Is this happening to anyone else?
 

So I get to be a bridesmaid AGAIN in June for my best friend's wedding. I am picking up the dress Friday. Its not that I don't enjoy being in people's weddings, but when do I get to ask them to shell out money and be in mine? Is anyone else going through "always a bridesmaid, never a bride"? Or am I just having a weak moment and getting pissed at my boyfriend...

SIX bridesmaids dresses hanging in my closet currently. And at least 4 more single friends who would ask me to do it again--only one of them getting close to being engaged though!

Been there, got the dresses to prove it.
 

I've been a bridesmaid so many times that I've taken over the guest room closet at my mom's house just to store the dresses. I am SO ready to pick out an ugly, wear-only-once dress for someone else! :)

)So now that I'm not alone, this feeling will pass right? (I'm ok with being lied to by the way ;)

Oh yeah...
 

Trust me, the feeling will definitely pass once you've had to listen to all those married women complain about their husbands for a while. When they start acting jealous because YOU'RE the single one, you'll feel tons better. :)

No.

Ha ha Sadly, its true.

Not only will it not pass, but I've found it hard to even enjoy weddings as a GUEST lately-- the pressure other, well-intentioned, guests put on my single 30something self with the "You'll be next, honey's"

I don't want to be next! lol I mean, just cause I'm single doesn't mean I don't like it and am desperate for it to change.

Au contraire--right now I am working on upping my tolerance level for the male species to beyone 5 minutes at a time! ha ha

I think I would have been ok without these two happenings: last wedding was my boyfriends brother (younger bro) and he caught the garter and they threw me the bouquet after the 5-year old caught it. Second was my best friend asking me "When is Rob going to get off his ass so I can be in your wedding? Haven't you been together long enough yet?". Then she proceeded to tell me we have her blessing.

People assume that since he has gotten me gold and diamonds twice now that he's "decorating" me and working up to something.

Thanks for the honesty though. At least I am not alone in the never wear again dress sorority!

I am going to be a first time bridesmaid this April...and let me tell you - this dress is crazy. Its very beautiful - but I dont think the bride took into consideration that 1/5 of her bridal party (me) is big chested...and this dress is very low cut and va va va voom!

I'm super-excited because my roomate asked me to be a bridesmaid for her when she gets married next year. :D Its pretty cool b/c I've only known her about a year, and it'll be with one of our other roomates too. I can't wait.

Although, after 4-6 of them, I can see how one would get tired of it

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I too have about 5 dresses that I wouldn't even consider taking out of the dry cleaner bags they came in.

I do enjoy being in a wedding(I met my current love intrest at the last one I was in), but I think when and if the time comes, I would like to pay for the dresses. It is alot of money and time to shell out for someone else's day. My sister did it for her bridesmaids, so hopefully I can do it as well.

There is a book about ugly bridemaid dresses and making them into pillows...I could imagine any of mine working, but who knows!

Sahara, Big Bazooms? If you talk Southern I could like to Like YA!

Are you presentable to meet DAD?

God I am so lonely and single!:) :D

Ah well the Love that is Lost is gone forever!:)

And watch out... the more weddings you are in...the higher the price of the dress. My first bridesmaid experience was in college and the dresses were under $100- pick your own shoes. The last wedding - $298.00 plus the dyed shoes to match!

Hehehe yes Tom I talk "southern" - you can be my cyber boyfriend ;)

How to actually use these again...
 

My chapter just had a reunion and the dress was "fun formal" since none of us had to worry about impressing guys like at a regular formal. A lot of women wore old bridesmaid dresses which was the whole point, to get some more wear out of them!

If you want to get the dresses out of your house AND do something nice, suggest your local high school open a prom dress closet. Everyone brings old formal dresses to a central location and girls can buy them for a fraction of the price they'd pay for a new one (or get them for free, depending on what expense there is for running the project). A lot of bridesmaid dresses can be altered slightly (if they have butt-bows or the like) and especially if there are a lot of lower income families in the area, the girls will really appreciate it.

OK, all. Never been a bridesmaid myself, but I came close just out of college. (best friend from high school asked way in advance, then for whatever reason decided I wasn't good enough to be in the wedding or something:rolleyes: ) Did see the dress, though. Gotta tell ya, I was throwin' a party over not having to wear it. However, being fresh out of college and neck deep in debt, I set it up to make payments. Paid $80, not even close to half, toward the ugly thing and never saw it again.

So anyway, I decided then and there that my wedding party would have a say about the dress style. I chose the color, which was agreeable to them, and we all agreed on the style. My dresses were made by a woman I worked with at the time, so we found suitable material for a formal enough dress that could be altered and used in real life.

Now, I'm divorced and have since remarried. My plan the second time around? JEANS! :)

yah I know what you mean guys.....gosh im only 17 but have been a bridesmaid like 5 times 3 of my aunts and 2 friends :) goodness i cant even think about having my own wedding now :) haha well I would also need a guy too huh?

