I used to think...
 

Have you reflected back over your life and seen growth? What's different now? What did you used to think?

I used to think that...

...love was enough.
...I'd be married and have at least one child by now (28y/o).
...if I gave him what he wanted, he'd give me what I wanted (go 'head WTE!!!)
...broccoli was nasty.
...it was ok to relax my hair.
...people didn't see ME.
...I would never find the love that I want

(I have more, but I have to go, lol)

Things have changed
 

I used to think that right now at 26 I would be graduating Med School, planning a wedding for this year and looking forwrad to having kids in the near future. I also thought my close friends in HS would be the same ones that I have now.

Alternate plans I would be almost finished grad school.... still trying to get through. :confused:

There are some things that I regret that I didn't do and some things that I regret I did. All in all I have to make the best of the situation that is before me. :D

I used to think.....

....life was supposed to be fair
....learning about black history wasn't important
....going to church was annoying
....cream cheese tasted like cottage cheese
....credit cards were "free money"
....reading the Wall Street Journal was something nerds did
....I HAD to perm my hair

I use to think that...

- climbing the corporate ladder was the only thing to do as a professional
- i would never gain weight... (what was i thinking!?!?!?)
- i would be pregnant in yr #2 of marriage
- i would forever care how people felt or what they said about me
- i would never have a savings account that wasn't negative

I use to think that:

(every)one would treat you the way you treat(ed) them

(every)one would do for you what you did/do for them

(every)one would be there for you (in times of need) when you were there for them (in their time of need)

(every)one is happy for your accomplishments

I used to think...
 

-- My 20's would never get here. Now they have come and left.:rolleyes:

--Employment would be easy after college. :eek: Lesson learned.

--I would be a teacher and love every minute of it. I left after 1 and a half years. Been working in the computer industry for 4+years now.

--I would have a dream wedding...Well, due to financial issues, the court house was fine. The BBQ dinner after was the BOMB!

--I would have only one child. A GIRL. I have boys and that is fine with me.

--My grandparents would live forever. Now all four of them are gone.

And finally...

--I would be a member of my sorority of choice...It has been 10 long years and counting. Hey, I haven't given up yet!:p

I used to think that....

30 seemed so far away.

after my last boyfriend, I would never love again. http://www.plauder-smilies.de/yellows/love.gif

all my friends had my best interest at heart.

I'd be married by now :(.

my daddy would take care of me for the rest of my life.

my butt was too big and my thighs not firm enough ... now I've learned to love them.

all men cheat. :rolleyes:

people say what they mean and mean what they say.

my body would look the same as it did in my early 20s. http://www.plauder-smilies.de/lach.gif

if I worked hard, I could accomplish whatever I put my mind to.

looks were enough.

Throughout various stages in my life, I used to think...

I knew everything! :rolleyes:

No one could figure me out.

Guys who were successful outside of the realm of the law were sexy.

By the time I was 21 I would be a self-made millionaire.

Meals began and ended with peanut butter and jelly.

I didn't need anyone for anything!

Now I know that...

I have a LOT left to learn!

There are a few people who can figure me out ;)

Hey, a successful man is a successful man, no matter how he obtains it! :p :D

I am 21...still waiting on the millions to roll in...anytime now...

Being in college, Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwiches are 4 star meals! Breakfast lunch and dinner, baby! LOL

Man, now I know I need MONEY! LOL! I need understanding professors! I need roommates who can pay their bills on time and not break their lease! Sigh...
:D

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Bamboozled
I used to think that....
all men cheat. :rolleyes:



You mean to tell me they all don't??? http://www.plauder-smilies.de/eek2.gif

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Sexy Mocha

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Originally posted by Bamboozled I used to think that.... all men cheat. :rolleyes: You mean to tell me they all don't??? http://www.plauder-smilies.de/eek2.gif

Yeah, you caught me .... they do. I was just trying to be optimistic :o.

Oh, I see....:)

I used to think...

I had thick and bushy eyebrows (clearly aren't thick enough).
I had ugly feet.
I couldn't wear sandals.
I had ugly teeth. :o
my skin was too dark.
(evidently) that what my sisters (and others) said was law.
I liked to talk on the phone.
you could take people at their word.
I could watch a lot of TV if I just tried.
I was weird cuz I liked to read instead.
something was wrong with me, in general (I am a little different, lol, I can admit that now. :)).
the police were your friends.
everyone's life was perfect but mine.
I'd be a baller by now.
I'd have some skeerious cash flow by now.
my sisters were the coolest people in the whole world.
all Black people had the same upbringing and experience that I did (naive, ok?).
all the big cities in Ohio were like Cleveland (big let down, HUGE).
I couldn't wait to be away from Wittenberg (I miss it terribly).
I would never wear make-up.
I'd never find a job I truly loved (God is GOOD!!).

