What do you do when a girl snags the bill on the first meeting?
 

Hi I recently met up with a lady that I had been chatting with for quite sometime on Messenger, but when we had dinner she snatched the bill and paid for it, of course there was a small struggle but the waiter took her plastic instead of my cash,, man was that embarrassing,, I felt kinda weakened after that incident because I always get the bill,, anyone have any comments or suggestions?

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You shouldn't feel weakened. You can pick up the tab the next time. Rather than haggling over the bill, a gracious "thank you" is better!

Maybe you could have offered to leave the tip or bought her an ice cream cone later?

Marry her :D

Just goes to show that contrary to some guys opinion, we don't always expect guys to pay for us.

LOL @ AOX81
That's what I did!

Enjoy it. On the next date just go talk to the waiter before he gives you the bill and make sure he takes your card instead of hers.

DAMN YA DUMMY, kiss her on all four cheeks! DA!:D

Well, maybe you are a hunk and she wants to take advantage of you like an old shoe!:D You know a boy toy!:)

Thank her kindly and then invite her out again making sure you tell her it is your idea and your treat for a lovely young lady!

She is young isnt she!;) Well younger than you i mean!:)

I like this quote Tombstone, its one of your good ones.:cool:

Thanks ZEKE!!! Duly Noted!

I owe YA ONE!:D

Will try to Chat with EC and let Ya know!:cool:

I'd snach a bill to make it clear to a guy that this was NOT A DATE and that I DONT want to feel obligated in any way. In other words, "toodleoo".

I gotta argee with blueyes ... I always offer to pay, at least my half. And if he lets me pay my half, fine, if not, fine too. But I only INSIST on it if I am trying to get rid of any vestiges of the notion that he might be getting closer to me!

The exception would be if I had asked him out on the date. I always thought that he/she who asked, paid, at least in the very beginning.

next time order lobster.

K, if I invite him then I'll pay.

Otherwise it'd depend on my mood. If I've been aloof and snag the bill then I'm telling you BAH BYE!!!

If I've been really friendly, I'm showing that I don't have to depend on you to pay; but maybe I'd like too.

If I offer 50/50 then it's just a friend thing.

Course I have a friend that I had invited to a formal cause I thought it'd be fun. My formal, my invite, my bill. He then later took me out to dinner, and he treated. I thought cool, my buddy is paying me back. He then made a move and I had the hands down worst and most uncomfortable kiss of my life. :( Signals definetly crossed.

Woooaaahh! Thats way too complex SoCalGirl! I hope you and other girls like you come with an instruction manual . . . or at least some Quick Cue Cards! ;)

But seriously: If a girl was really insistant like that I would wonder if it was really a "date" in her mind. Some serious kissing (or more :D)at the end of the date would go a great distance to reasure me she wasn't trying to be just friends. Remember that ladies, if you pay on the first date or go dutch, and it is a date in your mind . . . kiss the boy a few times goodnight. OR don't expect another phone call! Because he will be posting his experience on some internet bulletin board and having other girls tell him its a blow off technique;).

Although, I went out a few times with a girl that insisted on paying for the whole night each time, once she even picked ME up. I couldn't figure out whether we were going out as friends or as a "Couple with Potential". It turns out she was a serious feminist and was indeed interested (the calling me should have been a clue). . . but I never made the next physical step . . .

Also, in my case I had a best girl-pal that I spent a lot of time with who was jealous of my attention and didn't like this girl . . . who told me that the other girl wasn't interested . . . She was the last girl-pal I bothered to make by the way.

I would like to point out that girls are cruel and relentless to each other, especially when they are competing wih each other or dislike is present. :rolleyes:

Well that post doesn't help you at all lol.

Did you at least hook-up with this paragon of the "modern woman"?

...hmmm that's a predicament...i think i can help you, but first i'll need to know her name, number and address.

Accept gracefully.

"Thank you very much, the next time, it's on me."

Delt alum, You are wise beyond your years! That was good advice:).

Actually, I used to have a tendency to check grab simply because I would feel uncomfortable letting somone I didn't know all that well buy me something (even food). I know i'm a bit different ( :) ) but with me people have to earn the right to spend money on me . . . when I let someone pay for my meal it shows that I'm finally comfortable with them and trust them. I've never given up a check on a first date if I could help it, at the least I'd insist on paying my own.

Emmi

You could say something like "Thanks, but next time it'll be my treat". Or you could take her for ice cream, dessert, coffee or something afterwards just so you feel like you have returned the favor somewhat.

My fiance always found a sneaky way to pay for me when I would try to pay. But even though he paid for me a lot (yes, PAID, since our finances are almost combined now this close to the wedding) I would do stuff like buy him lunch before he could get out of class to do it himself and stuff like that. So it works out well that way.

If it's a date, the man ALWAYS pays. I have never gone dutch unless it's with a friend.

Whoever asked that you two should go out, should pay, unless you are a great man and will pay regardless...or at least men should always try.

If she paid, that's OK, some women feel comfy doing that, again....did she ask you out?

I hate when peolpe pay anything for me, but guys seem to like feeling like they took us out and showed us a good time...why spoil their fun!