Nichole

never a bridesmaid but always just a wedding guest. Alas, I have never had the privilege though my best friend from vet school asked me to be hers but it was a traditional chinese wedding and the dress was over 200$ and I was never going to wear it again so I had to turn her down b/c I was poorer than dirt then. Anyways, got another weeding to go to in 3 weeks. My friends always try and pick out one of their guests to force upon poor single me-ugggg.

BTW, on a dim note has anyone been seeing a large number of divorces since Sept. 11th? I know of 5 people rt. now getting a divorce-coincidence? People I though had a rock solid marriage-very depressing. I think I will stay happily single for now (like I have a choice:rolleyes: )

I think people are just making choices about how to live their lives that reflect the NOW because there may not be a tomorrow.

I know a lot of people who have decided to get married or moved their wedding dates up as a result of 9/11 too.

Kind of on the same subject, anyone ever have one of their best friends tell you that you can't get married without their blessing? Last I checked, this person wasn't the pope either.:mad:

No, but (along the same lines) I used to have a friend who would be extremely critical about all of my boyfriends. After I found out some of the comments she'd been making about my current guy, I cut her loose. Apparently, she was spreading some major lies about him to make it look like I was an idiot for dating him. (Probably out of jealousy since she's 26 years old and has never had more than a one-night stand with a guy.) :p

Yes! She's the same person who's boyfriend uses her for her money. :rolleyes: When she said to me, "I don't think you should be with your boyfriend" after meeting him only once I told her that I had always thought her boyfriend was a cheapskate and he was just using her. She never made a comment to me again. ;)

I have never been a bridesmaid but a lot of friends from High School have already gotten married. And, a few of the girls in my sorority have been engaged. A couple of girls from the pledge classes that just seem like that graduated (96 and 97) have gotten married. They'll come back to chapter meetings and they're introduced with their new last name.

Not so much that I couldn't marry without their blessing, but I do have a really close friend from my last job who was quite opinionated about the way things should be.

Both of us were divorced, and when I met her, I had been engaged to my (now) husband for a while. He was also divorced, and NOT the type of person who enjoys getting all formal. Our plan from the start was to go to a Justice of the Peace, but my friend had other visions.

I couldn't tell you how many times I heard something about how it was just sooo sad that we weren't getting married in a church with a huge guest list, fancy dress, cake, etc. Been there, done that. Didn't make it work. So, if both of US agree that jeans are fine, just GO WITH IT! I felt like saying.... 'it's our decision to wear sweats if we want to. we're going a little more formal than that. if you don't like it, fine. when you're the one getting married, let's see how much you enjoy someone else planning everything for you.'

It really irked me that she felt that she had to give me a blessing for anything! I don't remember her asking for mine for her current no-income, deadbeat fiancee. The way I view it, if the person is happy, be happy for them. As long as there isn't any abuse (emotional, mental or physical) leave them alone!

Preach on...
 

Amen! :)

I have dress number 1, and have a feeling ill have dress number 2 next summer (she just got engaged). I dont mind it though cuz I feel im wayyy to young at this point in my life so, ill continue to collect.

How about this though... is anyone the one who is always with out a boyfriend when everyone else has one? ME! :D

ME TOO. for the past five years at least.

From 18-27 I was the one who always had a boyfriend...but no more!

Boyfriendless
 

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I am just like you AmyCat either I am the ONLY one of my friends/sisters who has a boyfriend or I am the ONLY one who DOES NOT have a boyfriends, and with my least favorite holiday right around the corner it would figure that I am the boyfriendless one yet again for the Crush Party 2002 !!!!!!!!!!!!!! GRRRR I hate boys

sorry I know that this is a little off topic but I needed to vent
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My favorite was announcing I was getting married, only to have another friend do the same and set the date before ours, just so she could do it first. I know this probably isn't the case, but seriously, it's not like she couldn't hold any place in town she wanted. Just wait until everyone tells her how to plan her wedding.. let's see how that goes...
And a pet peeve.. if you are already married, you had your chance to do what you want... if not, you will.. this is MINE, mnot yours to plan. (let's just say I've gotten really good at the "that's a great idea (insert head nodding) we'll be sure to think about it.")

Not that I'm getting married anytime soon obviously, but since so many of my friends have, we've had convos about what we'd like to do for ours. I actually had a girl tell me that she thought my dress idea was wrong and off base and that she wouldn't be caught dead in it. Now, it was a bridesmaid idea: as long as it is black, sleeveless, and floor length, i'd let my girls pick their own. She'll be one of the girls. I thought it was odd since its not close to happening that she got so upset. I wanted to pull the "MY WEDDING NOT YOURS" but since it was hypothetical, I let it go.

I am dying to be a bridesmaid! I think it would be such an honor! Actually, I really just want to plan the bachelorette party ;) . Seriously, though, all my friends know I will be the last to marry, and that is just fine with me!