year! So if you kept doing exactly this for a whole year, there's still only a 1% chance she'd become pregnant over the year.

There is practically no way she's pregnant if she's taking the pill correctly. It's not as if y'all had unprotected sex or something. You used one of the most effective means of protection.

You should wait until her period is actually late to even start worrying about this (and I really think there's nothing to worry about, the odds are so low). Her period should be pretty predictable since she's on the pill. She should know which day it usually starts. If it comes late, she should take a pregnancy test which you can buy at a drugstore. Even if she is a few days late, there can be other reasons why. I'm on the pill, and once my period came late due to a flu-type illness I had at the time. Even though I was on the pill, I freaked out and got a pregnancy test since I had never been late before. I wasn't pregnant, the sickness had just thrown my cycle out of whack.

Seriously, stop worrying until you at least have some evidence that she might possibly be pregnant. Girls on the pill don't get pregnant left and right.

I know it's not like we had unprotected sex but I just don't know very much at all about how the pill works. We're both worried and she had a friend who had a miscarriage when the condom broke despite her being on the pill but that was only days before her period - her utererus couldnt handle a child. It's just really scarey and I'd like to not ruin both of our lives beacuse of one night

and she had been taking the pill normally for a long time but she was on a trip abroad and in a different time zone and tried to adapt her pill schedule to her current time schedule but wasn't sure so she prolly wasnt taking it at the right times and i don't know what taking it at the wrong time for 2 weeks then coming back and taking it normally for just a few days could do. does that mess everything up. I want to eventually marry this girl but i wanna do it on our terms and not these. i'm just really scared

The chances are extremely slim that your girlfriend would get pregnant while on the pill; it is 99.9% effective when taken properly (ie at the same time every day, never skipping a day).

However, it IS possible. Very, very unlikely but not impossible.

I seriously doubt if you two have anything to worry about, but if it is really eating away at you and you don't want to wait until her next period is due to see if she is pregnant or not, have her go to a clinic or to her GYN and request a blood test for pregnancy. While the normal urine test would not show a positive result for a few weeks, a blood test will show one way or the other very early on.

I hope this helps!

PS I'm old so I know about these things :-)

If your girlfriend takes the pill as prescribed, she should be okay. It IS possible to get pregnant while on the pill- I personally know three girls who it has happened to! If it is an issue for concern for the both of you, you could look into alternate/additional forms of BC. I personally take the pill and Depo (it's a shot I get only 4 times a year). My doctor says if I get pregnant on this combo, I'll be a medical miracle. You could be a real sweetheart and split the cost of an additional form of BC with your girlfriend if she doesn't have insurance. Just think- condoms, the pill, the shot, etc. are a lot less expensive than a baby!

Look!!!! Stop freaking out.....i've been in your situation many of times. I know what its like and i know its hard not to worry about it. I promise you though, its not worth the stress bro.

I had a girlfriend that was so stupid one time she thought the shit stayed in her system for a week or so after she stopped taking the pill......Needless to say she was a freshman and that in itself should explained the stupidity. We had sex like everynight,morning and afternoon and i never used a condom much less pulled out. She was still ok. Later is when i found out she quit taking it. That was grounds for a major bitching.

Like i said, try not to think about it. Tell her you dont need the stress right now and that she shouldnt be a factor in making you go crazy. If she is telling you the truth that she is taking it right, then soon you will look back at this and laugh. If she is lying to you, like alot females do, then your most likely fucked. I mean think about it, most women know that the pill is a pretty safe bet. I would be much more skeptical if the chick was worrying, because that means that now she is even unsure....
RELAX MAN!!!!!!!

Damn that is a hard note to relax on, and Id prefer you not call her "the bitch" but the first part of your reply was helpful so thank you and everyone who has and will reply. she's not stressing me as much as im stressing myself, shes just silent alot which is worse i think. staying calm is easier said then done but im working on it. what do you think about if her taking it at different times of the day if that will do anything like i said in the last post, like trying to adapt her pill times abroad

Umm, excuse me, but why is it the girl's responsibilty to handle the birth control? Use a condom.

