Is There a RIGHT age for Marriage?
 

Well not me personably but that is how my grandmother is towards my uncle (30yrs.) and my aunt (28yrs.). She is always pressuring them to hurry up and get married. I think the right time and age is when you have found someone that you know you cannot live happily without, a person who lights up your face as soon as you see them, the person who makes your world turn, the one who loves you for who you are, and when you both are mature enough to know the responsibilities of marriage and are willing to accept them...then that is the RIGHT time and age! :)

Ronnie :D

Honey I'm 22, and I'm getting that.

....Yeah, I am fixing to be a junior in college and my mother has told me that I should get married as soon as I graduate. :p

There is.....
 

Well, as long as they're legally old enough to get married, anyway!

I agree that there is no right age to marry. I think it has more to do with maturity and that comes at any age!;)

Is there a RIGHT age for marriage
 

Yes... but its a secret. :)

Re: Is There a RIGHT age for Marriage?
 

Soror I AM 30... will be 31 in August. Not married, no children. In a Loving :D Relationship....YES!!! Fortunately for me though, my Mom is not pressuring us to get married. My Mom told me that she is still adjusting to being a Mother (her youngest is 18) she is not ready to be a Grandmother just yet. :)

My Siblings on the other hand are different. Every now and then...more now than then, my sisters and brother (sometimes) are saying that I'm getting old and they want a niece or nephew like yesterday. How about this: My youngest sister (who just completed her freshmen year at Morgan) calls me on Mother's Day and said to me, "Happy Mother's Day....this is what I WOULD be saying to you if you had some children!" Can you say hurt feelings? My response was," Whatever" :rolleyes:

When the time is right for the both of us, we will make that move because WE will be ready, not because of our families influence.

Soror you have to follow your heart and do what is right for you, not others.

;)

Z-Phi

:)

Re: Is there a RIGHT age for marriage
 

Do tell! :confused:

Re: Is There a RIGHT age for Marriage?
 

I didn't get bashed, but I was questioned. I ignored my mother and grand-aunts and they caught on (eventually) :). When it was right for you and that special man, you can do it then. Don't give in to the pressure!

Sometimes I think my mother is TRIPPING! I think my grandma did the same thing to her and now she is doing it to me :(

I don't even think it's just moms. Whenever you are in a relationship for at least 2 years (and no, I'm not counting times you were on a "break" ;) ) people always start asking when the wedding is going to be. I think people think it's cute/cool to ask/badger people about marriage but I can see how that could become extremely annoying. :rolleyes:

The right age for marriage? How do I put this... well, at whatever age R Kelly wanted to sleep with you plus about 18 yrs! LOL!
Anyway, for real, when the time is right. Better not to do it than do it fast and wrong.

Re: Is there a RIGHT age for marriage
 

What's the secret? Tell me, please!

:D lol at TLaw.

But for real, Pretty Kitty, don't worry about that. When you are ready, you'll know. There isnt a right age. :)

21
 

I got married at 21 the first time, had just graduated from school. I felt it was right.

Special, did you say the first time? Did it work out?

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lol! The first time?

I'm 31 will be 32 in November and I'm getting it from both my parents-I'm also the only child. Can we say they are getting on my last nerve.

My mother says "I never imagined I would be this old and not have any grandkids-did you?"

My father says " What are you waiting for, you don't want me to be a grandfather."

I have said and will continue to say that I want to be MARRIED when I have children. I'm not feeling the baby mamma/daddy stuff.

It's a bit depressing at times because I'm the only one in my family without children and at work it's no different but I want to be with the father of my child so we can enjoy raising them together. JMPO

Zeta Luv

I know the feeling soror. I'm around 30ish and single with no children. But I get it bad because my younger sister got married and had a child before I did. Now my entire family is looking at me like when am I going to be ready. But I'm not ready yet. When the time is right you'll know ;)

Soror,

Surprisingly, I don't get it from my mom. I get it from my older brother. He just doesn't understand why I'm not married with kids. I'm sure you've heard it "you're not getting any younger". My answer - if I'm not worried, you shouldn't be.

I'm lucky that my mother has two grandkids and another one on the way. It is somewhat awkward that I'm the second (age 30) to oldest (out of 4) and don't have any kids. But like I told my sinlings and my mother, it's a choice that I made to focus on my career and then do the family thing later. Which later is becoming sooner.

I'm also glad that most of my friends and sorors are not married and childless. So I feel no pressure from them that I need to get married. I figure when it's time for me to be married and have kids, it will happen.

The right age to get married is when you decide that you are ready. That's my 5 cents.

Hope this helps.

Z-phi,
Tiny Terror

If push comes to shove just tell your mother when the time is right for me to get married you will be the first to know:D

It's funny that you should ask this question. Just last night I had the first of many conversations to come with my boyfriend about marriage. He is two years younger than me and treats me with so much respect and honor that I never want to let him go. So I asked him if he had any thoughts on marriage. Such as is there an age that you want to be married by? He said probably thirty. I am 27 and want to get married before I turn 30. So now what? I am not going to push it because all in all age is just a number. Sometimes he acts more grown up than me. But I hope that he will at least ask before I am 30. By the way, we will have been dating for a year on June 24th, 2002. But the official day of him asking me to be his girl is Nov 5.

And if my mom says one more time that I would probably have to roll her down the aisle by the time I get married... I'm going to scream!

this topic is very interesting to me. all my family got married very young (under the age of 20) and there has only been one divorce. everyone has been married for over 26 years which i think is amazing. the only divorce in my family occured with my cousin who married at age 46. i guess my point is there really isn't a "right age"as long as both partners put in the required effort. my grandmother always said, "a marriage may be made in heaven, but the maintenance must be done here on earth"