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PNM Interviews
So I've been thinking sporadically (I do that a lot particularly with this topic...sorry force of habit), and I feel like last time the reason I got cut was because of the fact that I kind of messed up the interview portion. If someone asks me why I want to join the sorority, do you think this response will suffice?
Well, I know you guys are really focused on women and children with your philanthropy, which is one of the reasons I decided to rush, and I feel like I can be a good example of a balanced woman (their motto). I have experienced firsthand a form of dating violence, which was emotional abuse, and I know you guys work a lot with the RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network) center, which I think is really great. I feel like the experience that I have had with emotional abuse can contribute in a way toward the New Member Education in the long run if I were to receive a bid. If you think I should add anything or take anything out, let me know |
It's hard for a sorority to see someone as a member when they rattle off super canned "beauty pageant" answers that you have been rehearsing all summer.
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Not in a sorority so I can't say what sororities want to hear or not...but using logic I can give advice.
Just saying from my perspective your answer sounds robotic and TMI. I know I'm a PNM but since no one has given feedback I'll give you feedback. Quote:
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I'd say this is what to keep: "I'm really interested in women's and children's issues and I know you guys are really focused on women and children with your philanthropies. For example the work you do with the RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network) center, I think is really great and was one of the reasons that attracted me to your sorority." Do you want sisterhood? Do you want friends? Girls join join sororities to find friends/sisters first and foremost. That's what my IRL sister who is a sorority "sister" said and why I wanna join. You need to bring out a more natural YOU and not sound so robotic. Without wanting the social aspects of the org...anything you want can be filled by the women's center on campus or volunteering for orgs like RAINN yourself. Sisterhood and friendship is sets sororities apart from other orgs. Since that wasn't part of your answer maybe you don't want it? If you don't want sisterhood and friendship...do other things! If you want it then focus your answer on it because that's really the only legit reason I see to join. And if you don't seem like a girl they wanna be friends with...you won't get a bid. I say be more natural. It'll be way less awk than what you wrote there. |
^^^^^^You seem to know a lot for someone who hasn't gotten a bid yet. It's best to observe more as opposed to handing out advice, especially since you have yet to actually join!
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The other stuff about sisterhood? That's just logical to me. Sorry I guess it come across knowitallish but I didn't mean it that way. Anyway it's the internet and anyone can take or leave any advice but I wanted to leave specific feedback because there was none and elizey7 might not have gotten what you were hinting at. ;) |
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The OP is rushing a local sorority at CSU-Channel Islands. She did not receive a bid when she rushed previously. She has requested (and received) help on converational skills several times in multiple threads but remains challenged.
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Honestly, elizey7- you need to just take a step back and relax. I can completely empathise with you; this is incredibly important to you, and you want to do your best. Rehearsing every single thing you will do and say is only going to come off as awkward and stilted to the sisters; it is NOT what you want to present. You have identified what some of your troubles were last time in recruitment, and you do know what you need to do (I've read it in your responses in all of your threads). Unfortunately, you can't be in control of everything in this- it's only partially in your hands. Take this time to think about and focus on other things. Once recruitment hits, you are going to be busy with that, so take advantage of it now!
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Cold in Canada is spot-on. Please bear in mind that CSU-CI students --- including women in the sorority -- may be reading GC and your posts.
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Saying "I have a cousin with special needs so I went to Special Olympics a few times, it's a great organization" - yes.
Relating EVERY SINGLE CONVERSATION to the group's national philanthropy - no. As hopingtobe said, if it comes across that all you care about is philanthropy and sisterhood is a poor second, they're going to wonder why you don't just cut to the chase and volunteer directly for the organization instead of wasting a bunch of $$ on sorority dues. Think about how it would sound if you were dating someone and all that person could or would talk about with you was your volunteer involvement with Meals On Wheels. |
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/hijack Again, OP, the women in the sororities are looking to make friends. If you have general social anxiety, the way to overcome that is not to prepare canned answers, it's to practice being social. Perhaps you can practice making small talk with people at work or school or something so you get the hang of it and get less nervous doing it. |
Be yourself. Nobody else wants the job.
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Also, I'm confused. If I understand correctly, this sorority holds recruitment in the spring, right? Do they hold fall recruitment? If not, you may be getting too far ahead of yourself by trying to practice answers for a recruitment that won't be held for another year. What if they decide to switch up the interview questions next year? Then you will have practiced for questions they didn't ask and you might become super stuck and flustered. Now what?
You seem overly concerned with giving all the right answers and telling the sorority what you think they want to hear. Look, here's the thing - did you ever consider that the problem is not with your answers? Maybe the issue is just *you*. You could give a textbook perfect answer during the interview and the sorority may *still* not select you. Why? Because maybe you're giving wooden, rehearsed answers and they're not seeing you for who you are - your personality, your talents, your spirit. As several people have tried to explain, people are looking to make friends, not select the next philanthropy chairwoman. Show them your warm smile, your engaging personality, your fun side, your heart. Take the rest of this year to get involved in other activities on campus. Have fun, learn how to relax, and learn how to be a friend to others. Once you work out how to engage others socially in a friendly and positive way, you will have more to bring to the table for your next recruitment. |
Excellent advice.
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