Honestly there isn't really much you can do right now other than go to a dr, but first and foremost you really do need to calm down. I've not been in your shoes but maybe that provides me with objectivity? Just write your thoughts, whether it's on here or in a journal because that's the best catharsis, and maybe do something active to take your mind off things...you just need to step outside yourself for a bit and consider the situation. Because you are so stressed, maybe a blood test would be a good idea, or wait a week and take a urine test. And look, as a couple, this could be the obstacle that brings you closer together by making it through together....just approach it that way. I sincerely doubt that taking the medicine at slightly different hours just because she was abroad will have too terribly much impact on the effectiveness of the pill though I must admit I know little about it as well. It seems as long as she takes it at reasonably close to the same time daily though that there should be no real negative effect.

Just step back, take a breath, and deal....together

UF_Pike,

I am extremely offended by the way you referred to women in your post (and many others)... You really need to think before you post from now on. You're making yourself and the Pi Kappa Alpha fraternity look terrible. The Pikes I know are classy guys and they would be appalled to see the nasty posts you've made under the screenname of a man in their fraternity. Be more respectful please.

Dude,

First off. sorry for the bitch comment. I have a tendancy to say that about chicks when they do shitty things such as that which i was reffering to.

Second, It doesnt matter what time she takes her pill. She could take it one morning before her 10am class and then not take it again untill like 3pm the next day and still be ok. Just as long as she takes it somtime everyday. This has been the case in many of my cases. Often time my ex would take it one morning and then if we went out and came home at like 4,5,6 am and had mad sex she would still be ok. the thing is though she cannot skip days. For example, she cant expect it to work if she takes it on monday and then wed. is the next time she takes it. Or in one case i heard of a girl taking it only when she had sex......I mean shit dude, this crapp isnt the day after pill......she need not to take it the same time everyday but at least once every 24 hours. I

If your that worried about it, go to the infirmary at your school and get the day after pills. I think its like 50-100$ and it solves all your problems. You wont have to worry about it...... Besides its alot cheaper than having an abortion. Thats shits like 400$ in the early stages.........

hope i helped.....

and remember.....relax ......................

Morning after pills are a lot cheapter than that (or so I'm told)..

Also from what I know it actually does matter what time of day she takes the pills. They recommend you take them at the exact same time every day.

It's horomone therapy. You do what the Dr's say is good to do.

Two things.

I don't see "MD" after any of the names above. If this is really eating you alive, go to someone who really knows what what to do. Don't go with guesses and legends.

Second, I too am offended by the language and attitude of some of these posts.

You know who you are. Tone it down.

Drose93------


I offended you? I need to think before i post? I make my frat look bad?


Let me tell you something. I dont care if i offended you! You are somebody who i dont know and more than likely, will never meet. Your view of me or my frat does not cross my mind. Every chapter is different. It seems as though classy men in your book is translated into men with distorted vision in mine. I dont know how my national brothers were at your school (I think your old and come from a southern school). We on the other hand deal with chicks.

Why is it that i need to think before i post? Is not this a public message board? Are we not allowed to express our views and opinions how we wish, within resonable standards? You, who could easily be seen as one who is tasked with the burden of being a moderator, are essentially saying I do not have any constitutional rights when posting here? You could argue that you only requested that i be more respectful and if that is the case, i ask that you not read my posts if you find them offensive. No person is making you read my post. No person is telling you to say something to me. This is all you. Are you the one who says whats offensive or not? What I may find offensive you may not find offensive and vice versuh. You dont set the moral standards. The mind of a woman is much different than that of a man.

Its a choice thing sweetie. You didnt like how i worded something and therefore felt the need to criticize me, saying i am making my chapter look bad. I ask you, what about you? I look at your post and it offended me. I think women like you should be shown humility and from time to time,ruffle your duffle. I was giving advice to another individual and the conversation was between him and I. My response was directed to him. I was not asking questions from people and nor was starting another thread.You chose to scroll down and view my message.

