At what age should your kids
 

At what age do you think your kids should stop seeing their parents naked?

Girls never need to see their fathers naked and boys don't need to see their mothers after about 5 or 6. Of course it depends on each individuals comfort level and family situation.

One of my co-worker's (who you think was an aspiring psychologist) sets the age limit both sexes at age 3-4. She explains that it doesn't harm them to see what makes boys and girls different. It also can help deter molestation. If a girl never sees a penis, how is she to know it's not supposed to be exposed to her. A molester can tell her it's anything, but if she shown, she may know that it's "bad".

But I agree with DS82, it depends on the individuals.

Your co-worker needs her head checked - I agree with the post that girls never need to see their fathers naked and women should avoid it with young boys as much as possible - I hate when folks brag about bathing with their young children - nothing that comes off of an adult's filthy body needs to float in a tub with a child. Not to mention that there is far more to molestation than sexual penetration and whether a young girl has seen a penis before or not isn't how the perpetrator gets their mental submission - and a penis may not be the "molestation tool" for lack of a better term.

NEVER!
 

and that is my personal opinion... now if they accidentally walk in on you while you doing your thing... that is okay but don't make it a habit. Otherwise, uh... hell no.

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Re: NEVER!
 

UH....HELL NO
 

My future children don't need to see me or my future husband naked ever!

It's different when they are a baby and they don't understand, but when they start to talk....uhm, hell no.

To address the earlier poster's comments about the potential child molester...I can show my daughter a picture of a penis...she doesn't need to see her own father's! :rolleyes: Same with my son and a vagina/breasts...he doesn't need to see mine!

Soror CrucialCrimson...I'm with YOU!

Peace

I do think there should be an age when kids stop seeing their parents naked. But to think that they will never see their parents naked is unrealistic. I have a sont hat just turned 5 and now I'm starting to be conscious of him seeing me naked. He was very aware early of the differences between mommy and daddy and himself. Which helped him identify with daddy. I also thinkif you make it a big deal of your child seeing you naked, then it will be a big deal.
As far as child molesters go you should tell your child in general, nobody should touch you in your private areas. Kids need to be aware of their bodies.

Can somebody say "as close to NEVER as possible!!!" I don't see how allowing my kids to observe me in my naked glory if i can help it is good for them. I think I'd shed painful tears. I don't think I should scare my future daughter by allowing her see me naked. I think that borders on the perverted.
Like somebody duly noted, most of us are going to undergo the consternation of having our kids walk in on us at some point. Barring the one time it should happen, my bare butt shall be the sole visual property of myself and my spouse.
On a more serious note, what Red6 said is as close to honest realism that I can think of.
Lord! The though of seeing my parents naked makes me sick. Ewwwwww! Excuse me... I think I'm gonna puke..... :(

If you have kids you know that your kids will see you naked. I don't think its scaring your child by seeing you naked. Kids can't be to sheltered. Kids need to feel good about their bodies. My son knew early on, what the parts of his body were called. He knew that him and daddy had penis's and mommied did not. CHildren walk in on there parents while dressing, etc, and if you jump and scream to hide your body, they can think that their body is something to be ashamed of.

I'll say between 5 and 7. Before then, I don't really think it matters. I used to take showers with my father when I was in preschool. And, if my mother didn't have a picture of him holding my little naked self with a shower cap on, I probably would have never known because I dayum sure don't remember it.

Never! I would NEVER want my child to see me or their father in the nude.

I'm feeling what OneOneTwo said, if it was an accident, then fine, but otherwise, uh-uh.

No man, father or relative, should be bathing, with a child, especially female. An infant, maybe, but never a toddler or a child.

Serving as a youth athletic coach, I have to say that age 5 is way too old for that. Then again, some might see that as overly conservative. Majority of the ones I have had to work with I see as being too mature for such exposure. I believe lines need to be drawn, and boundaries set.
Then again, this comes from a man with no kids yet.

Never...
 

should a female see her father naked! I accidentally saw my father once going to the bathroom naked when I was five and I STILL have nightmares about it!:eek: :o I agree with most people that it is different with mothers. The cut off age of little boys seeing there mothers naked should be 3-4. After that, it's weird.

I have found many of these answers super conservative and a tad unrealistic. So I'm asking this... How many that answered actually have children?