I used to think

- that best man I could get were thugs and hustlers
- there were no intelligent and socially conscious black people that were still cool
- if I took care of a man, he would take care of me too
- I would never be broke or hungry when I got to college
- you can't make Oodles of Noodles in the microwave
- I would always be in shape
- Once you get a six pack you can never lose it :rolleyes:

Oh, yea...I thought that too. I used to have a six pack, but now I have a 3 liter...:rolleyes:

http://www.plauder-smilies.de/lach.gif

I used to think....
True love was truly blind.
If you work hard at something you would always reap the benefits.
My second car would be brand spanking new.
When I bought a house i would fill it witha family.
When I got older my mom and I would never understand each other.

I used to think.....
My lips were too big (now they are luscious):D
I would never gain weight/nor have hips (trying to get rid of some)
I would eventually have a six-pack :rolleyes:
Natural hair was not cool.
I needed green eyes and light skin to be pretty.

Forgive me for butting in ladies, but all men cheat? NOT FAIR!!! Could one of you, just one, take that back? Please?!!

Not all men cheat. They are many good ones out there......they are just hidden by the stupid ones!!:D

Good topic
 

I used to think......

- That friends would be there no matter what.
- That I would never gain weight:rolleyes:
- That I was really unattractive ( now I know how Exquizit I am;) )
- That My mom was clueless.
- That if I give things my all that I recieve the same in return.
- That if you play fair things would turn out fair.
- That working hard at love would solve all relationship problems.
- That if you over look his tiny flaws for a while you would be able to get past them.

- That I'd be married by now.:rolleyes:
- That all men are the same.
- Men only cry when they really mean it.:rolleyes:
- My sister and I would never be close.
- My problems were worse than anyone elses.
- It was ok to lean on the people you care about and assume they knew that I would be there for them whenever they needed me.:(
- When I made 25 I would really be gown.:D (that was 2years ago)

I tell ya, reality is a mutha :p

I used to think...

~ that people were inherently good and honest
~ I knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life
~ I'd be married with 2 kids, a house & a cocker spaniel
~ if I wasn't married, I'd at least have a house & be debt free
~ one can't be happy without a man
~ credit cards were free money
~ money=happiness
~ friendships would last a lifetime
~ only "stupid" or "weak" women were physically abused (boy was I wrong :eek: :( )
~ my parents were crazy when they said "you'll understand when you're older"

I used to think...
 

- that I couldn't wait to be "grown"

- that when my mother said that she didn't have any money, she really did, and was just holding out

-that because I love one of my best friends dearly, I would love her children the same way

-that my daughter would have at least one sibling by now

-that me and my ABC would always be close. Barbara, where you at, gurl?

-that be a lot more settled than I actually am

-that i never wanted the responsibility of owning a house

i used to think...

- honestly, that God had "issues" and needed my help
- that i'd never fall in love again
- that i'd never want children
- that i'd never want to get married
- that my mother (when younger) was intentionally trying to ruin my life
- that the only words my mother knew were "no", "get a job", "'cause i said so" and various profanities
- that i'd have my ed.d. by now
- that i'd be well on my way in my "dream" job
- that being from 'da hood, somehow lessened my existence, importance, intelligence, etc.
- that i'd be officiating "big-time" women's college bball by now

tlaw - i'll also agree that not all men cheat. i know more than a few "good" ones.

Okay, forgive the sappiness
 

Thank you Riley, and Stillwater. Had me scared for a minute.

I used to think that I'd be single and "happy" till I was 90!
I used to think that I knew what being "happy" was

... then I went ahead and found the perfect woman, and fell in love. Now I know what happiness is!

Back in the day when I was young...
 

I use to think:

That I would just "grow" out of my perpetual doldrums and just be a "happy-forever-fun-sunshiny" person...