If you dont like what I say,do,type or advertise----Dont read my posts.

Now drop it.

UF Pike: Please tell me that you are joking! You just annouced on a public board that #1 you refer to your ex as well...... #2 You said " i never used a condom much less pulled out"....poor girl. #3 spoke to DZRose like that!?

I don't know about anyone else, but I might want to go to Dr myself with that attitude and get a full STD check up. Please be careful...STDs are serious and hello, AIDS....come on.

And by the way, you must take the pill at the same time or about the same time EVERYDAY in order for them to be 99.9% effective!

I just took a gender issues class, and from what i remember, here is my advice/knowledge:

you have to take the pill within a couple of hours of the same exact time every day. if you miss a day, take 2 the following day. our prof told us this, and told us that the hormone surge when that happens would set things right. of course you don't want to do that very ofton. if you're using the rhythm method, ovulation takes place about 5-7 days before ovulation. ovulation is in the "safe" time to have sex. if used correctly rhythm is like 60% effective. for God's sake man, multiplex! even though she's on the pill, use a condom, diaphragm, spermicide, rhythm, something in addition to it.

also, if the girl is going to be on the pill, then yeah, it's her responsibility. if 2 people are in love or whatever, it BC should be the responsibility of both, but in the long run, it's not the guy that's investing anything in a pregnancy. the girl has to give much more! if she doesn't want to get pregnant, and doesn't want to have to worry about a deadbeat dad or anything, she should take initiative. the guy should be supportive though, split costs, multiplex like i said, or get no nookie i suppose....which is always a surefire way not to get pregnant if you're THAT worried about it :)

Can we do this on our own fight board or something? It's just that I don't want people to spend all their time fighting on this topic rather than giving their input. im sorry anything here started an uprising but can we kill it on this topic? thank you both for your inputs when given but id have to read through your arguments. thanx.

Drose93---------




I'm sorry but you had me cracking up on that last post. I think it would be safe to say I ruffled your duffle.

I can see this is going no where, your impossible to try and get a point across. I was not attacking women in general, but rather you personally. So stop trying to make this into a me against all women thing. In reality it was skirmish between you and I. By calling me a PIG you are still instigating another obscene comment.

I dont write about alledged sexual exp., nor do i brag about anything. Those are simply past ep. with other chicks.

As for my posts, i have recieved numerous emails from guys laughing their asses off and telling me they feel the same way, only they dont have the balls to say what they think and feel on a public message board. As for those guys that did post to my previous posts, i think it would be safe to say that they themselves are nothing short than a vagina itself. Its guys like them that fool you women. At least i'm honest and in the open, i dont decieve chicks.

And I'm sorry but i dont smoke anything-----i'm not a pot head like you. In fact i dont do narcotics at all. I have to keep my body looking good, therfore i dont want to do anything to jepordize that. Drinking beer and doing drugs isnt going to help me try and get into the WWF or on Tuff Enough............My days of drinking are long gone.

While this is loads of entertainment...pm each other if you want to bitch each other out, but leave it out of this thread. Why don't each of you delete them....not to take what you said back or anything, but to not perverse the thread any further....thanks. It's hard to get people to talk about serious things to them if everytime it happens the thread is ruined.

You DO have to take the pill at the same time every day! There is no magic to the fact that the name of the day was Monday at 11:59 pm and then it was Tuesday at 12:01!!!!!!!! You are supposed to take them 24 hours apart so that the hormone levels are constant.

If you were having sex with people who were not taking their pills correctly and you did not get them pregnant, that does not mean that girls don't have to take them properly. It was by chance that you did not father a baby!

People taking their pills in that way is the reason that so many people say "I was taking the pill and still got pregnant" or when women say "Both of my kids were conceived while I was on the pill". You HAVE to follow the directions!

