Guys and Girls
 

What do you think about guys and girls being friends? Do you think it's perfectly possible and feasable or do you think a 'When Harry met Sally' scenario is inevitable?

Ok, until you brought up Harry and Sally, I thought that I might actually be able to say yes. But I think that it is possible in some cases, but there has to be no sexual/physical attraction from the get-go. Otherwise, later, it will get in the way then then you are starting to become a movie.
I have a guy friend that I could never see as anything but a friend. Ever. Which is nice, because that means I get to ask advice and get a guys point of view all the time.

I think theres nothing wrong wth guys and gals being friends , as long as there is no physical relationship, as long as the friendship is exactly what it is, JUST FRIENDS . Then I think it can work, I have a ton of guy friends , where all we are is friends, a pal , a buddy, just like if I am friends with a girl.
I mean the Harry met sally scenario is possibly, but thats when things get physical and then that has a chance of messing up the friendship, sometimes, it really does work out, but how often does that happen, where both are happy in the current situation
DGP~Honey~

It's possible, but as a friend once suggested to me, most male female friendships begin as some sort of unreciprocated attraction. Who knows? It can't hurt to have a new friend. Good luck! :)

It's possible.

Ladies you might find the males response to be a tad bit different..all though some may say its possible. Making a scientific guess I would say that just about every man has had some kind of sexual thoughts about every women he has met and/or has thought of as attractive. I think its possible....

My best friend is a guy and I have felt nothing for him but friendship love! Unfortunately once I did kiss him (VERY drunk...didn't even remember the night or anything) and the next day I get a call from him saying "What if?"
I told him I would never do anything to hurt our friendship and that I love him dearly but I wanted to keep our relationship the way it was. He accepted it....that was 4 years ago and we're still the bestest of friends!
So I say yes, guys and girls can be JUST friends! Feelings may arise between one of the people, but if you are both mature and deal with it, then it's all good!!!!

I'm just friends with some girls.

One of my best friends in HS was a girl so I would say yes it is possible.

It is definitly possible..most of my closest friends are guys...my best friend of like 10 yrs is a guy and I love him more than anything...In fact for years I used to despise girls just b/c of the way they were competitive over other girls and talked WAY too much but guys are always there..and they make the best listeners in the world. :)


Nichole

Wait a minute. I'm friends with some of the ladies on Greek Chat. :D

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I think it depends on the two people. All of my girlfriends have been my best friends. It always ended up in us realizing that we could find what we were looking for in each other rather than looking for it elsewhere. Of course, I am now a testimony that even relationships with good friends don't end up working out. However, I am still good friends with all of them.

And I think if the opportunity presented itself where I could just have casual sex and still be friends with the girl, I would say my life is perfect at this point.

However, there are also girls i'm friends with...some even close friends...that i wouldn't touch for all the money in the world because I know certain things about them that make me not want to proceed or I just have no attraction to them.

-Rudey
--I'm the third eye vision

Like Rudy, I think it depends on the people. In my life, I've had four best friends that were guys...I ended up dating two of them and had crushes on the other two. However, I have a lot of other guy friends that I've never thought of in that way. I think the closer the friendship, the more the likelyhood there is for a "Harry Met Sally" issue.

My best friend is a guy. At home, we live five minutes away from each other. In high school, we went on spring break together. Then we both ended up coming to Maryland. I don't know what I'd do without him. We've never hooked up, or even kissed, and we both laugh when people ask us if we have. Pat is like my brother, and I know he'll always be there for me. To him, I'm another one of the guys. It works out well, I can hook him up with my sisters, and I love all of his brothers. I think a lot of situations can end up like When Harry Met Sally, and there's nothing wrong with that. But it's really awesome to have a guy friend without any other feelings or motives.

With the exception of three women, my best friends have always been males. ALL my interactions placed men in the majority. The key (I THINK) was NEVER crossing any lines real or imagined, be it a conversation or something as simple as a touch. However, right before I got married, my father took me aside and said it was time to regard my husband as my best friend and let the other relationships go. It was very hard but sound advice, even though it seemed "old fashioned" at the time.

I still enjoy the company of men compared to women, but that's probably due to the fact I've never found any female friends like I had in college. Plus-this "southern belle" attitude is very hard to relate to-unless you were raised here.

I have to agree with this. All my best friends have been guys until I joined AGD as a sophmore. I love my sisters, but there is only a handful that I can trust with anything and that I know I will actively keep in touch with when I graduate. Sometimes I find girls to be too judgemental and catty...but that's a whole 'nother thread in itself!

After reading some of the stories, I'm a little (but not much) swayed, so I'll say that it is possible. However, I really do think that 99% of the time, there is an attraction. For all of you who had friends of the opposite sex that you weren't attracted to, I can almost gaurantee that they were attracted to you and simply never said anything out of love for the friendship. It may not be the type of attraction where you're in love with the other person, it's probably a strong attraction to their personality (which I think is what creates strong friendships)
At least in my life, I've had and still have best friends who are guys, and usually I've got a crush on them and they don't know, or I find out they have a crush on me. Just because there's an attraction doesn't mean there can't be a great friendship.
Just my 2 cents:)

I think it is completely feasible for men and women to be just friends and nothing more. I am not going to lie and say that I don't think a certain amount of sexual tension is sometimes unavoidable....if one or both of the pair is attractive it would be impossible for the other not to notice. Plus, you tend to be more attracted to people who you genuinely like and care for, so that ups the anty even more. BUT.....that being said, I don't think that necessarily has to ruin things. If both of the friends are involved elsewhere, it is especially easy.

I've gotta say, my husband in particular has a really hard time with this. He doesn't have a problem with the concept of he himself having strictly platonic female friends, but when it comes to me I think he would like to put me in a box and hide me from all but his little approved list of men. He is pretty liberal when it comes to his buddies, maybe because he thinks they are too scared of him or too respectful of him to mess with me....but if I talk to guys in a general, social manner it sometimes bothers him. He hates me being on GC. I don't know what he thinks I am going to do but I know it is because he knows there are guys on here. But whatever, I am a guy's girl and I get along with guys generally, and I am always going to have guy friends.

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Not possible unless the other person is totally unattractive. There are times when we pretend to be friends with girls but that is just becaue we want to sleep with them. I dont think I have ever met a good looking woman that I didnt think about sleeping with.

About 95% of my friends are guys. I can trust female "friends" as far as I can throw a stick, and I can't throw a stick that far.

It's completely feasible for guys and girls to be friends...now, how that comes about can be varied.

When you think about it, there's a certain amount of attraction you have to someone of the opposite sex when you're friends with them - there's a part of them that you're attracted to, and that's what makes you want to have some sort of relationship with them. Now, the people that you actually date, you're attracted to more parts of them - more parts of their personality, appearance, whatever.

I'm friends with a bunch of girls that I don't see myself going out with - I just see us as good friends.

I'm not saying that it can't go the other way too though. My current girlfriend used to be one of my best friends at school, so it definitely could move onto something else...

Collin

My best non-fraternity friend at school is a girl - and we definitely started talking to each other b/c of an attraction, but we ended up friends and now she's like my sister. People can;t believe we've never hooked up, it's hysterical

Most of my good friends are guys.

And so what if one person finds the other attractive? I mean, there's a difference between thinking, "Well, he/she is good looking and so I MIGHT do something if the opportunity ever came up," and having a hard-core lustfest for them. Face it, guys find most women attractive - but that doesn't mean they cry if they don't get to sleep with all of them!