That it all depended on me, so NO ONE can help me with my personal challenges... (I don't have problems--I have challenges ;))

That I could never show that I made mistakes... But I realized that sometimes, it takes admitting when I fail, so I have to pick myself up, dust myself off and begin again... (Riley and Urbane!!! THIS IS FOR YOU:eek: 'Cuz if I didn't force myself to believe that--I would NOT be ON the graduation stage to be hooded for my DOCTORATE TODAY... So, NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES--JUST DO IT!!!--FOR AS LONG AS "THEY" LET YOU!!! :rolleyes: )

(and Riley, PM me... Tell me the dealyo--I KNOW what you are going thru!!! :))

That since I just knew it all, I had to DO it all... But, I had to follow God's will for me to fulfill His name and praise Him... Thine will, not mine... And the Spirit transformed me... Moreover, when Christ needs to get hold of me and set me skrait--GUESS WHAT??? He WILL and He DID:eek:!!! In more ways than one... :( :o :rolleyes:

That like all my sorors and SFs and guests, I thought I'd be married with 2.1 kiddies by now with a IL750, and 5 bed/4 bath house in hills of SoCal... At the same time, all my little friends that got married are now divorced--if they got married, or in therapy, or are resided in a battered women's shelter... Be careful what you wish for--you might just get it...:o

And lastly, I am different now due to my growth because when I decided to follow in the Spirit, my soul just opened up and I finally realized how truly Blessed I was!!! Whereas, before, I thought I deserved nothing, I allowed myself to be a doormat for everybody, and I thought I was a luser... But see, it was revealed to me that God had different plans for me... :cool:

I used to think that I could not go wrong
And life was nothing but an awful song
But now I know the meaning of true love
I'm leaning on the everlasting arms
If I can see it, then I can do (be) it
If I just believe it, there's nothing to it
I believe I can fly
I believe I can touch the sky
I think about it every night and day
Spread my wings and fly away
I believe I can soar
I see me running through that open door
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
(Oh) I believe I can fly


:D OOOPs that was what Rra Kelly used to think, my bad. . . :p :o

Here goes

I used to think that my student loans REALLY would only be $50 per month for the 10 year pay off. I have YET to write a $50 check.:rolleyes:

I used to think that I too would be married by now or at least with a man that would be leading to marriage.

I used to think that the people I was friends with BACK IN THE DAY (elementary school and high school) would still be my friends now but I don't even know their phone numbers anymore.

I used to think that I would be a child psychologist one day.

I used to think that I would get pregnant the first time I had sex:o and so did someone else. :p

I used to think that my daddy and I would reconcile and he would walk me down the aisle.:(

I used to think that my FRIENDS could take my honesty.

I used to think that the INTERNET was dumb and I would never use it. :eek:

I used to think that one day I would be rich and famous.

I used to think I would be a size 10 for forever.

I used to think that Santa Claus was real and the Tooth Fairy too.

I used to think that there really was a boogie monster.


**EDITED**
I used to think that when I told my friends how I honestly felt that they would know that bottom line I was speaking out of love and concern for them as my friend.

I used to think that I was going to marry BOBBY or WENDELL.:eek:

I used to think that Gary Coleman was Fiiiiiiiiiiiine.

I used to think that I wanted to marry Theo Huxtable. :p

Ok, ok, not ALL men cheat :rolleyes: ... just ALL the ones I know!;)

Ok, now THAT was funny!!!:D

Re: Back in the day when I was young...
 

CONGRATULATIONS!!! That is wonderful!!!!

Girl, me too,

I used to think that only losers used chat rooms and message boards

I used to think:
 

--I would be married with 2 kids on my way to three by now -31 years old have no husband and no children

--waiting for marriage was the right thing to do

--I would know what my passion is and be workin it

--I would have been on the cover of Essence, Heart & Soul, and
Honey :)

--one day we would all get along- really get along

--I would be married to Chris Tucker or Mos Def
:D

--I could go to a stepshow where at the end there is nuttin but love regardless of the winners

I used to think....

that If I ate a watermelon seed, a watermelon tree would grow inside my stomach.

that I was too skinny

that I was the ugly duckling :(

that It was what you did not who you know (I've learned that lesson)

that my dad was insane...now he's just a lil crazy

that I really wanted a name like Shaniquataqua

that Ebonics was really a language :rolleyes:

I used to think....

Things would get easier after college :(

That CD's were overpriced and overrated, and I would stay loyal to cassettes :o

That my son's father would always be in his life :mad:

That I would never have to worry about my weight :eek:

My family was the only one with so much DRAMA!! :rolleyes:

I used to think....

I would always be a size 8 (my hips played a nasty trick on me!!)
I would be finished with my education by now
I would have celebrated at least two wedding anniversaries by now
My nose was too big for my face
I would look funny with shorter than shoulder-length hair
That my people in the old neighborhood would wake up and get out of the mess they are in.
:( :(

I used to think..

I'd graduate in 4 years (damn finite mathematics)

That I couldn't have any male friends that didn't want to be with me.

That I was shy. I don't know what happened. Sometimes I'll still say that I'm shy and my friends are like yeah right; whatever!

That I would never want to leave my mother's side. Now it takes a whole lot for me to go home and visit.

That I would never want to go to church when I got older. Now I love to hear the word.