Also, if you vomit after taking your pill or if you are on antibiotics, the pill is null and void, and you need to use backup. Personally, if it was me using the pill for BC and I was not married, I would use a backup as well all of the time!

BC is great and all but doesn't do a thing for STDs. Women should always be prepared with a back up as well....call me crazy but I have no time for a baby and/or STD!

LexiKD,

In reply to your earlier post.........."i might want to go get a full STD check up".............

I get one every 3 months here in florida. Also, regardless what you may think i dont sleep with a great many of girls, its usally my ex-girlfriends that i am speaking of. I can talk about them, mostly because their crazy and psychotic. 1 of them slashed 2 of my tires on my benz and another painted her sorority letters real big on it in hot pink paint...... I had to ride around for a few days with Zeta Tau Alpha on my doors and hood, until i found someone to re-paint my car. The bad thing was that my dad bought my car from germany, straight from the benz factory and the color had to be made from scratch.........it was european silver...... I always end up making the girlfriends go crazy on me.......or else its the other way around......i end up going crazy.....trying to beat every guys ass they talk to.


STD FREE.......

Out of respect to the others on this thread, I won't make any more comments about UF_Pike here, and I'll delete my previous post.

WorriedStudent, take DeltAlum's advice and visit a doctor. That's the only way that you're going to get a solid answer. Good luck. I honestly hope that everything turns out for the best. :)

AMEN!

I have many comments to give: One a women is most likily to get pregnant 11 to 18 days after her period. I got this information from a Doctor. Also the morning after pill should only be used in case of an emergancy. Use other means of protection unstead of thinking you can just use the morning after pill. To get this pill you must go to a doctor who must prescribe it to you. This pill must be no more then three days after the sexual interaction. It is best used within 24 hours. There are two pills to take. You take one pill after taking the pregnacy test then you take the other 12 hours later. The doctor will give her some other pills to keep her from getting sick. The morning after pill can make you ill. But it does work and should not be misused!!!! Women who have been raped are oftered this pill if they like. So if others misuse it, it could make it difficult for women who really need it to get it. Be responsible with your decisions. Please be careful and think of the other person and not just yourself. I child is something that should be planned and wanted not an accident. Please feel free to pm me if you want more information

I think you should read the condom thread for information on good condoms!;)

UFPIKE: Glad to see that you are up to date, wish more would do the same, but do you really feel Ok with not using anything? I'm curious to see a male Point of View on the subject. Or was that just with that one woman?

Sorry, just confused, it never dawned on me that anyone, in this day, would be Ok with using nothing...I mean HIV can be in your system for a long time w/o showing up.

I don't mean that women need to check protection at the door attitude, but I always figured it was understood.

I think a lot of people, particularly college students, still have the "it can never happen to me" attitude.

I personally think that everyone should talk to their partners and get tested before deciding to have unprotected sex. (By unprotected, I'm talking about not using a condom since only condoms can offer some protection from STD's.)

I know it's a sensitive subject for people to bring up, but if you're having sex then you should be mature enough to talk about potential consequences and take steps to insure that you aren't carrying a communicable disease. I know that most county health departments will do STD tests either for free or at a really reduced rate for college students. I urge everyone to take advantage of the resources available.

guys and STD's
 

I know a guy who thinks he doesn't need to use condoms because "he'd be able to tell" if a girl had something. I try to convince him that STD's are all over the place, even at small private colleges. He seems to believe they're a trashy state school girl phenomenon. Pretty scary.

Re: Pregnancy
 

OK, wait...when did you two have sex? If it was very recent, she can get those 72-hour pills from the doctor. I didn't read any of the other posts in this thread so I don't know if anyone already recommended this or not...

And period or not, she can get pregnant anyway... and didn't you say she was on birthcontrol? I think she's pretty safe...

Wow! There are some nasty posts here. I remember an episode of Will & Grace.
What was Grace's first form of birth control?
Prayer!

It's funny on a tv show, but not in real life. Protect yourself and your loved one.