Soror Reds6, I agree. I have children (daughter 11, and son 6). In a household, folks get walked in on...especially during the morning rush. Not that I was all-out parading, but my son saw me naked up until he was about 4 1/2-5. Now the least he can catch me in is bra and panties. I have no problem with my daughter seeing me naked, but then again, it's not like I'm parading through the house in my birthday suit. My husband doesn't let our daughter see him completely naked, but she does see him in his underwear if she passes by the bedroom and the door is open. We just don't make a big deal out of it.

Thanks Soror, My son saw mw naked up until 41/2 -5 also. He wasn't shocked, afraid, scared, etc. It was quite natural because it was never hidden. I do now make more of an effort for him not to see me naked, but kids will walk in on you. Or if they scream, you run with being concered about what you have on.
I work for a social service agency, we have to make sure we are not giving our kids a complex. if we can't be secure about ourselves how will they become secure, kids, teens, etc.

I know this is off track but some of you guys own experience of seeing your own parents naked are cracking me up! :D OMGoodness, I still to this day remember seeing my mom in her bra and panties. Shoot, when I go home to visit, she still does it sometimes !!:eek: :D I'm like, "Ma put some clothes on!"

But seriously, I agree with Reds6. Children do model their reaction after yours, so if my future child did happen to see me naked, I would try to remain calm and act appropriately. I again agree with Reds6 that children should be comfortable with their bodies (and know the difference between boys and girls) because I think that would help them to distinguish between and appropriate touch (ie hug) and an inappropriate touch (ie being fondled).

Of course there will be times when children will catch accidental glances of a naked parent. The point is whether it is a common practice. A man should not be showering with any child, period. Yes, there is no harm in children of 4 or 5 catching a glimpse. It will happen and is relatively harmless. But prolonged or continued exposure to a nude parent or sibling can prove to be unhealthy.

If my two sisters had seen what our father was packing, they would be virgins to this day :D .

I agree. But my comment was really to those that said they would never allow their child to see them naked. that just doesn't happen.
As far as your father... Is he single? (kidding):D

I don't have children of my own...
 

...but I still think that children should never intentionally see their parents naked. That is my personal opinion. I hope I didn't make anyone feel uncomfortable... I understand accidents and stuff.

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To think that your children will never see you naked, accidentally or otherwise, is highly unrealistic. The problem is societal norms and in this socisety, we oversexualize the human bocy, period.

I do agree that (being a part of this society, how can I not) a man should not be bathing his female children beyond a certain age. However, what about cases where he is a single father. It is not always feasible to have auntie come over and show her how to wash, etc., etc.

I think it's easier to say what you will and will not do when you don';t hace kids.

Also, someone said "if they walk in on us then that's one thing." That's what I mean. No one said "At what age do you not allow your kids to watch you and your man/woman have sex." Seeing the body and having sex are two entirely different things.

I think the age is generally school age. I also think the kids, if they are developing properly, will begin to exhibit signs of uncomfortabiltiy at an age. I know my son is very private about his body and this happened around the age of 5 or 6, when he started school and it wasn't "okay" to let the other kids see his parts. Now, I can't see his parts either, nor does he care to see mine.

I think that in most families, it is abnormal to see daddy's penis swinging around the house, but most kids see mommy's breasts for the most part. I didn't say it was okay to get a full on crotch shot, but c'mon. Again, the breasts are for nursing your children, but in this society, tell that to the man with his mouth hanging open when a woman is trying to nurse her infant in public.

Sorry if this is too graphic but this is part of the reason we have people engaging in irresponsible sexual behavior in this country.

Exactly!

I posted earlier that my father used to put me in the shower with him when I was about 2 or 3 years old. I believe that is form where the issue of opposite sex parents and children bathing together arose. Although, the posts were not directed towards me, I would be lying if I said that I wasn't the least bit offended by them. For someone to criticize, at least in part, the way I was raised offends me.

A man should not be bathing with his 8 year old daughter. That's too old and can cause some psychological damage. I stated that past the ages of 4 or 5, this type of activity should not be taking place. But, to say not even with a toddler seems a little bit extreme to me. Most toddlers don't know what the difference between boys and girls is at this age.

I wonder what the responses would be if the table were turned. Should a woman not ever bathe with her son?