Have You? Would You?
 

Date someone of a different ethnicity/race? Does it matter?

I'm not even going to say that I would try. I wouldn't and couldn't.

Where I live, and where I went to school racism is/was so crazy that I have seen many things, and had many things that have happened to me. I know you may say that skin color doesn't matter or shouldn't matter if you are happy and in love with that person, and he or she treats you well. But for me personally, I just can't do it. I need to be able to have a relationship with a person that can relate to the things that I feel and maybe going through. Also relationships are hard enough as it is when you are dealing with someone from your own race, when you are a relationship with someone outside your race, that's just more hardship that you have to overcome.

Most definitely. Because of my mixed heritage, it would be wrong of me to deny a person based on the color of their skin.

depends on how fyne he is........*lol*
 

I don't think that I could, unless he was Hispanic. I was raised in Mississippi and I too am also of mixed heritage (Creole) but I would still probably say no because I would want someone that I would be able to relate to on all levels...and that would included living the "black experience" (for lack of a better term). For example, my current boyfriend (who is AA) knows that when I say things like "they are always are trying to keep us in poverty" he automatically knows which "they" I am talking about. There is no explanation needed. It's just little things like this that I believe would make it hard for me to date outside of my race, with the exception of Hispanic males.

Re: depends on how fyne he is........*lol*
 

I'm from Mississippi too!!! Hey girl!!!!!http://www.plauder-smilies.de/happy/xyxwave.gif

I was taught never to say never, but at this point I can't see myself dating someone from another ethnicity. I love everybody, but there's something about seeing an African American brotha! I love 'em!!!

I did.. and I married him. :D

i tend to date outside my race and have had my most fulfilling relationships w/white men. w/the exception of my grandmother, outwardly, all of my family and friends are cool w/it. the story was a little different in grad school (alabama), where i found myself in a verbal altercation w/black men on an almost daily basis, for supposedly being a "sell-out".

I have not. I can't write the future but I do not plan on doing so. I believe strongly in the Black Family Unit.

You know what, this is an interesting topic. I was actually discussing this with some of my friends. Well, they told me that I was making racist remarks, but I don't see how if I decide to keep it within my race. They were saying that I might miss my blessings if that's who God sent for me to be with. I would never disrespect my strong black brothers and my heritage and date outside my race. I associate with all nationalities, but my preference is to keep it within my race. And for those who don't that's on you. But I want to say that I am not racist because I treat everyone like I want to be treated and I love everybody. Cause I have a family member who dates outside of our race, but if she like it, I love it. I tell her if he treats you good and respects you, hey more power to you.

Absolutely.
 

And I married him, too.

:D
TRSimon

I have not and I won't...I respect everyones preference of whom they chose to date however. I still can't understand why women well lower themselves to mug a black man when he's out with a woman of a different race. Personally, that just makes you look bad. Even more difficult to comprehend is when my white friends will question my preference to only date brothers...some have even went so far to say that my behavior is racist or discriminatory. I always respond:" If I'm racist because I won't date outside of a racial group, am I also sexist because I won't date people outside of the male gender?"
The only problem I have with interracial dating on a whole is how hurt I become when a brother tells me that he ONLY dates white/asian/hispanic women because black women are too needy, greedy, lazy, whatever, or when women of other backgrounds buy into that sorry excuse.

Why, yes I did. I enjoyed it. It did not work out. And like all other relationships, I MOVED ON!!!

I've dated others of other races... it's not a big deal to me... personally I like learning about other people. I would never tell someone that even though I was feeling them I couldn't date them cause of their race.

I've been in this situation....
 

I have dated outside of my race. In fact, my very first "real" boyfriend was white. He presented me with a dozen roses in the 11th grade...how cute was that? :D After inital resistance, I gave in. My family knew he was totally into me, and welcomed him. MOST of his family totally welcomed me; his dad was lukewarm, but never disrespectful to me.

I last dated outside of my ethnicity in college (moons ago), but I certainly don't knock anyone who does do it--even though it DOES seem harder to deal with the smug brothers who date outside of their race because of some deep-seated hostility toward black women (but anyway...). There can be some differences to be sure, but it's all about trade-offs. I would rather have a secure white guy who loves and respects me and my ethnicity (because I don't believe in the concept of "color-blindness") than a black man who is self-loathing and doesn't respect me nor "our" progress as a people anyday of the week! I have met too many black folks who "can't relate" to what I'm going through to have the illusion that all black folks will be able to "relate" simply because the color of their skin is brown.

Re: I've been in this situation....
 

FYI: There are more people of African descent in Latin America than in the North America....

I have dated Dominican, Italian and Puerto Rican men. I did it and at the time, I enjoyed the experience ;).

My boyfriend now is African-American and I love him to death. So, I don't want to date anybody else, regardless of color. But, if things with him did not work out, I would continue to date quality men, regardless of race. But, I do not think that I could see myself married to or having children with someone who wasn't black. The black family isn't as strong as it used to be and I want to help contribute to making it as strong as it once was. I also want to be able to say that I raised intelligent, cultured, and conscious black children.

Re: Absolutely.
 

It must be a Vancouver thing, TR! ;)

i never have, and i can't say that i will in the near future though i live in the LAND of interracial relationships...

there is SOMETHING about a black man that makes me weak in the knee's, i have an eternal weakness for black men, and as another soror said, the black family...

i don't knock others for their preference...just a matter of preference!

I had a so-called white boyfriend for about two weeks when I was in the ninth grade. I think it was mostly experimental, because we would make a conscious effort to watch people's reactions to seeing us together. I "kicked it" a few times with a guy who was part Philipino in college. He was a Sigma, and we had the same set of friends, so it didn't seem out of the ordinary by any means.

Other than that, I have dated African-American men, and they are the only men I have had serious relationships with. There is just something about a black man!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyway though, I think that if someone (outside of your race)makes you happy, then go for it!!!