i was almost in a sorority!!
 

So i went to an interest meeting yesterday for a sorority that i have always wanted to be in. well later that day, i got a phone call from a friend of mine who is in a fraternity and he told me that the sorority was interested in me so they called him and asked him about me and he told them good things.

about 30 min later i get a blocked call and its them. they start asking me questions about things, like my classification (junior) and my gpa (3.0) and then they asked me i i was full time last semester and this semester, well i was last semester but this semester i am not because i couldnt get into one of the classes i needed. so that disqualified me. they sounded a little disappointed.

im super sad!! i had no idea i had to be full time for 2 semesters. now i will have to wait a whole year to try again and cross as a senior. will they still even want me then?? is my chance completely over???

Is this an NPHC, an NPC, or a NALFO group?

nphc

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(I knew that as soon as she said "interest meeting.")

oh really? i didnt know

;) That sorority has a website and real life members. Use those resources.

While I don't believe this is a troll, I do find some holes in this story.

The legit parts: The blocked call, the informal background check, etc.

The parts where I feel you should have known better: If this is the org I think it is, the full-time requirement is definitely on their national website and always has been.

Secondly, a typical full course load is five classes, at least at my alma mater. If you dropped one, you would still be full-time. My question is why would you intentionally go less than full-time? (This just wasn't common at my school unless you intended to graduate later than planned.)

I don't know. I empathize with you, but there will be other chances. (And I wonder why you didn't do it last year)

My first thought.

Question from someone who doesn't know much about NPHC: Does an (not asking who, just if any) organization call fraternity members for recommendations?

Not NPHC, but on my campus, the aspirants for organizations like mine were often in similar organizations (NAACP, LULAC, our "student council" equivalent, etc). It wasn't uncommon for someone to ask "Hey, you know _____ from [other org]? What are your thoughts on him/her?" In our case, it wasn't anything official, just a "if you know of any red flags, let me know" thing.

I would only add that the best way to know if a girl has a "reputation" is by asking the "brother" fraternity.

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

Reputations are subjective and often based on gendered double standards. Most people don't believe what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

ETA: At the college level and alumnae/alumni/graduate level, I have seen people try to ruin aspirants' and members' reputations and experiences over mere gossip, misunderstandings, disagreements, and butthurt feelings. People can be extremely phony, childish, and underhanded for no reason other than they are vindictive and have too much time on their hands. That's why I never listened to everyone's opinion of aspirants (and members) when I was a collegiate member and as an alumnae member.

Truth! I have been around a long time, work in a very patriarchal and sexist environment and this statement is very true. We still are very fond of slut shaming women and praising men (or at least reacting neutrally) when observing the exact same behavior.

I know we're better than rolling eyes at my posts. :)

I know women who were investigated this exact same way and didn't make it.

Often, the men didn't even know their responses were seen as unfavorable to the sorority women who asked.

Also, to the OP, you were not "almost in a sorority." I would suggest not using this terminology, especially not to sorority members. They may not be as nice as I am. Nothing...and I mean nothing...is a sure thing.

Ah this makes more sense than someone asking a random fraternity friend if they think PNM Sue is a good fit.