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YesNoMaybe 09-10-2015 01:51 PM

University of Iowa Alpha Phi Recorded Bashing Other Sororities
 
I know we're anti-TFM here but -

http://totalfratmove.com/this-iowa-a...ed-off-campus/

Haven't had the desire to watch much after hearing "Chi O can shove their flowery skirts up their -expletive-" but this is disappointing. These hyper sexual songs and anti-PHC stuff is horrible for the new girls. Iowa's Greek system is better than this.

jennyj87 09-10-2015 01:55 PM

I'll say the same thing when my friend posted the youtube video on her fb...

Woooowwwwwww

amIblue? 09-10-2015 01:59 PM

I tried to watch it and then quit. Beyond being unpanhellenic and gross, it's not even clever. I am all about the giggle over inappropriate humor, but it's just stupid.

tinydancer 09-10-2015 02:15 PM

Alpha f-ing Phi? Really? I'm no prude by any means, but I think that is disgraceful.

irishpipes 09-10-2015 02:18 PM

If my daughter had just pledged that chapter, I would be hesitant to help her pay dues for that.

AZTheta 09-10-2015 02:34 PM

Now this - THIS IS UNPANHELLENIC. And tasteless. For starters.

The risk management nightmare - "watch me shot/watch me blackout" - and drinking with babies, too. Great. Pretty much sophomore class idiots in that video; the fallout from this is going to be ugly.

Every time I think it can't get any worse, it gets worse.

My support to Alpha Phi as they deal with this lovely chapter.

Xidelt 09-10-2015 05:22 PM

Yeeaahhh....no. It's time to consider packing up the charter and try again in 4 years or so.

IndianaSigKap 09-10-2015 05:24 PM

Is it too soon to ask if they wear pink on Wednesdays? :D

jolene 09-10-2015 10:24 PM

I saw the vid on TFM, but couldn't really tell what they were chanting/singing. I caught the sexually suggestive part, but didn't hear the part where they're dogging other sororities. I'm shocked they'd be able to do this during recruitment.

KerriMarie 09-10-2015 10:34 PM

oh dear.

honeychile 09-10-2015 10:44 PM

Completely tasteless, at its very best.

APhiLife 09-10-2015 11:00 PM

Well, that's embarassing........... Hoping HQ will step in and give an appropriate punishment.

33girl 09-11-2015 01:20 AM

These girls aren't the first chapter to have raunchy songs and crack on other groups. That is probably as old as the Greek system - if it's more vulgar, it's because we live in more vulgar times.

However, being so egregiously clueless as to sing it IN PUBLIC on bid day while someone films it is another matter. If they do get their charter revoked, the official reason should be THE STUPID, IT BURNS.

33girl 09-11-2015 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by jolene (Post 2342186)
I saw the vid on TFM, but couldn't really tell what they were chanting/singing. I caught the sexually suggestive part, but didn't hear the part where they're dogging other sororities. I'm shocked they'd be able to do this during recruitment.

It was on bid day after rush was over.

DubaiSis 09-11-2015 06:14 AM

This is a strong very stable chapter that clearly went off the rails. Apparently they are visiting every sorority and fraternity with flowers to apologize. They will come through it and I highly doubt they will lose their charter. But punishment will be fierce.

And now might be the time to have a little discussion about if you feel uncomfortable with something in your chapter to speak up! This clearly was rehearsed. There has to be girls who were not happy with this song.

YesNoMaybe 09-11-2015 11:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DubaiSis (Post 2342265)
This is a strong very stable chapter that clearly went off the rails. Apparently they are visiting every sorority and fraternity with flowers to apologize. They will come through it and I highly doubt they will lose their charter. But punishment will be fierce.

And now might be the time to have a little discussion about if you feel uncomfortable with something in your chapter to speak up! This clearly was rehearsed. There has to be girls who were not happy with this song.

I feel like it's a nice gesture to go with flowers, like we admit we messed up, but I'm sure this is a "we got caught and have to take an action" type of thing.

A lot of chapters have the long-running chants/rhymes about other organizations that they say, but this one was very specific to this recruitment cycle. The Chi O comment was based on the outfits those women wore during one of their rounds.

I just feel bad for the new members. I think Iowa's Greek Life is really strong because it's not necessary to join a chapter to have a social life on campus and the sororities/fraternities are supportive, or were when I was there (although that has been quite a while). Also, apparently these are sophomores, but the junior/senior class either instilled that this was okay or needs to step up and make sure they realize it's not.

thetalady 09-11-2015 11:26 AM

Wonder if they will be sending flowers to other campuses?

APhi is about to colonize at Ole Miss in a few weeks. You think the girls at Ole Miss don't have a new opinion of APhi after seeing Hotty Toddy mocked like this? Yes, we take Hotty Toddy pretty seriously!

I really feel for the APhi women running the interviews.

jolene 09-11-2015 12:28 PM

What did the chant actually say (I guess the vid I saw had bad audio)? I can understand sororities having chants and proclaiming themselves wonderful/best, but that can be done without dogging other chapters or joking about taking it in the back door. O.o

AZTheta 09-11-2015 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by jolene (Post 2342517)
What did the chant actually say (I guess the vid I saw had bad audio)? I can understand sororities having chants and proclaiming themselves wonderful/best, but that can be done without dogging other chapters or joking about taking it in the back door. O.o

You don't really need to hear it - do you? Really? From the remarks here, it's apparent that it was insulting, crude, crass, and in no way reflected the values of Alpha Phi, an organization I respect and admire.