That a Bachelors degree was enough. Not in my major, I'll be attending Grad School right after a complete undergrad.

XYZ sorority would return to my campus before I graduate. One more year to go and I don't think its going to happen.

I needed braces to close my gap. (Now I get compliments all the time about how pretty my smile is.)

I used to think that....

Money grew on trees.

Mommy and daddy would always shove a little extra cash my way whenever I needed it.

Husbands automatically put in their share of housework (without ever having to be asked).

My children would always behave in public.

Back in the day when I was a kid...
 

- I use to think that my hair would never be long enough...now I done cut it for the ump-teenth-time :D
-I would NEVER leave Cali.....loving DC Metro Area
-I would be the top admin of someone's hospital..now I'm working in the education/health field for a non-profit
-my mom and I will never be close....can't go a day with out checking in on her
-my baby brother will always be a baby...he bout to be a grown azz 19 year old
-I would be married, own our own home...still hoping

ttt
 

I liked this one, too!

I used to think that . . .

I couldn't live without him.
I would never get over that lost love.
it would always hurt to see him.
the pain would last always.
the tears would never cease.
I knew what was best for me.
I wouldn't be able to move on.
I wasn't that strong.
I would never be able to shed the weight.
I just wasn't that disciplined.

(Isn't good (for once) to realize when you're wrong?!) :)

I used to think:

I would always keep the same group of friends
If I was nice to people they would be nice in return
My mom was hard on me and she preached too much
I wouldn't make a friend on the internet because that was for weirdo losers
I would never understand the lessons momma tried to teach me
Santa Claus was real
It was the toys and gifts that made Christmas special
Church was a place to dress up and be bored for a few hours while grown people hollered
The tooth fairy was cheap because I got a dime per tooth and my friends got quarters and sometimes dollars
Money grew on trees
If you didn't pay your bills it would go away
My parents knew everything
It's not who you know it's what you know
I could eat anything I wanted without working out
That I could overlook major flaws and continue to focus on what was the bomb in our relationship
That since I was catered to, the world would cater to me
Once I got a bachelors degree everything would be smooth sailing
That since I thought I was fine, everyone should feel that way lol :p
By age 27 I would be in a serious relationship leading to marriage or married to the man of my dreams
30 was old
That after our relationship was over I couldn't take seeing him again
My soulmate would come in a specified package set by me (college educated, 6'0" minimum, over 200 lbs, black, nice haircut, pretty teeth, career, family oriented etc.)...but wait, that's what I want though :confused: :p

Back in the day when I was young...
 

I thought. . . .
I'd be out of my parent's house when I graduated from college.
I'd be married before I had a child.
I'd still have the same friends from High School.
Life got easier as you got older.
If I told him how I felt, he'd confess his undying love for me too:rolleyes:
People would be happy for me when I *finally* became a Zeta. (naieve, I know, I know)
People on chat rooms/boards are all nice.
People on chat rooms/boards all have other motives.
I was the only Black girl who did NOT want a thug.
I'd develop some fashion sense when I turned 20. (Can some one help?)

What I've learned:
I'm smart enough, I'm good enough, and gosh darn it, people like me. :)

Re: I used to think...
 

THIS IS SOO TRUE!!!

-that when my mom said I couldn't wear colored lip gloss until I was 16, that that was SOOOO far away
-that I would have graduated from college by now with a degree in Psychology (now I am STILL in college, and just started nursing school last year!)
-that when you told someone you loved them, it was forever
-that my grandparents would be healthy forever
-that old people were boring and smelly...now I realize that they are the best educational resource that we young people have...

-that my great-grandmother's cat Mitzi would live forever...she was two years older than me and JUST died last year!

-that I would be at my ideal weight when I graduated from high school...no, when I went to college...no, when I turned 21...no, when sister graduated from high school...no, by Bike Week 2001...no, by Bike Week 2002....no, by Ochos Rios 2003!!!
:cool:

-that I could handle my problems, and I didn't need anyone in my life
-that I couldn't depend on anyone but myself
-young people didn't die
-beautiful people didn't die
-loved ones didn't lie
-I would be in a serious relationship right now...and I mean serious for BOTH PARTIES!!!
-I would never be able to afford living on my own

-women who had babies out of wedlock were "fast"...now I realize that most of us who don't have children, are doing the SAME things....we just don't have "PROOF"

-your mom was supposed to be on your side no matter what:(

-getting $10 dollars for a birthday meant I was RICH!!!!

-that the little brushes actually came out of the bottle to clean your tub when you sprayed "Scrub n Bubbles"

-that 'dirty rice' was actually dirty