UF-PIKE, I suggest you chill your self a bit!

You are asking/telling a lot and it is something that I dont neccerssaryly need to hear!

If you get Cranial Rectosis, there is an edit buttom a the thread that lets you go back and edit out silly or mundane things!

If you do not mind me saying so, you do not sound like any PKA Member I know.

Maybe you heard of them and posted as such and are a 12 year old who has nothing better to do with his time?

If I am wrong, My BAD, If I am right get a real life!

If you are a member of PKA then represent yourself as A PIKE Not as a no brainer!

WORRIEDSTUDENT----if she is on the pill and taking it as she is supposed to, she is probably not going to get pregnant. The only real way that a girl on the pill is going to get pregnant is if she forgets to take it or if she takes antibiotics......certain antibiotics can weaken the pill and cause a woman to ovulate.

I would like to point out that if you are involved with this girl, why do you not trust her? I really wouldn't recommend having sex with someone you don't trust....if you don't trust her to take her pills then why would you trust her to tell you if she was infected with an STD, etc...?

CONTRARY to popular belief (UF PIKE?) girls do not spend all their free time plotting ways to "trap" some poor little unsuspecting male into marrying them. Most girls who are in college are trying to prepare for their OWN futures/careers and the last thing they need is to get tied down to some guy they may not even like in a month or two and a baby. Chances are she's just having her good time or whatever the case may be....hopefully if she is having sex with you she at least likes you and respects you enough to be up-front.

As far as the "cycle" goes, in a perfect 28-day cycle (Day 1 being the first day of her period) a woman ovulates on Day 14.....but this is rare. Hormones can cause changes at any time and most women are not so regular. Without protection, it is a possibility that a woman can get pregnant any day out of the month, EVEN DURING HER PERIOD. It isn't LIKELY, but it CAN happen.

Not to discount anything that anyone else has said but I have been sexually active for 15 years and I have 2 children.....I know quite a bit about the subject having both actively worked at NOT getting pregnant and at getting pregnant. PLEASE....if you have any doubts see a Dr.

breathe
 

Ok, this story isn't the brightest one, and everyone says i'm a "stupid nurse" but it should make you feel better.

And just to clarify, you don't have to take the pill the same time everyday, unless you are taking the special type that requires it. For the most part, most women are not on this one, and as long as you take the pill daily you'll be fine.

Ok, here goes.

I am really bad with my pills. I forget for days on end, but I've been fine so far. Well...I skipped 4 days of pills, realized I hadn't taken them in a while, took 2 pills, threw 2 away, and resumed on the regular schedule. I think in all I ended up skipping at least a week of pills, and discarded some of them. All the while, using this as the only method of birth control. Needless to say, I'm not pregnant. I'm stupid, but not pregnant.

So calm down, I'm sure things will work out either way.

Now, ladies take your pills properly (me included) and men bring the condoms (you too ladies) otherwise, realize that we're all at risk of STD's, AIDS, and pregnancy. That's just the risk you take when you are sexually active. I personally think the risk is worth it, but that's just my opinion...;)

Now that it's been about a week my girlfriend is supposed to take her test at around 8 this morning..Im at work so shes going to call me....everyone put me and my girlfriend in your prayers please

Worried more than ever

fingers are crossed for you and my prayers for you are in my heart. I'm sure that everything will turn out okay with the general reaction of the board...just keep in mind that this test is early since it's exactly one week, I hope everything works out the way you hope for....

edit:

I assume you will, but tell us what becomes of the test, + or -

Good luck! If I were a betting man I'd wager everything comes out fine.

The odds are waaaay in your favor.

You know, it kills me how much people have to worry about this when I have known so many people (myself included) who at one time or another have had a MISERABLE time getting pregnant. You can do everything right for months on end, not conceive, and upon examination have nothing wrong with you that should prevent you from getting pregnant. Then there are a couple of teenagers who have sex with a condom during the girl's period and she still gets knocked up!!!!!!!! I don't get it.....