would you date someone with a kid?
 

anyone out there ever date anyone with kids?

would you ever consider staying with them long term?

been there, done that, won't do it again..and while i never actually met the kid..shrug..too much baggage for me..new requirements = never been married, no kids

hmmmm.

I think if I did, I would prefer someone with older kids (10-12 or up) that I could be friends with, rather than a small child I would end up helping to raise. (Yes I know 10-12 year olds aren't completely raised yet, but they are out of diapers.)

Uh, no! They get in the way. It also indicates looseness, which is a trait I'm not looking for.

Not looseness necessarily--depends on the age of the person. I'm in my 30's, so its not unusual for the older men I date to have kids-- personally I'd prefer no kids, but I wouldn't let it stop me from dating someone I was crazy about.

But when I was younger, I absolutely wouldn't have dated someone with kids.

I have. If you get involved with someone with children, know that they will and should be a priority. As for looseness maybe that is the case in high school or college, but it's not that unusual in your late twenties and beyond.

I always said I never would, but then just recently I went on a first date with a guy with a 12-yr-old daughter. But I have to admit it gave me a lot of pause - it isn't just the two of you in the relationship. I don't know if I could get serious about someone with a child.

It would depend on what mind set I was in. At the moment I cannot even handle my dog and me, so no not now but maye later.

I think that if I was a little bit older I'd say yes. If I were in my 30's, it would be understandable. Sometimes, marriages don't work but kids were produced during it. So, if I were in my 30's I wouldn't mind at all. Plus, I'd be a little more mature as well. But, as for right now, I wouldn't just because I don't think I could handle some of the issues that would go along with it.

NO way-I myself really don't want children let alone someone elses.

I really do not think so. I am only 20, a full-time college student and very active sorority member. Getting involved with someone who has a child(ren) would just not fit into my picture right now. However, if I were to really, really like a guy prior to knowing that he has a child, I may have to think about it. Of course, that would be a case by case situation. And of course, if he neglected to tell me he had a child, then I'd have to kick him to the curb. ;)

OMG, we ARE twins...I feel exactly the same way!

I don't know that the child would be my biggest problem. I'd be more concerned about the crazy ex that always seems to go along with people eith kids.

I myself would actaully date someone with a kid but it would depend i mean I would need to know that I really wana be with this person b/c having people come in and out of akids life can be very damaging..LOL this is what I get for studying Child Psychology :) but yeah I think that if I felt right about it I would definitly date someone with a kid.


Nichole

I dated someone with a kid once. Since I love kids we got along great! It was pretty interesting I must admit it was my first time dating someone with a child. But overall we got along great etc, but in the end, not me and his dad lol. Honestly I wouldn't mind dating someone with a child again.

I've dated someone with a child before. He was divorced, and his daughter was 4. We got along famously, and it certainly didn't bother me. In fact, she was the only one in the family that I missed after I dumped him. ;)

No, I wouldn't date someone with a kid. I'm in my early 20's and would probably date someone around my age. It's too early for me to deal with kids.

I'm currently seeing a man who has not one, but two children. His daughter's 4 and his son just turned 2 last month.

Today he boarded a plane for LA to go and get his kids. It's a long story, but the poor kids can't live with their mom anymore, so he's bringing them here.

I don't know how it's going to be once the children get here... but I'll be sure to keep y'all posted.

I've never dated anyone with kids before, so this is a whole new experience for me...

I dated a woman that was 7 years older than me with 2 kids. Biggest mistake of my life. No more older women or women with kids for me! Beside I have dated my current gf for 2 years and I am happy as can be. Thank god for the younger women with no kids!

KIDS!!
 

i am not sure, I guess this is one of those case by case situations that you wouldn't know how to deal with unless you where actually in it...

In general, no way. I feel that emotionally, the worst case scenario is too difficult on me and the child. The child becomes attached, and then you might feel obliged to stay in a relationship just because you care for the child. I know this is happening to a very good friend of mine, and it just kills me to watch it happen.

I agree with Amycat though - sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with. If this guy was Mr. Wonderful and was a good father and didn't have a creepy ex that stalked him and played mind games, then yes, I would *consider* it. But maybe that's because I'm getting older. When I was in my late teens and early twenties, it would have NEVER occurred to me.

Still, I'll be honest and say that I'd rather embark on creating a family with someone who doesn't already have kids. Just seems a lot easier to me!