As for why no one spoke up - anyone else here know about "bystander behavior"? Search for Mike Dilbeck and see what work he and others are doing on this subject.

Benzgirl 09-11-2015 04:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by thetalady (Post 2342510)
APhi is about to colonize at Ole Miss in a few weeks. You think the girls at Ole Miss don't have a new opinion of APhi after seeing Hotty Toddy mocked like this? Yes, we take Hotty Toddy pretty seriously!

I really don't think PNMs at Ole Miss will care about this.

DeltaBetaBaby 09-11-2015 04:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AZTheta (Post 2342520)
You don't really need to hear it - do you? Really? From the remarks here, it's apparent that it was insulting, crude, crass, and in no way reflected the values of Alpha Phi, an organization I respect and admire.

As for why no one spoke up - anyone else here know about "bystander behavior"? Search for Mike Dilbeck and see what work he and others are doing on this subject.

I'm not particularly curious about the specific lyrics, but they were bashing other schools as well? I just don't know how Hotty Toddy got dragged into it.

Griffins&Quills 09-11-2015 04:59 PM

Well, I've heard different versions of the Hotty Toddy "Ole Miss" cheer for sororities from all over. It most likely has nothing to do with Ole Miss.

AZTheta 09-11-2015 05:59 PM

Ole Miss is NOT the naval of the universe. As HOS will attest, it's Bama.

*ducks and runs* :D :D :D :p ;) (been slacking on obligatory use of smilies)

FWIW I didn't hear Hotty Toddy, I stopped listening after the parts about the flowery skirts and the money. Guess these lovelies were off the radar when SAE's chant went viral, eh?

For the last time, there but for the Grace of God go any of our chapters. Oh yeah, I mean it. And when will these kids stop photographing and videoing every.single.last.thing and posting it on the Internet?

KillarneyRose 09-11-2015 07:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 2342202)
These girls aren't the first chapter to have raunchy songs and crack on other groups. That is probably as old as the Greek system - if it's more vulgar, it's because we live in more vulgar times.

All I have to say is thank goodness there was no YouTube (or even Internet for that matter) in the late eighties!

ladybug12 09-11-2015 07:41 PM

This just makes me so sad...young women degrading themselves and other women.

And I agree with AZTheta, there but for the Grace of God go any of our chapters.

ggforever 09-11-2015 07:55 PM

I agree with ladybug12. This is a very sad situation. Let the member who has never done negative chant or song against another group throw the first stone. The language is vile, but if you are around that age group, they are not offended by the same words I find repugnant.

I truly hope that cooler heads prevail and that the school and Alpha Phi national use this as a valuable learning moment rather than sanctioning the chapter or expelling the women. They said they were sophomore, so we are talking 19 year olds. The possibility for positive programming within the chapter AND the Panhellenic community is almost limitless.

DubaiSis 09-11-2015 10:54 PM

My chapter house sat squarely between a baptist church and an elderly alumna of my chapter, with the University president only 1 block away. Anything untoward we would have been doing (and I won't pretend we didn't) would have been done behind closed doors. Still not right, but at least we wouldn't have been flaunting our jabs at the other sororities on campus for the world to see.

NinjaPoodle 09-11-2015 11:46 PM

According to one source, the chapter has been suspended.
http://www.press-citizen.com/story/n...ideo/72081370/

DubaiSis 09-11-2015 11:52 PM

It is interesting that what the University latched onto was the drinking part. They have continually over the last, oh, I don't know, 3 decades, tried to curb binge drinking and drugs in the fraternity houses and the fraternities at Iowa are constantly being shut down. It's a revolving door of charters granted and lost for the fraternities. The sororities at Iowa have been quite stable except for some ill-advised expansion in the 80's. But because of their low tolerance for this kind of crap, it doesn't surprise me that the U went over the heads of Panhel or A Phi. But it doesn't sound like they're going away. They just can't do anything without headquarters being present. That seems like a gift to me. It could have been much worse.

Pinecone 09-12-2015 12:04 AM

Embarrassing
 
I am embarrassed to say in my day we would have thought that whole thing was really cool and funny (if you adjust the expectations of raunchiness to match the music now- which is way worse then back then). We made up all sorts of inappropriate songs to match the sweet sorority songs and thought we were pretty hilarious. We were a party group, which I think this group is too.

I am not making excuses because if nothing else their song was stupid and degrading to women when there are enough men around to degrade us- we shouldn't do it to ourselves. But I see that they were trying to be hip hop and act like Nicki Manaj or whatever and it really was more stupid than anything else. I hope they don't close the chapter over it- maybe just make them not socialize for a semester, study a bit more and get better taste in music. Maybe a sensitivity course about sexual assault and how it isn't funny.

But I am a very upstanding citizen now and I have to admit that I could have been right there with them, being stupid at the age of 19.

thetalady 09-12-2015 12:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Benzgirl (Post 2342588)
I really don't think PNMs at Ole Miss will care about this.

Yes, actually, they do seem to be aware of this and care...

AOII Angel 09-12-2015 11:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AZTheta (Post 2342634)
Ole Miss is NOT the naval of the universe. As HOS will attest, it's Bama.

*ducks and runs* :D :D :D :p ;) (been slacking on obligatory use of smilies)

FWIW I didn't hear Hotty Toddy, I stopped listening after the parts about the flowery skirts and the money. Guess these lovelies were off the radar when SAE's chant went viral, eh?

For the last time, there but for the Grace of God go any of our chapters. Oh yeah, I mean it. And when will these kids stop photographing and videoing every.single.last.thing and posting it on the Internet?

OMG...I almost spit my sandwich on my phone!


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